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Resueltos en EFT:
Componente 1: Expresión de culpa, queja o herida no
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As the client engages in this process, his or her first comments to the imagined other tend
to be expressed in the form of blaming the other for their problems, complaining about
the other’s behavior, or expressing a sense of hurt over the damage done. In the case of
our example client, he said to his imagined mother,
You were self-centered and you didn’t care too much about me and the
way I was brought up as far as my emotions go. You didn’t care about
anybody but yourself.
What are you talking about? What do you mean? I don’t understand
what you’re saying. Why are you talking like this? I gave you the best
years of my life. Someone had to look after you. I did the best I could.
I didn’t want you to do that. And that’s what you should’ve been told.
Don’t do that. Don’t do that. Go away. I don’t want you to do that. I
don’t like it. Go away. Stop it.
Yes, I know I did some of those things you said. And I could have been
a better mother, but I guess I was young. I was still a child myself. I
couldn’t give you the emotional stability you wanted … I didn’t know
how to bring up a baby. I’m sorry that it had an effect on you. I realize
now that it was not the right way.
Componente 6: Resolución
Clients who reach resolution do so by focusing on affirmation of the self as worthwhile,
and finding it possible either to gain an increased understanding of the other or to hold
the other accountable for the violation(s) experienced. In understanding the other, the
client is able to view the other with compassion and empathy and may
forgivethem.Inholdingtheotheraccountable,theclientattributesrespon- sibility for the
wrong to the other and de-blames the self. Regardless of whether the client resolves their
problem by holding the other accountable for wrongdoing or by understanding and/or
forgiving the other, the end result is an experiential sense of resolution and completion
with respect to the unfinished business with the other. This is often accompanied by a
sense of empowerment and optimism about the future. The client in the example resolved
his unfinished business with his mother by holding her accountable and affirming himself
in the following way:
As a little boy I couldn’t tell you “Stop it. Don’t do it. Keep away.” But
I can tell you now that I resent you for it, and I won’t forgive you. I am
not going to protect you anymore. I’m not going to change the subject
when it comes up. I’m not going to dance around you any more. I’m
going to stand up for myself. I think it’s time.