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Karen Garcia
English 115
Not an Outsider
Throughout the years, people that identify themselves as bisexuals have been pushed
aside by society. Being bisexual means being sexually attracted to people from any gender
identity or sex. Many people don’t believe in bisexuals because bisexuals are often described as
confused and not knowing what they are doing. It is often stressful and annoying because
according to biphobic people, bisexuals aren’t allowed to choose who they like or who they don’t
like. Bisexuals are expected to choose between being gay or being straight, which leads to a lot
of pressure and anxiety. Bisexuals want to stop being considered as outsiders because they want
to be able to be loved and to love both genders without having to make a choice. Young states
that we need to start seeing all sides. By saying that it is for our own intelligence she means that
it is for our own good and that we should treat each other the same.
There are already so many people out in the world that identify as bisexual. If being gay
was, in fact, a phase, the LGBTQ+ community would have never formed. Each sexuality is
represented by its own letter in LGBTQ+ but of course, there are many more and that is why the
‘+’, plus sign, is added. When these sub-communities are combined it brings the LGBTQ+
community together, but sometimes the community has its own thoughts and alienates bisexuals.
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“Every time, without fail, that I go to a gay club, a networking mixer, or really anywhere where
there are queer people, I feel judged for not being ‘queer enough’,” Kim Ryberg, a bisexual
woman married to a man, told The Daily Beast.” If a girl is bisexual and then starts dating a guy,
it’s just as if she was straight in the first place. If she starts dating a girl, people will assume that
she’s a lesbian. There is no in between like when forms ask about your gender, it’s either male or
female and in some occasions, other is included. People often see bisexuality as half gay and half
straight but in reality, gender doesn't stop a couple from liking each other. The LGBTQ
community celebrates sexuality and gender and bisexuals fall under that topic.
Being bisexual is not a phase if there are so many people out there that from a young age
already know they are being suppressed by the likes of society to be something they don't want
to be. Its human nature to commit mistakes and the greatest mistake is to be ‘normal’ and fall for
societies expectations. A huge example of this is Nicole Maines from the book Becoming Nicole,
Nicole Maines is a transgender actress, who was born a boy. At CSUN’s Freshman Convocation
2018, Nicole was talking about how she already knew from a young age that she was meant to be
a girl. Her twin brother played video games and with action figures while she played with
Barbies and wore her mom’s heels. “Some gay teens say they had same-sex crushes in
childhood, just as their heterosexual peers had opposite-sex crushes.” (Sexual Orientation,
Bisexual people are humans just like everyone else and the same way that most people
accept rapists and abusers they should accept humans who just want to be free and able to live
among the normal. When someone comes out to their parents or friends, the response is always
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the same: “Oh, its just a phase”. It is not just a phase, it’s a way of finding your true self. If it’s
just a phase then some people have been stuck in this phase for too long. Some people think of it
as a phase because teenagers like to experiment so they believe that experimenting with other
genders is just a part of that experimentation. Teenagers go from thinking they are straight to
thinking they are attracted to a person of the same gender. “Gender is not the most important
If bisexuals aren’t accepted as a part of the LGBT community then they should have their
own little community where they can all feel loved. They are outcasts and they don't deserve a
place in the LGBTQ+ community. They should be together with their "own" people and have
their own community and own flag. “..bisexuals are perceived to be less monogamous and
“greedy.” This argument presupposes that all bisexuals are disloyal mates and have incorrigible
sexual appetites.”(How society erases the bisexual, PantherNOW) They are called disloyal mates
because they secretly desire what their partner doesn’t or can’t offer them. It’s as if bisexuals
cannot be in a relationship without cheating on their partner. Being bisexual means being in
When I was small I knew I wasn’t as straight as my other family members. I would think
girls were pretty but not in the same way someone else thought a girl was pretty. I’ve always
wanted to experiment but in my family being a part of the LGBTQ community, meant I was
committing a sin so I never said or did anything. When I came out to my mom a year ago, it was
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a difficult time. I came out to my mom as a bisexual and my mom, being a religious and strict
Mexican mother, didn’t understand what it meant. She didn’t believe in same-sex couples or
anything related to the topic. She made me choose between liking either boys or girls. She made
Unlike my mother, my friends supported me. I couldn't understand why she didn’t and up
until this day, I still don’t. Her words made me feel more confused than I originally was and I
felt isolated. I wanted to be able to like anyone but my mom kept trying to make me forget about
the idea of liking girls. I then started reading more and more about bisexuality and realized that
people think of bisexuals as a joke. Bisexuals shape their own identity because they are their own
person and they like both genders and they are proud of it. They will not affect the opinions of
Work Cited
Allen, Samantha. “Why Bisexuals Feel Ignored and Insulted at LGBT Pride.” The Daily
www.thedailybeast.com/why-bisexuals-feel-ignored-and-insulted-at-lgbt-pride. Accessed
on 23 October 2018.
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panthernow.com/2015/04/10/how-society-erases-the-bisexual-identity/. Accessed on 23
October 2018.
Rendall, Autumn. “Bisexuality: It's Just A Phase, Right?” Spectrum South - The Voice of the
Tallon-Hicks, Yana. “I'm Bisexual and I Refuse to Leave the LGBT Community.” Mashable,
Outmagazine. “The 'B' in LGBT: Why Bisexual Awareness Week Matters.” OUT, 25 Sept.
2018,
www.out.com/news-opinion/2016/9/20/b-lgbt-why-bisexual-awareness-week-matters.
“They Were Born Identical Twin Boys, but One Always Felt He Was a Girl.” The
www.washingtonpost.com/sf/national/2015/10/19/becoming-nicole/?noredirect=on&utm_