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Riley Flint
Dr. McClanahan
CMST 250
5 March 2019
family members, romantic relationships, relationships with friends, coworkers, etc. No matter the
type of relationship they all require a certain degree of maintenance. The closer the relationship
the more work is required to maintain it. There are several theories on how to maintain a
relationship most effectively. Two major theories that support Relationship Maintenance include
that relationship is a close one. In order for a relationship to be long-term and satisfying to both
people involved it needs to have four specific characteristics. These characteristics include
liking, trust, commitment, and control mutuality. The first three characteristics are pretty self
explanatory and are usually expected in all types relationships. However the last one, control
mutuality, may not be familiar to most people. Control mutuality is defined as “the degree to
which partners agree about which of them should decide relational goals and behavioral
routines”. (Griffin, et al. 134) In simpler terms, both people agreeing on who is going to be the
more dominant partner in the relationship and being satisfied with the decision. Certain
behaviors need to be acted out in relationships in order to promote the four characteristics
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discussed above. These behaviors include positivity and openness in the relationship, affirming
talk about the future, spending time together with friends and family, and working together on
tasks such as chores and assignments. Relationship Maintenance is an ongoing effort required in
The first major theory the supports Relationship Maintenance is Relational Dialectics.
specifically the tensions and struggles brought on by contradictions within the relationship.
There are three highly prominent and reoccuring contradictions in close relationships.(Griffin, et
al. 139) The first one being integration versus separation. This is the struggle between partners
wanting to be connected, but also having their own freedom so they do not lose their individual
identities. Another contradiction in relationships is stability versus change. This is the constant
struggle between wanting stability and certainty in a relationship but also wanting spontaneity
and surprises. The last major contradiction in relationships is expression versus non expression.
This means both partners expect the other to be open with each other, but at the same time
wanting their own privacy. It is common for people to believe that these contradictions are
damaging to their relationship, but the Relational Dialectic Theory explains that these
contradictions are actually very constructive. These struggles in relationships are essential in
why people choose to either reveal or conceal personal information. (Griffin, et al. 151)
Communication Privacy Management presents that there is a system when it comes to revealing
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private information. This system can be broken down into four parts. The first part is ownership
and control of private information. (Griffin, et al. 152) Meaning they have complete control of
how much information they want to reveal and who they are revealing the information to. The
second part is rules for concealing and revealing.(Griffin, et al. 153) When revealing private
information a person must make the decision of who they will be revealing to. Revealing private
information might strengthen a relationship with one person, but revealing the same information
to a different person might put stress on your relationship with that person. The third part is
disclosure creates a confidant and co-owner. (Griffin, et al. 155) Once somebody reveals private
information to a person, that person is now responsible for that information. The fourth and final
part is coordinating mutual privacy boundaries.( Griffin, et al. 156) This means that the person
who revealed the information needs to have a discussion with the person they revealed it to.
They need to discuss whether the information remains between just them or if they are able to
tell others. Revealing private information can be a tricky thing to do, but according to
Communication Privacy Management Theory, following these rules will make everything run
smoothly.
Family Identity Disrupted by Mental Illness and Violence i s an article written by Karyn
Sporer and Paige W. Toller that applies Relational Dialectics Theory to families dealing with
mental illness and how they identify themselves. The purpose of this article is to explain how
people with mental illnesses do not communicate in the same ways as others. This article is
qualitative because it studies families in their normal routines and does not focus on specific
statistics. Living and taking care of an individual who suffers from a mental illness is stressful
for everybody involved.( Sporer, Toller 92) Relational Dialectics is all about how there are
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contradictions present in every single relationship. However, these struggles make the
relationship stronger because individuals discuss their issues and work to solve them. A person
with a mental illness struggles even more when conflicts arise in their relationships. Often times
they act out in rage and violence instead of communicating effectively. This article proves the
Rubinsky that applies Communication Privacy Management Theory to real life situations. The
purpose of this article is to discuss a study that explores how much information individuals in
polyamory relationships reveal to their families. This article is quantitative because it uses
numbers and statistics to prove a point. Polyamory is the practice of having multiple sexual
relationships with the consent of all people involved. (Rubinsky 17) Some people in polyamory
relationships find it challenging to reveal their identity to their families. Revealing this
information can be challenging for them because a polyamory identity is counter to traditional
plays a useful role in this study. According to Communication Privacy Management, people own
the right to either reveal or conceal their private information. One factor in deciding whether to
share information or not is the potential risk for danger. (Rubinsky 18) If a person with an
polyamory identity opens up to their family about it, their family may reject or even abandon
them. On the other hand if another polyamory individual opens up to their family, their family
may accept and celebrate the individual. This is where Communication Privacy Management
comes into play. Knowing how a person will react to your private information has a strong
Both articles approached the theories in different ways. The article that applied Relational
Dialectics to mentally ill individuals did not have measurable proof for the argument. The article
just asked peoples’ opinions, which is not always reliable. However the second article that
was much more useful. The second article used scientific facts and numbers to support the
Relational Dialectics Theory is more useful and effective than Communication Privacy
everybody experiences conflicts of varying degrees in the relationships. Knowing why these
conflicts typically occur can be very useful in managing the problem. If people understood that
conflicts in relationships are unavoidable due to natural contradictions they would not give up on
depends a lot on the person as an individual. Some people are very open to sharing their private
information with others whereas others are more closed off. Communication Privacy
Management also has a lot of specific rules that would not apply to every person and their
There are many factors involved in maintaining a close relationship with another person.
Relationships will not be strong or long lasting if both partners do not put in the effort. Relational
Dialectics Theory and Communication Privacy Management Theory are both excellent theories
the support Relationship Maintenance. Relationships are an important and necessary part of
human beings’ lives and without proper maintenance they will not flourish.
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Works Cited
Griffin, Emory A. et al. A First Look at Communication Theory. Boston: McGraw-Hill, 2006.
Print.
Rubinsky, Valerie. “Revealing or Concealing Polyamory in the Family: Cultural Rules for
Communicating Polyamory to Family Members.” Women & Language, vol. 41, no. 1,
Fall 2018, pp. 16–38. EBSCOhost,
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Sporer, Karyn, and Paige W. Toller. “Family Identity Disrupted by Mental Illness and Violence:
An Application of Relational Dialectics Theory.” Southern Communication Journal, vol.
82, no. 2, Apr. 2017, pp. 85–101. EBSCOhost, doi:10.1080/1041794X.2017.1302503.