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o ahead and take your mother out for dinner, anew and strengthen our personal commitment. constantly tends to weaken its intensity. Eventually
but make sure your display of gratitude isn’t Rabbi Dessler describes time is a spiral. As we the dramatic can become tedious, the glory can be-
just a once-a-year occasion. travel through time we return to key moments of the come rote.
If your mother is anything like mine, she proba- past and recapture the inherent spiritual energy. This Holidays allow us to concentrate on a vital com-
bly told you not to get her anything for Mother’s Day. is why Jewish holidays are referred to in Hebrew as ponent of our spiritual lexicon for a day or a week and
“Since when did Mother’s Day become a Jewish holi- “moadim” — meeting places. Similarly, the Hebrew then transmit that idea into our essence for the rest
day? Don’t bother yourself over me.” word “zman” — time — means designated or appoint- of the year.
Of course we know to ignore such comments. But ed because every moment in time has been appointed Yes, we need to constantly work on attaining free-
she may have a point. Isn’t every day supposed to be with a specific spiritual purpose. dom, but Passover arrives and as we relive the Jewish
Mother’s Day? The Torah tells us to honor and revere But doesn’t that purpose apply the rest of people’s Exodus from Egypt for a full week, we be-
our mothers at all times. So why go out of your way to the year? come empowered to carry over the attitude of true
show her your gratitude on Mother’s Day? For example, Passover celebrates God freeing the freedom for the rest of year.
If Mother’s Day is your way out of showing her Jewish people from the slavery in Egypt. But the Torah So if you celebrate Mother’s Day, do it with the
how much she means to you the rest of the year, the requires us to recall the Exodus from Egypt daily, as same approach as a Jewish holiday. Show your mother
day actually becomes a vehicle to reduce true appre- recited at the end of the Shema prayer. Why then do your appreciation, buy the card and the roses, and go
ciation for moms. we celebrate Passover if we already recall the Exodus ahead and take her out for dinner. But make sure these
So how can we benefit from using Mother’s Day? continuously the entire year? displays of gratitude and affection are not just annual
By treating it like a pseudo-Jewish holiday. The same question could be asked for almost occasions. Mother’s Day should be a day full of love
Jewish holidays are fundamentally different than every Jewish holiday. On Shavuot, we celebrate God and endearment that helps you continuously experi-
secular holidays like the Fourth of July or President’s giving us the Torah on Mount Sinai. But we also have ence such feelings throughout the year.
Day. Such holidays commemorate events, while Jewish a general commandment to remember the events of This is Mother’s Day, Jewish style.
holidays are portals in time when we can re-experi- Sinai as often as we can. How then does rejoicing on
ence the spiritual forces that were unleashed due to a Shavuot enhance our religious experience? To schedule a speaking engagement with Rabbi Boruch Leff,
historical event. We celebrate all Jewish holidays with the fol- noted educator and author of six books, contact: sbleff@
For example, on the holiday of Shavuot, the Jew- lowing idea in mind. Yes, we need to remember all gmail.com.
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lay is the most cherished part of childhood.
Sadly, free play for children has steadily de-
clined in the past few decades. The reasons are
many: tightly structured family and school schedules,
more parents working outside the home, fewer safe
places to play and rise of screen time. The average pre-
schooler uses technology 4.5 hours a day.
Mental health issues are on the rise in children.
Many experts believe that this directly correlates to
the loss of play. Why? Because play is where children
learn life adaptability skills. They learn to cope and
deal with their stress when they run free, swing from
monkey bars, climb trees. In essence they are test-
ing their abilities in “dangerous” situations. Children
themselves are allowed to manage just the right dose
of danger. This knowledge helps them feel in control of
themselves and the amount of stress they can handle,
helping them feel in control of their lives.
Play also allows children to develop their imag-
ination and creativity. They learn social skills, how
to work in groups, to share, to negotiate, to resolve
conflicts, make their own decisions and self-advocacy
skills. Children who are left to play at their own pace play freely. We had an old couch in the basement that Mix children of different ages
learn to know themselves well. They can discover their we called the jumping couch, our kids were allowed to It is helpful to encourage your child to play with chil-
own areas of interest and ultimately engage fully in do whatever they wanted with that couch, jump on it, dren of different ages. Older children help facilitate a
the passions they wish to pursue. Play also helps chil- build forts etc. If you have a yard, make sure it has an younger child’s learning, helping them get to a new
dren maintain healthy physical activity level. area for play, swings, a sandbox etc. level naturally. Older kids can practice their leadership
It is no wonder that experts have found that play skills more readily. Children will also learn to partic-
can help prevent children from a slew of health issues, Have an art box or an art area ipate as well as challenge the game. This also helps
stress, anxiety, depression and obesity as well. When engaged in art, children’s brains grow. It does them learn self-control and negotiation skills.
We need to bring play back into our children’s not need to be anything elaborate: paper, scissors, You also want to avoid intervening. Don’t try to
lives. Here are eight tips to help increase your child’s crayons, markers, stickers and some glue can keep protect your child from others. Try not to judge other
free playtime. children engaged for hours. kids to harshly. Remember learning how to deal with
difficult kids can give children the practice they need
Turn off electronics Playing solo to deal with all types of people as they grow. These are
This is not so easy to do in today’s world but it is es- Kids need some alone time to play. When they play the times where they are learning the biggest lessons
sential. Have a no technology zone for the hours when with their toys by themselves it helps process new ex- in self-control and resilience.
your children come home from school. I always appre- periences, deal with their fears, conflicts, and everyday
ciate Shabbos because it is a natural break from the events in their lives. You often will hear your child en- Get support
world of technology. gaging in fantasy play using different voices and reen- You are not alone. Try talking to other parents, wheth-
acting what is happening in their world, which can be er it’s in your neighborhood or just on your block. Put
Have toys but not too many toys therapeutic. It is also great for developing their fantasy your heads together and see how you can encourage
Too much stuff just creates a whole lot of clutter and and imagination. your kids to get outside like how it was naturally done
actually inhibits a child’s imagination. You can try ro- back in the olden days.
tating toys, every few months putting some toys away Get outside Reference “The Danish Way of Parenting”
in a bin and replacing them with toys put away months Try to get outside everyday, even in the winter. Let by Jessica Joelle Alexander,
before. This keeps your play area clean and also allows them explore and play in nature — the woods, the Penguin Publishing Group. Kindle Edition
children to experience their old toys as new again. park, the beach, wherever. If you live in a safe area,
try to just sit on the side and let them let them have as Adina Soclof is a parent educator, professional development
Have space for kids to play much freedom as possible. They don’t need an adult- instructor and speech pathologist She is the founder of
Children need room inside and outside to play. You led activity; they really need to be left alone, in control ParentingSimply.com and available for speaking engage-
want to designate an area in the house where they can of their own play. ments. Reach her at asoclof@parentingsimply.com.
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arents are always looking for ed- rics (AAP) has recently issued a state- Time. These can also help children con- (like home and school)?
ucational toys, games, book and ment suggesting a new mode of tech- nect with loved ones who live far away. • Does it prepare us for
activities. Recently, technology nology use that can help. I hesitate to Grandparents love to see, and children new experiences?
has offered even more options. report on it because I still feel that ab- love to share their crafts and drawings • Does it connect us to distant friends
I am torn by the richness of online staining from technology use, certainly in their calls. Grandparents can also and family?
educational options and the concerns when a child is young, is the best way to read to their children via FaceTime.
about excessive screen time. Although go. But as my husband always tells me, Many grandparents can even do home- Some great educational apps are:
I benefit so much from the Internet, it’s time to get with the times. So here work with their grandchildren. That can PBS Parents Play and Learn, Fred Rog-
social media and the online world, I it is: “co-engagement.” This is the new be a win-win situation for everyone. ers Center, free Alien Assignment app
also wax nostalgic for the days before byword for children’s technology use. T h ere i s a g re a t re s o u rc e , For older children it’s important to
we were so attached to our screens. I Parents and children engage around a Joanganzcooneycenter.org that counsels keep the computer in the central areas
fondly remember when children played game or app-based activity in the same parents to use apps in the educational in your home and filters should be in
outside, used their imaginations, and way they would with a picture book, category in the app store. For Android: place. It’s important to talk about the
had time to daydream. game or toy. In Google Play, select Family and acti- pros and cons of screen use and have
My concerns are not unwarranted. Online books do offer a lot in terms vate the Education category. iPhone: In times where everyone is unplugged.
We do know that screen time has its of education. There are apps you so that App Store, go to Categories, select Ed- Dinnertime, an hour before bedtime
drawbacks. It may cause obesity, sleep you can read together with your child ucation and click Apps for Every Grade. and of course on Shabbos.
issues, attention problems and even without schlepping along a little library. This website provides many re- So there you have it. I have gotten
contribute to anxiety and depression. Furthermore, apps can help you read sources for parents including some with the times. But I still think the best
Children who started watching tele- anywhere, anytime. It is best to find questions that can be asked to help de- way to interact with our children is to
vision before 12 months of age and “simple” e-books that are illustrated but cide on apps are: unplug, get outside, play board games
watched television 2 hour per day were with fewer animations because animat- and read from real books.
approximately six times more likely to ed e-books can be distracting. To make • Does it help them engage in creative
have language and attention delays. the reading even richer, it is helpful to play? Adina Soclof is a parent educator, pro-
When children are engaged with pause often to talk about what happens • Does it encourage my child to fessional development instructor and
screens they are losing valuable time in the book and how it connects to your be active? speech pathologist She is the founder of
where they could be interacting with life. An added bonus, you can also re- • Does it provide opportunities to talk? ParentingSimply.com and available for
those around them, practicing the give cord your own versions of the book us- • Does it offer ways to create together? speaking engagements. Reach her at aso-
and take necessary for developing posi- ing video or audio apps. • Does it help the family have fun clof@parentingsimply.com.
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accines have
dominated the
headlines with
parents, politicians, pe-
diatricians and people
of all walks weighing in
on the import of pro-
tecting our children and
others from prevent-
able diseases — diseas-
es that are causing an Dr. Harry Banschick
imminent threat to the
public’s health.
“Since I began my pediatrics practice in 1982,”
wrote Dr. Harry Banschick, M.D., and chairman of
pediatrics at Holy Name Medical Center in Teaneck,
in a recent editorial in the Jewish Standard, “I have
vaccinated thousands of children against measles and
other life-threatening illnesses … Over the years, these
vaccines have saved many lives, while causing few to
no side effects.”
While addressing the current state of emergen-
cy regarding the measles outbreak that has resulted
in bans on unvaccinated children and prompted the
World Health Organization to announce that the virus
is again a global threat, Dr. Banschick wrote, “Let’s also
not forget the other life-saving vaccines that protect
us against such potentially deadly diseases as polio,
hepatitis B, pneumococcal pneumonia, the flu, Hae-
mophilus influenza type B, and HPV, which can cause
cervical and throat cancers.”
Among the newest vaccines that are administered
by pediatricians is a vaccine that helps prevent the
HPV (human papillomavirus), a virus that is spread
through sexual contact and is linked to the develop-
ment of cervical and throat cancer. is that they thought it [the HPV vaccine] was going to gerous and prevalent it is.
In June 2006, the first human papillomavirus be perceived as telling their children it’s okay to have There are millions of people in the United States
(HPV) vaccine was licensed for use in the United sex. And this was not the intent,” Dr. Banschick said. that are currently infected with the HPV virus. Most
States. When it came out, rather than celebrate the “There are still people who are still on the fence people don’t even know they are infected with the vi-
development of a vaccine to prevent a deadly form of about it but I try to explain to them this is a real po- rus because they are asymptomatic. Since it’s possible
cancer, some parents were misguided by fear. As a re- tential problem,” he said. “Not every person gets cer- to develop symptoms years after first being infected,
sult of myths and inaccurate information regarding the vical cancer. The incidence is becoming less common, it’s especially difficult to diagnose exactly when a per-
safety of the HPV vaccines, some parents refused or partially because of this vaccine and the awareness of son first became infected.
delayed inoculating their children, which leaves them more proper use of condoms. In about 90 percent of cases, an HPV infection
vulnerable to the potential of a serious disease. “It’s a very effective vaccine and I personally nev- will eventually clear in about a year or two. However,
“All these vaccines do have a benefit,” Dr. Ban- er have seen a side effect in one of my patients,” Dr. during that time, those infected with HPV are often
schick told About Our Children. “It’s not a debatable Banschick said. unknowingly spreading the infection to others.
fact. As a young doctor I actually saw patients die The latest recommendation is to inoculate children A significant percentage of those infected eventu-
from diseases that are now preventable via vaccine. as young as 9 and all children over 11. Depending on the ally will develop cancerous cells years, or even decades
“When it first came out, the HPV vaccine got a age of the patient, the vaccine is given in two or three after initial exposure.
very bad reputation. A lot of people were against it. doses. It is important to give the vaccine before the pa- Since there is no way to determine which cases
There was an article about there being an incidence tient becomes sexually active, Dr. Banschick said. will clear and which will lead to cancer, universal vac-
of a neurological problem called Guillain-Barre Syn- HPV is the most common sexually transmitted cination is the most effective means of prevention,
drome. But with further studies, the incidence was no infection in the United States and is often referred to experts said.
greater than it was in the general population. as the common cold of the genitals. HPV is not a new
“But what a lot of people also were objecting to virus, but many people are unfamiliar with how dan- Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of About Our Children.
W
hat is sweet, colorful and 3 and enjoy. The cotton candy comes in a 10 “It’s quite amazing,” she said. “It’s so
feet tall? Father and son began with an idea, flavors, including strawberry, choco- creative and it’s something different.”
A small child dressed an uh, big idea — “Who doesn’t like cot- late, pina colada, and Asher’s favorite, Mrs. Miller said that Asher hopes
in a bright outfit? ton candy?” Yehuda said – and about pink vanilla. to stage cotton candy workshops in
Could be, but the correct answer to four months ago began to make the “I was trying to find something to camps, where the massive cotton candy
this particular “What is sweet, colorful oversized treat using a “special system,” do,” said Asher, who now shares this is not only made on site, but there is
and 3 feet tall” is Asher Miller’s massive said Mr. Miller, who chooses not to di- venture online at asher@crazycottons. a bit of a cotton candy history lesson
cotton candy confections. vulge the particulars of how they make com. “I always liked cotton candy, and as well.
Asher, a sixth grader at Yeshivat the cotton candy so big. The process making it looked interesting.” “We’d like sell as much cotton can-
He’Atid and his father, Yehuda Mill- takes place in the basement of their Mr. Miller said there is a lot of food dy, and educate as many people as pos-
er, devised a way to create the puffy, Bergenfield home. science yet to master. And transport of sible about cotton candy,” she said.
sugary treat into a mega-edible party Mr. Miller said that so far, Asher, the massive cotton candy can be tricky. Now that’s sweet.
novelty that definitely has a show-stop- who is drawn to science, robotics and If the weather is too wet, humid or
ping factor. gadgets, has created the oversized moist, the cotton candy can melt. So Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of
“When you bring something like cotton candy for a friend’s vort (an en- the Millers are figuring out this as they About Our Children.
this to a simcha,” said Mr. Miller, “guests gagement party) and has brought the move forward.
are like, ‘Wow! We never saw anything product to the recent annual “Taste of
like this.’” Teaneck,” at the Marriott Glenpointe,
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hroughout the country, sever-
al states including New Jersey
have proclaimed May as Lyme
Disease Awareness Month in an effort
to raise awareness of Lyme and tick-
borne diseases during this time of year.
The declaration is one way to
remind people that with the onset of
spring, ticks are out, and prevention
and proper education are your best
tools to staying healthy.
About Our Children consulted
with Dr. Neil Gaffin of Ridgewood In-
fectious Disease Associates, The Valley
Hospital, for his expertise on detecting,
preventing and treating the illness.
AOC: What exactly is Lyme
Disease?
Dr. Gaffin: Lyme disease is an in-
fection transmitted by the deer tick,
Ixodes scapularis. The infection itself
is caused by the organism (bacteria)
Borrelia burgdorferi. It is prevalent in
watershed
and no testing is required. In fact, blood tests may not
be positive (only positive 40 percent of time) when
someone presents with erythema migrans, so one may
recreation program
be mistaken if they rely on blood test alone.
AOC: What is the best-known treatment?
Dr. Gaffin: Treatment is antibiotics. Amoxicillin
would typically be the first choice for children. Early
infection is easily treated and cured with 10 to 14 days
of therapy.
AOC: What is the best prevention for Lyme
The Watershed Recreation Program is now open from April 1 to November 30, 2019.
Disease?
Dr. Gaffin: Performing body checks for ticks after
being outdoors paying special attention to the above Participants can fish, walk, bird watch, hike, or simply enjoy nature. Your permit provides access
sites where the nymphal ticks like to attach (e.g., back to four reservoirs – Old Tappan, Oradell and Woodcliff Lake in New Jersey and Lake DeForest in
of knee, groin, armpits, back of neck). Also wearing Rockland County, New York.
bright colored-clothes, socks tucked into pants if hik-
ing. And applying DEET-containing tick repellants. For an online application visit: www.SUEZWatershed.com
AOC: Is there anything else you would like to add?
Dr. Gaffin: Please speak with your doctor if you
have any questions or concerns.
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peaking to Jewish high school stu- respond: making money, becoming famous
dents I was alarmed by their igno- or playing fortnite for hours on end. This
rance and indifference to Judaism. bond that had held us together as we were
How do you take the pulse of a nation? scattered throughout the four corners of
Get into the classrooms and speak to the the earth has frayed. The eyes that once
kids. Walk on college campuses and have searched for Jerusalem now seek the next
some conversations. best app.
Standing in front of an assembly of For millions of Jews, Judaism has be-
high school children, I was confronted with come irrelevant. What can we do?
the spiritual malaise that is taking place Let’s recognize that we must put our
amongst our children. They lack the cour- hearts and heads together and think hard
age to stand strong for our people. Too about the Jewish education, in school and
many don’t know enough about who they at home, that our children are getting. It’s
are as Jews, their purpose, their mission, time for a detox. All the excess that we’ve
their reason for being. thought to be religious values but are really
I n d i f fere n t o r i g n o ra n t — t a ke spiritual junk food should be let go. These
your pick. meaningless bar and bat mitzvah parties
Concluding a talk on Jewish pride, I of- that have become the defining moment of
fered to take questions. A hand shot up in our children’s Judaism. The open bar which
the front. have nothing to do with mitzvah, the wa-
“You speak about our heritage and tering down of Torah study and knowledge
what it means to be a Jew. So many around of our people and history, and the desire
us are clueless when it comes to Juda- to live less as Jews and more as ‘citizens of
ism. How can we share with others and the world’ have all contributed to our chil-
teach more?” dren’s disconnect.
Another hand shot up in the back. The young boy can you tell me how to live? I resent that.” We must look at ourselves in the mirror. What do
stood up and said loudly, “To speak up and think that It is difficult for me to describe the sadness that I we reflect when we greet the Shabbos Queen, when we
you have what to teach the world about your Judaism felt that moment. sit at our holiday table, when we speak about our faith
means that you think you are better. That’s racist!” “I am sorry for you,” I responded. “I am sorry for and our values? How do we pray? Our children see it all,
A wave of tension swept through the auditorium. you because that’s not my Torah that you are describ- watch it all and take it all in. Do we live as active Jews
I had just a few moments to respond before my time ing. My Torah is my oxygen. My Judaism carries me day and make Judaism come alive each day? Do our children
with these teenagers was up. Here before me sat the and night through light and through darkness.” ever hear us make a blessing, express gratitude to God,
future fathers and mothers of our people. These souls We spoke about Torah’s relevance in this world. study Jewish wisdom and embrace a mitzvah?
would soon be asked to lead, commit, create and cry I shared how Torah is alive and gave examples from Finally, when it comes to Israel, our homeland, we
out for Israel and the Jewish People. How tragic to be- the harm of over sharing on social media to protect- have taken our gift for granted. After thousands of
lieve that knowing our holy mission in this world and ing the dignity of women Judaism is current and via- years of persecution and indescribable suffering, God
understanding that we are to be a “light amongst the ble. One just needs to know where to look and how has brought us home. The world slammed its doors
nations” is racist. to study. on us. No country wanted us even after we were taken
Like Abraham, we are charged to go out and make I was grateful for the questions. I touched a by cattle cars to be gassed in ovens. From a nation
a difference in the world, to be a moral and spiritual nerve. But this was only the beginning. Obviously we of skeletons we reclaimed Jerusalem, fought the Arab
compass. That’s not racist. It is a life of purpose. have a problem here and I don’t pretend to have all nations who surrounded us and pierced the sky with
I explained in those few minutes that striving to the solutions. the sound of the shofar by the Western Wall. Brave
share our legacy of wisdom and justice is far from be- There are some glaring issues though that we, the soldiers touched the ancient stones and wept. We wit-
ing prejudiced against others. It means that we are ob- parents and grandparents, the educators and lay peo- nessed miracles from Above.
ligated to know who we are; how we have the ability ple, must confront. Yet today our sons and daughters are clueless.
to sanctify and make this world into a better place as First, the passion is missing. What are we willing Their heritage eludes them. Our story remains blank.
we tenaciously hold onto the wisdom and values of to sweat for, sacrifice for, and stand up for? There is no memory. The promise of our Land is writ-
the Torah. Like Abraham, we are charged to go out and As a child I remember standing in the cold and ten in our Torah. It is up to us to educate, to teach, to
make a difference in the world, to be a moral and spir- marching for the freedom of Russian Jewry. I recall speak out and speak up.
itual compass. That’s not racist. It is a life of purpose. being in synagogue when the Yom Kippur War broke We have much work to do. Let us strengthen our-
Kindle the light of Shabbat, banish the darkness, and out. I saw real tears being shed; worry and grief etched selves and touch the hearts of the next generation. The
bring illumination to the world. on the faces around me. It had nothing to do with be- future of our people is in our hands.
Another student raised his hand. “Why do you ing religious or not. At that moment we were a family
think most kids my age find Judaism to be irrelevant?” of Jews, united. I felt part of a people, a nation that Slovie Jungreis-Wolff is a teacher, parent educator, couples
I threw the question back. I was curious. “Why do stood together because we were family. counselor, author and daughter of the late Rebbetzin Esther
you think they do?” The eyes that once searched for Jerusalem now Jungreis. Her book, “Raising a Child With Soul,” is published by
“Because,” he responded flippantly, “it is.” seek the next best app. St. Martin’s Press..
“Yes,” another student added. “It’s archaic. How Somehow, we’ve lost that connection. When Aish.com
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t was a new era of good feeling. Is- he said, in a private car with Ahmed as bustling with natives and a new influx room allowing chometz. Our vision of a
rael and Jordan, countries that had chauffeur and tour guide. The chance to of tourists. There was a message for us gala celebration with our scores of rela-
fought bitterly in 1948 and again see Jerash and Petra and Mount Nebo from Israel. Baby is fine but brit post- tives and friends throughout Israel quick-
in 1967, and continued hostilities in from which Moses is said to have gazed poned again. We prepared for the next ly faded because of the timing. No one
the interim. Now, in 1998 there was a upon the Promised Land, and experi- day’s travel, which would take us 2,500 could come the night before Pesach ex-
handshake across the border. Israeli and ence Amman, not as exciting perhaps years back in time to the land of the cept a cousin who lived walking distance
American tourists converged on Aqaba as a few minutes with a new grandson, Nabateans, and the fabled city of Petra, away. She showed up with a jar of gefilte
and the Allenby Bridge to visit Jordan, but this is what fate had decreed. We which had been made even more lus- fish and a package of pita. Our son pro-
this land of mosques, Roman ruins and would have to make do. trous by Indiana Jones and the “Raiders duced a box of stale cookies that he had
rock hewn mountain dwellings. Ahmad was a delightful and knowl- of the Lost Ark.” bought two weeks ago in anticipation of
My wife and I had another reason edgeable companion. On the high- Indeed arriving in Petra is to find a brit in eight days.
for going to Israel, one that a Jordan vis- way we passed many half completed oneself in a movie set. Harrison Ford We were in for a surprise. We had
it seem petty and pale by comparison. buildings, which, he explained were was missing, but the rest of it was forgotten about the Fast of the First
We were to become grandparents. Our the victims of Jordan’s ailing economy. there. Past the 250-foot high sandstone Born, in which first–born males are for-
son and daughter-in-law, newlyweds, The carcass of a dead deer gave rise to entranceway was the Canyon of the bidden to eat or drink throughout the
spent the first year of marriage in Isra- a discussion of halal food as compared Crescent Moon, known less poetically day before Passover unless they attend
el in a rinky dink two-room apartment to kashrut. As with kosher meat, even if as the Siq. And there was the Treasury, a siyyum (“completion”). The ceremony
without heat through a chilly Jerusa- he had seized the deer right after it had a breathtaking display of pillars and lin- accompanying a brit would qualify, and
lem winter with him learning at the been killed by a passing car, he could tels carved in the face of a sandstone so instead of a party attended by just
Ohr Someach Yeshiva and her study- not carve it up for food because he had hill. Unlike the movie version, entrance the baby’s parents, grandparents, an
ing Hebrew, and incidentally becom- not shecked it. to the Treasury, leads not to death-defy- uncle and a cousin, some 60 young men
ing pregnant. Up ahead was Jerash, ancient ing adventure, but rather to a small dark throughout the Yeshiva appeared. The
We arrived in time for the birth of Rome’s best-preserved city anywhere, hall, perhaps once a royal tomb. brit released them from the Fast of the
an 8-pound boy with a shock of black certainly in the Middle East. We ex- And we gained bragging rights by First Born, and they were free to eat our
hair and a penetrating gaze, which plored in exquisite detail, the market climbing to the hilltop Monastery, a sumptuous refreshments, stale cookies,
grandparents took to mean intelli- place, the homes of the nobles, the am- daunting feat but made possible by an and a taste of gefilte fish and pita. It
gence. We threw ourselves into prepa- phitheater, the remains of the temple., unusually cool day. was a party after all.
ration for the brit, which, of course the hippodrome, venue of the chariot The Nabatean Empire prevailed
would be an opulent and elegant affair. races. Even the stone roadway was a some 2,500 years ago on the east-west Ed Silberfarb was a reporter for the Bergen
Only it was not going to happen. Our revelation with its gullies carved to trade route until conquered by Rome Record in New Jersey, then the New York
healthy grandson was jaundiced. The guide the carriage wheels. about the year 400. Herald Tribune where he was City Hall
brit would have to be postponed, and To Ahmad’s frustration, we spent We received word from Israel. bureau chief. Later, he was a public infor-
no new date was set. His mother took the whole day in Jerash instead of the The baby’s jaundiced complexion had mation officer for the New York City Transit
refuge in a postpartum rest home, and few hours that our guide original- bloomed to a healthy glow. The brit was Authority and editor of one of its employee
we prepared for at least a week of anx- ly planned. We lived a fantasy, being scheduled for eruv Pesach at the Royal publications.
A Space Trek
Through Torah
Students in Temple Emeth ’s Religious Getting Tech-Savvy With Ma’ayanot
School put on an original play, Seniors recently had a chance to work one-on-one with stu-
“Torah Trekkers & Other Amazing dents from Ma’ayanot’s STEAM classes, who underwent
Adventures through the Space/Time training and volunteered to mentor retirees. “Senior Tech
Continuum,” which takes place in Time” was facilitated by Senior Source and Jewish Family
present and Biblical days. Book, music & Children’s Services of Northern New Jersey (JFCS), two
and lyrics were by Rachel Maddock organizations that care for the elderly in our NJ community.
and the students.
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