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prankster I'm Michael Britton, and in these monthly episodes. What we can do is
I'll be answering questions dealing with common kinds of problems that come up
often expert tips and hints on how to get the best out of your NLP skills and have
devised some new drills in some new exercise for you to really nail your skills
down so that you can get more of what you want using the tools I'm really excited
and very glad that Tom asked me to make these kids missed you guys will talk
with you so we have to talk about. Like for example if there's one thing that holds
people back demonstrating mastery with the NLP toolset. It's this. It seems that
most of the people who approach me who's been on some form of NOP training.
Another seem to think that all the methods and tools in the NLP toolbox about
what you do to other people. In fact, the opposite is the case most important
thing that you do with the NLP toolset is to use it to change your own mind is the
models the name models and select the top model for us. The framing tool etc.
etc. are not primarily about what you do to other people. Although they have
replication when you're working with others with groups. What therefore guide
reflect and change your own mind. The behavioral flexibility exercises are about.
That's why we place so much emphasis on listening and paying attention is not
so that you can force people to do things you don't need NLP for that portion
doesn't require the NLP toolset. The tools and techniques. In the mornings do is
they give you a way to manage and control your own mind and then own
behavior and through those changes in your behavior changing how you respond
and interact with other people say change what you mean, it's not all about
making other people to do stuff and the answer is no. In fact, that states the mark
of poor NLP when you see someone who seems to be doing whatever they're
doing for their own benefit and enjoying it more than everyone else. The hallmark
of a bad trainer to come off the platform and you ask her to go to tell you about
how great they feel not a good idea because the trainer isn't the most important
person in the room who is the audience. Of course the people who are listening
to clients for the people that you work with more important than and there's a little
secret about most of the models in the NLP toolkit when you learn to work with
them. What happens is that your mind what you are able to do with it expanse,
so this episode will be talking a lot about very early on in the morning and his
current program. It's one of the most important tools in a talk as you recall model
stands the test operate test exit was created by program counter Miller in the
early 60s. Each of those gentlemen different discipline having lunchtime
conversations about whether there was a level of description for the could
describe purposive or intentional behavior in the three different areas one
computer science. Another neuroscience in the third psychology I came up with
was the tote and it describes how intentional happens, it's mildly interesting. But
what makes it significant and more important than just something that you do on
the training covered once, and you put it away forever. Is that the component
elements within it give you a kind of checklist check areas, test areas, if you will
to find out whether a piece of behavior whether Tosca topic and goal whatever is
well-formed enough to be able to be accomplished without significant obstacles.
Let's think this one through the center of the tote. We have the circles of present
state and desired state. You know by now that unless you figure out exactly
where you go and how to know if you get there has to be chosen has to be
decided has to be resolved insufficient detail so that your brain will know how to
access the resources the skills and all the other things can need to do in order to
choose the right methods, but more than that, so that you can test whether you
they were not so that desired state. It's not merely that circle that's their it's the
kind that here's one of the most important things you have to pay attention to.
Once you got that you then use sensory acuity and whatever other tools that you
got and you look at where you or the person you're working with is in relation to
that how someone describes where they are in relation to that you about what
has to happen after the person hasn't thought it through enough or put it into a
kind of a framework or frame of reference question or problem statement that will
never resolve the problem with problems is the frame when somebody sets up a
problem in such a way that it's impossible to resolve the and and feels bad about
that and and thinks about feeling bad about that in the future and the problem not
been resolved and then you have a huge issue that has to be resolved. Where is
in fact what it is is the frame doesn't work in that comparison between the present
state and the desired state. You find out exactly what has to happen in the
miracle of human beings is that when you sitting down with somebody working
out what has to happen. Problem solving. Client will tell you precisely what has to
happen so kindly little bit. The center tote. The first test first Teague the top model
test relates to, if desired state is adequately specified so that person knows what
they have to do what kind of resources have to be pulled together, etc. and
present state is sufficiently framed so that a realistic comparison can be made.
The first test is the question, are you there yet is where you are where you want
to be if the answer is yes. The tote exits. In other words, you don't have to do
anything that's another part of the magic. Sometimes you don't have to do
anything particularly if the answer is no hand. That means something has to be
done and what has to be done is derived from fall through worked out by
comparing the needs and requirements of the desired state with where they are,
what they have what's going on around the present state. That's how you select
which strategies which tactics which techniques which resource that's have to be
brought together. And then those are put together into some kind of operation
sequence of activities which after an means particular about any amount or after
some period of time you test again. The question this time is always there yet.
Considering all that stuff that we just the answer is yes exit test operate test exit if
the answer is no. Have to see how much further along you go in the new test
again and it's this. Being able to test in a very specific way with what you're doing
is working and whether closer to what it is that you want your client wants or
further away biggest mistake that I see when people are thinking that the testing
is then sprayed with a question. So, are we any closer test has to be in relation to
okay don't
Z where is that places in relation to that desired state is the thing for you is
people are using these approaches and techniques. There are very big picture
goals for longer-term goals of the nose is broken down into smaller subsections
of projects and tasks activities. Each of the big chunks is the tote. Each of those
smaller chunks is a but then every one of your intentional behaviors also has the
tote as well is not just some academic bit of abstraction. It's up in the air. It's
fractal. It works at every level of human behavior and that's a fairly strong positive
comment on the work of preparing downturn Miller and also very wise decision
by the grantor to incorporate this into the work of NLP. One of these models you
use at all levels of work with one another and with yourself when you problem
solving and electronic debug some habits and behavior will help you to figure out
what's missing is the desired state adequately specified if it isn't the habit
tendency will be what the person will produce. They say they're doing one thing
actually doing something else. There you will the strategy doesn't have a test and
in other words, if they just say bright wanted to ask and they just do what ever
comes up in the hours and hours and hours later they have achieved the result.
Having achieved the dissolved salt, and you know that the test is missing when it
comes to evaluating the operation stage in strategy you have both the smaller
trunk sensory related internal external strategies that are commonly called
strategies in NLP and then there's the tactics, habits and heuristics as between
the collections of behavior that also go into this strategies as well. It's at this level
where your knowledge and experience of human beings and how they operate
becomes important because of the long trainings that had a 30 year career in
business working at every single level over the world I've had the privilege of
being exposed to quite a lot of different kinds of human behavior and from
working with some extraordinary people, business, sports, television, politics, and
had access to quite a range of typical success strategies so that the terms of that
privilege that I've had, which by the way can I say privilege wasn't handed to me.
I had to work for that and it took time and had to learn all kinds of things that I
didn't want to and never thought I was going to need to overtime was sufficient
attention in sorting through the experience of God and really thinking through and
come to an exercise in just a moment about this. You can then start to make
comparisons within what you are with someone else's presenting in terms of their
goals for the problems with her whatever it is that's been worked with in a sense
when working with other people using the NLP toolkit, but we are is both
resource funders in and around the person, but also resource shapers when the
client doesn't have a particular piece of whatever the puzzle is part of the job is
knowing where to find it. As I said is I had that broader range of experience.
There's a lot I can draw to figure out what needs to happen for a particular
person every human being when you survived your childhood and your
adolescents made it into dealt with me made it where ever you are right now you
have a huge range of experiences and exposure to others and you see many
examples of things that worked things that have worked. When you start to apply
the toolset what it is you observed and experienced discovering what it is that
you assumed wrongly and also what you assume rightly and digging beyond that
into the specific skills in the specific strategies and specific components of what it
is. The thing about it is that you've experienced. You then apply that when you're
working with other people. The model is one of the richest and deepest tools that
we got in NLP although it seems like a very simple straightforward thing the
enemy in all learning is yeah, I know that the answer is here with the practice
school doesn't matter what you wafted past her eyes. Doesn't matter what you've
heard, doesn't matter what you read on the Internet doesn't matter how many
hours you set the training room. If you haven't applied what you've learned and
worked through going through the trial and error process collected many many
instances we don't call that knowing you call that being exposed to information
exposed to ideas. This is the practice school in the practice school. We know
after we've done I said in the primordial news club that understanding is the end
of the learning process. Unfortunately, in the past 50 years it's happened
culturally as the people been taught to think that understanding is "the parrot
back whatever it is you been told. In other words that's programming and for us.
Understanding is a very very different. One of the things I've noticed friends and
family and colleagues and myself as well. Most of the time, people forget their
strengths and they forget what they've learned in experience and even more so
they forget that they been exposed when problems arise. Challenges occur when
illness comes. You need to be able to make use of all that experience and
learning that you got about 20 years ago, I sat down and made up a list and it
was a list of every workshop and pretended every technique I never tried every
book in a particular domain. I made this a mini project. The project was to list out
all the different things and approaches that I'd been exposed to it was amusing
when I got into the therapy section of this in the personal development section of
this is there are some things because of my unusual upbringing and been
shaped in this stuff since I was young, there was a lot to go into that list and I
kept that list approximately every five years ago back to have a look at the reflect
and review what I learned what I didn't learn and most importantly, going through
the list I look for resources. Things that I need now. Things that I think I don't
have you know what most of the time when I think I'm missing something. I think I
don't have what I need in order to be able to fix it comes back go back over that
list. I find it. This is one of the ways that you can make every experience count,
so this episode, here's the deal for you. I want you to sit down and take some
time and write out all the different things that you studied training in learned
books in particular that affected you emotionally or intellectually things that
challenged workshops and trainings that you done audio courses to listen to tele-
seminars that you listen to want to become. Keep going, don't stop at just a few.
This is one of those things that you have to find the vein first. Once you find the
vein trying to get as much juice out of life as possible in this listing process to
quite extensive with that it's going to teach you things. It's going to remind you
about things to remember things you thought you forgot to discover that there
been questions that have been hanging out for a very long time. Things you are
interested in that you put down for one reason or another. Suddenly spring back
15 years ago I actually remembered an activity that was involved in for years and
I didn't know that it was a martial art mat is two years, three times a week. Two
hours in session. What I learned and was the foundations of particular motion.
How cool is that once you start making a list. Keep going like this project for a
few days you spend 15 or 20 minutes of the time combing through your mind and
combing for your memories. The same rules apply appliance and anything else in
life. Once you start down that particular road, it will affect your state digesting
towards those experiences we learned and it was interesting and you enjoyed it.
Instead of wasting time on nostalgia things that don't matter. Spend some time
now on, things that do. I hope you enjoy this episode and that something of value
from it. Really looking forward to speaking with you in the next exit but I