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A Molestation of Innocence
Being a woman in the U.S. in this day and age will be one of the hardest things I will
have to face in my lifetime. I have been sexualized and objectified more times than I can count. I
have learned to fear the world I live in and to be uncomfortable in my own skin. I have learned
that gender really does affect the decisions we make in life and changes the way the people
My male friends say that they love the idea of being catcalled. They think that being
objectified is an empowering experience. Guys sometimes tell me that being whistled at or being
called hot in passing would make them feel good about themselves. But they have never been
catcalled. They do not understand how disgusting it makes women feel. It rots people away from
the inside out, and leaves nothing but the tight hold in the pit of your stomach. The first time I
had ever experienced this gut rot was when I was in high school. I was a runner and every day
when I would go running after school in my shorts and t-shirt, guys driving past would
deliberately roll down their windows and stare or make comments. I was all sweaty and looked
horrible, but guys still wanted to sexualize me because my legs were showing. This instilled in
me, from a young age, that dressing modestly would not keep me safe from the lewd comments
When I was just a child, I first started being sexualized for what I was wearing. I had just
gotten my first bra, and the boys made sure everyone knew about it. They would snap the straps
or make stupid comments. Parents, teachers, family friends, would all sit around and watch as
this happened. They made comments about how I was “too young to be wearing shorts that
short” or that my tank tops were “too revealing”. I was only ten years old and my biggest
concern was whether I would get a swing at recess, and adults were already busy sexualizing me.
I learned at a young age that people were often going to look at me differently than they would
my male counterparts.
When I was fourteen, I had my first boyfriend. The pressures of dating and always having
a boy’s attention were intensifying as I got older, and I caved to social influences. I dated a boy I
did not even have feelings for because society told me I needed a man in my life. He told me he
loved me after only a month, although I did not feel it, I said it back because I figured that is
what I was supposed to do. I was only a kid; I did not even know what love was. I had never
thought that five years later, I still would not know what true love really was.
When I was fifteen, a boy told me that I was only good for sex. He made me feel as
though I was not good enough for a real relationship, and every guy only wanted me for my
body. He pressured me for things that I had never even thought about. Every day he would watch
the people that talked to me, and would later tell me about how they were just trying to get in my
pants. He told me he could keep me safe, protect me from the hormonal males trying to break my
innocence. He only asked for a small price in return… my innocence. At such a young age I was
At sixteen,that same boy tried to pressure me into having sex, even after I had repeatedly
told him no. A few weeks later, I was the victim of an attempted sexual assault. That boy decided
that his life was more important than mine, and tried to rape me in the back seat of his car. I
became severely anorexic and closed myself off as a way of coping with what my life had
become. I fell into a statistic and became one of the 75% of teenage girls who hated themselves
and the way they looked. A boy had told me I wasn’t good enough, that his life was more
valuable than mine, and society had let him. The world had cultivated a space that had allowed a
teenage boy to place such a great value on his wants that nothing, not even rape, should stop him
At seventeen I could not have a functional relationship because I was so scarred by what
had happened to me. I broke a good man merely because I did not know how to be loved. I could
not love myself, so how could I expect anyone else to love me? My innocence had been
shattered, and the person I was had been cast away. I was left to fight on my own and put
I once read a book about sexual assault on college campuses. The author said that
research has proved that rape victims are fifty percent more likely to suffer from post-traumatic
stress disorder than are veterans of war. Sexual assault is prevalent on college campuses. I have
read tons of articles of assaults that have been reported and then just thrown away as if nothing
has ever happened. Survivors are thrown to the wolves while rapists roam free. I was terrified to
move away to college because I knew that the hell I had lived through could all too easily
At eighteen I started college, and experienced a new world of sexualization. Older men
would watch me at work on campus, trying to take me to parties or go home with them. I knew
how this would end. I had heard about what happens to girls at parties, I had lived through what
happens to girls at parties. My trust in the male population was at an all-time low, and
sometimes, I still struggle believing there are good people in the world. Being hurt, broken
almost to the point of no return, changes you in ways you would never expect.
The pain never really goes away. The feeling of being unlovable always lingers beneath
the surface. No, it does not get easier, the mind just get stronger. Women, survivors, are left to
fend for themselves. They are told that they made it all up, or that they were asking for it. The
time has come to end victim blaming. We need to believe survivors and allow them to grow up