Olivia Roberts

Topic: ​Write a letter to a friend who has told you they are seriously
contemplating having sex with their boy/girlfriend. Discuss consequences and
the seriousness of that decision. In a separate conclusion tell if your advice
would be different if the person you were addressing were of the opposite sex.

Dear Stephanie,
When you have sex there is a lot of strong emotions that are released. These emotions
are very powerful and experiencing these emotions at such a young age with someone
that you have known for a few months is not a smart thing. (Strong & Cohen pg.151.
12th edition.), “Love reflects the positive factors such as caring amd attraction, that draw
two people together and sustain them in a relationship.” Sex is not the only way to show
love but it is a popular way to show love, because you can create another life with
someone. Before you do anything make sure that you are for sure about it all, once you
do it you can never take it back.
You have always been a inspiration to me, smart, beautiful, happy, funny and a
friend I can always count on. All through middle school and high school you’ve been
there for me and I really appreciate that, you’ve been an amazing friend. Do you
remember in Mr. Smith’s 10th grade health class the? We had a whole unit about
abstinence, STD’s and STI’s, doesn’t that stuff scare you a little? I know you love him
but having sex with someone isn’t a adequate way to show your love. If you get to the
point where all he is wanting to do is have sex and he talks about it all the time, don’t do
it. He is treating you like a object and once he gets what he wants he will leave. There is
no guarantee that you will marry this guy, you can only give your virginity away once.
When I was getting my CNA license I had clinicals, 16 in all, six hours each. I
went to a few different hospitals and had the opportunity to work in the “Mom and Baby
Unit” specifically at Intermountain Healthcare Hospital in Riverton. We had a lady give
birth and because she wasn’t married, there was a lot of paperwork that had to be read
and signed before they could even get discharged. ​The Chicago Tribune said, “Early
sex can also lead to medical problems later in life. Cancer of the uterus is more
prevalent in women who began sexual relationships early in life. There is also a high
rate of venereal diseases associated with early sex.”, it is not worth the risk.
This simple choice can lead to teen pregnancy and sexually transmitted
diseases. 30% of teens who get pregnant dropout of high school, you don’t want to do
that because you won’t be able to support the baby. I promise that waiting to have sex
until marriage or at least later in life will be worth it! I love you and no matter your choice
I’ll still love you!
-Olivia
 If I was talking to a guy about it, the roles would be switched. I would still tell him
not to but he doesn’t have to worry about getting pregnant, I would tell him not to leave
it it does happen. I feel like the men get out of the hard consequences when facing the
decision of having sex because it is not visible on them. However I would heavily stress
the aspect of once it’s done there’s no going back and that you can’t leave when things
get hard. He will have to man up and deal with a the fact he is a teen father, will need to
take on responsibility.

References:

Strong, B, & Cohen, T.F. (2014). The Marriage and Family Experience: Intimate Relationships
in a Changing Society (12th ed.). Belmont, CA: Wadsworth.

Dr. Allan Bruckheim. (March 06,1991). Early Sex Cam Have Emotional, Physical Effects
Later. Chicago Tribune.