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29 July 2017
Mothers’ and wives are multi-taskers. We juggle 20 different activities a day and take care of
everyone but ourselves. In my case, I work a full- time job and I am in school part time. I am raising an
eleven-year old son and some days I feel as if I am raising my husband as well. There are definitely days
when I neglect my family in the communication department. Am I guilty of slapping down a pizza and
barking, “Here is dinner!” as I rush off to the bedroom to fire up the laptop and start on a school paper.
Absolutely. While my son is regaling me with a long- winded story of the going price of a Joey Votto
charged. This course has enlightened me to the need for work on better communication skills. There
were several concepts that hit home with me, and the way I communicate with my family was
Like many people, I have fallen into communication patterns that I was completely unaware of. In
an argument with my husband I feel that when we come to an impasse, my personality and my old
behaviors take over and I respond in way that truly aggravates him. The Silent Treatment. I did not even
realize that in anger I tend to completely shut down until I married Joe. Early in our marriage he pointed
out to me that during a disagreement, or for a time afterwards, I completely shut him out. I just quit
talking to him entirely. I did not realize that I did this, or how detrimental it really was. In other
environments, I am a fairly good communicator. At the office, I can work through disagreements
logically and collaboratively but for some reason, in my personal life, I tend to shut down when an
argument ensues. Maybe because it is so much more personal to me than work. This course definitely
gave me an ah-ha moment when I read about the silent treatment or the impervious response from the
communication climate chapter. And I realized how much more constructive it would be for me to
communicate to Joe my feelings and then to propose solutions to the problem rather than to just shut
down. As a matter of fact, I recently tried this tactic out on him and the end result was that he
apologized for his bad behavior. This made the lesson of the silent treatment very important to me
because after all, this is my marriage. Most couples at some point will need suffer bumps in the road but
I feel like learning about the disconfirming messages section taught me that supportive behaviors are so
Closely related to the silent treatment is the conflict style of avoidance. It makes sense to me that
is a person is utilizing one behavior then they may also use the other as they seem linked. It is truly an
eye opener when you see for the first time how bad you are at something. I have not dealt with conflict
well at all. If, for instance, if I find myself in a situation that could be uncomfortable I am the type of
person who avoids at all costs. I always believed that this was a mature reaction to conflict by not
engaging in conflict. What I learned from the course is that avoidance is a pessimistic attitude. Several
years ago, my daughter got married. My son in law’s family is quite different from our family and it was
a challenge for us all to be together. Their views on life and politics are very different than ours and this
raised some tensions. As a result, much to my daughter’s dismay, I avoided certain functions that I had
been invited to. I can see now that this can certainly be a lose-lose style. (Adler. Pg402) In the future I
will attempt to push myself to not miss out on activities just to avoid family conflict. This is especially
important because I do not want to miss any big moments in my daughters’ life and because I now share
grandchildren with these same people. A better style of conflict management is in order and I intend to
I find that at work I am a much different person than I am at home. At work, I am all business. I do
not like to waste time, I am very task oriented and I find, I am a task oriented listener as well. This was
brought home to me in the chapter about listening. I have a co-worker who is very much a relational
listener, and while I generally like her I find that her behavior can be aggravating to me. I absolutely hate
to miss a deadline, while my co-worker will spend half of her day delving into the problems of others.
We work in the same office so it is hard to get away from her and her incessant dialogue with others can
seemingly drone on for hours. For instance, if I take a work call and it is a customer who needs to
confirm a bus pick up time I will ask them to hold while I look up the information and then I present the
needed information to the customer in a professional manner. I then thank them and end the call. My
co-worker, on the other hand will take the same call and it will last 25 minutes! From across the room I
can hear her telling the customer that she is so sorry for her illness and she will be praying for her. She
then proceeds to share with the customer some of her medical complaints and they commiserate with
each other for some time. I find this behavior very unprofessional and very unnecessary. However, I did
learn from this course that our listening styles are just different. We are very different personalities and
we approach people in a different way. This brings to me a better understanding of what motivates her
and while I might be more patient with her, I still disagree with her phone etiquette.
As a busy working mother, I am constantly pressed for time. In order to make it all work I am forced
that while structure is fine and necessary, moderation is also key. Communication is a challenge that I
will continue to work on daily, at home and at work. In regards to conflict I will strive to take the
approach that collaboration is much more constructive than avoidance and discussion will take place
over the silent treatment. I will take these concepts with me throughout my life and make it a priority to
utilize them. As for my co-worker who is irritating to me, I will keep in mind that I must be patient as
diversity is a part of life. This has been a very educational course and one that has served me well, now