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5 Mother’s Day Jewish Style 16 Lyme Disease


Elevating the Hallmark celebration How to protect your children this season

6 Teaneck is For Kids 18 How Relevant is Judaism to Your Kids?


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8 Perfect Play 19 Generation G


The importance of fun Jordan jaunt before the brit

10 Look Who’s from Teaneck? 20 Gallery


Celebs whose roots are here Pictures of our children

12 Making Screen Time Count 21 Top Choices


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14 More than Measles 22 Calendar


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15 Sweet Dreams 23 Simchas


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musings from the editor
“Y
our mother didn’t actual- had when they arrived in road tests until she got For instance, for my first job out of
ly have red hair?” Cousin the United States. her license!) college, I answered an ad seeking an ed-
Ari asked incredulously My mother, like so So during the recent itor for a Jewish newspaper. My moth-
at a recent holiday family gathering. many other survivors, holiday, as we enjoyed er told me I had gotten a response call
“Yes. She did,” I said. “Courtesy of rebuilt her life, creating all who attended, we from the prospective employer.
Miss Clairol.” a family, home, and busi- also remembered those “Great,” I said. “I’ll call back later.”
There was one time that Aunt ness, and becoming part of no longer with us. “Later?” my mother asked. “Heidi,
Ruthie suggested her chosen hair col- a community. “I remember that a job isn’t a boy. You don’t play hard
or — a cross between Disney’s Ariel But life didn’t let up. unpleasant scene at that to get!”
and Lucy, star of her eponymous tele- Does it for anyone? She seder when Uncle Joe I picked up the phone.
vision show, “I Love Lucy” — was a tad musc led t hrough t he offered the Afikomen Another nugget. (Again with
too bright. chronic illness of one son, gift of a few dollars and a boy…)
When she heard that, my mother infant death of another and the prover- Linda refused it. She thought it wasn’t “Don’t look for 100 percent in a per-
flipped her one-time chestnut but now bial slings and arrows of her fortune. enough money.” son,” my mother advised. “Look for 50
fiery curls and without pause declared, Yet she found the strength and had the “Remember Aunt Lena’s gefilte percent. And you be the other 50.”
“I like it!” desire to seize what was good and enjoy fish? So much pepper!” We smiled at the sense she made.
That confidence, moxie, and hair- her life. “Dad would also say that Passover There was more of her pragmatism, hu-
without-care attitude was vintage Some of her pleasures were mod- was his favorite holiday.” mor, and wisdom that resonated then
my mother. est. Nightly swims at the local Jack My mother missed many seders. as it does now.
My mother lived loud. Loud red LaLanne. Saturday night dates with my She died decades ago at 55. Like the hair color she chose, my
hair. Loud footsteps on her platform father at the second-run movie house. But her memory and her wisdom mother, despite the hardships and chal-
slides. Loud laugh. It all — loudly — an- Frequent jaunts to the mall, where she came alive, especially in speaking lenges, created a bright life of passion
nounced her effervescence and courage. would buy at her favorite department with my newly married niece, Chani, and warmth. May that fiery light keep
Life was never easy. Born in pre- store, Alexander’s. my mother’s granddaughter, who is a leading the way.
war Poland, survivor of Auschwitz and Some were big. Her deep friend- true redhead. Wishing all a happy Mother’s Day.
other notorious nameless concentra- ships, her inexorable love for her family, Sharing details of my mother’s life Cheers,
tion camps, she was the only one in her and her relentless pursuit to drive her with her — as she never got the chance
family of seven to make it through the life forward and never give up. (Speak- to know her — I remembered some
Shoah. Less than zero is how I’ve de- ing of driving, my mother learned to nuggets of wisdom that my mother
scribed what that wave of immigrants drive a car later in life. She failed five imparted.

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Celebrating Mother’s Day,


Jewish Style
Rabbi Boruch Leff ish People received the Torah. Thus, every year on of God’s miracles and kindness to us at all times,
Shavuot, we have the opportunity to accept the Torah but such a proposition is difficult. Doing something

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o ahead and take your mother out for dinner, anew and strengthen our personal commitment. constantly tends to weaken its intensity. Eventually
but make sure your display of gratitude isn’t Rabbi Dessler describes time is a spiral. As we the dramatic can become tedious, the glory can be-
just a once-a-year occasion. travel through time we return to key moments of the come rote.
If your mother is anything like mine, she proba- past and recapture the inherent spiritual energy. This Holidays allow us to concentrate on a vital com-
bly told you not to get her anything for Mother’s Day. is why Jewish holidays are referred to in Hebrew as ponent of our spiritual lexicon for a day or a week and
“Since when did Mother’s Day become a Jewish holi- “moadim” — meeting places. Similarly, the Hebrew then transmit that idea into our essence for the rest
day? Don’t bother yourself over me.” word “zman” — time — means designated or appoint- of the year.
Of course we know to ignore such comments. But ed because every moment in time has been appointed Yes, we need to constantly work on attaining free-
she may have a point. Isn’t every day supposed to be with a specific spiritual purpose. dom, but Passover arrives and as we relive the Jewish
Mother’s Day? The Torah tells us to honor and revere But doesn’t that purpose apply the rest of people’s Exodus from Egypt for a full week, we be-
our mothers at all times. So why go out of your way to the year? come empowered to carry over the attitude of true
show her your gratitude on Mother’s Day? For example, Passover celebrates God freeing the freedom for the rest of year.
If Mother’s Day is your way out of showing her Jewish people from the slavery in Egypt. But the Torah So if you celebrate Mother’s Day, do it with the
how much she means to you the rest of the year, the requires us to recall the Exodus from Egypt daily, as same approach as a Jewish holiday. Show your mother
day actually becomes a vehicle to reduce true appre- recited at the end of the Shema prayer. Why then do your appreciation, buy the card and the roses, and go
ciation for moms. we celebrate Passover if we already recall the Exodus ahead and take her out for dinner. But make sure these
So how can we benefit from using Mother’s Day? continuously the entire year? displays of gratitude and affection are not just annual
By treating it like a pseudo-Jewish holiday. The same question could be asked for almost occasions. Mother’s Day should be a day full of love
Jewish holidays are fundamentally different than every Jewish holiday. On Shavuot, we celebrate God and endearment that helps you continuously experi-
secular holidays like the Fourth of July or President’s giving us the Torah on Mount Sinai. But we also have ence such feelings throughout the year.
Day. Such holidays commemorate events, while Jewish a general commandment to remember the events of This is Mother’s Day, Jewish style.
holidays are portals in time when we can re-experi- Sinai as often as we can. How then does rejoicing on
ence the spiritual forces that were unleashed due to a Shavuot enhance our religious experience? To schedule a speaking engagement with Rabbi Boruch Leff,
historical event. We celebrate all Jewish holidays with the fol- noted educator and author of six books, contact: sbleff@
For example, on the holiday of Shavuot, the Jew- lowing idea in mind. Yes, we need to remember all gmail.com.

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lay is the most cherished part of childhood.
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Mental health issues are on the rise in children.
Many experts believe that this directly correlates to
the loss of play. Why? Because play is where children
learn life adaptability skills. They learn to cope and
deal with their stress when they run free, swing from
monkey bars, climb trees. In essence they are test-
ing their abilities in “dangerous” situations. Children
themselves are allowed to manage just the right dose
of danger. This knowledge helps them feel in control of
themselves and the amount of stress they can handle,
helping them feel in control of their lives.
Play also allows children to develop their imag-
ination and creativity. They learn social skills, how
to work in groups, to share, to negotiate, to resolve
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skills. Children who are left to play at their own pace play freely. We had an old couch in the basement that Mix children of different ages
learn to know themselves well. They can discover their we called the jumping couch, our kids were allowed to It is helpful to encourage your child to play with chil-
own areas of interest and ultimately engage fully in do whatever they wanted with that couch, jump on it, dren of different ages. Older children help facilitate a
the passions they wish to pursue. Play also helps chil- build forts etc. If you have a yard, make sure it has an younger child’s learning, helping them get to a new
dren maintain healthy physical activity level. area for play, swings, a sandbox etc. level naturally. Older kids can practice their leadership
It is no wonder that experts have found that play skills more readily. Children will also learn to partic-
can help prevent children from a slew of health issues, Have an art box or an art area ipate as well as challenge the game. This also helps
stress, anxiety, depression and obesity as well. When engaged in art, children’s brains grow. It does them learn self-control and negotiation skills.
We need to bring play back into our children’s not need to be anything elaborate: paper, scissors, You also want to avoid intervening. Don’t try to
lives. Here are eight tips to help increase your child’s crayons, markers, stickers and some glue can keep protect your child from others. Try not to judge other
free playtime. children engaged for hours. kids to harshly. Remember learning how to deal with
difficult kids can give children the practice they need
Turn off electronics Playing solo to deal with all types of people as they grow. These are
This is not so easy to do in today’s world but it is es- Kids need some alone time to play. When they play the times where they are learning the biggest lessons
sential. Have a no technology zone for the hours when with their toys by themselves it helps process new ex- in self-control and resilience.
your children come home from school. I always appre- periences, deal with their fears, conflicts, and everyday
ciate Shabbos because it is a natural break from the events in their lives. You often will hear your child en- Get support
world of technology. gaging in fantasy play using different voices and reen- You are not alone. Try talking to other parents, wheth-
acting what is happening in their world, which can be er it’s in your neighborhood or just on your block. Put
Have toys but not too many toys therapeutic. It is also great for developing their fantasy your heads together and see how you can encourage
Too much stuff just creates a whole lot of clutter and and imagination. your kids to get outside like how it was naturally done
actually inhibits a child’s imagination. You can try ro- back in the olden days.
tating toys, every few months putting some toys away Get outside Reference “The Danish Way of Parenting”
in a bin and replacing them with toys put away months Try to get outside everyday, even in the winter. Let by Jessica Joelle Alexander,
before. This keeps your play area clean and also allows them explore and play in nature — the woods, the Penguin Publishing Group. Kindle Edition
children to experience their old toys as new again. park, the beach, wherever. If you live in a safe area,
try to just sit on the side and let them let them have as Adina Soclof is a parent educator, professional development
Have space for kids to play much freedom as possible. They don’t need an adult- instructor and speech pathologist She is the founder of
Children need room inside and outside to play. You led activity; they really need to be left alone, in control ParentingSimply.com and available for speaking engage-
want to designate an area in the house where they can of their own play. ments. Reach her at asoclof@parentingsimply.com.

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What Do You Want to Be When You Grow Up?
Heidi Mae Bratt

Plenty of folks in Teaneck


have a claim to fame one
way or another. The
mayor! The owner of the
favorite pizza joint! The
soccer coach!
How fun it is to spot
the local celeb at the mall
or on the street? Kevin Jonas, guitarist of the Damon Lindelof, movie and Singer-songwriter Phoebe Touro College president and Actress Amanda Troya,
Jonas Brothers television producer and writ- Snow ceo Alan Kadish “Annie,” “Are We Three
But did you know er of “Lost,” “The Leftovers,” Yet,” and “Luce”
that Teaneck is rife with and “Star Trek”
“breakout stars” that
pepper the arts, music,
sports, politics and more.
Hey. It must be the
water!
Check out this who’s
who list of famous folks
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Josh Sussman, actor on Actress Sarah Jessica Parker Robby Anderson, wide David West, basketball
“Glee” and other Hollywood receiver for the New York player
projects Jets
Fashion designer Marc
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Getting the Most Out


of Your Child’s Screen Time
Adina Soclof tive and meaningful relationships. Of course, we do need to mention together?
The American Academy of Pediat- the benefits of video chat and Face- • Does it bridge activities across spaces

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arents are always looking for ed- rics (AAP) has recently issued a state- Time. These can also help children con- (like home and school)?
ucational toys, games, book and ment suggesting a new mode of tech- nect with loved ones who live far away. • Does it prepare us for
activities. Recently, technology nology use that can help. I hesitate to Grandparents love to see, and children new experiences?
has offered even more options. report on it because I still feel that ab- love to share their crafts and drawings • Does it connect us to distant friends
I am torn by the richness of online staining from technology use, certainly in their calls. Grandparents can also and family?
educational options and the concerns when a child is young, is the best way to read to their children via FaceTime.
about excessive screen time. Although go. But as my husband always tells me, Many grandparents can even do home- Some great educational apps are:
I benefit so much from the Internet, it’s time to get with the times. So here work with their grandchildren. That can PBS Parents Play and Learn, Fred Rog-
social media and the online world, I it is: “co-engagement.” This is the new be a win-win situation for everyone. ers Center, free Alien Assignment app
also wax nostalgic for the days before byword for children’s technology use. T h ere i s a g re a t re s o u rc e , For older children it’s important to
we were so attached to our screens. I Parents and children engage around a Joanganzcooneycenter.org that counsels keep the computer in the central areas
fondly remember when children played game or app-based activity in the same parents to use apps in the educational in your home and filters should be in
outside, used their imaginations, and way they would with a picture book, category in the app store. For Android: place. It’s important to talk about the
had time to daydream. game or toy. In Google Play, select Family and acti- pros and cons of screen use and have
My concerns are not unwarranted. Online books do offer a lot in terms vate the Education category. iPhone: In times where everyone is unplugged.
We do know that screen time has its of education. There are apps you so that App Store, go to Categories, select Ed- Dinnertime, an hour before bedtime
drawbacks. It may cause obesity, sleep you can read together with your child ucation and click Apps for Every Grade. and of course on Shabbos.
issues, attention problems and even without schlepping along a little library. This website provides many re- So there you have it. I have gotten
contribute to anxiety and depression. Furthermore, apps can help you read sources for parents including some with the times. But I still think the best
Children who started watching tele- anywhere, anytime. It is best to find questions that can be asked to help de- way to interact with our children is to
vision before 12 months of age and “simple” e-books that are illustrated but cide on apps are: unplug, get outside, play board games
watched television 2 hour per day were with fewer animations because animat- and read from real books.
approximately six times more likely to ed e-books can be distracting. To make • Does it help them engage in creative
have language and attention delays. the reading even richer, it is helpful to play? Adina Soclof is a parent educator, pro-
When children are engaged with pause often to talk about what happens • Does it encourage my child to fessional development instructor and
screens they are losing valuable time in the book and how it connects to your be active? speech pathologist She is the founder of
where they could be interacting with life. An added bonus, you can also re- • Does it provide opportunities to talk? ParentingSimply.com and available for
those around them, practicing the give cord your own versions of the book us- • Does it offer ways to create together? speaking engagements. Reach her at aso-
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ABOUT OUR CHILDREN • MAY 2019 13
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With Vaccines in the Headlines


Don’t Forget HPV
Heidi Mae Bratt

V
accines have
dominated the
headlines with
parents, politicians, pe-
diatricians and people
of all walks weighing in
on the import of pro-
tecting our children and
others from prevent-
able diseases — diseas-
es that are causing an Dr. Harry Banschick
imminent threat to the
public’s health.
“Since I began my pediatrics practice in 1982,”
wrote Dr. Harry Banschick, M.D., and chairman of
pediatrics at Holy Name Medical Center in Teaneck,
in a recent editorial in the Jewish Standard, “I have
vaccinated thousands of children against measles and
other life-threatening illnesses … Over the years, these
vaccines have saved many lives, while causing few to
no side effects.”
While addressing the current state of emergen-
cy regarding the measles outbreak that has resulted
in bans on unvaccinated children and prompted the
World Health Organization to announce that the virus
is again a global threat, Dr. Banschick wrote, “Let’s also
not forget the other life-saving vaccines that protect
us against such potentially deadly diseases as polio,
hepatitis B, pneumococcal pneumonia, the flu, Hae-
mophilus influenza type B, and HPV, which can cause
cervical and throat cancers.”
Among the newest vaccines that are administered
by pediatricians is a vaccine that helps prevent the
HPV (human papillomavirus), a virus that is spread
through sexual contact and is linked to the develop-
ment of cervical and throat cancer. is that they thought it [the HPV vaccine] was going to gerous and prevalent it is.
In June 2006, the first human papillomavirus be perceived as telling their children it’s okay to have There are millions of people in the United States
(HPV) vaccine was licensed for use in the United sex. And this was not the intent,” Dr. Banschick said. that are currently infected with the HPV virus. Most
States. When it came out, rather than celebrate the “There are still people who are still on the fence people don’t even know they are infected with the vi-
development of a vaccine to prevent a deadly form of about it but I try to explain to them this is a real po- rus because they are asymptomatic. Since it’s possible
cancer, some parents were misguided by fear. As a re- tential problem,” he said. “Not every person gets cer- to develop symptoms years after first being infected,
sult of myths and inaccurate information regarding the vical cancer. The incidence is becoming less common, it’s especially difficult to diagnose exactly when a per-
safety of the HPV vaccines, some parents refused or partially because of this vaccine and the awareness of son first became infected.
delayed inoculating their children, which leaves them more proper use of condoms. In about 90 percent of cases, an HPV infection
vulnerable to the potential of a serious disease. “It’s a very effective vaccine and I personally nev- will eventually clear in about a year or two. However,
“All these vaccines do have a benefit,” Dr. Ban- er have seen a side effect in one of my patients,” Dr. during that time, those infected with HPV are often
schick told About Our Children. “It’s not a debatable Banschick said. unknowingly spreading the infection to others.
fact. As a young doctor I actually saw patients die The latest recommendation is to inoculate children A significant percentage of those infected eventu-
from diseases that are now preventable via vaccine. as young as 9 and all children over 11. Depending on the ally will develop cancerous cells years, or even decades
“When it first came out, the HPV vaccine got a age of the patient, the vaccine is given in two or three after initial exposure.
very bad reputation. A lot of people were against it. doses. It is important to give the vaccine before the pa- Since there is no way to determine which cases
There was an article about there being an incidence tient becomes sexually active, Dr. Banschick said. will clear and which will lead to cancer, universal vac-
of a neurological problem called Guillain-Barre Syn- HPV is the most common sexually transmitted cination is the most effective means of prevention,
drome. But with further studies, the incidence was no infection in the United States and is often referred to experts said.
greater than it was in the general population. as the common cold of the genitals. HPV is not a new
“But what a lot of people also were objecting to virus, but many people are unfamiliar with how dan- Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of About Our Children.

14 ABOUT OUR CHILDREN • MAY 2019


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Sweet Dreams are Made of This


Bergenfield Tween Hopes to Spin Cotton Candy into Gold
Heidi Mae Bratt Everyone gets a piece of the action eries sponsored by the Rotary Club Asher’s mother, Tova Miller, mar-
as they tear off a bit of cotton candy of Teaneck. vels at the venture.

W
hat is sweet, colorful and 3 and enjoy. The cotton candy comes in a 10 “It’s quite amazing,” she said. “It’s so
feet tall? Father and son began with an idea, flavors, including strawberry, choco- creative and it’s something different.”
A small child dressed an uh, big idea — “Who doesn’t like cot- late, pina colada, and Asher’s favorite, Mrs. Miller said that Asher hopes
in a bright outfit? ton candy?” Yehuda said – and about pink vanilla. to stage cotton candy workshops in
Could be, but the correct answer to four months ago began to make the “I was trying to find something to camps, where the massive cotton candy
this particular “What is sweet, colorful oversized treat using a “special system,” do,” said Asher, who now shares this is not only made on site, but there is
and 3 feet tall” is Asher Miller’s massive said Mr. Miller, who chooses not to di- venture online at asher@crazycottons. a bit of a cotton candy history lesson
cotton candy confections. vulge the particulars of how they make com. “I always liked cotton candy, and as well.
Asher, a sixth grader at Yeshivat the cotton candy so big. The process making it looked interesting.” “We’d like sell as much cotton can-
He’Atid and his father, Yehuda Mill- takes place in the basement of their Mr. Miller said there is a lot of food dy, and educate as many people as pos-
er, devised a way to create the puffy, Bergenfield home. science yet to master. And transport of sible about cotton candy,” she said.
sugary treat into a mega-edible party Mr. Miller said that so far, Asher, the massive cotton candy can be tricky. Now that’s sweet.
novelty that definitely has a show-stop- who is drawn to science, robotics and If the weather is too wet, humid or
ping factor. gadgets, has created the oversized moist, the cotton candy can melt. So Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of
“When you bring something like cotton candy for a friend’s vort (an en- the Millers are figuring out this as they About Our Children.
this to a simcha,” said Mr. Miller, “guests gagement party) and has brought the move forward.
are like, ‘Wow! We never saw anything product to the recent annual “Taste of
like this.’” Teaneck,” at the Marriott Glenpointe,

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Getting Ahead of the Tick Threat


and Lyme Disease
Heidi Mae Bratt

T
hroughout the country, sever-
al states including New Jersey
have proclaimed May as Lyme
Disease Awareness Month in an effort
to raise awareness of Lyme and tick-
borne diseases during this time of year.
The declaration is one way to
remind people that with the onset of
spring, ticks are out, and prevention
and proper education are your best
tools to staying healthy.
About Our Children consulted
with Dr. Neil Gaffin of Ridgewood In-
fectious Disease Associates, The Valley
Hospital, for his expertise on detecting,
preventing and treating the illness.
AOC: What exactly is Lyme
Disease?
Dr. Gaffin: Lyme disease is an in-
fection transmitted by the deer tick,
Ixodes scapularis. The infection itself
is caused by the organism (bacteria)
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the northeast part


of the count r y
and transmission
New Space and Place for Fair Lawn Teens
to humans usually The Maurice M. Pine Free Public Library of Fair Fair Lawn teens were given the opportunity
occurs during May Lawn has got new digs for its teen readers with to suggest names for the new space and were able
through Septem- the recent opening of its refurbished Teen Space. to vote for their favorite. Young adult librarian
ber. Infection is The new space features updated furniture, Elizabeth Portelli ran an online contest open to
usually transmit- USB charging stations, and a cozy booth, which teen residents. Sara Manikam won for her entry,
ted to humans by was made possible by a donation from the Fair Teentastic Reads and a mural featuring the new
the nymph ver- Lawn Rotary. Shelving is updated and expanded name was designed by a local art teacher, Frankie
sion of the tick to include new displays as well. DiMitri of the Henry B. Milnes School.
t ha t in na t ure
feeds on the com-
mon white-footed Dr. Neil Gaffin
mouse. Although
not all ticks are infected, humans can be incidentally
infected if and when they come into contact with an
infected tick in a backyard, woods, hiking or camping,
if that one that is carrying the bacteria. Ticks must be
attached for at least 24 to 36 hours for the infection
transmission. The nymph is the size of a poppy seed
and its bite is painless. In addition, it usually attaches
to places like the back of knee, groin, armpit or back
of head or neck in small children so most people nev-
er know the tick was attached. It falls off after it had
its blood meal from its host. The earliest and most
common symptom is an expanding red, circular rash
that usually starts 10 to 14 days after transmission. It
is called erythema migrans. Approximately 80 percent
will develop the rash. Some may simply have flu-like
symptoms with or without the rash. Left untreated,
the early manifestations will resolve on their own.
Some folks will later go on to develop neurologic (e.g.,
facial palsy), cardiac (involvement of the conduction
system of the heart) and, or orthopedic (typically knee
swelling and pain).
AOC: How can a parent tell if a child has Lyme
Disease?
Dr. Gaffin: Most common and earliest manifes-
tation that we see is the red rash as described above.
Also, it important to note that the diagnosis of early
infection, e.g. rash, is made on clinical grounds – that
is, no lab testing is needed. A person presenting with
the typical classic rash, during the right time of year, in
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AOC: What is the best-known treatment?
Dr. Gaffin: Treatment is antibiotics. Amoxicillin
would typically be the first choice for children. Early
infection is easily treated and cured with 10 to 14 days
of therapy.
AOC: What is the best prevention for Lyme
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Disease?
Dr. Gaffin: Performing body checks for ticks after
being outdoors paying special attention to the above Participants can fish, walk, bird watch, hike, or simply enjoy nature. Your permit provides access
sites where the nymphal ticks like to attach (e.g., back to four reservoirs – Old Tappan, Oradell and Woodcliff Lake in New Jersey and Lake DeForest in
of knee, groin, armpits, back of neck). Also wearing Rockland County, New York.
bright colored-clothes, socks tucked into pants if hik-
ing. And applying DEET-containing tick repellants. For an online application visit: www.SUEZWatershed.com
AOC: Is there anything else you would like to add?
Dr. Gaffin: Please speak with your doctor if you
have any questions or concerns.

Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of About Our Children. mysuezwater.com

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How Relevant Is Judaism


These Days to Young Jews?
Slovie Jungreis-Wolff asked what they are willing to sacrifice
for, what will our children say? Most will

S
peaking to Jewish high school stu- respond: making money, becoming famous
dents I was alarmed by their igno- or playing fortnite for hours on end. This
rance and indifference to Judaism. bond that had held us together as we were
How do you take the pulse of a nation? scattered throughout the four corners of
Get into the classrooms and speak to the the earth has frayed. The eyes that once
kids. Walk on college campuses and have searched for Jerusalem now seek the next
some conversations. best app.
Standing in front of an assembly of For millions of Jews, Judaism has be-
high school children, I was confronted with come irrelevant. What can we do?
the spiritual malaise that is taking place Let’s recognize that we must put our
amongst our children. They lack the cour- hearts and heads together and think hard
age to stand strong for our people. Too about the Jewish education, in school and
many don’t know enough about who they at home, that our children are getting. It’s
are as Jews, their purpose, their mission, time for a detox. All the excess that we’ve
their reason for being. thought to be religious values but are really
I n d i f fere n t o r i g n o ra n t — t a ke spiritual junk food should be let go. These
your pick. meaningless bar and bat mitzvah parties
Concluding a talk on Jewish pride, I of- that have become the defining moment of
fered to take questions. A hand shot up in our children’s Judaism. The open bar which
the front. have nothing to do with mitzvah, the wa-
“You speak about our heritage and tering down of Torah study and knowledge
what it means to be a Jew. So many around of our people and history, and the desire
us are clueless when it comes to Juda- to live less as Jews and more as ‘citizens of
ism. How can we share with others and the world’ have all contributed to our chil-
teach more?” dren’s disconnect.
Another hand shot up in the back. The young boy can you tell me how to live? I resent that.” We must look at ourselves in the mirror. What do
stood up and said loudly, “To speak up and think that It is difficult for me to describe the sadness that I we reflect when we greet the Shabbos Queen, when we
you have what to teach the world about your Judaism felt that moment. sit at our holiday table, when we speak about our faith
means that you think you are better. That’s racist!” “I am sorry for you,” I responded. “I am sorry for and our values? How do we pray? Our children see it all,
A wave of tension swept through the auditorium. you because that’s not my Torah that you are describ- watch it all and take it all in. Do we live as active Jews
I had just a few moments to respond before my time ing. My Torah is my oxygen. My Judaism carries me day and make Judaism come alive each day? Do our children
with these teenagers was up. Here before me sat the and night through light and through darkness.” ever hear us make a blessing, express gratitude to God,
future fathers and mothers of our people. These souls We spoke about Torah’s relevance in this world. study Jewish wisdom and embrace a mitzvah?
would soon be asked to lead, commit, create and cry I shared how Torah is alive and gave examples from Finally, when it comes to Israel, our homeland, we
out for Israel and the Jewish People. How tragic to be- the harm of over sharing on social media to protect- have taken our gift for granted. After thousands of
lieve that knowing our holy mission in this world and ing the dignity of women Judaism is current and via- years of persecution and indescribable suffering, God
understanding that we are to be a “light amongst the ble. One just needs to know where to look and how has brought us home. The world slammed its doors
nations” is racist. to study. on us. No country wanted us even after we were taken
Like Abraham, we are charged to go out and make I was grateful for the questions. I touched a by cattle cars to be gassed in ovens. From a nation
a difference in the world, to be a moral and spiritual nerve. But this was only the beginning. Obviously we of skeletons we reclaimed Jerusalem, fought the Arab
compass. That’s not racist. It is a life of purpose. have a problem here and I don’t pretend to have all nations who surrounded us and pierced the sky with
I explained in those few minutes that striving to the solutions. the sound of the shofar by the Western Wall. Brave
share our legacy of wisdom and justice is far from be- There are some glaring issues though that we, the soldiers touched the ancient stones and wept. We wit-
ing prejudiced against others. It means that we are ob- parents and grandparents, the educators and lay peo- nessed miracles from Above.
ligated to know who we are; how we have the ability ple, must confront. Yet today our sons and daughters are clueless.
to sanctify and make this world into a better place as First, the passion is missing. What are we willing Their heritage eludes them. Our story remains blank.
we tenaciously hold onto the wisdom and values of to sweat for, sacrifice for, and stand up for? There is no memory. The promise of our Land is writ-
the Torah. Like Abraham, we are charged to go out and As a child I remember standing in the cold and ten in our Torah. It is up to us to educate, to teach, to
make a difference in the world, to be a moral and spir- marching for the freedom of Russian Jewry. I recall speak out and speak up.
itual compass. That’s not racist. It is a life of purpose. being in synagogue when the Yom Kippur War broke We have much work to do. Let us strengthen our-
Kindle the light of Shabbat, banish the darkness, and out. I saw real tears being shed; worry and grief etched selves and touch the hearts of the next generation. The
bring illumination to the world. on the faces around me. It had nothing to do with be- future of our people is in our hands.
Another student raised his hand. “Why do you ing religious or not. At that moment we were a family
think most kids my age find Judaism to be irrelevant?” of Jews, united. I felt part of a people, a nation that Slovie Jungreis-Wolff is a teacher, parent educator, couples
I threw the question back. I was curious. “Why do stood together because we were family. counselor, author and daughter of the late Rebbetzin Esther
you think they do?” The eyes that once searched for Jerusalem now Jungreis. Her book, “Raising a Child With Soul,” is published by
“Because,” he responded flippantly, “it is.” seek the next best app. St. Martin’s Press..
“Yes,” another student added. “It’s archaic. How Somehow, we’ve lost that connection. When Aish.com

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GENERATION G

Brit of a First Grandson


and a Side Jaunt to Jordan
Ed Silberfarb iousness. Then Ahmed appeared. transported to ancient Rome. Suites, the only hotel that could be found
Now was the time to visit Jordan, Amman, Jordan’s capital, is a city in all of Jerusalem that would provide a

I
t was a new era of good feeling. Is- he said, in a private car with Ahmed as bustling with natives and a new influx room allowing chometz. Our vision of a
rael and Jordan, countries that had chauffeur and tour guide. The chance to of tourists. There was a message for us gala celebration with our scores of rela-
fought bitterly in 1948 and again see Jerash and Petra and Mount Nebo from Israel. Baby is fine but brit post- tives and friends throughout Israel quick-
in 1967, and continued hostilities in from which Moses is said to have gazed poned again. We prepared for the next ly faded because of the timing. No one
the interim. Now, in 1998 there was a upon the Promised Land, and experi- day’s travel, which would take us 2,500 could come the night before Pesach ex-
handshake across the border. Israeli and ence Amman, not as exciting perhaps years back in time to the land of the cept a cousin who lived walking distance
American tourists converged on Aqaba as a few minutes with a new grandson, Nabateans, and the fabled city of Petra, away. She showed up with a jar of gefilte
and the Allenby Bridge to visit Jordan, but this is what fate had decreed. We which had been made even more lus- fish and a package of pita. Our son pro-
this land of mosques, Roman ruins and would have to make do. trous by Indiana Jones and the “Raiders duced a box of stale cookies that he had
rock hewn mountain dwellings. Ahmad was a delightful and knowl- of the Lost Ark.” bought two weeks ago in anticipation of
My wife and I had another reason edgeable companion. On the high- Indeed arriving in Petra is to find a brit in eight days.
for going to Israel, one that a Jordan vis- way we passed many half completed oneself in a movie set. Harrison Ford We were in for a surprise. We had
it seem petty and pale by comparison. buildings, which, he explained were was missing, but the rest of it was forgotten about the Fast of the First
We were to become grandparents. Our the victims of Jordan’s ailing economy. there. Past the 250-foot high sandstone Born, in which first–born males are for-
son and daughter-in-law, newlyweds, The carcass of a dead deer gave rise to entranceway was the Canyon of the bidden to eat or drink throughout the
spent the first year of marriage in Isra- a discussion of halal food as compared Crescent Moon, known less poetically day before Passover unless they attend
el in a rinky dink two-room apartment to kashrut. As with kosher meat, even if as the Siq. And there was the Treasury, a siyyum (“completion”). The ceremony
without heat through a chilly Jerusa- he had seized the deer right after it had a breathtaking display of pillars and lin- accompanying a brit would qualify, and
lem winter with him learning at the been killed by a passing car, he could tels carved in the face of a sandstone so instead of a party attended by just
Ohr Someach Yeshiva and her study- not carve it up for food because he had hill. Unlike the movie version, entrance the baby’s parents, grandparents, an
ing Hebrew, and incidentally becom- not shecked it. to the Treasury, leads not to death-defy- uncle and a cousin, some 60 young men
ing pregnant. Up ahead was Jerash, ancient ing adventure, but rather to a small dark throughout the Yeshiva appeared. The
We arrived in time for the birth of Rome’s best-preserved city anywhere, hall, perhaps once a royal tomb. brit released them from the Fast of the
an 8-pound boy with a shock of black certainly in the Middle East. We ex- And we gained bragging rights by First Born, and they were free to eat our
hair and a penetrating gaze, which plored in exquisite detail, the market climbing to the hilltop Monastery, a sumptuous refreshments, stale cookies,
grandparents took to mean intelli- place, the homes of the nobles, the am- daunting feat but made possible by an and a taste of gefilte fish and pita. It
gence. We threw ourselves into prepa- phitheater, the remains of the temple., unusually cool day. was a party after all.
ration for the brit, which, of course the hippodrome, venue of the chariot The Nabatean Empire prevailed
would be an opulent and elegant affair. races. Even the stone roadway was a some 2,500 years ago on the east-west Ed Silberfarb was a reporter for the Bergen
Only it was not going to happen. Our revelation with its gullies carved to trade route until conquered by Rome Record in New Jersey, then the New York
healthy grandson was jaundiced. The guide the carriage wheels. about the year 400. Herald Tribune where he was City Hall
brit would have to be postponed, and To Ahmad’s frustration, we spent We received word from Israel. bureau chief. Later, he was a public infor-
no new date was set. His mother took the whole day in Jerash instead of the The baby’s jaundiced complexion had mation officer for the New York City Transit
refuge in a postpartum rest home, and few hours that our guide original- bloomed to a healthy glow. The brit was Authority and editor of one of its employee
we prepared for at least a week of anx- ly planned. We lived a fantasy, being scheduled for eruv Pesach at the Royal publications.

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Gallery

Yes, I Can with iCAN!


Jewish Federation of Northern New Jersey’s iCAN teen leadership program led a group of 18 high Stocking Up on Food
school students to the United Nations. The students had the chances to see the international stage Third graders from JFK Elementary School, recently brought
on which Israeli diplomacy is played. food donations to the Wayne Interfaith Network Food Pantry.
They helped stock the shelves and learned how good it feels to
help their neighbors when it is most needed. WIN is a coalition
of individuals and volunteers from houses of worship and ser-
vice organizations in Wayne, who provide assistance to Wayne
residents in need.

Making Merry and Making Matzah


Bris Avrohom and Congregation Adath Israel held a joint Model Matzo bakery at the Bris Avrohom Center in
Hillside. The children learned about the laws of making matzah and prepared their own. Local public officials
joined in the fun.

A Space Trek
Through Torah
Students in Temple Emeth ’s Religious Getting Tech-Savvy With Ma’ayanot
School put on an original play, Seniors recently had a chance to work one-on-one with stu-
“Torah Trekkers & Other Amazing dents from Ma’ayanot’s STEAM classes, who underwent
Adventures through the Space/Time training and volunteered to mentor retirees. “Senior Tech
Continuum,” which takes place in Time” was facilitated by Senior Source and Jewish Family
present and Biblical days. Book, music & Children’s Services of Northern New Jersey (JFCS), two
and lyrics were by Rachel Maddock organizations that care for the elderly in our NJ community.
and the students.
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TopChoices MAY 2019


Compiled by Heidi Mae Bratt

International Chess Tournament in Teaneck


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Chess Academy will take place for the first Chess players from kindergarten through 1 to 5 p.m.
time in Teaneck at Teaneck High School adults (four different age categories) are eli- For more information and to
giving local children and adults the chance gible to join the tournament. pre-register for $25 a player, icanj.net.
to compete for awards, said Diana Tulman,

The Lion Doesn’t Sleep Tonight


at Liberty Science Center
Embark on an adventure through the Pride icent kingdom first introduced in The Lion King. Liberty Science Center
Lands and protect the Circle of Life. “The Lion Children will be inspired to protect the Circle of 222 Jersey City Boulevard
Guard: The Exhibit,” an adventure for young Life, train in the Lion Guard’s secret lair, explore Jersey City
learners is on view now at Liberty Science the power of teamwork by going on special 201-200-1000
Center. Based on Disney Junior’s hit series The missions, and learn about the African savanna lsc.org.
Lion Guard, the exhibition takes guests on an and the animals that live there.
adventure through the Pride Lands, the magnif-

Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood Live!


at bergenPAC
Do you love Daniel Tiger on PBS? as Daniel learns just what it takes Sunday, May 12
Now you can catch Daniel Tiger’s to be King. It’s an event filled with at 1:30 and 5 p.m.
Neighborhood Live! King for a tigertastic fun, teaching the valu- bergenPAC
Day at bergenPAC in an upcoming able lessons of kindness, helping 30 North Van Brunt St.
show. The beloved characters of others, and being a friend. Great Englewood
Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood are for children 3 and older. 201-227-1030
hopping back on board the trolley bergenpac.org.

Jewish Museum Art Classes


Inspired by Leonard Cohen
The new exhibition at The make a portrait of someone they Sunday, May 5
Jewish Museum is inspiration know or a person they imagine. 1 to 4 p.m
for adults and children. Sunday The workshop is inspired by The Jewish Museum
workshops give youngsters an Leonard Cohen’s self-portraits 1109 Fifth Ave., at 92 Street
opportunity to view the art and in “Leonard Cohen: A Crack in Manhattan 212-423-3200
then create. Children can explore Everything.” Recommended for thejewishmuseum.org.
different types of lines using a children 3 and older.
variety of drawing materials to

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The Good Life With Kids
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This calendar is a day-by-day schedule of events. Although all information is as timely as we can make it, it’s a good idea to call to verify details before you go. Deadline for May issue:
published May 31, Tuesday, May 21

Saturday, April 27 story time is held at 3:30 p.m. No registration


required. Teaneck Public Library, 840 Teaneck
free to call ahead to verify the pro-
gram is taking place. Teaneck Public
New Jersey’s Sleeping Beauty: Sleeping Road, 201-837-4171, teanecklibrary.org. Library, 840 Teaneck Road, 201-837-
Beauty delivers high drama, tender romance, 4171, teanecklibrary.org.
spectacular dancing and glorious Tchaikovsky Thursday, May 2
music. The stage is filled with familiar char-
acters like Princess Aurora, the Handsome Author Storytime honoring Holocaust Wednesday, May 15
Prince, the King and Queen and their splendid Remembrance Day: Teaneck author Andria Story Time in Teaneck: Children
Royal Court, as well as characters from the Rosenbaum will visit with her new picture book, age 3K–5 are invited to our fun
fairy realm, including the Lilac Fairy, the wicked “Hand in Hand” for a reading at 4:30 p.m. for Preschool Storytime. This story time
Carabosse, Puss in Boots, Red Riding Hood, the Holocaust Remembrance Day. There will be a is held at 3:30 p.m. No registration
Blue Bird and the Enchanted Princess. 8 p.m. reading, discussion and craft activity. Best for age required. Teaneck Public Library,
bergenPAC, 30 North Van Brunt St., Englewood. 7 and older. Teaneck Public Library, 840 Teaneck 840 Teaneck Road, 201-837-4171,
201-227-1030, . Road, 201-837-4171, teanecklibrary.org. teanecklibrary.org.
Teen Gaming in Teaneck: Join us for board
Maker Day: The Elisabeth Morrow School
games, card games and video games on the Wii Thursday, May 16
invites families with children of all ages to this
and Switch consoles. Grades 5 through 12. 4 Teen Gaming in Teaneck: Join us
free event from 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. There will be
to 5 p.m. No registration necessary. Please feel for board games, card games and
numerous hands-on, interactive science and art
free to call ahead to verify the program is taking video games on the Wii and Switch
exhibits from attending students who will share
place. Teaneck Public Library, 840 Teaneck consoles. Grades 5 through 12. 4 to
and explain their projects. Visitors will have the
Road, 201-837-4171, teanecklibrary.org. 5 p.m. No registration necessary.
opportunity to participate, engage and experi-
Please feel free to call ahead to verify
ence in the making their own creations. This is
a hands-on event that is part science fair, part
Friday, May 3 the program is taking place. Teaneck
Family Shabbat Services at Temple Emeth: Public Library, 840 Teaneck Road,
county fair, and full on exploration and fun. The
Family Shabbat services are specially planned 201-837-4171, teanecklibrary.org.
Elisabeth Morrow School campus located at
for youngsters in grades 2 to 7 and include lots
435 Lydecker Street, Englewood, New Jersey.
of singing and a story from Rabbi Sirbu. Services Friday, May 17
Sunday, April 28 are followed by a kid-friendly dessert oneg. All Temple Emeth Music Service:
are welcome. 1666 Windsor Road, Teaneck, Congregants join Rabbi Steven Sirbu See Thursday, May 2, Author Storytime
Meet the Farmer in Tenafly: Kaplen JCC on
201-833-1322, emeth.org. and Cantor Ellen Tilem by singing
the Palisades Launches HAZON Community
Shabbat Concert in Closter: Temple Beth and dancing and enjoying Shabbat
Supported Agriculture from 2:15 to 3:30 p.m. Kabbalat Shabbat Service at 6:30 p.m. Service
El invites the community to join us at 6:30 music performed by the Temple Emeth band at
with a Meet the Farmer Event. The Kaplen JCC is led by Rabbi David S. Widzer and Cantor
p.m. for a mini concert with organ and pianist 8 p.m. 1666 Windsor Road, Teaneck, 201-833-
on the Palisades is now taking registration for Elizabeth Goldmann. 221 Schraalenburgh Road,
James Rensink. It will be followed by a wine and 1322, emeth.org.
its 22-week partnership with a local farm, pro- Closter. ., 201-768-5112.
viding members who purchase advance shares cheese Pre-Neg and Shabbat Service at 7:30 Tot Shabbat in Closter: Temple Beth El will
with the opportunity to enjoy locally grown, p.m. 221 Schraalenburgh Road, Closter. Tbenv. hold its monthly informal Tot Shabbat led by Monday, May 27
certified organic produce. JCC on the Palisades, org, 201-768-5112. Rabbi David S. Widzer at 5:15 p.m. Tot Shabbat
Family Festival in Teaneck: Come to Teaneck’s
411 E. Clinton Ave., Tenafly. For more informa- is open to all nursery school age children
tion or to purchase a CSA share, register online Sunday, May 5 and features song, stories, and crafts. 221
annual family festival on Memorial Day from
11 to 6 p.m. The street is closed to traffic from
at or contact Marilyn Yeshua at myeshua@ Birthday Party for Israel: JCC of Paramus/CBT Schraalenburgh Road, Closter. tbenv.org, 201-
American Legion Drive to Elm Avenue. Stores
jccotp.org. Hebrew School invites 3–5 year olds and care- 768-5112.
and eateries are open, vendors line the street
givers to a birthday party for Israel from 9:30 to Family Shabbat in Closter: Temple Beth El and there are activities for children of all ages
Tuesday, April 30 11 a.m. Music, food, activities, crafts. Free event invites the community to a Family Shabbat ser- on Garrison Avenue. Free parking. Rain or shine.
PJ Storytime & Stuffed Toy Sleepover: but RSVP required. 304 East Midland Avenue, vice at 6:45 p.m. led by Rabbi David S. Widzer Sponsored by Cedar Lane Management Group,
Celebrate the 100th Children’s Book Week with Paramus. along with our Religious School students. at 201-907-0493, cedarlane.net.
221 Schraalenburgh Rd., Closter. tbenv.org, 201-
us at PJ Storytime and Stuffed Toy Sleepover.
Escort your favorite stuffed toy to a toys-only
Tuesday, May 7 768-5112. Wednesday, May 29
sleepover. We’ll have a storytime together Commemorating Israel’s Fallen: Ben Porat
and then your stuffed toy will sleep over. Pick Yosef invites the entire community to a ceremo- Saturday, May 18 Story Time in Teaneck: Children age 3K–5
are invited to our fun Preschool Storytime. This
up of toys is after 3 p.m. the next afternoon. ny commemorating Israel’s fallen soldiers and Kol HaNeshamah Family Shabbat: Our next
victims of terror. “The Path of the Heroes of Am story time is held at 3:30 p.m. No registration
Age 4 and older. Teaneck Public Library, 840 Family Shabbat will be at 11:15 a.m. on 113 Engle required. Teaneck Public Library, 840 Teaneck
Teaneck Road, Teaneck. 201-837-4171, www. Yisrael” Featured speaker, Joey Rubinstein, origi- St., Englewood on the campus of St. Paul’s.
nally from Silver Spring, MD serves as a machine Road, 201-837-4171, teanecklibrary.org.
teanecklibrary.org.
gunner in the Explosives and Engineering unit of Wednesday, May 22 Thursday, May 30
Wednesday, May 1 the Nahal brigade in the IDF. Let us come togeth-
Story Time in Teaneck: Children age 3K–5 Teen Gaming in Teaneck: Join us for board
er to show our support for those who protect and
Story Time in Teaneck: Children age 3K–5 are invited to our fun Preschool Storytime. This games, card games and video games on the Wii
defend Israel. The program will be both in English
are invited to our fun Preschool Storytime. This story time is held at 3:30 p.m. No registration and Switch consoles. Grades 5 through12. 4 to
and Hebrew. 8 p.m. East 243 Frisch Court,
Paramus. drhadar@benporatyosef.org required. Teaneck Public Library, 840 Teaneck 5 p.m. No registration necessary. Please feel
Road, 201-837-4171, teanecklibrary.org. free to call ahead to verify the program is taking
Wednesday, May 8 Thursday, May 23 place. Teaneck Public Library, 840 Teaneck
Story Time in Teaneck: Children age 3K–5 Road, 201-837-4171, teanecklibrary.org.
are invited to our fun Preschool Storytime. This Teen Gaming in Teaneck: Join us for board
story time is held at 3:30 p.m. No registration games, card games and video games on the Wii Friday, May 31
required. Teaneck Public Library, 840 Teaneck and Switch consoles. Grades 5 through12. 4 to Shabbat Unplugged in Closter: Temple
Road, 201-837-4171, teanecklibrary.org. 5 p.m. No registration necessary. Please feel Beth El invites the community to join them
free to call ahead to verify the program is taking for a Shabbat Unplugged Band Service at
Thursday, May 9 place. Teaneck Public Library, 840 Teaneck
Road, 201-837-4171, teanecklibrary.org.
7:30 p.m. We will also bless our high school
Teen Gaming in Teaneck: Join us for board seniors. Service is led by Rabbi David S.
Widzer and Cantor Elizabeth Goldmann. 221
games, card games and video games on the Wii
and Switch consoles. Grades 5 through 12. 4
Friday, May 24 Schraalenburgh Road, Closter. tbenv.org.,
to 5 p.m. No registration necessary. Please feel Kabbalat Shabbat in Closter: Temple Beth 201-768-5112.
973-661-9368 El invites the community to join them for a

22 ABOUT OUR CHILDREN • MAY 2019


OurChildren
About

Chilton Medical Center Named


Top Hospital in New Jersey
Simchas Chilton Medical Center in Pompton
Plains has again been named the top
tween our physicians, nurses and
support teams, as well as the confi-
hospital in the New Jersey with less dence physicians have in Chilton,” said
than 350 beds by Castle Connolly and Stephanie Schwartz, president, Chil-
Jersey’s Best in a recently published ton Medical Center. “We are proud
Bnai mitzvah new list. to again be recognized as the top
Chilton Medical Center, part mid-size hospital in New Jersey for
ALEX BANDEL MARISSA ROTH of Atlantic Health System, was also the fourth consecutive year, and will
JAKE BANDEL Marissa Roth, daughter named the number one hospital in continue to deliver the highest levels
of Cheryl and Andy Roth the state under 350 beds for the treat- of care for our patients.”
Alex and Jake Bandel, of Woodcliff Lake, and
children of Elyse and ment of strokes, as well as among the Atlantic Health System’s hospi-
sister of Sam, celebrated
Steve Bandel of Ridge- becoming a bat mitzvah
top two for the treatment of breast tals dominated the top rankings with
wood, celebrated be- on March 30 at Temple cancer, prostate cancer, hip and knee Morristown Medical Center main-
coming b’nai mitzvah on Avodat Shalom in River repairs, and congestive heart failure. taining its number one ranking, and
March 23 at Temple Beth Edge.  These results were based on phy- Overlook Medical Center ascending
Rishon in Wyckoff. 
sician votes and reflect Chilton Medi- to the number two spot among large
HOLLIN BARTH cal Center’s reputation among physi- hospitals. Goryeb Children’s Hospital,
PAYTON LIEBERMAN cians across the state. and Newton and Hackettstown med-
Hollin Barth, son of Payton Lieberman, “This recognition serves as a tre- ical centers also all ranked among
Liza and Gary Barth of daughter of Michelle
River Edge, and brother mendous testament to the mutual the top 5 hospitals in the “under 350
and Benn Lieberman of
of Samara, celebrated Upper Saddle River and
spirit of trust and collaboration be- beds” category.
becoming a bar mitzvah sister of Noah, celebrated
on April 6 at Temple becoming a bat mitzvah
Avodat Shalom in River
Edge.
on March 30 at Temple
Emanuel of the Pascack
Rockland TEEN Summer Program
Valley in Woodcliff Lake. The Rockland County Youth Bureau Rockland County Executive Ed
NATALIE LAUB ALEC SALK is accepting applications for the 2019 Day said, “The T.E.E.N. Works pro-
Natalie Laub, daughter of Alec Salk, son of Erica summer session of the T.E.E.N. Works gram opens the door to opportunities
Ingrid and Daniel Laub of and Daniel Salk of
(Teen Employment Education Net- for valuable work experience and a
Ridgewood and sister of Woodcliff Lake and
brother of Aiden, cel- work) program. summer paycheck today, which will
Jack, celebrated becom-
ebrated becoming a T.E.E.N. Works is a workforce lead our young people to realizing a
ing a bat mitzvah on April
6 at Temple Beth Rishon bar mitzvah on April 13 preparation and placement program brighter future and reaching their
in Wyckoff.  at Temple Emanuel of that combines a summer work experi- full potential tomorrow,” said Ed Day,
the Pascack Valley in ence with career and life skills training. Rockland County executive.
Woodcliff Lake. 
Designed for youth between the ages Applications for T.E.E.N. Works
Send us your simchas! of 15 and 20, the four-week program are available at RocklandGov.com, at
offers pre-employment training and the offices of the Rockland County
We welcome simcha announce- Send to pr@jewishmediagroup.com
a possible job placement upon suc- Youth Bureau in Pomona, or by email-
ments for births and b’nai mitzvah. or mail to NJ Jewish Media Group,
Announcements are subject to edit- ATT: Simchas cessful completion. The mission of ing RCYB@co.rockland.ny.us. The ap-
ing. There is a $10 charge for pho- 1086 Teaneck Road T.E.E.N. Works is to assist our teens plication deadline is June 10. For more
tos. Photos must be high resolution Teaneck, NJ 07666 and young adults in growing into suc- information, RocklandGov.com or call
jpg files. cessful, contributing members of our the Rockland County Youth Bureau at
If a photograph is to be returned,
Call (201) 837-8818 for information. include a SASE. local workforce with strong goals for 845-364-2929.
their future.

Musical Theater: RENT for Free


The Per for ming Ar t s Sc hool at mental health issues facing our com-
bergenPAC is partnering with Engle- munity today, the support and treat-
wood Health to present a free produc- ment resources available, and how
tion of RENT — The Musical: Concert everyone can work together to reduce
Version Performance in recognition the stigma associated with these im-
of National Mental Health Aware- portant issues.
ness Month. Last year, Englewood Health
Winner of the Tony Award for Best opened The Gregory P. Shadek Be-
Musical and the Pulitzer Prize for Dra- havioral Care Center — with the pri-
ma, RENT has become a pop cultural mary location at 25 Rockwood Place
phenomenon with songs that rock and Directed by Alexander Diaz, with 17 and Saturday, May 18 at 7 p.m. and in Englewood — featuring a dedicated
a story that resonates with audiences. musical direction by Ben Boecker, the Sunday, May 19 at 2 p.m. care team of psychiatrists, licensed
Set in the East Village of New York City, performances feature local actors and Audiences will also get to hear clinical social workers, an addiction
the show is about falling in love, finding will be held at Englewood Health, 350 from Englewood Health’s behavioral specialist, and associated healthcare
your voice and living for today. Engle Street, Englewood on Friday, May health experts about addiction and professionals.
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With the opening of our brand-new Mother-Baby unit, all of our

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Spacious, private rooms
Private bathrooms and showers
A brand-new nursery
You asked. We delivered. All the advanced care and personal touches
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at The Valley Hospital. To arrange a tour of the Center for Childbirth,


please visit ValleyHealth.com/ChildbirthTours.

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