Manners

in Islam
 Manners and Kindness in Islam
The definition of Manners in Islam originates from an Arabic word ( ‫ )اخالق‬or
(‫ )أدب‬with the literal meaning of morals and manners. It is commonly spoken
about in the Quran and is stressed on by the prophets. Being a good role
model and character is highly emphasised in Islam as we look up to the
prophets and try to be at the best of our ability. We can see this in the
following hadith:

ِ َّ‫اس َو أ َ ِح بَّ ِل لن‬

“ ‫اس َم ا ت ُ ِح بُّ ِلنَ ْف ِس َك‬ ْ َ ‫اس َو كُ ْن قَنِعًا ت َكُ ْن أ‬
ِ َّ‫ش َك َر الن‬ ِ َّ‫كُ ْن َو ِر عً ا تَكُ ْن أ َ ْعبَ َد الن‬
‫س ِل ًم ا َو أ َقِ َّل الض َِّح َك فَإ ِ َّن َك ثْ َر ة َ الض َِّح ِك “تَكُ ْن ُمؤْ ِم نًا‬
ْ ‫او َر َك ت َكُ ْن ُم‬
َ ‫ار َم ْن َج‬ َ ‫َو أ َ ْح ِس ْن ِج َو‬
‫ب‬َ ‫ت ُ ِم يتُ ْال قَ ْل‬
“Be devout and you will be the most pious of people. Be content and you
will be the most grateful of people. Love for people what you love for
yourself and you will be a believer. Behave well with your neighbours and
you will be a Muslim. Laugh less, for too much laughter will deaden the
heart.”

We are taught about manners from a young age and how to act. In which some
are from Islam, for instance take in consideration the story of this women.
Once a man came to rasoullah and reported “O Messenger of Allah (PBUH),
there is a lady who is known for performing a lot of prayers, fasting and charity
however she harms her neighbours by her tongue, so the messenger replied by
said she will be sent to hellfire. This hadith also states and shows the
significance of this point:
‫اح ِش َو ََل ْالبَذِي ِء‬
ِ َ‫ان َو ََل ْال ف‬ ِ َّ‫س ْال ُم ؤْ ِم ُن بِالطَّع‬
ِ َّ‫ان َو ََل اللَّع‬ َ ‫لي ى‬
"The believer does not taunt others, he does not curse others, he does not
use profanity, and he does not abuse others."

We can fix our characters by coming back to our religion and our roots, if we
look at what the Quran has stated and what the prophet preached then we can
be educated and influenced. There are also many rewards of installing a good
character in yourself like: pleasing Allah, getting closer to the Prophet (PBUH)
on the day of judgment, Allah will reward you in your life time or in the
hereafter. In the following verse in Surat al Baqarah helps us to understand:
 ‫َّللاِ َو ََل ت ُ ْلقُوا بِأ َ ْيدِي ُك ْم إِلَى الت ه ْهلُ َك ِة ۛ َوأ َ ْح ِسنُوا ۛ إِ هن ه‬
ُّ‫َّللاَ ي ُِحب‬ َ ‫َوأ َ ْن ِفقُوا فِي‬
‫سبِي ِل ه‬
َ‫ْال ُم ْح ِسنِين‬

“So, we must study good character and conduct. By adopting good

character, we can make our life beautiful in this both worlds (this life
and life after death). As Muslim’s and as humans, we should always
follow Prophet Muhammad so as to become amongst the most effective
of Muslims with the most effective potential manners as a s tepping
nearer to Allah and a permanent resting abode in Paradise.” - Surat al
Baqarah 2:195.
In conclusion, it is crucial to live by the manners and ways we have been
taught by the Quran and the prophets. We should refer back to the
Quran and hadiths for guidance and how to better and benefit
ourselves. By busying ourselves with worshiping Allah we can improve
ourselves and become better Muslims.
REFRENCE:
https://abuaminaelias.com/forty-hadith-on-good-character/
https://slideplayer.com/slide/9204673/
http://www.alim.org/library/quran/ayah/compare/2/195
https://www.alquranclasses.com/good-character-conduct-islam/
https://www.whyislam.org/character/character-in-islam-an-introduction/