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Introduction
Clients seek therapy because they have difficult situations that they are not
dealing with effectively (e.g., a failing relationship), or because there are
opportunities that they are not making the most of (e.g., remaining in a dead-end
job rather than seeking a better one). REBT is a teaching therapy; therapists
actively teach their clients how to respond effectively to events and circumstances
in their lives.
According to REBT theory, there are two ways that we can respond to problem
situations and to opportunities: (1) in a healthy, self-enhancing manner; or (2) in
an unhealthy, self-defeating manner. REBT theory posits that our response to
problems and opportunities is determined primarily by our attitudes and beliefs
towards our circumstances. If we hold rational beliefs we will respond in a
healthy manner; if we hold irrational beliefs we will respond in an unhealthy
manner.
This article looks at common problem situations that people regularly face; it
compares and contrasts healthy and unhealthy responses to those problem
situations; and it explores the beliefs that lead to an unhealthy response. But
before examining these situations, an explanation of the REBT concept of
rationality is in order.
REBT defines a rational belief as one that is (1) logical; (2) based on evidence;
and (3) helpful and pragmatic. By contrast, irrational beliefs lack logic, evidence
and pragmatism. The irrational beliefs that lead to self-defeating, unhealthy
responses to problem situations often include variations on the following themes:
1. Demands: The belief that the situation must be different from the way that
it actually is.
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2. Awfulizing: The belief that the situation is more than 100% bad, that it is
the end of the world.
3. Low frustration tolerance (LFT): The belief that the situation is literally
unbearable.
4. People-rating: The belief that some people are better than others.
4. Accepting: The belief that although people’s traits and behavior can be
rated, people themselves cannot be given a global rating.
Threat or Danger
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• I can’t stand it
Loss or Absence
Loss may come about at a certain point in a client’s life (e.g., loss of a partner or
job) or it may have always been with them (e.g., never having had a long-term
relationship).
A healthy response to loss consists of either: (1) replacing the loss; or (2)
accepting the inevitability of the loss. On an emotional level, a feeling of sadness
would represent a healthy response.
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Self-deprecating depression is usually accompanied by beliefs similar to the
following:
• I’m no good
Frustration
• It’s awful
• I can’t stand it
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• You are a bad person for having done it
Lack of Self-Discipline
People often fail to live up to the standards that they set for themselves; they
break their own moral codes; and they break promises that they make to
themselves (e.g., to stick to a diet).
• I deserve to be punished
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other person that you prefer to be treated differently in the future; and/or (2)
accept that other people are fallible and will inevitably let you down from time to
time. On an emotional level, disappointment and annoyance would represent a
healthy response to being let down.
• I am unworthy
Unfaithfulness
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emotional level, concern for the future of the relationship would represent a
healthy response.
Anger directed at the third party is usually accompanied by beliefs similar to the
following:
• You belong to me and must not have a relationship with anyone else
• I am worthless
The examples provided here do not show all the beliefs associated with unhealthy
responses to problem situations and opportunities, but they do show the most
influential beliefs.
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Summary
REBT posits that we all tend to transform our desires into demands and become
so upset by these demands that we react ineffectively towards our problems and
opportunities. We make demands about ourselves, other people, and the world
around us. Once we make demands: (1) we awfulize if the demands are not met—
or we suspect that they may not be met in the future; (2) we convince ourselves
that we can’t bear not having our demands met; and (3) we denigrate—and often
want to punish—the person responsible for our demands not being met.
This brief summary of an REBT theory of emotions was prepared by Will Ross and may be reproduced and
distributed freely.
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