Sweet Valentine: Baker Emily Jones decorates chocolate hearts at the Lake Champlain Chocolates

factory in Burlington, Vermont, on Feb. 11.AP/Toby TalbotFor many, February is the month of
romance.
Valentine’s Day on Feb. 14th gives people a momentum to celebrate love and express it to their
object of affection.
The classic formula to mark the occasion usually includes a romantic dinner for two, red roses,
chocolate, candy and a greeting card. For those with more money to spend, a holiday getaway and
jewelry might come into the picture.
Those skeptical of the day’s hype might refuse to partake in the consumerist frenzy, saying that
love should be celebrated on any day of the year. Romantics, who love the special occasion,
meticulously plan their activities on Valentine’s Day. And there are those who don’t mind being
given a reason to be romantic [1].
But for every type of person holding different opinions on Valentine’s Day, romantic love is more
than dinner and gifts. It is the one drug that everyone loves — as long as it lasts. It gives people
energy, sparks creativity, and makes a besotted person incredibly focused on one’s object of
affection.
Romantic love is a great motivator and a muse for art. The many poems dedicated to love is
testament to that. Love drives people to go the extra mile. The fear of loosing love and jealousy
can drive people to the worst of actions, from stalking to murder.
Beyond kowtowing to the demands of a commercialized Valentine’s Day, The Jakarta Post asked
people what they did when driven by this intense emotion, and what their perception of romantic
love was.
Most answered they wanted an everlasting relationship. A happily married mother of one said love
was an illusion, referring to the roles of dopamine and serotonin in our brains. Others say they
believe in love in a metaphysical manner. And an editor-cum-artist dreams of a noncommittal
everlasting love.
The feisty, 25-year-old Bali-based editor Annisa Dharma said romance or the feeling of infatuation
drives her to “assemble beautiful words that woo”. It had also driven her to make what she called
“grand gestures”.
“I’ve moved countries for a boy. I’ve made a song for a boy [2]. I’ve created art for a boy. I’ve let
go of my ambition for a boy,” she said.
Annisa said her actions were driven by romance [3].
“I think romance is more of a language. Romance and love don’t go hand in hand,” she said.
“Personally, I can’t be romantic to someone I truly love, and likewise, when I don’t love a person,
I can be the most romantic person ever.”
However if she really loves someone, she would not do anything to hurt or harm herself. “Because
I’d trust them with all my heart,” she said.
Annisa added she would want love to last forever. “Thus, no commitments…Free and liberating.”
She however would not mind getting married “if I found the right one, in which the relationship
didn’t change regardless of the married status. That would mean getting married purely as an act
of romance… which is fine,” she said.
For 28-year-old Yolanda Nirmala, love has such a powerful effect on her it made her think twice
about her religion and chose to live without it. She said she found peace as an agnostic.
“Would it makes sense to you if I told you that being in love once led to me being agnostic? That’s
how powerful love is in my life,” she said.
Coming from a conservative Muslim family, Yolanda fell in love with a man who had a Catholic
upbringing. She was in her early 20s, in college; meanwhile, her partner was in his early thirties.
Their families disapproved of their relationship because they came from different faiths. They
continued to date in secret for fear of being separated [4].
She and her partner devised a plan to elope to Singapore and live abroad. They started to save up
money for their planned future together.
During this time, she started to question religion.
“I started to lose my faith in religion. I started to ask myself: ‘What is the point of religion have if
it used to hate other people?’ Because of a different religion, one can hate and stay away from
others?”
Life sent her on another path, Yolanda said, as her boyfriend was killed in a car accident in their
two years of relationship.
“I was sad as sad can be. But the thing that didn’t die with him, was me being an agnostic,” she
said. “I don’t feel there is a strong reason to fit in boxes that separate people.”
For 29-year-old Ramdan Sudrajat, love has made him do things he never imagined he could do.
“I cleaned my girlfriend’s father’s behind when he was ill after having a stroke,” he said.
“I even surprised myself. I have never even seen my own father naked. That’s the power of love,”
he said.
The relationship with his girlfriend eventually fizzled. That was around 2006 he said, and he was
over it.
“Failure is normal. Even though I regret the decision to break up. I still remember her as a part of
the story of my life,” he said.
“I think love is when you put your trust and hope in someone whom you wish to be your life
companion and who will be by your side until you get old,” he said.
But a lasting relationship wants to build ramdan, [5] Yolanda said she was not in a rush and was
looking for a mature relationship, with a solid long-term plan. “If a guy says sweet things to me
such as ‘I like you’ or something similar, until he proves it I would say it’s bulls**t,” she said.
And until she finds that love, she is happy with casual dates.
Maria Ferrari, 33, a mother and a singer, has a very rational perspective on romantic love. She
believes it is an illusion, and the emotion comes from a combination neurotransmitters in the brain.
“In reality, [most] humans whether they realize it or not are self-centered,” she said. “For me, the
deepest and craziest [thing one can do] for ‘love’ is to keep it unspoken.”
She believes a committed relationship occurs when two people agree to want to “know” their
partners.
“The ‘want’ is full of conflict. And often it becomes a drama, just like sinetron,” she said. Maria
added there was no time frame in getting to know one’s partner. “Because humans are dynamic,”
she went on.
Despite her rational perspective, Maria enjoys being infected with the emotions.
“Being high and low is exciting. Because [sometimes] that is what people look for. So life doesn’t
feel that bland,” she said.
Scientists have explained love through neuroscience. A professor of Neuroscience in Emory
University in Atlanta, Georgia, Larry Young. wrote in scientific journal Nature, that love could be
explained by a series of neurochemical events in a specific area of the brain. From his research
Young finds that oxytocin levels in the brain may enhance humans ability to form trusting
relationships.
Meanwhile anthropologist Helen Fisher states that different neurotransmitters such as testorerone,
dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin have roles in the phases of romantic love, which are lust,
attraction and attachment. In her articles, Fisher wrote that when someone faces rejection, the body
goes into protest and also a renewed passion that she coined “frustration attraction”, which results
from the prolong effect of dopamine.
To cope with all the highs and lows of love, Maria suggested being conscious of all these emotions.
Taking advice from meditation teacher, she said: “Consciously enjoy everything, and observe”.
Pasive Voice
1. And there are those who don’t mind being given a reason to be romantic [1].
2. I’ve made a song for a boy [2]
3. Annisa said her actions were driven by romance [3]
4. They continued to date in secret for fear of being separated [4]
5. a lasting relationship wants to build by ramdan
Active Voice
1. there are people who do not mind being rushed to be romantic
2. I'm making a song for boys
3. Annisa said her actions drove by romance
4. They are continue to date in secret for fear of being separ
5. ramdan is building a lasting relationship
Contoh 10 kalimat aktiv :
1. i buy a book today (Simple Present)
2. The cat catch the mouse today (Simple Present)
3. He bought the pen from the shop yesterday (Simple Past)
4. She brought the books to my house yesterday (Simple Past)
5. She has rejected the call (Present Perfect Tense)
6. She has rejected me. But I’am still in love (Present Perfect Tense)
7. I have closed the window (Present Perfect Tense)
8. Luna and Ron are loving to read book. (Present Progresive)
9. She is bringing many books. (Present Progresive)
10. While we were having the picnic, it started to rain (Past Progresive)

Contoh 10 kalimat pasiv :

1. A book is bought by me today (Simple Present)
2. The mouse is caught by the cat today (Simple Present)
3. The pen was bought by him from the shop yesterday (Simple Past)
4. The books were brought by her to my yesterday (Simple Past)
5. The call has been rejected by her (Present Perfect Tense)
6. I have been rejected by her. But i’am still in love (Present Perfect Tense)
7. The window has been closed by (Present Perfect Tense)
8. The food is being cooked by mother for her husband. (Present Progresive)
9. This lecture is being studied by them. (Present Progresive)
10. The piano was being played by him (Past Progresive)
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http://www.thejakartapost.com/news/2011/02/12/a-story-romantic-love.html
https://azbahasainggris.com/contoh-kalimat-aktif-dan-pasif-dalam-bahasa-inggris
https://englishtips4u.com/2011/10/16/engclass-present-progressive-tense-positive/
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