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#REALTALK
Ys No
Danielle Bowler Margaret Gardiner
Writer Journalist; first South African
Twitter: @DanielleBowler to win Miss Universe (1978)
Instagram: @dannibowler Twitter: @MargaretGGG
Instagram: @margaret_gardiner
When I was a child, I sat on the floor, every year, my face In any competition, people take a natural aptitude, hone
lit by the reflection of the TV screen. It was my favourite and perfect it, then work hard to achieve recognition for
time of year: watching Miss South Africa. it. It’s a widely accepted way of navigating life. But when
As years went by, I continued to view the annual beauty it comes to physicality, this concept is denigrated.
pageant, my excitement coexisting with an unfamiliar In every area of life, we open ourselves up to judgment.
feeling in my body. I had started to compare myself to the But it seems that if it’s in the form of a pageant, we presume
women on the screen, noting the absences and requirements: it’s exploitative. No doubt there are some pageants that are
hair cascading in waves, bellies flat, bodies appearing exploitative – but there are boardroom conversations and
‘perfect’. I became aware of how I didn’t measure up. sales negotiations that are, too.
Mainstream pageants are built on exclusion. When Competing in a pageant seems to come with the caveat
we think about them, we often ignore the cisgendered and that you’re stupid. Why do we still say ‘She’s beautiful and
sexed nature of the discussion. They include competitions smart’, like one cancels out the other? That’s a destructive
like Mr South Africa – which can assumption – and it’s wrong.
represent damaging, exclusive ideals For many, calling pageants BS
of masculinity – and queer pageants
that have arisen out of a need for
community and inclusion but that
wrestle with their own exclusions and
Is stems from an unconscious bias
society teaches us to have against
beautiful women (or women in
general). It’s the same bias that tells
transmissions of ‘ideal’ ways to be.
Mainstream pageants say to
women and femmes that the ideal
is to be thin, tall, light-skinned,
Pageantry us you can’t be beautiful and clever,
or that women can’t wear a bikini
and be taken seriously in business.
It’s a big part of why women are
able-bodied and virginal. Pageants
did not invent these beauty ideals;
they are reflected to us through
runways, movies and attitudes. But
pageants capitalise on the structural
BS? still paid less than men and hold
fewer positions of power, and why
men and women of equal ability and
proven success do not get promoted
at an equal rate. Now that’s BS.
architecture of the world we live in to a heightened extreme. Men and women have been branded with different traits
There have been shifts in mainstream pageants. These and capabilities. Yet many of the things girls are supposed
include more black and brown women wearing their natural to suck at – engineering, science, maths – have been proved
hair on stage. Still, not enough has been changed within to be untrue. You know what else is untrue? That you can’t
the structure of the competition and the barriers to entry. compete in a pageant and also be smart, ambitious and a
Mainstream pageants are profit-making and thus expensive feminist. You have to ask yourself the question: if someone
to participate in, making class another site of exclusion. offered you US$100 000, first-class travel around the world,
As Gugulethu Mhlungu argues, critiquing these spaces an opportunity to create a platform for anything you believe
must not be about ‘vilifying the women who participate in and a chance to meet with global industry leaders, would
in them’. Rather, our critique must be aimed at structures you take it? The price? Walking across a stage in a swimsuit.
that uphold this kind of pageantry and contribute to the Smiling (a lot). Talking passionately about causes you believe
narrow ideals of being. in. A lot of hard work and training to get there – just like an
P H OTO G R A P H Y TA R R Y N H ATC H E T T
Systemic change is required if we are to move towards athlete or someone trying to pass a course they’re studying.
a boundary-less perception of beauty and worth. I still It’s hard to deny it’s an amazing opportunity, and say it’s
watch mainstream pageants, screaming as Demi-Leigh any less worthwhile than training for a sports event.
Nel-Peters is crowned Miss Universe. I revel in the drama Competing in a pageant can help you start a business or
and extravaganza of them. But there’s a greater awareness pursue a passion. It gives you a platform, connections and
that’s replaced the unfamiliar feeling I used to have as a celebrity to harness for your future. Many Miss Universe and
child. I know now that beauty is much more vast than its Miss South Africa winners have gone on to build impressive
on-screen reflection, stretching far beyond singular ideals businesses, champion worthy causes and make a difference
and gesturing towards infinite possibilities of being. in the world – even if they did start out in a bikini… ■
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Create
Get Your Finances in Order a budget
‘A credit bureau is a company
A credit score helps companies to that receives, stores and reports
• Note the total amount
ascertain how risky it is to lend you information on how you manage
of money you receive
money, based on how you’ve handled your credit, including store accounts, each month under
credit in the past. A good score is loans and credit cards.’ ‘income’. Scan the QR
important if you’re planning to Financial providers check code below to download
borrow money in the future. your credit record before they a free budget template
‘The easiest way to build a credit decide whether or not to lend using Excel. You can
record is to get a store card,’ says you money. If your record is poor, also try apps such as
Nedbank’s Quintin Swanepoel. Use you can be refused a loan. To keep Wally or 22seven.
the card regularly to build up a credit your record in check, only borrow
record (every few months) but pay off what you can repay and set up
the amount almost immediately (and debit orders to ensure payments
in full) to avoid accruing interest. are made timeously.
A bad credit rating occurs Having trouble making repayments? SCAN VIA
when you default on a payment. Contact your creditors before you
‘Creditors supply information default – most will renegotiate. • Below income, list
[about how you manage your debt ‘You’re entitled to a free copy your expenses. Divide
or account with them] to a credit of your credit report from each these into categories:
bureau, and that’s all added to of the registered credit bureaus rent, groceries,
your profile,’ says Jeannine Naudé once a year,’ says Naudé Viljoen. cellphone and so
on. List everything.
Viljoen, former executive manager Try Creditexpert.co.za or
Allocate a figure to
of the Credit Bureau Association. Mytransunion.co.za.
each based on what
you usually spend.
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3
Hospital plan or medical aid
A hospital plan typically only covers your medical
costs if you’re admitted to hospital in an emergency.
Full medical-aid plans will contribute towards other
medical expenses depending on the level of cover
you opt for. To figure out what will suit you best,
ask yourself these questions:
Save for • How often do you visit the doctor, and how much
do you spend on medication per month? If your
Your Future answers are seldom and not much, a hospital plan
makes more sense.
• Do you have a chronic illness, such as diabetes?
A full medical aid covers a list of chronic medications,
but you need to complete the necessary forms to
‘Only six percent of South Africans receive these benefits.
can retire comfortably,’ says Mark • What can you aford? There’s no point signing
van Eyssen, an independent financial up for full-cover medical aid if you can’t manage the
adviser at Dux Solutions. ‘Everyone monthly payments. It’s ideal to have at least a hospital
should be planning for retirement.’ plan so that you’re covered in an emergency. Hospital
A retirement annuity (RA) is tax- plans difer depending on your provider but can start
efficient: what you pay in is tax-free at R800 per month for one person, while full-cover
up to a certain amount, and you won’t plans can cost from R1 500 upwards for one person.
be taxed on the money your investment
makes. An RA also removes the
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BEEN
FOOLED
BYFAKE
CONTENT?
Sources: Ipsos Public Affairs survey, Dec. 2016; Simmons Research, Multi-Media Engagement Study, Spring 2016.
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First, WTAF?
I
Cryptocurrency – such as bitcoin
– is digital currency that can be
bought and sold online. The tech
that makes it work is blockchain,
complex computer coding and
maths equations (cryptography)
that make up the public log of all
Bit in?
coin transactions. ‘Blockchain is a
distributed database of who owns
what, like a ledger,’ says Warrick
Erlank, portfolio manager at local
crypto asset manager Virtue Digital
Assets. Blockchain is also what
works to keep your buying, selling
Cryptocurrency can and storing of cryptocurrencies
seem, well, cryptic. as secure as possible.
It all started in 2009, when an
But with one in anonymous person/group created
four Millennials bitcoin under the alias Satoshi
investing, it’s Nakamoto. In 2017, bitcoin went
mainstream, with value reaching
never been more US$20 000 (about R240 000)
relevant. We spoke for one coin. Interest in crypto
to the specialists to is mostly thanks to Millennials:
according to a survey by Blockchain
decode it for you Capital, one in four Millennials is
BY ZOYA P O N investing. But how – and why?
Making bank
There are three main ways to
make money out of cryptocurrency:
mining, trading and investing.
Miners have fancy computers
and make money by processing/
authenticating crypto transactions,
Erlank explains. ‘In exchange, they
get paid in the cryptocurrency
they’re working on. They also
help to keep the network secure.’
Because cryptocurrency values
fluctuate, you can also make money
by trading and investing in them.
‘There’s a finite supply of well-
known cryptocurrencies,’ says
Erlank. ‘The higher the demand,
the more the price increases.’
You can trade by buying coins,
then selling them as value spikes
for a profit, capitalising on short-
term price movements. Or you can
invest: buying cryptocurrencies
while they’re low in value and
holding on to them, hoping for a
good increase in value over time.
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MONEY
How to invest There’s also no guarantee – Make sure your computer is according to Blockchain
‘Various exchanges worldwide the value of your currencies protected against malware, Capital, as they believe they
sell cryptocurrencies,’ says can come crashing down and ensure you store your earn more from their bitcoin
Shireen Ramjoo, CEO of without any warning. money in secure ‘wallets’. investments and their money
Liquid Crypto-Money, a When it comes to storing is safer. This decentralisation
crypto and blockchain tech There’s an app for that currency, Erlank highlights separates you from banks: good
consulting agency. First, you Many of the exchanges, like three main ways to do it: ‘You if you fear another recession or
need to change rands for the Luno, have their own apps to can buy cryptocurrency and don’t trust institutions. Also,
cryptocurrency you want, the track the value of coins sold. leave it on the exchange where cryptocurrencies hold the
same way you’d change them There are also apps such as you bought it. This is easiest, same value around the world.
for dollars or euros. Ramjoo Blockfolio (free), which enable but it leaves you more exposed ‘Cryptocurrency may change
recommends Altcoin Trader you to add a range of coins so to hacks.’ Some large exchanges the way we make payments
for its variety of currencies. you can track multiple values. (like Luno) are fairly secure, across the world,’ says Bowan.
‘Luno and Ice3X are also and may cover your liability ‘You wouldn’t need to change
good,’ adds Erlank. Beware the risks if there’s a hack. You’ll have to currency when travelling,
Using one of these trusted Cryptocurrency, unlike stocks check whether this is the case and you wouldn’t need to pay
trading platforms, ‘You deposit and shares, isn’t based on a with each exchange you use, expensive transaction fees to
rands into your exchange tangible RL asset. The value and the terms under which send money across borders.’
account; once it reflects, you of cryptocurrency lies in this protection exists. ‘You can And there’s real potential to
buy into the currencies you perception: if enough people also transfer cryptocurrency make a lot of money. Ramjoo’s
want,’ says Ramjoo. ‘You can want it and use it, that (and to a digital wallet, or to your first investment of R3 500 is
also sell your cryptocurrency that alone) gives it value. Igor own computer – but then worth R37 000 today.
back directly to the exchange Rodionov, managing director your computer must be
– you’ll get cash back in rands at Advicement Investment secure,’ says Erlank What about tax?
within 24 to 48 hours.’ Services, says you should Perhaps the safest wallet In January, SARS
The trick to making money approach investing in crypto is a hardware wallet, like a spokesperson Sandile Memela
is to buy cryptocurrencies with caution. Its worth relies flash drive; but these can be said SARS was looking at the
when they’re cheap, then sell on people’s whims, making it pricey (from about R1 500), implications of crypto on tax.
them when they’re worth more ‘really difficult to value’. He and you still need to set them ‘SARS is still deciding how
and cash in on the difference. also says that bitcoin’s large up and secure them properly. to treat cryptocurrency,’ says
Values fluctuate by the swings in price and massive Beware the rise in crypto Erlank. ‘At the moment, you
second and minute, so if you growth have the same scams, where a new currency should manage it as you would
want to make bank you need markings as market crashes. is set up (initial coin offerings any asset bought and sold for
to monitor the value of your Anything digital is open to or ICOs) and you’re persuaded profit. It’s best to declare to
currencies and be willing to the risk of hacking, so hackers to invest early while coins are SARS when you sell currency
respond to changes quickly. can steal your cryptocurrency. cheap – and then the ‘founder’ – it’ll likely count as additional
disappears with your cash. income (for short-term buying
Your best bet is to stick to well- and selling) or qualify for
known exchanges/currencies. capital gains tax (for longer-
PHOTOGRAPHY DAN SAELINGER/TRUNK ARCHIVE, MISS REIN/STOCKSY
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REPORT
HOW TO BEAT
UNEMPLOYMENT
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A
ccording to Statistics South Africa’s
Quarterly Labour Force Survey, at the
last quarter of 2017 the unemployment YOUTH UNEMPLOYMENT BY NUMBERS
rate was 51,1% for 15- to 24-year-olds,
and 33,4% for the 25-to-34 age group. Statistics South
Ages 15 to 24 Ages 25 to 34
Africa’s Risenga Maluleke indicated that of 10,3-million
15- to 24-year-olds, 3,1-million were not in employment, 51,1% 33,4%
education or training.
‘One of the most concerning implications is that, Okay, but how many people
over time, young people become discouraged in their are engaging in the job market?
search for employment,’ says Sibabalwe Gcilitshana
of NPO Equal Education, a community of researchers Ages 15 to 24 Ages 25 to 34
dedicated to advocating for equality in the education
system. ‘This shifts their status from unemployed
youth to NEETs (not in employment, education or
26,9% 74,7%
are working or are working or
training), resulting in an enormous pool of untapped
actively looking actively looking
potential. The loss of that potential is a tragedy.’ for work for work
For Millennials, job security is a key concern –
and the stats show why. But here’s the good news:
there are ways you can beat youth unemployment.
Knowledge is power, and we’ve got all the info you
need to take matters into your own hands.
HOW IS EDUCATION
WHERE DID ALL THE JOBS GO? AFFECTING UNEMPLOYMENT?
‘Low employment growth has been the consequence
of low economic growth: the labour market cannot
absorb the large numbers of young new entrants,’
says Gcilitshana. Jobs are being created at a much Education
slower pace than the rate at which people are
finishing school or studies. Supply can’t keep up
is key to
with demand. Access to adequate education is also helping you
key – of those unemployed, just 6,6% have tertiary land a job.
education versus 31,2% who have less than matric.
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REPORT
2
REWRITE YOUR EXAMS
If you fell short on an exam or two (max),
you have the opportunity to write it again.
If you were unable to write for medical reasons,
or if you had family issues during exams (such
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AS AN ADULT
I FAILED MATRIC … NOW WHAT?
Your life is definitely not over. Start by
checking your mental wellbeing: if you failed
and are struggling to process this, call the
Department of Social Development’s 24-hour
4 GET A SECOND
CHANCE
‘The Department of Basic
Education’s Second Chance Matric
Programme assists learners who
If you’re 21 or older and didn’t toll-free counselling line on 0800 428 428, did not pass matric in completing
get a chance to finish matric, you or dial *120*7867# from any cellphone. school,’ says Gcilitshana. Launched in
can register for a National Senior Then, take these steps: 2015, the programme is free, ofering
Certificate for Adults (NASCA). The support to learners who need to rewrite a
NASCA provides support by teaching maximum of two subjects in February/March,
the skills and foundational learning needed and progressed learners (students who wrote
to pursue higher education. To qualify, you’ll three or more subjects in November and will
need a Grade 9-level school certificate, a General complete the rest in June). It includes face-to-
Education and Training Certificate for Adults, or face tuition in all provinces, at 50 venues in rural
5
a SAQA-registered NQF Level 2 or 3 qualification and urban areas. The programme is also available
with language and mathematics as fundamentals. at libraries and community centres, and through
Visit Dhet.gov.za for more. the Mzansi Libraries Online Project (www.nlsa.
ac.za/mlo). Find out more at Education.gov.za.
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while she was ill; job-hunting MUNDANE JOBS:
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while working as a waitress. They important to get involved in you in for an interview.
alleviate doubts in a recruiter’s a community for networking Many recruitment agencies
mind and demonstrate personal purposes, as well as for a sense specialise in certain industries,
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LinkedIn as a “social” swept up hair at
each day for the hunt, and set agency will charge you for
platform – it’s like Facebook her mom’s salon. yourself a target of a number finding you a job – they will
but for professionals,’ says Amy of jobs you’d like to apply for always charge the company
Molony of Recruit Digital. ‘Make every day and every week. that hires you. If an agency
a list of companies you want to Job-hunting should be asks you for money, it’s a scam.
work for and do your research on time-consuming: you should be
them. LinkedIn-stalk their CEO, %0/Ï58"*5'03
7
crafting individual applications
manager and receptionist, and and cover letters for each "/0110356/*5:
figure out what kind of person vacancy, and you should be Ì4&*;&*5
they’re looking for. For example, writing down contact info ‘I nearly gave up
if you want to work in fashion, for each position so you after 10 months of job-hunting,’
follow magazines, stylists and .&("/ '09 can call or e-mail to follow says Gail*, 28, a young woman
photographers – any industry- once worked at a smoothie up on your application. whose struggle mirrors that
specific individuals you admire. shop, where she wore of millions of South Africans.
Comment on and share their -00, */ 5)&
5
a life-sized-banana ‘After completing a diploma in
posts, and use this momentum costume. True story. 3*()5 1-"$& human resources management,
to back up your passion for the Bizommunity.com I was excited to get started with
industry and grow your network. is great for media, my career. But 10 months later,
The same strategy can apply to retail and marketing job listings. I still hadn’t found a job. I’d been
Twitter and even your personal Indeed.co.za and Pnet.co.za are for many interviews but never
Facebook account.’ Keep it out among the most reliable general landed the gig.
of the creepy zone by ensuring vacancy sites. Jobspace.co.za ‘My self-esteem took a
that comments and shares are is very user-friendly – and you knock. It seemed as though
professional and related to the can also search for nationwide all my fellow graduates had
content – as in, don’t comment job listings at Cosmopolitan.co.za! been employed. But I didn’t
with ‘Please give me a job’. $&-&45& /56-* lose hope. While I was job-
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worked as a bookshop hunting, my cousin would
70-6/5&&3 3&$36*5.&/5
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REPORT
The Top 10
Companies
to Work for
According to
Top Employers
Institute, which
analyses companies
based on nine areas
(talent strategy,
performance
management,
career and
succession
management,
compensation and
Natasha Marillier Amy Molony Tiara Pathon benefits, culture,
workforce planning,
Human resources Recruit Digital Founder of Dress for on-boarding, learning
practitioner at Success; HR practitioner and development
‘Be authentic. Companies are hiring
Associated Media people with the most applicable
who’s worked for Hewlett and leadership
Publishing Packard and Medscheme development)
experience and qualifications,
‘First impressions last. The and the best personality fit. ‘You’re interviewing the company
interview starts from your ‘Empower yourself with knowledge. too. Ask questions about 1 Old Mutual
initial communication with an Spend time on the company’s website, company culture, development 2 Ernst & Young
employer: your job application. read the fine print, check their social opportunities, company policies (EY Africa)
Appropriate tone, attention to media. Impress with your knowledge and whatever will be important 3 SAP
grammar and the efort you of them and how much you want to to you. You are your own personal 4 Tata
put into following application work for them – not just anyone. brand – people will buy into your Consultancy
instructions all speak volumes. ‘Adjust your CV and cover letter. “why”, not your “what”. Tell your Services
‘Cyberstalk us! Get to know the I don’t mean revamp it entirely for story and be proud of it. 5 Microsoft
company, our latest news and each position – but tweak your CV ‘Be innovative with your CV. Get 6 Nestlé
initiatives. FYI: we’ve looked to reference specific skills relevant a basic Piktochart account (free, South Africa
at your profiles… to the company you’re applying at. Piktochart.com) to turn your CV 7 Accenture
‘There’s nothing more You should also write a very specific into creative infographics and 8 Orange
important than fitting in covering e-mail or letter (addressed more. Add a pro pic (not a selfie), Business
with the company culture. to the hiring manager by name) or create an online CV via a free Services
Many hirers are adopting as to why you would like to be website such as Wix.com. Don’t (South Africa)
U N F PA S O U T H A F R I C A , S TAT I S T I C S S O U T H A F R I C A P R I C E S C O R R E C T AT T I M E O F G O I N G T O P R E S S
the “hire character, train skill” interviewed for the position. forget a spellcheck, for everything 9 Vodacom Group
approach. Also, gratitude is ‘Be honest. This may sound obvious, from e-mails to your cover letter. 10 Dimension Data
P H OTO G R A P H Y G E T T Y I M AG E S S O U RC E S Q UA RT E R LY L A BO U R F O R C E S U R V E Y ( Q 4 20 1 7 ) ,
the best attitude. No matter but don’t lie. Don’t alter past positions ‘Come to your interview prepared.
how badly you think an or get friends to be your references. Dress for the job you want. Be
interview has gone, an References should be people not early. Bring a printed copy of your
e-mail of thanks can related to you who have worked CV. The more prepared you are,
only help your application. with you in a professional capacity.’ the more relaxed you’ll feel.’
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M A K E
SO M E R1 699,
ZARA
NOI
THIS AUTUMN,
THE DRESS R1 299,
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NEXT-LEVEL
FIERCE. FROM
POWERFUL
SILHOUETTES
TO OTT GLITZ, R329,
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ADIDAS
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Wear sheer floral
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R149, ALDO
R360,
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ON
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Once an ofice-limited print, pinstripes are ready
to shine. A peekaboo lacy bra will look sexy AF. R1 699,
STEVE
MADDEN
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FASHION
R249,
ALDO
R799,
FOREVER
NEW
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A-LIST
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RED
Feel extra-
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R1 599, STEVE
MADDEN
SATIN
FINISH
An element of
sheen elevates
any look – and
satin’s fluidity
makes for relaxed
all-night glam.
R300, AFRO
GRUNGE
R649,
WITCHERY
FASHION
R400,
THE FIX
R549,
TOPSHOP
R2 650,
CASTELO
BUTTONED-UP
BADASS
Sexy and sleek, a blazer
will definitely steal the
limelight. If it’s extra-
length, wear it as a dress
to ooze attitude – or try
matching separates for
R5 490,
a structured silhouette.
FOLLI FOLLIE
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A D D I T I O N A L P H OTO G R A P H Y C O L L E E N C O P P E N H A L L / D I S A D D I T I O N A L FA S H I O N CLEO MARCOPOULOS AND CL ARE ROBERTSON
M O D E L S D A N I E L A B R A G A / N E X T, E B O N E E D A V I S / T H E L I O N S H A I R N I C O L A S E L D I N / A R T D E P A R T M E N T M A K E U P E R I C P O L I T O / A R T D E P A R T M E N T
M A N I C U R E M I C H I N A KO I D E /A R T D E PA R T M E N T L O C AT I O N VA N D A L N E W YO R K P R I C E S C O R R E C T AT T I M E O F G O I N G T O P R E S S S TO C K I S T S O N PA G E 1 2 5
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Wear yours to work – and afterwards
– with a commanding attitude to match.
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R1239,
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R379, H&M
ART SHOES
WOOLWORTHS
STUDIO
R749, H&M
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LULU BELLE
R975,
Warrior
PHOTOGRAPHY MICHAEL NAUMOFF
FASHION EMMA READ
R79,99,
THE FIX
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LA SENZA
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RAW
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MADDEN
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MADDEN
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KLEIN
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RAW
R399,
WOOLWORTHS
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R1 699,
ADIDAS
R229,
H&M
R499,
COTTON ON
R799,
CHARLES
& KEITH
R399, LA SENZA
FASHION
R1 099, H&M
R649,
TOPSHOP
R499,
WITCHERY
R179, H&M
R979,
TOPSHOP
R1 599, STEVE
MADDEN
R849, FOREVER 21
R629, H&M
FASHION
R129, H&M
R1 299,
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R869,
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R829,
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& KEITH
FASHION
R999,
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R249,
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ADIDAS
R1 999,
LE COQ
SPORTIF
A D D I T I O N A L P H OTO G R A P H Y C O L L E E N C O P P E N H A L L / D I S A D D I T I O N A L FA S H I O N CLEO MARCOPOULOS AND CL ARE ROBERTSON
P H O T O G R A P H E R ’ S A S S I S TA N T N I C K S H AW FA S H I O N A S S I S TA N T A N A Z U PA N O S K A M O D E L S O P H I A / T H E M G M T H A I R A N D M A K E U P J O E L
P H I L L I P S / V I V I E N ’ S C R E AT I V E D I G I TA L O P E R AT O R M AT T E O M A E R I P R I C E S C O R R E C T AT T I M E O F G O I N G T O P R E S S S TO C K I S T S O N PA G E 1 2 5
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ON
R229,
R499,
COTTON
R150,
THE FIX
WOOLWORTHS
R569,
at Topshop
IVY PARK
to
A little sheen makes an everyday tone way more edgy. Try Rimmel Oh My Gloss! Lip Gloss
(R89,95) My Eternity on your pout, pat a matching shadow on lids, then dab on some
shine (3INA The Eye Gloss (R160) 500 is amaze). Waterproof mascara such as Revlon
Super Length Waterproof Mascara (R110) Blackest Black prevents smudges.
GET
Shade-shifting metallic shadow draws all the attention. Try Catrice Liquid Metal Long-
Lasting Cream Eyeshadow (R79,95) Champagne Shower – the soft-tipped applicator
packs on pigment and makes this sexy look a cinch. Just swipe it on lids, and use a finger
to diffuse the shimmer up towards the browbone.
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M A K E U P C H R I S T I A N M c C U L LO C H / S T R EE T ER S M A N I C U R E C H R I S T I N A AV I L E S /O P U S B E AU T Y P R I C E S C O R R E C T AT T I M E O F G O I N G T O P R E S S P R I C E S A R E R E C O M M EN D ED R E TA I L P R I C E S
ngles
Highlighting Powder (R740) Bronze Glow on cheekbones. Good to glow! ■
towards the temples, then dust a shimmery highlighter such as Bobbi Brown
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Let’s Talk
About the
V-Word*
* Vegan,That Is
INTERESTED?
These sites
will give you
a helping hand:
Vegansa.com
Includes listings for
vegan-approved
shops, recipes and
grocery products.
Elated.co.za
A great vegan blog
that lists online
sites to shop for
vegan products, as
well as recipes and
nutrition advice.
Happycow.net/
africa/south_
africa
A directory of
vegan-friendly
restaurants in
South Africa.
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HEALTH
I CAN’T
BELIEVE
IT’S
VEGAN…
Tasty snacks
from PETA’s
‘Accidentally
Vegan’ list
OREOS
Twist, lick and dunk
(in almond milk).
DORITOS
SWEET CHILLI
diets offer long-term health ‘My reasoning behind PEPPER Thankfully, as veganism
benefits such as a reduced becoming a vegetarian The perfect way to becomes more popular,
spice up snack time.
risk of Type 2 diabetes, (and eventually a vegan) was there seems to be a wider
cardiovascular disease down to my love of animals, acceptance of it.’
and certain types of cancer.’ pure and simple,’ she says. Want to give veganism
PHOTOGRAPHY SEBASTIAN MADER / TRUNK ARCHIVE, JUAN MOYANO/STOCKSY
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WORKOUT
One-Move Workout:
3 Lower your
bodies at the
same time until
your knees are
bent at a 90° angle.
(Beginners can
start with 45°.)
Beautify
Your Hair
About that pic… Down There
‘Last June, I posted this photo
(below, without the concealing
emoji) on Instagram and Twitter
to promote the Amber Rose
Single-use wipes
SlutWalk: a nonprofit event in will swipe sweat
Los Angeles that takes a stand and bacteria from
against victim blaming, sexual your bikini line
BY A M B E R RO S E post-gym.
A S TO L D TO KAT E F O ST E R assault, rape, double standards
LIL-LETS
and body shaming. I knew the Feminine Wipes
post would get a lot of attention, (R26,95 for 20)
Chamomile
good and bad – but that’s why
I did it. It was taken down by
P H O T O G R A P H Y T W I T T E R / @ D A R E A L A M B E R R O S E P R I C E S C O R R E C T AT T I M E O F G O I N G T O P R E S S P R I C E S A R E R E C O M M E N D E D R E TA I L P R I C E S
Do it your way
‘The best part is that, now,
girls come up to me crying, If you feel like
telling me I’ve changed their life grooming: one
side’s a razor;
and made them think differently the other’s an
– and I know they’re influencing electric trimmer.
their friends and the guys in their PHILIPS
No need to Bikini Genie Bikini
life too. That feels really cool. I’m Trimmer (R314)
trim the
not saying every woman should
hedges!
have a full bush. It’s all about doing
what you’re comfortable with, not
‘When I was younger, I bought into the stigma that what society tells you to do. I want
pubic hair was gross – that if I didn’t remove it, guys every girl who has had a partner
would perceive me as unclean, smelly, even lazy. So I did. disapprove of her body hair to
As I embraced feminism, I started thinking about all the remember that that’s a form of body
ways we feel pressured to please men – such as waxing shaming and it’s not okay. If more
or shaving our pubic hair, despite the expense and high- hair makes you feel empowered,
Coconut oil can
maintenance labour of it all. Sometimes doing so causes grow it! I feel a lot sexier with hair help soften hairs.
bumps and cuts, which, ironically, can turn guys of … and – more womanly, more confident. (Use this on your
make us feel less confident. All for something that’s naturally It’s so fuzzy and cute. Bonus? My pubic area – not
occurring! So I decided to bring back the bush. boyfriend thinks it’s beautiful.’ ■ on the vulva!)
PALMER’S
Coconut Oil
Body Oil (R65,95)
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MIND HEALTH
START
you to repeat the behaviour.
‘Over time, mini-goals
become habits that are
rewarding and wired into
SOMETHING!
Set a goal? Go small or go home
our brain,’ says Kress.
She suggests starting
with no more than three
specific nano-goals at a
time. Keep reading for
BY K R I S SY B R A DY more success strategies.
B I G FA I L B I G FA I L
Be asleep by Live at your
10pm every night. standing desk.
S M A LL W I N S M A LL W I N
Get up at about the Walk for 30
same time every day. minutes a day.
Sleep is everything. But not Constant sitting is worse for
everyone’s body clock allows your wellbeing than smoking.
them to conk out at 10pm, But committing to being on
says sleep specialist Michael your feet 24/7 isn’t the answer.
Breus, author of The Power Of ‘Standing for eight hours isn’t
When. If your natural circadian that much better than sitting
rhythm doesn’t align with a for that long, because your
certain strict bedtime, you’re body still isn’t moving much,’
setting yourself up for failure. says certified personal trainer
Forcing yourself won’t help. Krista Stryker.
A smaller, easier hack is to set Ditch your too-intense
your alarm for about the same goal: rather walk around for
time each morning. ‘When you 30 minutes every day. ‘This B I G FA I L B I G FA I L
open your eyes, light turns off can make a huge difference Break up with Work out
the faucet in your brain that in your health by getting you junk food. every day.
controls the sleep hormone outside and moving,’ says
melatonin, and wakes you up,’ Stryker. No need to knock out S M A LL W I N S M A LL W I N
says Breus. ‘When you get up at the full 30 at once: walking to Swap in one healthier Exercise 90
the same time each day, your the grocery store and cruising treat each month. minutes a week.
body will fall into a rhythm around with your dog can all Going from chip queen to In addition to being
that’ll help you feel sleepy at add up. If 30 minutes starts kale fiend may actually make unrealistic (some days you
a similar time every night.’ to feel too easy, set your next your cravings harder to beat, #JustCant), working out on
Start with weekdays, and benchmark at one hour – and says registered dietitian Kelly the daily is bad for your body.
eventually rise and shine at get moving first thing in the LeVeque, author of Body Love. It prevents muscle recovery
the same time on weekends. morning, during your lunch ‘The minute we say we’ll never and ramps up your risk of
It’ll keep your new snooze break and after dinner to hit eat something again, we drool injury, says certified personal
schedule on fleek all year. your mark. over it even more,’ she says. trainer Anna Victoria, creator
That’s because going cold of the Fit Body Guides. To
turkey on your faves can make get after your goals without
you feel deprived, increasing overdoing it, start with 45
B I G FA I L your cravings, says registered minutes of cardio and 45
Meditate twice a day. dietitian Keri Gans, author minutes of strength training
of The Small Change Diet. per week. You can combine
S M A LL W I N Cue nacho face-plant. the sessions into 90 minutes
Do a few five-minute guided Instead of banning all or break them up over two
sessions per week. your junk-food baes at once, days. And yes, you’ll see results
Trying to jump-start total Zen can leave you the very opposite reduce your intake by tackling – especially if you’re currently
of chilled, says Kress. For many, meditation (especially sans one at a time (fizzy drinks doing nothing, says Victoria.
P H OTO G R A P H Y A L L I E H O L LO WAY/ S T U D I O D
guidance) can feel beyond frustrating – or just straight-up in April, chips in May), says ‘Starting small makes hitting
impossible. That you? Start with briefer trials, and enlist LeVeque. Replace each with the gym easier to fit into
some help. Apps such as Simple Habit and Meditation Studio a healthier option (cool drink your schedule, and gives
offer tutorials for inner peace, enabling you to boost your calm becomes sparkling water, your body time to adjust,’
in short bursts. Every little bit counts, says Kress. Lowering your chips get traded in for corn she says. ‘If you’re consistent,
heart rate for five minutes reduces the levels of stress hormones crackers). Gradually phase those workouts will add up.’
– and by kicking off your Om habit in a small way, you’ll learn the out unhealthy food and you’ll Once you feel like you could
skill without getting restless, slowly building up your tolerance make over your whole diet by do more, add a third session
for longer sessions. When those five minutes begin to fly by, the end of the year – without to your week – preferably
you’ll know it’s time to try 10 … or even 20. feeling the loss. a HIIT one. ■
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‘I Got
Botox
in My
Vagina’
BODY
A S TO L D TO JA I M E WA D D I N GTO N
‘MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE a small tablet that you put into says Novikova. ‘When The problem is that the
ALWAYS HAD A GOOD SEX LIFE. your vagina twice a week. It anything – such as a penis, tightening of these muscles
We met when I was 19 and releases a hormone to restore fingers, dilators or a tampon actually causes more pain.’
have been married for almost the levels of oestrogen and – is inserted into your vagina, ‘I’d never suffered from
20 years. I never thought I’d enhance moisture. It helped it’s incredibly painful or even vaginismus before I’d gone
lose the ability to have sex to a certain extent but sex was impossible because of the through cancer treatment,’
with my own husband. still incredibly uncomfortable spasm of the vaginal muscles. says Jennifer. ‘It was clear
‘My name is Jennifer* and – nowhere near as pleasurable There are all kinds of triggers that my body was reacting
I suffer from vaginismus. It’s as it had been pre-cancer. of vaginismus, from sexual to what I was going through.
a term I’d never heard before It eventually became more assault to yeast infections, Novikova explained that the
being diagnosed. It means of an issue, but there was vaginal dryness and bladder vaginismus was essentially
the muscles in my vagina nothing that I was aware of infections. Even religious an emotional reaction – I was
contract involuntarily that could help. My husband views can have an effect, anticipating the pain. I would
whenever anything comes was supportive, but it was very tense up before anything
near my genitals, making sex frustrating for both of us. I’d even happened.
impossible and causing me to pretty much given up hope ‘She told me about a laser
lose my confidence entirely. of ever enjoying sex again … treatment called FemiLift –
‘It all started when I found until the day I was waiting for vaginal laser rejuvenation. It’s
out I had breast cancer at the a checkup with my oncologist, supposed to reverse changes
end of 2013. I started chemo in and I picked up a magazine to a woman’s intimate parts
April 2014, had a mastectomy that featured an article that that occur through childbirth,
shortly afterwards, then began would change my life. ageing or hormonal changes
hormonal therapy. The more (as was the case with me).
I continued with the therapy, The minimally invasive laser
the drier my vagina became, treatment helps to tone the
which eventually made sex ‘The article spoke about muscles of the vagina and
excruciating. It was bad enough a treatment that could help rebuild the collagen of the
losing my breasts; to lose my with vaginal dryness. I showed vaginal walls, making it
sex life as well was devastating. it to my oncologist; she said more moist. I thought to
‘My oncologist explained she knew nothing about it. myself, “This is hope!”
that oestrogen levels do drop I followed up on the article ‘About a week after
when undergoing hormonal and found Dr Natalia Novikova having the treatment, my
therapy, which can make the – the first certified aesthetic husband and I tried to have
membranes of the vagina gynaecologist in South Africa, or being scared of intercourse sex, but to my dismay it was
thinner and less flexible, based in Cape Town. I made because of potential pregnancy. still very painful. I went back
and produce less lubricating an appointment to see her; Once women experience such to Novikova. This time, she
fluid. I was shattered. Her after a consultation and a pain, the mind and body can recommended I try a vaginal
solution was that I try to use physical exam, she diagnosed develop a conditioned response Botox treatment along with
a lubricant during intercourse. me with vaginismus.’ to penetration. The body learns the FemiLift. “Botox?”
Lube? Are you kidding me?? ‘Vaginismus is an to expect pain, which causes I thought. “For the vagina?”
When that didn’t work, she involuntary contraction of the pelvic muscles to contract I was hesitant. It sounded
prescribed me with Vagifem, the muscles in the vagina,’ to protect against that pain. odd, painful, intimidating.
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BODY
But the truth was I couldn’t ‘This is an important move ‘It’s critical to have the
bear how uncomfortable sex for women’s health in South procedure done by a qualified
was – I had nothing to lose.’ Africa,’ says Novikova. ‘In the medical doctor experienced in
past, all we could offer for the injecting Botox,’ says Schabort.
treatment of vaginismus was ‘A gynaecologist with special
psychological therapy and training in aesthetic medicine
‘Botox is not just for wrinkles,’ the use of vaginal dilators. is ideal. Ask the doctor whether
says Zak Schabort, founder It’s incredibly exciting that they’ve had official training
of the Cosmetic and Dental a new, effective treatment is in cosmetic injections, and
Emporium in Cape Town now available. Even better: are a certified injector. You
who offers accredited Botox it’s typically a once-off may also ask to see the bottle
training to doctors. ‘Botox or treatment. Injecting Botox to make sure it’s the real deal
botulinum toxin A is derived into the vaginal muscle stops – Botox Botulinum Toxin Type
from a form of bacteria, and is the vagina from contracting A or Dysport Botulinum Toxin
used medically for conditions – it breaks the vicious cycle. Type A.’ Never be afraid to ask!
such as excessive sweating, The effects of Botox wear off
migraines or, in this case, completely after a while, but
muscle spasms. When it’s the effect of a normal sex life
injected into the targeted during this period can heal ‘What disturbed me most
muscle, it temporarily blocks vaginismus completely.’ What’s throughout this process was
nerve impulses that tell it
to contract. Botox causes
the O-Shot? not the pain but the fact that
there is great silence around
a weakening or paralysis of There are other injections this issue,’ says Jennifer.
out there to improve things
the targeted muscles, which ‘Three sessions of FemiLift ‘Women rarely talk about the
down there. Jo’burg-based
lasts up to four months.’ cost me R15 000; the Botox Dr Nicole Kanaris ofers problem, and many doctors
‘The night before the was R6 000,’ says Jennifer. the O-Shot, which helps don’t know how to treat it.
Botox treatment, I put ‘Medical aid didn’t cover it. increase clitoral sensation, When I raised the concern
on a numbing cream,’ But it’s important for women strengthen tissue around with my oncologist, there
says Jennifer. ‘Just before to know there is an option.’ the urethra and stimulate was very little knowledge,
the procedure, I also took a ‘A gynaecologist trained for tissue regeneration in the empathy or concern. It was
G-spot, increasing sensation.
painkiller. General anaesthesia the vaginal Botox treatment The injection can also help as though nobody even
can be used for more serious can advise you on how many increase lubrication. acknowledged the impact
cases. My doctor used a tiny units you’ll need, so you can During the process, this has on physical and
needle to inject Botox into get an idea of the cost before numbing cream is applied mental wellbeing. I know
the muscles of my vagina. committing,’ says Schabort. to genitalia, a consultation there are women who have
I didn’t feel any pain and Novikova says, ‘On occasion, is done with the doctor, and vaginismus from a young
blood is drawn. (Not from
had no discomfort after I have to repeat the injection age and never speak about
your vagina, don’t worry!)
the treatment. after the Botox has left the The blood is spun in a it. Had this Botox treatment
‘Two weeks later, my system. But I expect patients centrifuge, separating out been more widely known and
husband and I had sex. to have easy, pain-free vaginal platelet-rich plasma (PRP), more readily available, I would
We actually managed to penetration four to six weeks which is then injected into have escaped a lot of pain.
have sex. Good sex! I couldn’t after the procedure.’ the clitoris and vagina. ‘I highly recommend this
believe it. After one treatment, Although Botox has been We watched someone to anyone struggling with
have it done IRL (true story),
the difference was remarkable. approved by the US Food this issue. It will help you
and the patient said it had
I can’t explain the emotional and Drug Administration reclaim your sexuality and
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26, most people have already before sex, and know how to on the left or right. Severe pain
been exposed to HPV – it’s the I don’t like hormonal insert/place them properly. that doesn’t resolve, especially
most common STI globally. contraception. What Condoms also prevent STI with nausea, vomiting, a
For some people older than 26, are my options? and HIV infection. decrease in appetite, fever
such as those not yet sexually Always discuss options with The fertility awareness or a positive pregnancy test
active or with one previous a gynae. Depending on your method or rhythm method must be taken seriously.
(monogamous!) partner, lifestyle and health history, (with or without withdrawal) Visit your doc ASAP. ■
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The reason GOT (no,
not Game Of Thrones)
is so major? In a word:
orgasms. The position
ups your odds of climaxing
during sex, as your most
sensitive interior and
exterior spots can be
stimulated at the same
time, says sexologist and
relationship expert Megan
Stubbs. That double play can
seal the deal on satisfaction.
At least 70% of women need
clitoral stimulation in order to
O from intercourse. Yet riding
cowgirl only ranked third
– behind missionary and
doggie style, two moves that
don’t offer as much clitoral
attention – in the ‘favourite
position’ part of Skyn Condoms’
2017 Millennial Sex Survey.
Unacceptable! It’s time to
recognise girl-on-top as the
hot move it is for both of you.
If the promise of ecstatic
trembling isn’t incentive
enough, here are five more
reasons to hop up there.
1 All the
stimulation
Thanks to gravity, climbing
on top means your partner
can go deeper than an
M Night Shyamalan plot.
The pose can also stimulate
your G-spot, the small area
a few centimetres inside you
on the front of your vaginal
wall that, for some women,
Sex That
is ultra-sensitive and can Ends in the ER
bring on supersized orgasms,
One study found that half of all
says sexologist and sexuality
penile fractures occur during GOT
coach Juliet Allen, author of
sex. If you’re not angled right and
Ecstatic Sex & Deep Intimacy.
you come down too fast (or he slips
To find out which depths feel out), you may hear a popping or
best, straddle his waist with cracking sound – and his cry of pain.
your legs on either side of his To avoid a trip to the hospital, don’t
hips. Move your knees closer slam onto him if you’ve risen high
to his body for shallower enough that only the head of his
thrusts or further away penis is inside you.
for deeper plunges.
LOVE
POWER UP
2 Control is yours YO U R L I M B S
Run yours up and down his he’s looking at, know this: he’s
GOT is a power pose chest and torso, stopping definitely not critiquing the
for a reason: you decide the Getting on at the nipples, which can way your boobs and stomach
speed and direction of the sex top can make be a major pleasure centre are moving. What’s more likely
(no jackhammering allowed). you feel weak for men and women. Then going through his head? ‘I’m
‘You’re the boss, which can in the … thighs. put your partner’s hands to not gonna last much longer!’
Gain strength
feel really empowering,’ says work on your own breasts
and endurance
Stubbs. Try setting an OMG- with this leg as you hold a small vibrator 5 You’ll never get
worthy pace by starting slow exercise by against your clitoris. Stubbs bored (promise!)
and grinding your clitoris fitness instructor also suggests having your As long as it feels good, there’s
against your partner’s body, Dyan Tsiumis. mate pull your hips down as no wrong way to position
then speeding up as you sense you swivel them, upping the yourself on top. You can try
your pleasure building and Hot hip bridges pressure against your clitoris. a straddle with your knees
you can see your lover is also Lie on your back on the bed, or turn around so
with your knees
about to lose it. Feel free to
bent and your 4 Off-the-charts you’re facing your mate’s feet
bring in some teasing too, heels on the floor intimacy (reverse cowgirl) – or stretch
by slowing it way back near your butt. Extra arousal and warm, your legs out in front of you
down – you’re the dom Raise your hips fuzzy feels? Another GOT and use your arms to move.
in this session, after all. up and hold for win. The position allows you And at the risk of sounding
three seconds, to hold intense eye contact like Dr Seuss, you can do it in
clenching your
3 Easier access, glutes, then
during sex, which can help a chair. And on the floor. And
everywhere lower. Repeat to solidify your bond. If you on the stairs. ‘Modification is
Being on top leaves all hands 15 times; do can’t gaze down at your mate the key to this classic’s lasting
on deck – and free for touching. four sets. without worrying about what appeal,’ says Stubbs. ■
Girl-on-top is like the best fro-yo shop: so many options! Customise your pleasure
by choosing one of these positions (adapted from COSMO’s Sexy Sutra), then a motion:
THE POSITIONS
P H O T O G R A P H Y N I C K O N K E N /A U G U S T I M A G E I L L U S T R AT I O N S J E N N Y Y U E N
THE MOTIONS
BOUNCE Use your legs to raise and lower your pelvis onto his penis.
SWIRL Swivel your hips in a circular motion to feel him all over your outside and inside parts.
ROCK Shift your hips forward and backward to rub your clitoris against his pubic bone.
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The
First-
Date
Move
That Can
Seal – or
Sink –
Your
Bond
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LOVE
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‘Of course
the kids
will get his
fab hair…’
I L L U S T R AT I O N S J O H A N N A G O O D M A N P H O T O G R A P H Y G E T T Y I M A G E S
even know his middle Next time you that’s something they even have their
name, chances are sense that you’re you want), or that first quarrel. (Usually, this person seems imminent,
you’re over-valuing getting way ahead his temper is shorter that’s because they let your imagination loose by
him, says Greenberg. of yourself, stop the than the chilled vibes have gone through a envisioning scenes of what your
Rather than living in runaway train in your you imagined in your previous heartbreak actual life would look like. If you
the present, you’re mind by staying in pretty little fantasy? and are preparing
want a family, picture him or her
fabricating a person the moment. Ask ‘If you don’t spend for the worst as a
who doesn’t exist questions about time getting to defence mechanism.) as a parent. If you want to travel,
(or, at least, not your date’s passions, know someone, This behaviour can imagine him or her going with
that you know family, friends, work, you could be in for actually cause you you. Specific scenarios can help
of yet). Assuming and past, advises a rude awakening,’ to radiate negativity, you sense your feelings about the
you two are ‘made Sherman. This says Sherman. says Sherman. The person’s strengths and weaknesses,
for each other’ at approach will help Speaking of end result? A self- and whether they’re going to be
an early stage can you understand gloomy situations: fulfilling prophecy
also add pressure who he really is, not all montaging that can kill any a fit for you in the long term. If,
that interferes instead of who involves happily-ever- potential romance after that, your gut is telling you
with the natural you think he will after scenarios. Some before it has a chance it’s a go, we give you permission
growth of a real, be based on his CV, people get caught up to heat up. to dream on, girl! ■
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being funny and just needs talking about spooning. feel. Focus on the hurt or to be in. Don’t ever settle –
you to give him a reality check anxiety he’s caused you, but also don’t jump to any
on why he isn’t funny (and how Q/ After my fiancé got giving him a space to be conclusions until you’ve
he’s being ofensive). Sometimes back from a bachelor party, honest about whether had an upfront chat with
we just need someone else to tell I found a text from a girl on or not he’s strayed. bae. There’s a chance he
us how it is. If he still doesn’t get his phone. He swears that Now that you’re talking, was randomly messaged,
it, ask yourself whether you have nothing happened. Could ask him whether you can read didn’t respond and has
the same values in common. he be lying? through his messages together. ignored it. ■
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e
A It’s smart to be cautious.
According to a 2017 survey,
Honest answers to your most private questions. BY J U L I E VA D N A L 45%of men and 16% of
women aged 18 to 34 have
shared a sexy photo without
the subject’s permission –
and that can happen with
videos as well. ‘Creating
a sex tape can be erotic
and hot, but you want to
be mindful of the fact that
one of you could potentially
make it public if you fight
or break up,’ says sex and
relationship therapist
Megan Fleming. Maybe
just film a steamy kissing
session while you’re clothed.
Or if you’re cool being nude,
only film yourselves from
the waist up, then delete
the vid after watching.
o b
o o
o eo e
o
od o
s
last longer than water-based guy about a plan of action to But as long as you’re both
ones. Also, peeing before and make intercourse feel great. enjoying yourselves, there’s
after every round is a must (He won’t mind hearing really no need to go PI on
to prevent UTIs. about how huge he is!) his peen… ■
It’s like nap time for a dude’s penis. Post-orgasm, most men aren’t able to get an
WTF IS erection again for a while. In general, the younger the guy, the shorter the period –
although there are some who can go again virtually right away and others who need
an entire day. If you want round two ASAP, use your mouth and hands on his other hot
spots to recharge his arousal. ‘Continue kissing and caressing his shoulders, chest and
back,’ says sexologist Emily Morse, host of the ‘Sex with Emily’ podcast. ‘His member
might need a break, but his brain will be receptive and, eventually, you’ll be able to tell
when he’s coming back online.’ Boing! Or, while you wait, have him pleasure you instead.
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THE LOVE COACH
M AT T H E W H U S S E Y
ll b
1 3 Dudes on
‘You don’t
remember
‘OMG, I’m
a sweaty
Trimming
my name,
do you?’
mess. I look
disgusting.’
Their … Trees
Maybe you say This is what A recent study published
this to call him I like to call
out or even self-defecating in JAMA Dermatology found
to be playful, – as in, after that 67% of men groom their
but name- receiving a nice pubic hair. But who are they
shaming just compliment
comes off from a guy manscaping for? We asked
as insecure. (‘You look a few pruners…
Instead, help great!’), you
him and say, just … crap all
‘Hey! We met over it. Not
at X’s party. I’m only are you
Lesedi.’ This rejecting his ‘It’s 100%
shows him you attempt to for my GF.
are easy-going flirt with you,
and don’t take you’re also
She’d kick my
yourself too revealing your ass if I didn’t –
seriously. insecurities. otherwise, I’d
Next time, probably never
say: ‘Aw, thank do it.’
-JARED, 27
you. You just
2 made my day –
especially after
that tough
‘Oh, you yoga class!’
know,
nothing
much.’ 4
Such a vague
answer to ‘So,
what’s new?’ ‘Between us,
doesn’t help she’s having
continue the some issues
conversation. with her ex.’
From now Maybe you’re
on, take this just making
question as small talk, but
an invitation to spilling the
offer a positive beans about
detail about people you
your current both know PERCENTAGE OF
life: ‘Actually, makes him
I’ve been question MILLENNIAL MEN WHO
planning your loyalty. HAVE RE-WORN THE
a trip to Instead, focus SAME CLOTHING DUE
Mozambique. on talking TO A ONE-NIGHT STAND.
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Decode His Instagram Likes
‘I feel an Pamela Rutledge, director of the Media
enhanced raw Psychology Research Center, shares
element of sexuality
being bare. And let’s what’s behind his double taps
face it: a guy’s parts
look larger when he
doesn’t have a fur
burger above
and below.’
-SEAN, 30
5 Things
That Turn You The feeling Fear! It shares
Him On scratching When you of sliding some common
his back. throw on his into a bed If you know
– From (This has its dress shirt in that has how to play
physical elements
with arousal, so
Normal to own name: the morning … new, clean guitar. So his brain thinks
acarophilia.) with nothing sheets random,
No Way! under it. on it. but true.
he’s scared …
but also horny. ■
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‘I Did a
Complete
Career
180’
What happens if you decide in your
mid-20s or 30s that you want a career
change? And is a career 180 even viable
if you’ve spent the last few years (or a
decade) studying and grafting to make it
in a specific industry? These three women
did just that: threw out their old jobs and
embarked on something new. Here’s how
they did it, and why it was the best
decision they ever made
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KATLEHO TSOKU, 34 I’d had so many moments There was a lot of heartbreak, ‘I had nothing
Then Restaurant owner when Bliss wasn’t doing well and a lot of shame associated left to lose’
Now Social entrepreneur but I’d brushed them off and with failing. After Bliss’s closure, Tsoku’s
made them work. This time ‘I had three questions. new role found her entirely by
Katleho Tsoku thought her was different: it was a wake- Had I failed myself? Had accident. ‘Spark South Africa
dreams had come true when up call. Achieving goals is I failed my mother, who’d found me. I became very open
she opened her own restaurant never easy – but it shouldn’t believed in me? Had I failed about my failure and I was
in Jo’burg at 24. But it would make you miserable.’ all the women aspiring to doing speaking engagements
prove to be a bittersweet start their own business? about what I learnt from the
failure that would lead her to ‘There was a lot But eventually I learnt that whole experience. I caught
the career she was destined of heartbreak’ I hadn’t failed any of these the attention of Aaron and
for: social entrepreneurship. ‘I’d fought to keep Bliss alive people, or myself. It took Kaitlin Tait, who’d been
for two and a half years. The me a year of processing but running Spark in Australia.
‘I wanted to biggest struggle was funding: I began to make peace with They needed someone on the
start my own thing’ my mom had limited capital, it. I told myself I didn’t fail ground in South Africa, and
‘I’ve always loved hosting and and I had to cut our losses. – the restaurant failed.’ they approached me. I’d been
creating experiences,’ she says. working for myself, so I was
‘I’m a hospitality graduate; reluctant to work for someone
I spent four months at a else. But then I thought, girl,
Radisson hotel and two at a you’re broke, you’re depressed,
Hyatt hotel. But I wanted to what do you have to lose?
start my own thing: I’d fallen ‘In retrospect, I realise
in love with the idea of owning I was suffering from impostor
a hotel in my early 20s.’ syndrome. I tried going into
hospitality because I thought
‘I was broke that’s what I knew, and it
and had to make failed. Now I’d been asked to
a tough decision’ run Spark and I was asking
‘When I was 24, I opened my myself: am I capable? Am
restaurant. It was self-funded. I enough? Turns out I am!’
I’d gone to banks, but the first
thing they wanted to know ‘It takes a lot to keep
when I asked for a loan was believing in yourself’
what collateral I had. I didn’t. ‘Since then, my journey
Those that said yes required has seen me move back into
a huge stake of my business.’ entrepreneurship – but this
So with her mother’s help, time in my true calling: social
Tsoku opened Bliss at Jo’burg’s entrepreneurship. I co-founded
44 Stanley. But the pressure YHer, a partner of Spark, as
soon became overwhelming. a female-focused accelerator
‘I looked at my peers living for women’s issues. In 2016,
their life and not struggling I took YHer continent-wide.
to make ends meet. And here The defining moment was
I was, at 27, having thought having former First Lady
I’d found my purpose in Bliss Zanele Dlamini Mbeki
– but I was broke, my mom acknowledge the programme
was broke and I had to make as being impactful.
a tough decision. I was on my ‘You have to be resilient. It
way to work when I realised takes a lot to keep believing
I couldn’t do it any more. My in yourself. Before I do any
restaurant supervisor had decision-making now, I ask
phoned to say the suppliers myself what my intention is.
forgot to deliver milk. I lost Is my intention in alignment
it. In the middle of an aisle at with my true self? If I can say
Pick n Pay, I cried my eyes out. yes, I’m on the right track.’
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Eventually, she’d worked was useful in journalism,
her way up to executive but not necessarily in
producer at CNBC Africa. communication. This
uncomfortable process is
‘My biggest fear pretty normal for anyone
was the unknown’ switching careers; it takes
‘Around the time I turned time to adjust and adapt.
30, I realised I needed a ‘I had no professional
change.’ Ten years of high- network in the sector
pressure stakes and long I was going into. Despite
hours had taken their toll. my research, I knew very
But stepping away from little about early childhood
what you’ve always known development. The work
is scary. ‘My biggest fear processes were different;
SVETLANA was leaving the known so were the success metrics.
DONEVA, 33 and the comfortable to The office environment
Then Journalist; CNBC enter a sector that was was also totally new – not
unknown to me. I worried as noisy or fast-paced as
executive producer
I wouldn’t be successful I was used to. I also had
NowCommunications and that I’d compromise to get used to a whole new
manager at an NGO my career trajectory. way of making decisions.’
A fast-paced journalism ‘I spotted an opening During this transition,
career was what Svetlana for a communications it was key for Doneva to
P H O T O G R A P H Y K A T B O R C H A R T / T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T. C O M , C L A I R E G U N N P H O T O G R A P H Y, H A M I LT O N S A G E N C Y M O D E L @ S I M P L Y B I A N C A A L E X A
Doneva had always hoped manager at a small NGO reach out to others for
for – but 10 years in, she called Ilifa Labantwana, advice and support. ‘The
needed a new direction. which operates in early process of developing your
Little did she know she’d childhood development. skills is made easier with
discover a passion for early It was a field I knew very the help of a mentor who
childhood development. little about, but after some understands you and what
research I quickly became you want to achieve. It’s
‘It all seemed convinced this was where quite difficult to see the
so glamorous’ my future was. In my bigger picture on your own.’
Growing up, Doneva research, I learnt that our
wanted to be a writer. success in life depends on ‘I believe 100%
‘Journalism was a natural the care we receive early in what I do’
career choice for me,’ she in life. The more I read, ‘My career has always been
says. ‘I studied politics and the more excited I got important to me. I believe
economics at Rhodes. A about the NGO’s vision.’ 100% in what I do; nothing
few weeks after my finals, I’ve done after my career
my mom drove me to my ‘It takes time change has felt like a
first job interview – for a to adapt’ sacrifice,’ she says. Would
reporter position at Times Like most women doing a she do anything differently? NEW
Media Group in Jo’burg. career 180, Doneva had to ‘It’s been three years and
At the time it all seemed so re-evaluate her skills and I’m still challenged daily, R A I N C OAT M A S C A R A
glamorous. Times Media identify what she could but I wouldn’t change
Group met all of my 21-
year-old expectations;
use in the new field, and
where she’d need more
a thing. The more we
learn, the more we grow.
H OT
I longed to join the ranks
of well-dressed women
experience. ‘I got the job
and the first year was a
It’s exciting to learn and
expand my skills set. YO G A?
and intense men in the difficult transition,’ she Switching careers has
newsroom. And I did!’ says. ‘My lack of specialised been amazing – and D O N ’ T S W E AT I T.
For 10 years, Doneva knowledge was glaring. I feel lucky to have Invisible. Water Resistant.
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journalism, working which was sobering. I’d to work in two sectors
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Moving Forward’
salary; can I get a raise?’
You need to know your
worth. Have a plan and
carefully plot your next
Thabiso Mahlape, 34, is the publisher taking flight with BlackBird Books,
steps. I’m very impatient,
an imprint of Jacana Media. Created when she was 31, it aims to champion but if I believe in something
black stories. ‘It’s very important for me that the voices of black women and I know I’ve calculated
are heard,’ she says. Read on for her career lessons and advice it correctly, I’m willing to
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