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watercolour blue sky, for many steps to overcome them (page 18). Karen Edwards
of us it’s the month we notice a dip explores identity, and how vital our sense of self
in motivation, as the honeymoon period of the new is to our confidence – read her moving personal
year has passed and January’s intentions begin to feel experience on page 20. We also examine confidence
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From sea turtle protection centres to coral
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to get involved with looking after the
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FAMILY TIME
The simplest of
family rituals, such as
sitting down to Sunday
lunch together, gives
us a send a sense of
belonging and
identity in childhood
and beyond.
FINDING
YOURSELF
Having a strong sense of identity allows us to feel grounded;
losing sight of it can be distressing. Karen Edwards looks at
ways of coping when we're struggling to know who we are
H
ave you ever looked at yourself in the mirror and
wondered, ‘who am I?’, or ‘who have I become?’?
This has happened to me twice in my life. The
first time was when I was in my 20s, while I was living
through a coercive relationship. I looked in the mirror one
day and examined my grey, lifeless skin and swollen eyes
and asked the me who stared back, ‘who are you? Why have
you let this happen?’.
The second was more recently while temporarily living
near my current partner’s home in rural South Australia.
Being British with Sri Lankan heritage, I stood out with my
darker skin and near-black hair. Unfortunately, this opened
me up to comments about my appearance and looks that
I hadn’t experienced before. It seemed as if my personality
was insignificant.
When I looked in the mirror, I no longer saw the happy,
bubbly, passionate ‘me’. Instead, a ‘freakish’-looking woman
who wasn’t liked or welcome stared back at me. ‘Who am
I?’ I asked myself. ‘Where has the real me gone?’.
According to American psychologist Abraham Maslow,
forming an identity begins at a basic level. In his paper
written in 1943, Maslow outlines five fundamental human
needs. He presents these in a pyramid formation, starting
at the base level with our physiological needs (health, food,
sleep), followed by safety (shelter, removal from danger),
belonging (love, affection, being part of a group), esteem
(self-esteem and esteem from others) and self-actualisation
(achieving individual potential). Maslow calls this the
‘Hierarchy of Needs’ and his findings have become widely
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acknowledged in understanding the human called into question or lost, we can lose sight
condition. In fact, the pyramid model helps to of who we are.
explain that while health, sleep and food are In Australia, it was the prolonged looks and
necessities – a sense of safety and belonging, double-takes that made me aware I didn’t fit
esteem and achievement are also crucial in in. I reasoned that this was natural – we were
developing who we are. in a region that saw few tourists and even
In addition, establishing likes and dislikes, fewer foreigners. Then came the comments:
developing tolerances and creating moral “Ha! You can’t be from England,” with a nod
boundaries all help to build identity too. towards my face. Then the real humdinger of
Much of these come from what our parents or a question (put to a friend, but referring to me),
guardians teach us as we grow up; the rituals “I don’t think it’s aboriginal, is it?”
they bring into those early years and the stories There were other discussions, not directly
they share of their own childhoods. about me but people who look like me: the
As humans, we naturally observe danger we were to society and how we were
and absorb from those around unwelcome. Slowly, the comments and
FINDING us, building an understanding looks took effect. Why was I a danger? Was
OUR TRIBE
of our backgrounds and of I unwelcome here, too? I sunk into sadness.
We often define our
our family history. Even In the mirror, I began seeing the woman
identity in terms of a
larger group. Evolution our friends help to shape they saw: ugly and unwelcome in her skin.
has taught us that it’s us. As we grow, we I developed anxiety about going out, which
beneficial to be part of a have the opportunity to flared up my already-chronic IBS. Meeting
‘tribe’ – where the roles fine-tune ourselves even new people was terrifying as it allowed for my
vital to daily survival further – through our careers identity to be questioned or stereotyped. I felt
can be shared. and lifestyle choices, our constantly scrutinised. For the first time in my
passions and the decisions that life, I hated how I looked.
we make. Deep down, I knew that many of those
“[This is why] it is human nature to want comments came from people who had never
to know who we are, where we are from and experienced a functioning multicultural
find our purpose,” explains Madisyn Taylor, society. They had never experienced the
a psychology expert and co-founder of self- camaraderie that comes with mixing with
help website DailyOM. “Most people are able other cultures: learning languages, sampling
to pick up clues as they live their lives. They diverse food flavours and, best of all, forming
learn through life lessons and process the fascinating friendships. It has taken time to
answers as they go.” It is no wonder then, that feel comfortable socialising again, but returning
when one – or more – of these key elements are home to London has helped a lot. I’m just
KAREN EDWARDS
Karen Edwards is a travel and lifestyle journalist,
writing on topics including mental health issues,
solo travel and travel therapy. Read more on her
website www.travelbutterfly.com
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IDENTITY
Stacey’s story
I knew sports marketing was my dream career
from my first interview. I was successful in
a world I loved. Better still, I’d achieved it
for myself. The industry is male-dominated
and I got such a buzz from breaking down
misconceptions and gaining the respect of old-
fashioned senior managers. I was where I was
meant to be. I still glow when I talk about it.
Unfortunately, while on maternity leave, the
company re-structured, meaning potential
As we grow, we have redundancy. Then, I was offered an amazing
the opportunity opportunity with a huge brand. But in reality,
PKJAPQJAKQN returning to work at a new company to deliver
identities through our the biggest project of my career (and the
career and lifestyle company’s history) – while also juggling being
choices, passions and a new mum to a nine-month-old baby – didn't
the everyday decisions work. Following a psychological breakdown,
that we make. I made the decision to leave my job and the
industry. It wasn’t a choice but self-preservation.
It’s common to lose part of your identity when
you become a parent. You almost agree to hand
it over at childbirth and become a mum or dad.
By giving up my career, I lost the foundations of
what made me. I still miss who I strived to be.
The confident marketing professional is still in
here, but she is no longer my default setting.
I have proper time with my three children,
though, and that is incredibly important to me.
Plus, by changing direction, I blew the door of
opportunity wide open for me personally.
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MADISYN TAYLOR
Madisyn is editor of the popular self-help website
the Daily OM (www.dailyom.com). She has more
than 25 years' experience in alternative-healing
methodologies. Visit www.madisyntaylor.com
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my body. The next stage is imagining we’re a past trauma of a tree falling on their house.
heavy and rooted to the ground. By now, I’m so “Whether they’re good or bad memories, you
under the spell that I genuinely feel as though just see them – you don’t engage with them,
I’m sinking under an enormous weight. because by that time hopefully you’re super
A minute later and Leela is telling us to relaxed,” Leela says. “You’re almost resetting
imagine we’re floating away like an autumn your reaction to it.”
leaf – and my body, which seconds earlier had We end the session with Leela inviting us
felt leaden, inexplicably feels feather-light. to picture an idyllic scene, laying out specific
Apparently, this technique of experiencing details. The story is arbitrary but the aim is
opposites taps into the yogic principle of always the same. As with the random objects,
cultivating equanimity. “You’re trying to the images can bring up memories
establish that it doesn’t matter if you’re hot or and buried emotions that are impacting in a
cold, heavy or light, happy or sad, and it’s ok,” way we may not be aware of. “Once you make
Leela says. “In the grand scheme of things, it’s the unconscious conscious, you have a choice,”
all ok.” Right now it’s better than ok, as I feel Leela later reasons. “If it’s unpleasant and
like I’m being pulled deeper and deeper into you are relaxed enough, you can look at it
a heightened state of relaxation that I’ve never and change your relationship to it and maybe
experienced before. let it go.”
We are then told to think of seemingly With that, it’s time to come to. Leela tells
random objects: a feather, an open book, a tree. us to consciously become aware of the room
I do so unquestioningly, not understanding and start making small movements with our
why. It’s only afterwards that Leela explains bodies. Pulled out of my dreamlike state, I’m
this is all to do with memories – specifically the genuinely mystified how only 30 minutes has
hippocampus, responsible for the processing gone by when it feels like I’ve been resting
and storage of long-term memory and the for hours. Dopily I look around me and see
amygdala, responsible for determining their someone gently snoring to my left and another
corresponding emotions and moods. For one stretching contentedly like a cat to my right –
person ‘a tree’ may conjure up happy memories and I realise, in Yoga Nidra, we’ve all found
of Christmas time, while another may recall our happy place.
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neighbours. I’m 39 and I want a nice settled life Try to use language that unites you rather than creates a
in my flat, whereas the people who live upstairs ‘you versus them’ situation. Set some new agreements there
are in their early 20s and still love partying. and then. If they are holding a party (it does happen) they
Annoyingly, they slam doors, play loud music day and could drop you a note beforehand, so at least you are
night, have friends round constantly and they have even forewarned. As far as band practice goes, are we talking
hosted rehearsal sessions for their band. Glastonbury levels of noise? The fact is that it’s a residential
I own my flat while my neighbours upstairs rent, and block and not a recording studio (or a student hall).
although I know it’s just as much their home as it is mine, If getting them together at your flat isn’t an option, you’ll
it does make me angry that I’ve worked so hard for so probably have to go and see them again. Take a friend if you
long to be able to afford somewhere nice, and now it’s don’t want to go alone. Or are there other neighbours who
being ruined by really inconsiderate people. are also being affected by their antics? If there are more of
I have tried to speak to them about it calmly and politely you, your noisy lot will have to take note. If that doesn’t
and they say they’ve taken what I’ve said on board – but work, then go down the official route. You should definitely
it makes no difference. I don’t want to get their lettings talk to your neighbours’ lettings agent – that’s what they’re
agent involved because they’ll be made aware of it and there for. You should also think about contacting your local
it will be embarrassing when I see them. Now I feel council and start a noise pollution diary. All this takes time
constantly stressed and on edge, even when I’m not and effort, I know. But if it’s short-term pain for long-term
at home. I don’t know what to do. gain, then all this effort will be worth it. And quite frankly,
Hassled of Hove it will only be embarrassing for them, not you.
Finally, as horrible as this experience has been for you,
A
Home is meant to be a place where we can relax could it be a sign? Would you consider moving and having
and take refuge from the world. It’s completely a new start in a place and area that is more suited to you
understandable to be feeling frustrated and upset. now? Relocating could be a good option to explore and
Your flat is something that you have worked hard for and this would give you immediate hope from your current
have taken pride in, and now it feels like it’s under siege. situation. The bottom line is that you should never be
It sounds like you feel very powerless right now – but there forced from your home. But equally, don’t force yourself
are positive steps of action you can take. to stay somewhere for the wrong reasons when you could
I would try the friendly course of action once more – but actually be happier living somewhere else.
do it on your terms and territory. Could you invite them
to your place for a cup of tea? This might feel like the last
thing you want to do, but if you can get them on your side
they will be more inclined to be more reasonable. You
Life coach & author, Josephine Carnegie
could even point out where and how the noise affects you holds a certificate in holistic counselling
so they are forced to imagine being in your shoes. but is best known for giving good advice.
Rehearse what you are going to say beforehand. Be fair Ask Aunt Josephine a question by sending
but firm. Tell them that you respect they have their own an email to her (hello@aunt josephine.co.uk).
lives but that nothing has changed since you spoke to them. Unfortunately, Aunt Josephine can’t enter
Ask them outright – why do you think that is? What can we into personal correspondence.
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Find a therapist you can trust with FHT also holds the largest Accredited
the Federation of Holistic Therapists Register of complementary therapists
(FHT) – ensuring high standards in to be independently approved by the
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more than 50 years. Health and Social Care.
CRYSTAL THERAPY
CRYSTAL THERAPY IS A GENTLE, ENERGY-BASED THERAPY THAT AIMS
TO RESTORE BALANCE TO THE BODY, MIND AND SPIRIT
Words: Karen Young
C
rystals have been revered by Five benefits of
different civilisations throughout
history; they’ve been used to
crystal therapy
symbolise power and wealth, as a form of While there is very little research
protection, and for their medicinal and available for crystal therapy, here
healing properties. are some reported benefits:
It wasn’t until the 1980s, after the New
Age movement, that crystal therapy as As with many complementary
we know it today became popular. At therapies, lots of people
the time, books were starting to emerge find crystal therapy deeply
on the topic and work carried out by relaxing, making it a BEFORE YOU GO
American scientist Marcel Vogel into the useful antidote for Crystal therapy
subtle energies in crystals, plants and says Judith. “For instance, amethyst, everyday stress should only be used
humans was gaining media attention. which has powerful healing qualities, is and anxiety. alongside standard
Crystal therapy works on the principle linked to intuition and often placed by medical care and not as an
that energy flows throughout the body the crown chakra, at the top of the head.” Struggling to alternative. Consult your
and if this becomes stagnant or blocked, The therapist might also use a crystal sleep properly? GP or other health
professional for medical
it can result in poor health. “The aim pendulum to intensify the treatment and Placing amethyst
attention and advice.
of a session is to retune your energy help balance the chakras. under your pillow or
system naturally, bringing your body, The crystals are kept in place for next to your bed is said to
mind and spirit back into balance between 10 and 45 minutes, with some aid a good night’s sleep.
and restoring health,” explains Judith clients reporting tingling or warming
Hadley, crystal therapy practitioner sensations. Others may feel nothing, Blue lace agate is linked to
and vice president of the Federation of but Judith highlights that this doesn’t the throat chakra and allows
Holistic Therapists (FHT). “To do this, necessarily mean the crystals haven’t free expression of thoughts and
your therapist will use different crystals, helped to balance their energy. “Much feelings, making it a good choice for
which he or she will carefully select depends on the person and how open those who are struggling to
based on your individual needs and they are to energy work.” communicate effectively.
the crystals’ own unique energetic and Sessions last from 30 minutes to an
healing properties.” hour and cost between £25 and £120, Animals, including horses, that
Before treatment, a full consultation depending on the therapist, length of are particularly nervous or
will take place to establish any health treatment and location. Crystal therapy unsettled, can benefit from crystal
concerns you may have and what you are can also be incorporated into other therapy – just like humans.
hoping to gain from the session. You will modalities, such as massage, facials,
then be invited to lie back and relax, fully reflexology and meditation. Rose quartz and green
clothed, while the therapist positions malachite are both crystals of
crystals around or on the body. The Federation of Holistic Therapists ‘unconditional love’. They are linked
“The crystals are often placed in a (www.fht.org.uk) is the UK and Ireland’s to the heart chakra, and believed to
specific pattern, with their colours leading professional association for promote self-love, trust, inner healing
corresponding to those of the different complementary, holistic beauty and and peace, making them useful in
chakras or ‘energy centres’ of the body,” sports therapists. times of trauma or crisis.
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Out with
the old
Many of us have old grievances that we
resurrect by throwing them on the bonfire of
a new argument. It’s time to cast them out
Words: Natalie Lue
R
idding ourselves of anything that we don’t Despite essentially being on the same team in our
truly need or that doesn’t ‘spark joy’ is intimate relationships, conflict speaks to a part of us
something that millions of people are that takes on an ‘eat or be eaten’ mentality. We want to
attempting. Most of us are uncomfortable with the win, to be right, to feel like the ‘less at fault’ one or the
idea of being a hoarder, and yet, we don’t pay enough injured party. Unfortunately, this means that we can
attention to, for instance, the grudges we cart about find ourselves ‘lawyering up’ and, in some instances,
with us from argument to argument. we will drag in everything but the kitchen sink to
These are circular disagreements: old grievances thwart our opponent and win the case.
that we resurrect by throwing them on the bonfire The problem, of course, is that they’re a loved one,
of a new argument. We go round and round not our enemy. After all, with people who we fear loss
because we keep giving an issue new life by of reputation, or where we know it would be churlish
bringing it up in the heat of the moment. or petty to bring up the past, we don’t. That’s why
Why do we harbour old disagreements, we tend to resist engaging in circular disagreements
almost saving them up to drag at work. We do our best to stick to the issue at hand,
out in our next conflict? even if it’s with gritted teeth.
With circular disagreements, relevance to the
current issue (or even how old and resolved it was) is
ignored. It becomes all about evidence. “Look! Here’s
proof that you’re clueless!” Or, “Let me present
Exhibit A-Z of that massive screw-up because you
haven’t paid for it enough yet.” Or, “If you’re going
to highlight my old error, right back at ya!”
Most disagreements drag on, not because we’re
actually trying to understand each other’s perspective
or reach a resolution – but because we’re arguing
about how we’re arguing. When we resurrect a
circular disagreement, they retaliate. Or, we perceive
them pointing out the unfairness or immaturity of our
argument as retaliation. And round and round we go.
The truth is, even if making an old point could
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underscore or reinforce our current one, doing so • Stick to the subject at hand. Resist the temptation
sparks more conflict. It detracts from our position to present evidence. Yes, this also means resisting the
(causing further defensiveness) plus it alienates our urge to retaliate when they go circular. Instead, it’s far
loved one. If we see our goal as winning or being better to say, “Yes, I know that, but let’s stick to the
‘right’ then someone has to be the loser, wrong, more topic at hand.” Or, “I thought we’d agreed to let that
at fault or the perpetrator. This may be fine for battles go. Do we need to talk that through?”
and courtrooms, but it is not so great when it comes • What’s the resolution? Sometimes we don’t
to our intimate, loving relationships. express what we’ve learned, what we want to change
There’s a universal principle that applies to all or that we were disappointed by how something
conflict in intimate relationships: It’s not about who’s was handled. And sometimes we don’t acknowledge
right but what’s right for the relationship. that there isn’t a resolution because it was down to
Revisited too often, circular disagreements hamper a misunderstanding and humanness. Very often, it
the growth of our relationship. They can damage trust turns out that the resolution lies in being willing to let
and create reticence around raising issues, admitting go of the need to have behaved perfectly in the past
mistakes and letting things go. After all, if something’s so that the relationship, including any disagreements,
going to keep coming up time and again, why attempt can evolve properly in the future.
to change at all? Why try to resolve things? • Remember: if you don’t go circular or take the
So, how do we get off the merry-go-round? bait, a circular disagreement can’t keep burning.
• Leave arguments where we left them. Accept
that it’s ‘done’ when the disagreement ends. Or,
admit that we didn’t fully express ourselves and
that a resolution hasn’t been reached so that we
can broach a constructive discussion. This is way Natalie Lue
better than slowly drip-feeding our hints about our Natalie Lue is the author of
discontentment over something. five books aimed at helping
• Acknowledge the baggage behind the argument. people break unhealthy
Where did you learn to disagree in this way? How do relationship patterns.
past experiences of conflict affect your management Read her blog at www.
of disagreements in the present? What is your fear of baggagereclaim.com and
‘losing’ or letting go really about? follow her on Insta @natlue
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How motivated
are you?
Do you have the motivation and desire to
succeed? Or are there times when your self-
confidence and determination waver? Take our
quiz to find out how focused you are, then turn
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into your inner enthusiasm and aspiration…
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Mostly Bs:
You’re doing really well, but there are
times when you can afford to be more
confident. When you apply yourself to
something you’re passionate about,
you see great results. However, at times
you struggle to strive for success and
are overcome with doubt. It’s easy to
become overwhelmed when you find
yourself here and thoughts of quitting
can creep in. Take a breather and try
speaking to your go-getter friends and
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about how to motivate yourself, then
move towards your goals in a way that
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How to find
your mojo
What are the goals you really want
to achieve? Are you ready and raring
to go, or finding reasons not to take
action? Read on for Annika Rose’s
insight into how to motivate yourself
and focus on moving positively
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The quiet
revolution
Could watching a sensory video of someone
whispering or folding paper help you feel calm
and even sleep better, asks Bethan Rose Jenkins
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I
have always envied those who could being pressed into neat folds or by hearing
slip into sleep like it was a hot bath. For the paintbrush gently stroke across a textured
me, unwinding and relaxing at the end canvas. This feeling is ASMR.
of the day tended to come with a list of ASMR is a generally pleasurable and calming
preconditions. Unless all of those boxes were sensation but it is a distinctly non-sexual
ticked, switching off felt like a distant reality. experience. Everyday encounters such as
But then one day, when I was scrolling a beauty appointment or a shoe-fitting have
instead of sleeping, I stumbled across a been known to prompt this response.
YouTube video of a woman tapping a piece More recently, the term has become
of cork. Curiously, as I watched, I experienced synonymous with the videos that try to induce
a tingling sensation at the back of my head, this feeling. YouTubers known as ‘ASMRtists’
it was like having my hair brushed as a child. tap or stroke particular objects, speak softly,
I felt my limbs begin to release and relax down make clicking sounds or perform calming,
into the soft mattress. I quickly clicked on everyday tasks to prompt the physical ASMR
another video and, like Alice into Wonderland, reaction. These actions are known as ‘triggers’.
I tumbled down the rabbit hole of the “It’s not too dissimilar, for instance, to music
intriguing phenomenon that is ‘ASMR’. chills,” says Dr Thomas Hostler, a lecturer
Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response in psychology from Manchester Metropolitan
or ‘ASMR’, is the term used to describe University. “When you hear a piece of really
a physical reaction, like a soothing tingle, epic music or a really awe-inspiring speech
which is triggered by an audio or visual cue. for instance, you might get these kinds
You might find that watching somebody paint of shivers.”
or do origami is quite relaxing. You may even You may well have heard of ASMR and you
notice a warm, goosebump-like feeling as you may have already discovered its benefits, as its
become gradually absorbed by a piece of paper popularity is growing rapidly. According to
statistics from Google, ‘ASMR’ is typed into
the YouTube search bar nearly three times
more often than the word ‘chocolate’!
DR THOMAS HOSTLER
A lecturer in psychology at Manchester
Metropolitan University, Dr Hostler was
part of a team researching the
physiological effects of ASMR.
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ASMR
Many people watch these kinds of videos world, it seems that many of us are turning
to unwind or to help them sleep. One small to technology to help us tune out. On BBC
study even suggested ASMR can temporarily Radio 3’s ‘Slow Radio’, for instance, you can
ease some symptoms of chronic pain and listen to musicians playing in harmony with
depression for some people, but more research nightingales, or tune in to the soothing sounds
is needed. “ASMR has helped with my of a Japanese paddy field in summer.
anxiety,” says Carina Ortiz, a full-time student Celebrities like Margot Robbie, Cara
who began watching videos three years ago to Delevingne and Cardi B have even created
relax before going to bed. “It’s a feeling that some of their own relaxing videos. Often,
brings peace to the mind and body. I’d even it is the sense of safety and familiarity with
go as far as to call it a form of meditation.” ASMRtists that helps us unwind. In one video,
Experts aren’t entirely sure exactly what actress Jennifer Garner engages with props that
causes ASMR and why people experience are reminiscent of some of her most popular
it as they do, but the area is beginning to on-screen roles. This recognition helps us to
receive scientific interest. Dr Hostler and create a connection and feel at ease with her.
his fellow researchers wanted to determine For this reason, many ASMRtists talk softly
whether ASMR videos really can influence like a friend or role-play a familiar scenario
a physical response. “Our study showed that in their videos. Some channels also follow
this was possible,” he says. “When people particular themes. “Gaming and sci-fi are
experienced ASMR, it did seem to decrease interests of mine and I saw a gap in the
their heart rate and show signs of relaxation.” ASMR community,” says Sophie Moates, who
Dr Hostler’s research concluded that ASMR interacts with Star Wars memorabilia and
could have real health benefits for some people, plays video games on her UK-based channel,
although others do not experience these ASMRplanet. “The world can be a stressful
‘brain tingles’ at all. place and being able to watch an ASMR
While it might not work for everyone, there
are currently more than 5.2 million ASMR
videos on YouTube alone. In a fast-moving
SOPHIE MOATES
ASMRtist Sophie is also a freelance
designer and collage artist. Find her
gaming and sci-fi themed ASMR videos
on her YouTube channel ASMRplanet.
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video [can make you] feel comforted, safe videos],” says Dr Hostler. “Try and get some
and happy.” good headphones and a quiet room.”
ASMR videos can be especially useful Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response is
before bedtime. You might struggle to sleep a very individual experience, so don’t be put
at the weekends when you are out of your off if it takes a little time to find the triggers
usual routine, or during the week when that work for you. When you begin watching
you are trying to switch off after work or a video, slow down your breathing and try
studying. ASMR can also be used to de- to release any tension in your joints. Let the
stress, particularly if you struggle with more muscles in your face soften and your body
traditional meditation exercises. Watching a become heavy. If you start to feel a tingling
calming video can help hold your attention and sensation, relax into it. Allow the feeling to
pull your thoughts away from those niggling wash over your head and down your spine.
everyday tensions. Focus on the sounds and movements from the
If you’re trying ASMR for the first time, video and move away from any busy thoughts
YouTube is a wonderful place to start. “Find relating to the outside world.
your own preferred videos,” advises ASMRtist “The mind is a powerful tool,” says Carina.
Sophie. “Sometimes the most popular videos “I think ASMR is the way to put it at ease.”
won’t give you the ASMR effect but videos
with just 100 views will.”
Once you’ve found a channel you’re
interested in, climb into bed or curl up
with a blanket on the sofa. Take some deep,
calming breaths so you are prepared to begin
relaxation. “It helps if you aren’t too agitated
when you sit down to try and watch [ASMR
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Find your
tingle trigger
NOT SURE WHERE TO START? HERE ARE SOME OF THE MOST POPULAR ASMR VIDEOS
YOUTUBE HAS TO OFFER, FROM SOOTHING ACCENTS TO BRUSHSTROKES
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listicle
{lis-tik-ul}
noun
Great stuff presented
wholly or partly in
the form of a list.
5 uplifting
podcasts
WHETHER YOU NEED A BOOST, SOME SAGE ADVICE OR A
MOMENT OF CALM, THESE PODCASTS ARE SURE TO INSPIRE
Words: Sarah Orme
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It’s not
just what
we eat...
How we eat is as important as the foods we choose.
It was her 11-year-old’s cheese sandwich that taught
health coach Suzy Glaskie about mindful eating
itting down with my daughter after her first day I’ve been guilty of smugly eating a fabulously healthy
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Penelope Silver, a holistic practitioner based home from work or while scrolling on my
in Cheshire, and mother of two daughters aged phone. I never really sat down at the table.
11 and 13, found she did exactly that. “I used Food was always the enemy: I tried every diet
to eat running about or in the car on the way to going and would take laxatives and starve
an after-school class. I’d just shove [the food] myself. That all changed after a seven-week
down my throat,” she recalls. mindful eating course which taught me to think
Yet there’s a significant cost to mindless about what I was eating and to pause before
eating. When we don’t fully experience our I ate. That pause made all the difference. I now
meals, we don’t pay attention to whether we’re ask myself: ‘Do I really want that?’
hungry or not – or whether we are full or “I sit at the table and make sure it’s cleared of
not. Eating while we’re hurried, distracted or any distractions. I pause in between mouthfuls
anxious means we’re trying to fuel ourselves and I’m now completely focused and present
with our sympathetic (ie fight or flight) nervous when I eat. I never used to enjoy food but now
system switched on. This makes it more I’m in heaven just having a simple, freshly
likely our body will store most of it prepared salad – I’ll be there, eyes closed,
as fat, and we might also bring going “Mmmm”. I’m also talking about
on indigestion. Plus, the stress food much more with my partner – it’s now
FOOD CYCLE hormones affect our blood something positive to be celebrated. I’m so
Think about where the sugar and insulin levels, much more organised as well: in the evenings
food you’re about to eat meaning that we’re far more I prepare little glass pots of nutritious food to
comes from: the soil it is likely to crave sugary junk take to work the next day and feel pretty smug
planted in and the afterwards. “Since choosing lining them up in the staff room.”
water and sun that to eat mindfully, I eat much There’s plenty of research to back up the
helped it to grow.
more slowly and I fully engage positive changes that Penelope and Amanda
with the food,” says Penelope. are enjoying. A study in the The American
“This has helped my digestion Journal of Clinical Nutrition (August 2011)
massively – I suffer from gastritis and showed that longer chewing resulted in fewer
have to think carefully about what I eat. I’m calories being consumed and better levels of
now conscious of the different colours and appetite-regulating hormones that tell our
textures and discuss with my daughters where brain when to stop eating. Another study,
the food comes from. It’s changed our whole published in the Journal of the American
dynamic of eating together.” Dietetic Association (July 2008), showed that
Amanda Ferguson, a teaching assistant from eating more slowly decreased food intake and
Lancashire whose daughter is now 22, also increased feelings of satiety in healthy women.
found that eating mindfully has had a hugely So there’s every reason to train ourselves to eat
positive impact on her relationship with food. more mindfully… but where to start changing
“Food used to be nothing but fuel to me,” she ingrained habits? On the next page, I share a
says. “I used to eat on the move on the way few tips that I’ve found helpful...
SUZY GLASKIE
Suzy Glaskie is a Functional Medicine Certified
Health Coach and founder of health and wellbeing
practice, Peppermint Wellness. Find more tips and
inspiration by following Suzy’s blog at
www.peppermintwellness.co.uk
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SIT TALL
You may be hunched forward over a plate – a posture
which signals stress to your nervous system. Instead,
consciously plant both feet flat on the floor, your backside
fully on the seat and your back straight. This will place your
tongue and throat directly over your shoulders, giving your
food a gravity-friendly path – and you a sense of calm.
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listicle
{lis-tik-ul}
noun
Great stuff presented
5 food-positive
wholly or partly in
the form of a list.
advocates
THESE NUTRITIONISTS, THERAPISTS AND TRAINERS OFFER
ADVICE ON HOW TO TUNE IN TO YOUR BODY’S NEEDS
Words: Katharine Bennett
TALLY RYE
Tally is a personal trainer who
prioritises health and happiness over
weight loss or body transformations.
For her, having nutrition and diet advice
available at the touch of a button is a
challenging topic: “There is so much
conflicting information out there, and
what suffers most is our relationship with
food. We forget what food tastes like and
how it makes us feel, and start focusing
on the numbers.” Tally encourages both
her clients and her online community
to create a positive relationship with
food through her online posts, sharing
information and inspiration to help
us reconnect to eating intuitively.
@tallyrye
Photography Tally Roe
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F
ebruary can be a bit of a challenging month. It lacks blankets, plants and art around our home. In the process
the excitement and fresh-start feeling January has of decluttering and swapping things around you might
and it falls before the uplifting energy of spring. identify a few gaps and decide, for example, to invest in
The daylight is minimal, it’s cold and lots of us will a piece of artwork for a tricky wall, or a new set of linen to
be wrangling with the realities of Christmas debt. The make cosying up in bed that bit sweeter.
‘calendrical’ doldrums, so to speak. But actually, February In February, even though it still feels dreary, the light
can be a really delightful month. Candlemas, Valentine’s is actually increasing daily. Give your windows an early
and Galentine’s Day are all lovely excuses for celebrations spring clean and let as much light into your home as you
with friends and loved ones; something I believe is can. I like to bring the outside in all year round, and this
particularly important at this time of year. applies in deep winter too. Architectural seed heads,
If you look carefully, the coming spring is gathering interesting twigs, branches and dried flowers all bring
momentous energy below ground, too. As I’ve got older, natural outdoor beauty indoors. Put single stems in a
I’ve begun to understand the necessity of the changing cluster of small vases or bottles for an easy display that
seasons more – specifically, the need for a time to be fallow, won’t feel too cluttered. In February, you can buy many
which is critical to facilitate downtime and enable more types of indoor flowering winter bulbs. Clustered together
growth. We are meant to rest and sleep more in winter, on a table or mantelpiece, they make a stunning seasonal
meant to work less. In our electric light-filled world we display that carries with it the promise of spring to come.
have become desensitised to these urges, and modern work Don’t forget to give a little attention to your bathroom
patterns simply don’t allow us to slow down. But I think during the winter months too. The oft-recommended
if we find even small ways to listen to what Mother Nature hot bath and candle as a mood-lifting boost has become
is trying to tell us, we can all feel a lot happier. Following a bit of a cliché, but there is a reason this simple pleasure
our desire to hibernate and hunker down, and creating a is such a popular go-to. Whether in the form of a bath
comforting nest in which to do so, will significantly ease or shower, hot water is a definite tonic in cold weather.
the passing of the last wintry months. And I’ll share some Hanging a favourite print, putting out a jar of eucalyptus
tips on how to do this. stems or lighting a new candle in the bathroom will elevate
During the colder months, having a cosy space to retreat the experience still further.
to is a real treat. In December, our houses are full of people, I have one last tip for creating an ultra-comforting
greenery and sparkling lights, and when that is all cleared space this February: think about scent. During the
away at the start of January it can leave things feeling workshops I hosted over the festive season, guests
more than a little sparse. Layer cosy textures on seating remarked on the fragrances I’d introduced around my
and flooring to maximise warmth, bring natural elements home. Avoid synthetic aromas and instead bring bunches
indoors and create a snug, intimate ambience with candles. of fresh eucalyptus inside, or use pure essential oils or
One of my favourite ways to make things feel fresh, incense. It’s a simple, sensory way to bring a bit of joy into
without spending lots of money, is to swap cushions, your winter nest.
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Make
home your
haven
From living room to bedroom, we reveal how
simple changes can foster tranquility and
nurture your physical and mental wellbeing
Words: Caroline Rowland
ome is our sanctuary; the place we feel safe are harder to rid of dust, and can raise stress levels when
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plants in the home are essential for city
dwellers, but she has made other changes to
improve the quality of the atmosphere in her
home: “Over the past four years, I’ve stripped “During the
out lots of nasty chemicals from our house.
I make my own cleaning products now or
use natural alternatives – baking soda works
day, natural
wonders and I use essential oils daily, both
to diffuse the air to create moods and a sense
light is hugely
of wellbeing and for chemical-free cleaning.”
Non-toxic products are safer in so many ways
for you and your family, and it’s easy to find
important”
recipes to make your own online, or seek out
brands making natural alternatives. uncomfortable chairs), you would want your
Allowing your home to nourish your senses is home to be the complete opposite.”
another way to help improve your mood. Lighting has the power to change our mood.
“If you think about different environments and It seems obvious, but often we get so absorbed
how they make you feel, you will start to build in what we are doing, we forget to adjust
a picture of why lighting, scent and touch are so our surroundings to suit our needs. “When
important within the home for our wellbeing,” we renovated our home, I made sure that all
says Cardiff-based interiors blogger and mum- of the light switches were dimmers and we
of-three girls Reena Simon (www. have lamps in every room. I can’t relax in the
hyggeforhome.com). “If you think of a evening with the main light on. Softer lighting
hospital, for example, with the stark white makes it much easier to unwind,” explains
walls, chemical smell and lack of natural light Reena. During the day, natural light is hugely
Photography mariepalbomphotography.com
(or even an office, with artificial lights and important, so let in as much as you can.
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“A view is so
calming and
makes me
feel content”
Reena advises: “If you plan to renovate your
home one day, invest in as much glass as
possible. Having a connection to the outdoors
has been one of the most important factors
in creating good health and wellbeing in our
home. My daughters have spent far more time
outdoors, regardless of the weather, since we
added glass doors. They go downstairs and
want to go outside right away. To have a view –
whether you are cooking, relaxing or working
– is so calming and makes me feel content.”
Smell can also have a powerful impact on
our mood. Avoid spray air-fresheners or plug
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natural linen bedding WELLNESS HAVEN
feels like a dream;
Polly frames pressed
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she combines natural
objects in a relaxing
display; Reena chooses
tactile fabrics.
happy times.”
Try adding a print of a while red and orange
favourite holiday destination, stimulate the brain.
an inspirational quote, or simply
a sticky note above your desk, and
then allow yourself to stop and take a few
deep breaths while you look at it and enjoy
some positive thoughts. Polly also recommends
displaying mementos from nature in the
home: “I have dried flowers from our garden,
pressed flowers in frames that the children have
made and shells from beach trips in glass jars.
Nature for me is the most grounding force, so
displaying it around the house brings a real
sense of calm.”
Considering how important our surroundings
are to our overall wellbeing, and how much
time we spend in our home environment,
seeing it as the haven it should be will have
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y bedroom is messy. You’d be forgiven for One solution I’ve found to keep creativity on my agenda
imagining that I am a teenage girl but no, is to embrace the idea of personal projects. Something
I am a 35 year old woman – and my dad can no about making it a project – instead of a series of isolated,
longer ground me when I don’t tidy up. Now, pop over unrelated tasks – makes it easier to justify to ourselves,
to my house unannounced and you’ll see an immaculate and to others. “I can’t come out for drinks because I need
living room and kitchen. But the bedroom – don’t even time to knit” can feel rude and unjustified. But “I’m doing
ask to go up there. And while I can offer reasons for this a challenge to finish a sweater this month” gives us a sense
– my five year old’s penchant for emptying cupboards, of urgency and more of a justification we can share.
my ‘floordrobe’ tendencies when getting dressed in a The other nice thing about projects is that they have
hurry – the real reason is something deeper. a magical cumulative quality. Committing to doing
When it comes to our homes, we tend to prioritise the something small very regularly – writing a journal entry
bits that other people see. It’s why we tidy the toys away a day, or posting a photo to Instagram – means we’ll soon
for that Instagram snap, but leave them be for our own have a lengthy track record that we don’t want to break.
relaxation time once the kids are in bed. And it’s why, Interiors journalist and blogger Kate Watson-Smyth told
when it comes to prioritising housework, my bedroom me that she used this to push past what she refers to as
– the one space that is exclusively, luxuriously for my “the winter of blogging discontent”, that period when you
husband and I – always slips to the bottom of the list. feel like nobody is reading and feel inclined to give up.
I’m always fascinated by these rules that we follow And I used it too, when first getting started on Instagram.
without being told to. It makes me wonder where else I know I got through the awkward, terrible-photo phase
this shows up in our lives – what is the messy bedroom more quickly by ripping off that plaster every day, and
equivalent in our minds? If there’s one thing we tend to building my skill set in tiny increments.
push down, it’s our creativity. Just like my bedroom, it’s Personal projects have the structure and urgency
something solely for me – a space to relax and stretch out to get us started, but none of the pressure of outside
and be wholly, unguardedly, myself. expectations that can mean we grind to a halt.
It makes sense then, that in a world where our time And by giving ourselves permission to dig deeper into
and attention is in constant demand this simple routine one area of our craft or favourite hobby, we get to develop
can feel like an indulgence. Who could possibly think our skill set and take our understanding and appreciation
of turning down a friend or a laundry load in favour of for it further and wider. And by doing a little each day
making, or styling a photo? But – just like my bedroom – just like the bedroom analogy – we’re able to take care
– there’s a cumulative effect to all that regular neglect. of our private space, and stop the clutter from piling up.
Those small moments and tasks that we put off for Which is why I won’t be tidying my bedroom this
tomorrow start to quickly pile up, so when we do find evening, again. I’m going to write something new for my
time – to tidy up, or to be creative – it takes a lot longer, blog. It might still be for other people, but this time – and
and a whole lot more energy to see any results. this creativity – is most definitely for me.
SARA TASKER is a photographer, writer and creative coach who goes by the name
Me & Orla (@me_and_orla). Her first book, Hashtag Authentic (White Lion Publishing, £16.99)
is out this month, named after her popular podcast for creatives (#HashtagAuthentic).
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Celebrate
the seasons
Be inspired by Nordic simplicity and decorate
your home to reflect the seasons. Start with
Christiane Bellstedt Myers’ upcycled vase
Photography: Caroline Arber
I
have always loved the seasons. They are steeped in inspired by the Nordic way of life and its attributes
traditions and unwritten laws of bygone days. of simplicity and usefulness. For each project
I welcome them with elation and anticipation, I reuse materials, whether wood, fabric, or metal.
each one bringing a constant reminder that life goes For example, many of the nails I used in my projects
on. It is the idea of renewal and hope that enthrals all were previously embedded in old wood. Whenever
of us. Every season brings with it a bounty; nothing I have a bonfire, I rake through the cold ashes to
is more magical when wandering along a lane in late collect any nails or scraps of metal I can reuse.
winter than suddenly coming across a glorious clump When doing this, I like to wonder about the
of snowdrops in bud about to burst open. person who used all my repurposed items LOTTA BOTTLE
My thoughts turn immediately to spring and I can’t before I claimed them and what their lives You might have a
wait to get home and start creating a fresh look to were like. favourite old bottle at
reflect this time. It’s the same for each season, and Our changing seasons give us a regular home you can use for
year after year the excitement never wanes – that is opportunity to renew, redecorate and this project. Failing
what I cherish. rejoice and having fresh flowers in your this, check out charity
In Scandinavia, seasons play a very important home is always a delight. Sometimes, shops, car boot sales,
Ebay, Gumtree or
role in day-to-day life. The harsh winters require however, one or two blooms are as
local community
planning and foresight. There is great importance beautiful as a huge bouquet. Small bottles Facebook pages.
placed upon respecting the changes of temperature, make the perfect vessels in which to display
and the celebrations for each time of year create them and attaching these to a decorative piece
much joy. From the gorgeous candlelit traditions of wood to be hung on a wall elevates the bottle
at Christmas time to marking the summer solstice, and bloom it contains to a work of art. Turn the page
Scandinavians relish their yearly convivial rituals. for a step-by-step guide to making a beautiful vase
I try to embrace each time of year with projects from an old bottle…
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OCEAN CALLING
Come winter, wild swimming is a joy – even a short dip can have a deeply restorative effect
Words: Sian Lewis / Illustration: Fran Murphy
W
hy do we hear the call of the ocean, feel the the depth of the water or checking if there are currents
itch to swim in the sea? For me it’s a strong or rip tides in the area, and don’t swim in big or choppy
desire to be in wide open spaces, free from waves – check the forecast first at magicseaweed.com
built-up places, looking out at empty horizons. I find sea and pick a day with calm weather and water. If you’re
swimming hugely beneficial for a busy, anxious brain – new to sea swimming, start with achievable amounts and
there’s something about the rhythmic nature of the sea’s build up your swimming fitness. Be aware that in winter,
tides, the steady wash of the waves and the repetitive pull your stamina can be cut shorter by the cold. Wear a thick
and push of front crawl that leads quickly to peace. all-season triathlon wetsuit, wetsuit booties and gloves, a
It’s easy to forget all about the joys of wild swimming brightly coloured swim cap and goggles, and take a bright
come winter. When daylight hours are precious and it’s swimming buoy with you so you’re easy to spot in water.
bitterly cold outside, we naturally want to hibernate. I have friends who aren’t big fans of ocean swimming
But if you’re brave you might find that cold weather due to how big, opaque and unknown it can sometimes
swimming is an amazing coping mechanism for fighting feel compared to the clean, clear waters of a lido, and
off the winter doldrums. Finnish and Swedish swimmers I totally understand that feeling. If you’re not sure if
have known about the benefits of cold water immersion a sea swim is your bag, I suggest waiting until you’re
for years – the ritual of a swim in icy (or even ice-clad) somewhere with calm and limpid water where you can
lakes followed by a warm session in a sauna is well-known see the bottom, and not get out of your depth. Or instead,
for its health benefits, proven to stimulate circulation why not embrace the amazing wild world waiting below
and reduce pain. And now there are outdoor swim clubs the surface? The UK may not be the first place you’d
across Britain all year round, with lidos open in winter name as a snorkelling hotspot, but the clear waters off
and New Year’s Day sea swims an annual ritual. Cornwall and Scotland are fantastic places to go on an
Fay Preene (find her lovely Instagram at @faypreene) underwater safari. You can go foraging for seaweed and
swims throughout the winter in Britain in just her spot scuttling crabs – turtles have even been seen off
swimsuit. For her, the cold water is a calming space Scotland’s Hebridean islands. Or go south and snorkel
where she finds respite from her demanding job. “The with a colony of friendly and curious seals. Head to St
feeling of being in cold water while out in nature is so Mary’s, part of the subtropical Isles of Scilly archipelago
energising. It recharges your mental health batteries and off the coast of Cornwall, and Scilly Seal Snorkelling
it makes you feel alive. It’s a big bowl of liquid medicine.” (scillysealsnorkelling.com) will take you to uninhabited
It’s important to stay safe when outdoor swimming, islets where seals lollop around on the rocks. These
especially in colder weather. A lot of sea swimming is puppyish characters come up to say hello and have a
simply common sense – don’t swim drunk, swim with a swim with you. You’ll quickly forget the water’s chill.
buddy and stay close to the shore (when I swim in the sea Next time winter has you feeling lethargic, remember
I usually stay within my depth and simply swim lengths the words of author Isak Dinesen: “the cure for anything
parallel to the beach). Don’t jump in without knowing is salt water – tears, sweat, or the sea.”
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We all need reminding to get off the If a dip in the salty ocean or a Do you vow to swim more each winter,
sofa and into the water sometimes, chlorinated pool tends to make your only to chicken out half the time
especially at this time of year. Display hair feel rather straw-like, swap your because getting in and out of the
this charmingly simple swim-themed regular shampoo for this lovely, all- water is so chilly? Try the extremely
screen print by Helena Tyce Designs natural solid version. As well as being comforting Dryrobe. Stick it on before
somewhere in your sitting room – it an eco-friendly, vegan way to wash your and straight after a swim and the cosy
certainly makes us want to down tools locks, its infusion of rosemary, lavender fleece inner lining and waterproof
and go for a dip immediately. As the and nettle will naturally cleanse your outer will instantly warm you up.
poem by Steven Corbett it features hair, while coconut oil restores its Perfect for hardy outdoor swimmers,
reads, ‘What’s a worry, once you’re in?’. moisture and shine. triathletes and novices alike.
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Up here in the hills, all wooded with fir and chestnut, olive
and oak, almond and walnut, you can see Zeus in the sunsets,
taste him in the fat red tomatoes ; in the stucco -white cheese
made from the milk of the krikri ; in the green of the olive oil ,
and the amber of the honey - sold on the roadside, high
in the white mountains, by the girl with salt
and wind in her hair, five Euros a jar
T
“ he moment my legs begin to move, my answer when she said that walking gave her
thoughts begin to flow,” said poet and the “space to spread [her] mind out”.
historian Henry David Thoreau, nicely Walking is something we do on autopilot,
summing up what contemporaries Charles something we don’t need to concentrate on,
Dickens and Charles Darwin also believed, and and perhaps this frees the mind from the active
what the peripatetic philosophers of ancient tasks it finds so exhausting, allowing it simply
Greece had long known – the path to creativity to be. This, coupled with the benefits exercise
is a long and hard road best accessed on foot. delivers – among them a boost to the brain’s
As someone who unfortunately has a very oxygen and blood supply – seems to produce
close relationship with writers’ block, I’m the perfect environment for creative thinking
right there with Thoreau. Walk and thought and for inventive problem-solving. It’s no
are inextricably linked. When my brain shuts wonder then that walking is proving to be the
down and I find myself lost for words, I hit the perfect partner for reading groups, theatre,
EMILY RHODES
Photography Emily Rhodes
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SADIE DIXON-SPAIN
The Walking Theatre Company is based in rural
Argyll and produces work all over Scotland. Its
shows take audiences on a physical and creative
Photography The Walking Theatre Company
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Clockwise from top: research
has shown that walking in a WALKING
forest can lower your blood
pressure and boost your
immune system; The Walking
Theatre Company in action;
company director and actor
Sadie Dixon-Spain.
Walking back
to happiness
HIPPOCRATES, THE GREEK
PHYSICIAN, SAID WALKING
WAS MAN’S MEDICINE…
It boosts your circulation and
gets your heart pumping without
straining it. This means that a daily stroll
could reduce your chances of suffering
a heart attack, stroke or other cardiac
malfunction in later life.
developing dementia.
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Walking alone or with
a friend is a great
hobby to cultivate,
plus it’s free and
kind to the planet.
LARA JUST
Lara, The Walking Therapist, specialises in walk
Photography Lara Just
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Tim’s grandfather
fought in a naval
battle, and this
sparked the idea
for his trilogy.
The Redeemed
THIS ISSUE, WE TALK TO TIM PEARS ABOUT HIS TRILOGY
OF HISTORICAL NOVELS EXPLORING COMMUNITY,
BELONGING AND MIGRATION
T
im Pears’ West Country Trilogy began in 2017 with The Horseman.
In a Devon village in 1911, we meet 12-year-old Leo Sercombe, the
son of a gifted horseman with a preternatural talent of his own;
and Lottie Prideaux, daughter of the local squire, who is similarly skilled
at riding and tending to horses. Pears’ portrayal of country life is not
idealised, but there is an appealing innocence to it, and to Leo and Lottie’s
burgeoning relationship across the social divide – an innocence shattered
in a shocking climax that sees Leo cast out from his home and family.
Book two – The Wanderers – followed Leo in his exile, and ended as
World War One was beginning. So this concluding volume, called The
Redeemed, opens with our horseman now a seaman, serving aboard
the HMS Queen Mary, and about to enter one of the most brutal naval
engagements of the war: the Battle of Jutland. Pears’ depiction of the
battle from Leo’s perspective is a bravura sequence of fiction, capturing
the absolute terror of being under fire on the water. Meanwhile, the
demand for men in the trenches has given Lottie the freedom to train
as a vet – but she, too, has her own encounters with cruelty and violence.
Both experience the transformations of the early twentieth century
close up: the shift from horse-powered farming to tractors, the change
in women’s status, the decline of the gentry. Pears captures not just the
matter of the past, but the experience of going through it, giving a rare
vitality to a period now at the very fringe of living memory. As the title
suggests, he also offers salvation for Leo and Lottie by the end, making
this a deeply moving finale for a trilogy that – without sentimentality or
showily displayed detail – raises up history from the lost depths.
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Q Why did you choose to write about the early Q Were there any specific sources that you used
twentieth century? to develop the character Lottie?
A I had one or two starting points. One was my A Not really, no. My mother and my sisters were
grandfather being in the Battle of Jutland in 1916. all horsewomen – they were crazy about horses,
Another was [while] working at Oxford Brookes so I grew up with them. I must say, one of the
University a student told me a story about these things I found about writing a trilogy was that
German ships that had been scuttled in Scapa I’d set things up in the first book not knowing
Flow being brought to the surface, and the way necessarily how they were going to be resolved
that they were salvaged in the 1920s gave me this by the time of the third book. The way that it’s
incredible image of these massive, massive ships Lottie who comes up with a way to live working
being filled with air being brought to the surface with horses, I didn’t have that until really late in
like resurrected leviathans. Then I just fell into the day, and I was really happy when that emerged.
that period of history, and researched it, and
found it more and more interesting.
Q I was going through the second novel
expecting Leo to end up in the cavalry, and then
Q By the time we get to The Redeemed, Leo you send him to sea. Did you consciously avoid
particularly has been through some incredibly what seemed the obvious direction for him
brutal things. Did you ever feel sorry for him? when the war comes?
A Did I feel sorry for this completely fictional A Yeah, and also tied up with this, there are
character? Yeah, poor guy! For me, it’s always these different experiences that he had. In the
good if there’s a kind of engine underneath first book, he nearly drowns in the pool that
a novel, and the engine of this whole trilogy is the Lottie takes him to, and she saves him. So it
idea that human beings are happiest to grow up kind of matches. Honestly it was amazing.
in a community, and remain within that for the Writing a trilogy, these kinds of things presented
whole of their lives, and then bring up the next themselves, these echoes from one book to
generation in it, and so on. That’s exactly what another. It was really fun.
Leo as a boy wants, but he’s thrown out of that
world and is forced to become a migrant and
to wander. That’s his tragedy, but it’s also what Q Did you feel any grief or sense of loss at
makes him. And migration is such a huge part of leaving behind the world that you’d been
our lives today. It’s such a terrible upheaval, and creating so meticulously for so long?
it is the reality of so many millions of us. A No, not at all! Maybe I should have done
– maybe I’ve got a cold heart or something. But
no, it felt absolutely great to finish it and walk
Q Getting the detail right must have been a huge away. I’m amazed by writers who can stay in a
endeavour over this series of books. world. Like A Dance to the Music of Time – how
A Absolutely. But it’s just so enjoyable, and the can you spend your entire life writing about the
difficulty is not doing it but to stop doing it. same group of characters? But equally there are
Historical fiction is new for me, because writers who are pulled back into that world
I always saw myself as a contemporary novelist, maybe 10 years later, and they write a follow-up.
but the great paradox one is dealing with is to That hasn’t happened to me, but maybe it could.
present this idea that people were different from
us a hundred, a thousand years ago, and yet at the
same time people were the same as us. As
a reader you want to have that odd feeling all the
time – “oh, they saw things slightly differently!”
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Photography Angela Terrell
BOHEMIAN
RHAPSODY
Aussie expat Liz Schaffer shares her love for one of Australia’s
less assuming destinations, the Southern Highlands – a region
where time slows, artists gather and nature reigns supreme
W
e’ve all got that one destination, that familiar
retreat we’ve explored more times than we care
to admit; the soothing bolthole we crave when
everything starts to feel just a little bit hectic. Don’t get me
wrong, adventures and jaunts into the unknown and the
exotic are decidedly good for the soul, but when you are
desperate to unwind and to set frenetic minds at ease, few
things feel as perfectly restorative as the ‘known’.
And so I return time and time again to Australia’s
Southern Highlands, a pastoral patchwork of towns,
villages, wilderness and sun-baked farmland found halfway
between Sydney and Canberra. I spent countless holidays
here as a child – bushwalking, dam-swimming and arriving
home a happy, muddy mess. Visiting as an adult, the allure
of endless Australian skies and sun-dappled trails remains,
but my focus has shifted away from madcap outdoors-ing
towards local craftsmanship, stories and gastronomy. But
that’s the funny thing about the familiar, it tends to change
and surprise you. For it’s when returning to such locations
that we’re reminded that no setting is ever completely still.
Destinations evolve, and this is where the excitement lies;
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the sense that new discoveries and ways of Harper’s Mansion, a family home turned
unwinding are waiting to be found. presbytery and convent that was saved from
This is true of ‘the Highlands’ (as the area near-ruin by determined locals. Yet I pass these
is known locally), a place where time slows, in my search for sustenance. Gumnut Patisserie
people chat and nature reigns supreme. Here, won me over many Easters ago with their
summer days seem endless, winter nights are spice-packed hot cross buns, and year round
made for rugged-up stargazing and morning they win awards for their sculptural pastries
mists herald spring’s arrival. Larger towns such and hearty, inventive pies. It’s these that
as Moss Vale and Bowral boast galleries, public I crave – gourmet takes on classic
gardens and restaurants aplenty, while smaller combinations, worthy of their accolades.
communities like Berrima feel lost in Across the road is Berrima Village Pottery,
time. And it was Berrima – quaint a treasure trove of hand-painted ceramics from
SEASONAL and picture-perfect – that local craftsman Paul Bruce, who can often be
CHANGES made the ideal base for my found at his wheel in the attached studio, a dog
The Southern three-day return journey. loyally napping by his feet. Having invested in
Highlands experiences Settled in 1831 and a charmingly retro mug, I continue to the
cool summers – the found beside the nearby Berrima River Walk, a signposted,
region can be up to Wingecarribee River, waterside trail first carved out by Germans
10 degrees cooler than Berrima is Australia’s interned in Berrima during the First World
the rest of Australia, oldest Georgian village. War and re-opened in 2015. It’s an easy-going,
and it has four
Its crepe myrtle-dotted main historical walk through pretty landscape.
distinct seasons.
street is lined with historic A short drive away is the 200 acre Bendooley
stone houses re-imagined as Estate, headquarters of the family-owned
shops, studios and cafés. On nearly Sydney book company Berkelouw. Now
every street corner, pink feathered galahs and helmed by the sixth generation, the Berkelouws
cockatoos forage, while colourful rosellas began by trading theology texts in Rotterdam
squawk noisily in the branches above. and eventually found themselves in their
Encircling all this are the town’s architectural Berrima book barn in 1975, with the venture
gems – The Old Gaol, Courthouse and growing dramatically in recent years.
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its walls are bedecked with books, travel Feeling inspired, and with a car full of art,
curiosities, floral prints and greenery, making it I made for The Loch, just outside Berrima.
the ideal setting to pour over purchases from I’d first visited in summer for a communal
Dirty Jane’s, an emporium and market just lunch, sitting at a wildflower-adorned outdoor
across the way overflowing with vintage delights. table framed by a lovingly-tended garden and
It was my waitress who recommended converted stables containing a cornucopia of
I drive on to Moss Vale and check out farm-finished antiques. This was the Tasting
Genevieve Furzer and Simon Kenny’s Mossy Room, a lunch chef and owner Brigid Kennedy
Store. Having begun his creative career hosts every Sunday where you’re encouraged,
as a photographer in Sydney, Simon now in the rural spirit, to talk to your neighbour.
specialises in handcrafted wooden furniture. A working farm, The Loch also operates as
Working primarily with Australian hardwoods, a guest house, with many of the objets d’art
he is inspired by mid-century modernism and hailing from the land itself and given new life
Japanese joinery, and aims to be sustainable by Brigid’s partner Kevin Nott.
and environmentally friendly in all that he I dedicated my final Highlands day to wilder
does, creating Scandi-esque heirlooms that will pursuits, seeking the fondly-remembered
last a lifetime rather than ending up in landfill. bushland tracks I traipsed along as a child. But
This respect for the land and artistry defines instead of travelling to Fitzroy Falls or Hill
Mossy Store, which Genevieve curates – the Top’s Cave Creek walking trail, I set out for
unique pastel works of LouiseM ceramics, Wombeyan Caves, ancient limestone
Mark Honoré’s origami-like leatherwork and formations found at the end of a meandering
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rural-style dining at The AUSTRALIA
Loch; Cecil Hoskins Nature
Reserve lies between Bowral
and Moss Vale; The Loch
is a working farm.
Getting there
The Southern Highlands is the perfect
destination for a long weekend as part
of an Australian odyssey. To get there,
it’s best to fly into Sydney and then
hire a car. The drive from Sydney takes
around an hour and a half and a car
makes travelling between the towns,
and reaching some of the more out-of-
the-way walks and wineries considerably
easier. That said, if rail is more your style,
there is also a train between Sydney and
the Highlands which stops at Bowral,
Moss Vale and Mittagong.
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