DIFFERENTIATION OF SELF

NAME: Bea Clarice A. Awa-ao

ID. No. 20185172
SECTION: AC1811-B

Instruction: These are question concerning your thoughts and feelings about yourself and relationships with oth
carefully and decide how much the statement is generally true of you on a "not at all" to "very" scales. If you be
you (e.g you are not currently married or in a committed relationship, or one or both of your parents are decease
to your best guess about what you’re thought or feelings would be in that situation. Be sure to answer every item
as possible in your responses.

Not at all
Item Statement characteri
stic of me

1 I choose to remain relaxed and feel peaceful when under stress. (Nananatili
akong kalmado kahit sa pagkakataong nakararanas ng “stress.”)

I need others to boost my confidence when starting a big job or task.

2 (Karaniwang nangangailangan akong pagpapalakas ng loob mula sa iba sa
pagsisimula ng isang mahalagang trabaho o gawain.)

No matter what happens in my life, I am certain of who I am. (Ano man ang
3 mangyari sa aking buhay, alam kong hindi mawawala ang pagkilala ko sa
aking sarili.)

4 I choose to separate myself from others when they get too attached to me.
(Lumalayo / Umiiwas ako kapag napapalapit ang tao sa akin.)

It makes me feel unease when my spouse/partner finds faults in me. (Kapag

5 pinipintasan ako ng aking asawa na babahala ako sa loob ng maraming
araw.)

At times, I feel uncomfortable at my feeling that makes me hard to think

6 clearly. (May pagkakataong ang nararamdaman ko ang nagpapalabas ng
aking galing o kahusayan at nagkakaproblema akong mag-isip nang
maayos.)
7 I feel unease when people get too attached to me. (Madalas na naaasiwa
ako kapag napapalapit sa akin ang tao.)

8 I solicit the approval at the important people in my life. (Pakiramdam ko ay

kinakailangan ko ang pagsang-ayon ng lahat sa buhay ko.)

9 At times I feel different emotions and something. (May panahon na

nararamdaman kong ang aking emosyon ay tulad ng sa “roller coaster”)

10 I remain calm in accepting things I cannot change. (Walang dahilan para

mainis o malungkot sa mga bagay na hind imababago.)

11 I cannot easily accept criticisms. (Masyado akong sensitibo sa mga kritiko.)

12 I am aware of my strengths and weaknesses.(Bahagya kong natanggap ang

aking sarili.)

13 I don’t usually disagree with others to satisfy them. (Kadalasang sumasang-

ayon ako sa iba upang palubagin sila)

I feel uncomfortable if I have had arguments with my spouse or partner.

14 (Kapag nagkaroon kami ng argumento ng aking asawa, naiisip ko iyon
maghapon.)

I proper to detach myself from someone when our relationship gets intimate.
15 (Kapag bumibigat o lumalalim ang aking pakikipagrelasyon, nagkakaroon
ako ng pagnanasa ng takas anito.)

16 I am the one who apologizes first when someone is upset with me. (Kapag
may taong galit sa akin, hindi koi to mapalampas.)

I solicit advices from others for i am scared to commit mistakes. (Madalas

17 akong nakakaramdam ng walang katiyakan kapag walang tumutulong naiba
sa aking pagdedesisyon.)
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18 I may susceptible to being hurt by others. (Sensitibo akong masyado na

masaktan ng ibang tao.)

My self-esteem really depends on how others think of me. (Ang aking

19 pagtingin o pagpapahalaga sa aking sarili ay batay sa kung ano ang tingin
sa akin ng iba.)

20 I tend to feel relaxed and at ease under stress. (Madalas nanakararamdam

ako ng katatagan kahit nasa pagkakataon ng “stress.”)

FINISHED! Proceed to results.

S
OF SELF

elf and relationships with others. Please read each statement

ll" to "very" scales. If you believe that the item does not pertain to
h of your parents are deceased). Please encircle the item according
Be sure to answer every item and try to be as honest and accurate

Very
- - - - characteri
stic of me
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to results.
DIFFERENTIATION OF SELF
by Skowron and Friedlander (1998)
NAME: Bea Clarice A. Awa-ao
ID. No. 20185172
SECTION: AC1811-B

RESULTS

the first component is the intrapsychic dimension. As described previously, this refers to an individual’s ability to separate
thoughts and feelings
SCORE INTERPRETATION

Emotional 1.6666667 Poorly differentiated individuals direct their energy toward experience, expre
Reactivity and intensity of their feelings.

More differentiated individuals are capable of taking an "I Position" in relation

and maintaining personal convictions when pressured by others to do otherw
I-position 4.67 They are capable of being more self-directed and rely on their own thoughts
feelings rather. They correspond with flexible boundaries that allow individua
experience physical and emotional intimacy without fear of conflation

The second component is the interpersonal dimension, which refers to how an individual balances autonomy and intimacy
relationships.

Differentiated individuals do not feel this need to cut themselves off emotion
Emotional Cutof 5.3333333 They are not afraid that they will lose their identity, having resolved emotio
attachments from their family of origin.

Differentiated Individual characterized by a comfort with autonomy in relation

Fusion with Others 3.6 do not wishes to psychologically merge with another, and can tolerate differen
opinion

Differentiation of self is defined as the degree to which one is able to balance (a) emotional and intellectu
functioning and (b) intimacy and autonomy in relationships
SCORE INTERPRETATION

“well-differentiated self” is an ideal no one realizes perfectly. While we need others, we depend les
other’s acceptance and approval. We do not merely adopt the attitude of those around us but acquir
own principles thoughtfully, reflectively, and autonomously. These help us decide important family
social issues, and help us resist the “feelings of the moment” or the passions of the crowd. Thus, de
conflict, criticism, and rejection we can stay calm and clear headed enough to distinguish thinking ro
3.817 in a careful assessment of the facts from thinking clouded by emotion and the manipulation/contro
others. What we decide and say matches what we do (genuineness). When we act in the best intere
others, we choose thoughtfully, not because we are caving in to relationship pressures. Confident in
own thinking, we can either support another’s view without becoming wishy-washy or reject anoth
view without becoming hostile or controlling.
nder (1998)

idual’s ability to separate

toward experience, expression

lings.

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ured by others to do otherwise.
rely on their own thoughts and
ndaries that allow individuals to
without fear of conflation

ces autonomy and intimacy in

cut themselves off emotionally.

ty, having resolved emotional
y of origin.

with autonomy in relationships,

r, and can tolerate differences of

emotional and intellectual

ps
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those around us but acquire our
us decide important family and
ons of the crowd. Thus, despite
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hip pressures. Confident in our
wishy-washy or reject another’s
g.