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Joseph Jones

Professor Ditch

English 115

28 February 2018

​Home sick

Happiness is a feeling that comes natural to Joseph , you can feel happiness while being

with friends from school , feel happiness by doing things such as shopping or just spending

money in general​. Experiencing happiness for me is spending time with the people that been

there with me from the beginning. ​In my opinion happiness is everything because i’m already a

positive person because I believe that no one should feel unhappy. My happiness begins to

change in different spaces. My performance changes because i’m more comfortable at home , im

with people I care about , and it isn’t a burden of work and responsibility at home ,such as

having chores and have to do a lot of errands.

Accordingly to my happiness being changed , my happiness isn’t switched to unhappy , I

would say I feel more bitter​. Ever since my winter break it made me realize how much I missed

being home and being close to my loved ones. I used to feel great coming to college during the

week, but now that I was truly happy with being at home with my pets and family. After my

break was over it finally hit me that I have to go back to the basic and leave the people and pets

that truly made me happy. Being home sick definitely shows how my happiness being changed

in different spaces because I’m thrilled to being home with my friends and family because those

are the people that make me feel happy, but when I arrive to school I seem to suffer in the inside

because I obviously do not want to be here , but I have to smile through the suffering at the end
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of the day. ​A quote I found that can connect to my argument was by author Matthieu Ricard and

it states “​ A physical or moral pain can be intense without destroying our positive outlook on

life.” ( Ricard 41) . being home is everything to me , but I have to do what I have to do

​Equally important , I kind of regret leaving home sometimes just because I miss my

parents and family.​ My overall performance changes in these space by not really participating

with my colleagues that much like I used too. Before the break I used to hangout a lot having

fun, but then I went on a long break and reality hit me that , I should really be at home with my

real friends that I enjoy my time with. Now to this day , I tend to do all of my work ahead of time

and just patiently wait for the weekend to arrive , so that I can go home and spend that time I lost

with my friends and parents and gain all that time back and spend it with the people I really

want to. ​A quote from article “ The alchemy of suffering” by author Matthieu Ricard, it states “

unhappiness has causes that can be identified and acted upon. It is only when we misidentify the

nature of those causes that we come to doubt the possibility of healing.”​ My performances in the

spaces used to be energetic such as being home with friends from high school and I was a very

outgoing person when being around them , but now I’m more like all about my business because

college is serious and college is the figure that’s going to help me succeed in life. All seriousness

until it’s time to get to the weekend and get that break that everyone need once in a while..

Furthermore ,​ Not only...but also this reveals that being in different spaces can change a

person. For example, with me i rather go to school back home , only because it’ll set different

mood for me everyday and i’ll set a different mood for me everyday and i’ll be more happy with

being at home. “ happiness is determined more by one’s state of mind than by external events.”

(Lama 22). My happiness is being with my love one’s and friends, school is pretty much all
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about business and I tend to be really serious about it. So therefore I do what I have to do and

wait until the weekend to express my happiness my friends and family. Its my decision to

perform like I do , but don’t get me wrong about my colleagues I’m grateful to have them as

well, I just know who’s going to be there for me in any situation at the end of the day. Family

over everything , I would give anything just to be happy like i want to be for the rest of my life ,

living stress free and carefree. Family makes me more happy than ever , being happy is very

good for your health.

Given these points , everyone suffers unhappiness some point in their lives. It can be

anything such as a tragedy that happened , or stressed or depressed. Some people may not

recognize the people that are suffering unhappiness because most people do not like to get the

help they want towards being happy again. When it comes down to the weekend of me going

back home it just excites me because I can be that happy camper like I used to be , before

coming to college. When arriving back to college every Sunday night I don’t think my parents

see how I suffer from not being home with them everyday like it used to be. I believe we all go

through the stage where we’re unhappy about something, but at the end of the day we know

what’s really important , and we know what we have to do , just we can excel through our years

of college. Connections from article “ ​Alchemy of Suffering​” the quote states “ Remaining

painfully obsessed with a situation or the memory of a departed loved one , to the point of being

paralyzed by grief for months or years on end, is evidence not affection , but of an attachment

that does no good to others or to oneself” ( Ricard 41). ​That shows being away from loved ones

can really affect you and how it can really affect you in your everyday life.
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In the long run it’s really how you can change these negative thoughts into positive

thoughts. ​Times like this you have to involve yourself in fun activities so it can get your mind off

the negatives and be more of a positive person.​ Also take action on how to be more fun in life ,

then rather be down and sad. In the article from “​ ​Nicomachean Ethics​ “ Aristotle stated “

happiness then is something complete and self sufficient and is the end of action”( Aristotle 82).

Basically aristotle is giving the message that we have to take action in our lives where if we want

to be happy in life, we must do things to make us happy instead of sitting around for someone or

something to make us happy. So therefore my unhappiness situations about being being home

sick I just simply think about the positives and realize that I can’t be negatives about things

because at the end , I’m the only one that can make myself feel that way.

Also when growing up and experiencing becoming a man ,I’ve changed a lot in my

opinion before coming to college , my parents basically was telling me that I’m on my own. On

the outside it didn’t bother me at all , but on the inside I was nervous because I was always under

them a lot and depended on them for everything! I soon had to readjust myself and get through it.

From the article “ How Should the Soul” the poem had lines that stated “ you have escaped from

the cage now - your wings are spread in the air” ( Rumi 65). The subjected my happiness to be

expressed more because even though I’m not around my parents anymore I have no rules to

follow. ​All because im not a kid anymore and I have a lot of responsibilities as being a young

adults.

In conclusion , Everyday someone goes through a phase where someone is unhappy

about something in their lives could being homesick , current events that are happening in this

world , or some personal issues that occured. The thing is we go through all this pain but we
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really have to focus on how to get through it and keep a smile on our faces at the end of the day.

A person's happiness can help them excel through life , examples of happiness can be finding the

right one and marrying them , getting a new pet , receiving excellent grades in courses your , or

hearing some good news that’ll make your day. Being unhappy can be challenging at times and

can be hard to be happy again , but truly it either you have to think positive or get the help you

need so you can get back to your old self again and be a happy person and be happy about life.
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Works Cited

Matthew Parfitt , Dawn Skorczewski , Pursuing Happiness , Bedford/ St. Martin’s , A Macmilla

Education Imprint , Boston , New York

Ricard, Matthieu , Alchemy of Suffering, Bedford/St. Martin’s , A Macmilla Education Imprint ,

Boston , New York

Rumi , How Should The Soul, Bedford/St. Martin’s , A Macmilla Education Imprint , Boston ,

New York

Aristotle , From Nicomachean Ethics, Bedford/St. Martin’s , A Macmilla Education Imprint ,

Boston , New York