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use to create the life that you desire. Maximum Achievement Brian Tracy
word, from some of the best books I’ve read. Slowing Down the Speed of Life Richard Carlson
Credit has not been given to the authors, since they likely stole Prescriptions for Living Bernie Siegel, M.D.
this stuff from someone else anyway. I hope you enjoy it and Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff Richard Carlson, PH.D.
that it can help you or someone I your life.
The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari Robin S. Sharma
Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus John Gray
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Think Win/Win-Interdependence
1. What is your ideal life? Visualize it. Begin with the end in mind.
• Build emotional bank accounts- What constitutes a deposit
(Graduation, new job, new house, new body, retirement party…)
for them? Keep making deposits so when you slip up and
Use pictures to help visualize-Develop a “wish board”
make a “withdrawal”, your account will not be “empty”.
2. The main aspects of your life:
• Be loyal to those who aren’t present. Don’t let others a) Financial Freedom: how much do you want> set the
criticize your friends in your presence. Protest or walk goal
away. b) Health & energy: imagine yourself in perfect health
• Cooperation vs. Competition(especially in classrooms; c) Loving Relationships: laughter is a good gauge
win/win doesn’t work in a competitive environment) d) Professional Development
• Win/Win or no deal- e) Spiritual Fulfillment, Social Connection
• Education: pick your grade now here’s how you can get it… f) House/home/shelter
Good people in bad systems = bad results
3 basic operating principles:
Acquiring Wealth 1. Life is hard (it will require work)
“Work, well done, does good to the man(woman) who does it”
• Increase your ability to earn 2. Everything you are or will ever be is up to you
• Be in the front rank of progress and do not stand still, less 3. There are few limitations
you will be left behind “You can go no further with what you know now; your future
• Study and become wiser, to become more skillful depends on what you learn and practice from this moment
• Good luck waits to come to that man who accepts onward”
opportunity, and flees procrastination “Don’t be drawn irresistibly toward what you’ve always done.”
• The soul of a free man looks at life as a series of problems
to be solved, and solves them, while the soul of a slave The 1st Decision
whines!
• Merchants must learn their trade Take responsibility for everything that happens to you!
• A part of what you make is yours to keep-10% solution-pay I am responsible!
yourself first! If you looked at your life as though it was being “managed”
• Live on less than you make by someone and their contract was up, would you:
• Seek financial advice from those competent via experience • Give them a raise?
• Make gold work for you • Renew their contract?
• Guard gold from loss • Fire them and hire a new manager who would do a
• Insure future income-Safe loans are those whose better job in some aspects of your life?
possessions are of more value than what they desire Do you need to change your personal manager? What things
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manager
Just a Few of Life’s Little Secrets! Just a Few of Life’s Little Secrets!
1) Determine what you want-Exactly. “Forgiveness is a perfectly selfish act; it has nothing to do with
2) Determine the price you’re going to have to pay to get it, the other person, is has only to do with your own peace of mind,
and then resolve to pay that price! your own happiness & success. “
“The primary cause of success in life is the ability to set and “While you’re holding a grudge, they’re out dancing”
achieve goals.”
“The success that you desire requires payment in full, in Refuse to justify negative emotions: starve them-give them no
advance, every single time!” reason to exist. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
“You can only be happy when you are working toward 1) Don’t play judge & jury-find an excuse for person’s
something that is really important to you” behavior (you’re not in their shoes-look for positives)
“The greatest single enemy of your potential is your comfort 2) Do not see yourself as the target of person’s actions
zone.” 3) Do not justify person’s slights against you with a response
“Satisfied needs do not motivate” Learn to stand back and evaluate the opinions of others
unemotionally. (They may be upset, but not with you!)
4) Do not blame anyone for your unhappiness-It is your
Principles of goal setting: responsibility. If someone has slighted you, get over it and
1) Balance: family, personal, physical, intellectual, career, don’t let them do it again!
financial, spiritual
2) Congruency: fit your values
3) Area of excellence: it is the one thing that you are uniquely
capable of doing in an excellent fashion: it is your job to
identify it if you haven’t already.
4) Opportunity comes dressed in work clothes-“The harder I
work, the luckier I get”
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Talk to yourself this way: immediately before sleeping, you set your subconscious mind to
work on your goals during the night.
The secret of the ages, the key to health happiness and
prosperity for you and me, has been found in the Mastering Human Relationships
subconscious mind. I believe that something wonderful is
going to happen to me today! If you go through your day Learning how to develop and maintain superior human
believing that something wonderful is about to happen to relationships can do more for your career and for your personal
you, you will meet people and come across information that life than perhaps anything else you accomplish.
will make your expectation a reality, in the most surprising
“Most of your joy in life comes from your happy relationships
with other people.”
Requires clear, specific goals to which you are completely
committed. Because some know exactly what they want, their Healthy personality:
superconscious powers are working for them continuously. 1. Degree to which you look for the good in each person
The attitude of confidently expecting that your problems will be (unhealthy to the degree …bad in people)
solved, obstacles removed, and your goals achieved, is the 2. Degree to which you can freely forgive people
mental state that causes your subconscious mind to function at 3. Degree to which you can get along with many kinds of
its best. Any kind of negativity, anger, worry or impatience people
shuts down the process.
Law of Indirect Effort/Reciprocity
Make This Your Goal You get almost everything you want in a relationship by
approaching it indirectly rather than directly.
Peace of Mind-elimination of negative emotions>true happiness 1. If you want to impress: rather than convince or show, be
& health impressed with them
2. If you want someone interested in you, rather then telling,
“Situations are not stressful, only responses can be!” become interested in them
3. If you want to be happy, rather than do things that make you
“It is not what happens to you but how you think about what happy, make someone else happy
happens to you, which make a situation stressful” 4. Whenever you hurt someone, you make them want to strike
back
Worry buster:
1) Define your worry situation in writing
2) Determine the worst possible thing that could happen
3) Resolve to accept it
4) Improve upon the worst (make sure it doesn’t happen)
Causes of stress:
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Take Control Constructive Criticism: leaves the person feeling better & more
capable of doing better in the future.
1. The law of control: you feel positive about yourself to the 1. Reinforce their value, start by listing positive things
degree in which you are in control of your life. Internal vs 2. Focus on future not past
external locus-“no one can make you feel inferior without 3. Focus on behavior not the person
your consent” 4. “I feel this” vs. “you make me so angry”…
Take control: take action or walk away from bad situation 5. Clear agreement on what must change, in the future
2. The law of cause and effect: you reap what you sow 6. Offer help
3. The law of belief: whatever you believe becomes your 7. Forget it-Don’t keep bringing up past behaviours
reality “If you believe you can do a thing or believe you
cannot, in either case you’re right” The law of practice: “whatever action you repeat often enough
4. The law of expectations: What you get is not what you want becomes a new habit.”
but rather what you expect! “Expect the very best of
yourself in every situation” Inverse paranoia-great things Keep your mind only on the things you want, and off the things
will happen you don’t want. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
5. The law of Attraction: You are a living magnet (+ attracts +)
“Losers love losers” Seven ways to control your mental life: Control how you talk to
6. The law of correspondence: Your outer world is a yourself!
reflection of your inner world “when you are feeling 1. Visualization>becomes reality
positive and confident and in control of your life, your a) frequency
home, your car, your workplace will tend to be well b) vividness
organized and efficient” c) intensity: emotion
d) duration
“Everyone is self-employed’ “Your subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between a
“You only feel good about yourself to the degree to which you real experience and one you vividly imagine.”
feel you are in control of your own life.”
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