Boost Your Personality with Strong Character

The question of building a character is a personal matter for every individual. It has nothing to do
with any other person. No other man can be instrumental in making you mentally and physically
strong and powerful. None can turn you from weak to powerful, unsuccessful to successful and
from nothing to everything. You yourself have the ability and potential of becoming everything
and anything.
In today’s materialistic world there is a rat race for achieving things at supersonic speed and
there is chaos all around, everyone is involved in some or the other problem which does not seem
to resolve. The sense of great dissatisfaction has set deep down to resolve. The sense of great
dissatisfaction has set deep down in our hearts. We wish to board more money, more comforts
and more and more luxuries as compared to other. This greed has overpowered us to such an
extent that we do not hesitate in fulfilling our desires even at the cost of spoiling and ruining our
relations with others. We are ready to do anything to make ourselves successful and capable.
Nothing thinking and negative approach leads to downfall whereas the result of positive
thinking, positive approach and good behavior is no less then a boon.

Today the progress/success of an individual is judged by his materialistic achievements.

Therefore, men adopt all fair and unfair means to attain materialistic components. It might be
important to attain to lead a luxurious and comfortable life but this does not necessarily make
you happy and successful. If we look around we can find many rich people and they did become
luxuries of life but they had a miserable and they did becomes wealthy but they were unable to
become good human beings.

People who are engaged in achieving materialistic things remain busy in developing only one
aspect of their personality. The result is that their entire personality becomes
imbalanced/controversial. Such people generally lack in striking a balance in totality, they lack
farsightedness and tolerance. For achieving these qualities everyone should utilize every possible
second of his/her life. Any man, who wants to attain the highest pinnacle of success in his life,
should meticulously work upon building a progressive and strong personality.

In the rapidly changing world and because of rise in new concepts each day new
values/opportunities have appeared in the fields of industries and management too. People whose
hearts are filled with human values, are blessed with special abilities and welcome new
possibilities in life, there is ample scope of progress for them. It is evident that if most of the
people working in any industry are able, experts and hard inspiring. For example, we can say that
if the raw material is good then the product is also expected to be good quality.

Due to the difference in capacities of the people engaged in same size of units, the result is quite
different. Uptill now it was believed that capital, raw material, and technical knowledge are the
basis of success of any industry, but now it has become evident that we can progress in the field
of automation with these things but we can not ignore human contribution in the organization
and smooth functioning in handwork, ability, behavioral excellence, enthusiasm and dedication
of its people.
Excellence means not only to excel in achieving material gains but to achieve success in other
fields of life as well and for this we must acquire such knowledge that may help us to achieve
these aims in the best, quickest and easiest way. Excellence means to have complete control over
our work hobbies, aims, habits, experiences and passions rather than become their slaves.

In other words excellence in personal behavior also refers to growth/development of character. In

his book ‘Self help’ Samuel! Ismail has termed character as the ‘crown’ and ‘pride’ of life. He
believes that the qualities of character are those precious pears and respect in society. The
qualities of character are even more powerful than wealth. According to John Gillen,
“Excellence is an ideal quality. It is due to these qualities only that society recognized the
importance of men.”

There are immense possibilities within you develop your personality with strong character. You
must recognize and understand them. The key to success is hidden within you. The wealth you
have earned is not important but what is important is the means you have adopted for acquiring
that wealth. Your personality, your capabilities, your thoughts and your ideals are all very
important in determining your character.

Once a person went to a sculptor how would he make the statue? He was simply hammering a
block of stone. The sculptor replied that statue can not be made, it has to be discovered by
breaking the non-useful stone and once the task is done the statue emerges.

The seeds of great personality are hidden in every individual. There is not need to make them.
You have just to unveil them. There is something that covers that goodness within us, we have to
remove this cover. So do not ignore or neglect this precious wealth of character that eventually
leads to development of your personality. There is a popular saying that generosity is the key to
success. The secret of life lies in giving not taking. The more your give the more you receiving
back with interest.

Amerson once said that the person who is always running after materialistic gains and comforts
will always be found sleeping. To discover your own personality is greater than inner potentials
existing within you is the best education in the world.

Saint Francis believed that it is because we give that we receive. A selfish/self centred man is
least self dependent and most sorrowful. He depends on others for fulfilling his own selfish
motives and therefore never achieves happiness.

Keep in mind

• Our management and resources should be independent otherwise our ability will
decrease.
• A person who believes in quick completion of his task may complete his task but he is
never satisfied. He remains unsatisfied due to lack of enterprise and tendency of lingering
on the work.
 • Many of us would have achieved more in life if we had been honest enough to accept our
mistakes and limitations.
• You can understand other people only if you love them and you have to pay its price by
suffering some losses.

Project Your Personality Through Good Behavior, By PK ARYA

What is personality after all? The outcome of ideas, beliefs and sentiments. Your character is
formation of whatever opinion you have about yourself. It is possible that nature has not
bestowed you with an impressive personality, but there is no doubt that you can make your
personality great by your good behavior.
We are always dependant on each other whether it be at home, in office or in business circle. We
are always in search of those qualities without which we find ourselves incomplete. We have to
learn these qualities from others. Therefore, we must develop an attitude to look after others. It is
a must for every individual to inculcate the feeling of friendship and togetherness. In the absence
of these qualities even the most competent and capable person will be a pigmy and his
personality will remain unimpressive.

A person who limits all his activities around his ‘self’ only, can never progress in live. If you
wish to be recognized as a learned and successful person in the world, you have to do away with
yourself, your ideas, your thought process to such an extent that the feeling of discrimination
between ‘mine and your’ vanishes. It can be a stage when you realize in your thought, action and
heart that the whole universe is one.

The man who is interested only in his own affairs and himself is never accepted by society. In
other words this type of person is deprived of the sympathy of others. Such a person can neither
exert any influence on society nor can his own personality be energetic and impressive. He casts
a negative influence on people around him and so nobody wants to remain associated with such a
person.

A person who is self centered and takes pride in self praise is isolated from society. Just as a
branch from the trees dries up in the same way if an individual refrains from society he too
become useless. His human qualities die, and his and support if he comes in contact with other
people.

This fact can be understood in the words of famous Britain poet Rudyard Kipling in this way-
“The strength of a wolf lies in his group,” character can not be developed in isolation. When we
mix up with people we learn many things from them and in turn teach them many things. We can
add to special attributes of our character only when we live among people. Just as a sharp stone
becomes blunt and takes proper shape when it hits the other stones in the current of river, in the
same way we can develop our innate qualities and capabilities when we can live in society and
meet other people.
People often face failures in friendship, in marriage, in business, in career, in dealing, in
employment just because they are unable to adjust with other people.
Good behavior and co-operation makes a man popular. As a result the possibilities of his
progress and success increasingly multiply. The feeling of help and gratitude towards others not
only adds to human qualities in a person but also increases his characteristic qualities.

Your success to a great extent depends on how you behave with others. It is rightly said that you
should behave with others as you expect others to behave with you. The behavior of a person
should be such that it spreads fragrance of love and affection all around so that tomorrow he too
may experience similar feeling of oneness and sympathy from others.
Generally man by nature loves to live in society with co-operation. He realizes the need of
family and society while moving on difficulty path of live. Man has to depend upon his
companions for survival. The feeling of co-operation makes a man competent. In his competence
lies his achievements and sense of satisfaction. The success of a person depends on the co-
operation of his fellow beings and his relation with then.

Another quality of man’s personality is his ability to arrack. This is related to the need and
necessity of his protection from others. It is only due to this reason that man faces difficulty in
co-operating with others. He can not tolerate if someone rebukes him or takes undue advantage
of him. He does not allow anyone to come near him. This means that he is jealous and doubtful.
All the mental obstructions can be overcome by inculcation the feeling of love and co-operation
for others.
Twenty centuries ago, Saint Paul wrote a letter to evil minded people, in which he tried to
explain a new point of view of love, He clarified through certain symbols that man can get rid of
his aggressiveness with the help of love and co-operation.

Love is tolerant, it is kind and it is not jealous of others. Love is neither proud not arrogant,
neither indecent not selfish, it does not easily get irritated. Love does not find with others. It does
not rejoice in others faults, but feels elevated with truth. Love does not fear anyone. There is no
limit of confidence, hope and tolerance which originates from love.

In every individual there is an inner desire and need for love. It is rightly said the love begats
love. That is why when a person loves someone he comes to know his own importance and
realizes that others also love and respect him. The need of love starts from childhood and
develops in the company of friends and passes through the experiences of married life.

Once a couple went to an orphanage, they liked a child after taking him home they wanted to
adopt him. They told the child that after taking him home they would give lots of things. Then
the child said that if they could not provide him anything more than a good house, cloths,
expensive toys the, he would rather prefer to stay on in the orphanage, Then the couple asked
him—“What else do you want?” then the child replied- “ I want that someone should love me.”

You will be held in high esteem if you have respect tolerance, cooperation and love for others.
So to achieve success in life we must always care for others. What is the hesitation in giving love
and respect? We are in fact giving something –not taking anything.
Just wake up and break the wall of separation and you will find that the whole universe is your
own.