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GENTLE MANNERS
A GUIDE TO
GOOD MORALS
THIRD EDITIOI
EAST CANTERBURY N H
PREFACE TO FIRST EDITION.
The following pages were written by the instruct-
book.
Insteuctoes.
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February, 1823. \
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PREFACE TO SECOND EDITION.
Hejstey C. Blinn.
East Canterbury, N. H. }
March, 1899. \
CONTENTS.
Page
Preface to First Edition, iii
Contents, xiii
Reflections, 1
Education, 4
Future Consequences from Present Actions, 10
Devotion to God, 12
Obedience, 13
Self-Conceit, 14
ii
Importance of Fixed Principles,
Of Thoughts, 15
5?
Of Words,
15
Of Actions,
Benevolence, lY
Honesty, 18
Prayer, 21
5J
Civility,
Modesty, 23
Meekness and Humility, 24
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Resignation,
Calumny, 25
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Choice of Company, 26
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Idle Talk,
Speech, 27
ForgiveDess, 28
Habits, 29
Ornaments of Youth, 30
A Word of Caution, 31
Rules of Civility by Gen. Washington, 34
Needful Counsel, 41
Places Consecrated to Divine Worship, 44
General Behavior, 46
The Sitting Posture, 50
Conversation, 57
Regard for those with whom we are not per-
sonally acquainted. 60
Behavior at the Table, 63
Cleanliness, 74
Letter-Writing, 78
GEI^TLE MA]^]^ERS.
REFLE0TIONS.
It may be quite proper to refer to some
things, ia couduct and deportment, that in the
EDU0ATION.
In the presentation of rules for the guidance
of the youthful mind, it may not be out of place
to present the following good thought. Good
manners demand that we should speak correctly,
to a bad use.
In obtaining an education it is quite like the
be readily accepted.
Orthography may never become immovably
fixed, and this obliges us to accept the changes
that may be made in spelling certain words in
order to keep pace with the teachers of the En-
glish language.
to the dictionary.
dearest friends.
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W'mEBMN^T' ^€TIQMB^.
Every action must bring its reward of eitiier
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DEVOTION TO GOD.
In the formation of a Guide for the youthful
heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy
in doing good.
OBEDIENCE.
Obedience is considered by all people as a
SELF-OONOEIT.
There may be passions and propensities more
directly sinful, which being more apparent, are
shunned on that account.
Self-conceit is a fruitful soil for every evil
rei2;ns.
15
Of Thoughts.
Never indulge in thinking of that which is
Of Words.
Always speak the truth, whether in earnest or
in jest. Speak little and hear much. Speak
no ill of any, unless necessity requires it, and
then with all possible caution, doing as we would
be done by. Use no hard words but let our
words be mild. The fear of God should attend
all we say.
Of Actions.
Always, in all cases, obey the dictates of
conscience. Do nothing that we know to be
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right ?
out hesitation.
lY
Benevolence.
"Kindness and good- will to men should be
an active characteristic of every mind. The in-
Honesty.
' 'The strict principles of honesty and integrity
should begin to be laid in the earliest days of
childhood."
"There is a peace and tranquility that never
ined reputation."
Prayer.
"Ask, and ye shall receive; seek, and ye
shall find ; knock, and it shall be opened unto
you."
A soul that is devoted to God will not neglect
Civility.
Those in every rank in society will find a
profitable employment in the cultivation of a
refined and civil address. All who attend to it
and charity."
"If reproved for deficiencies by a friend, and
even moved to tears, or disconcerted and con-
fused ; offer a brief, reasonable explanation in a
vate ns."
Modesty.
The well-bred are always modest. To be
pure in spirit one should be modest in thought,
word and deed. The virtue of modesty should
extend to all the walks of life.
modesty.
ness."
Resignation.
It is a matter of importance, that all learn to
goodness.
Calumny.
Evil-speaking and backbiting are among the
Choice of Company.
We should endeavor, as much as possible, to
Idle Talk.
"We should be careful how we tell in one
Speech.
"There is an awkwardness of speech, that
should and may be guarded against, such as
forgetting names, and mistaking one name for
of it."
company.
Forgiveness.
"For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your
heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if
Habits-
" Avoid awkward habits. From our own ob
servation, we should reflect what a disagreeable
impression an awkward address, a slovenly fig-
ORNAMENTS OF YOUTH.
Dr. Watts on writing of education, remarked,
— "Among all the accomplishments of youth,
A Word of Caution,
"Do not go needlessly, in the way of tempta-
faith."
them."
"If we have any solicitude for the honor and
preservation of the gospel ; if we have any ten-
stop.
in speaking ;
jog not the table or desk on which
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hard to be believed.
29. Speak not of doleful things in time of
nor earnest.
34. Scoff at none although they give occa-
sion.
excessive in commanding.
periors.
40. If two contend together, take not the
part of either unconstrained, and be not obsti-
vate.
41
Needful Counsel,
^'-He that hear'keneth unto counsel^ is ivise."
itable.
ingly."
not."
others.
;
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be disagreeable in others.
Never use more freedom with children, than
m PLAGES OONOEOEATED TO
DIVINE WOESHIP.
Always take off the hat ou entering the door,
tion."
kindness.
as consistent.
company."
If yawning can not be avoided, place a ker-
chief before the mouth.
discipline.
as I may choose !
erect.
can't I?
or stand as I please.
distance.
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CONVERSATION.
In coiiversatiou, have special care lest we
wound the tender feelings of our friends. We
should remember that jests and jokes are like
edged tools, and very dangerous to use.
while speaking.
yes ;
— yes, yes —or—just —or—yes, Iso, see,
speech."
' 'Avoid speaking of any of our private affairs
Chandler.
selves."
table, nor too far from it. Never play with the
knife or fork.
neatly arranged.
mouth.
If the cup has a handle, use it while drinking ;
absolutely necessary.
' 'Never reach over the plate of another person
to obtain a distant article, —better ask some one
to pass it."
easily done.
fectly familiar."
CLEANLINESS.
For all who desire to be considered honor-
able members of society, cleanliness is a very
necessary accomplishment. A slovenly peison
is very disagreeable, especially, in well ordered
company.
Cleanliness is closely conjoined to the moral
as charity or love.
of hair oil."
'-
'An excess of perfumery on the person is not
in good taste."
ply unpardonable."
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chair.
LETTEI^-WRITING.
Ill replyiug to a letter, always acknowledge
ter.
nicely as is consistent.
hand corner.
Obtain more extended rules for the writing of
letters and study thsm carefully.