TEST DE INTELIGENCIA EMOCIONAL

I panic when I have to face someone who is angry.

2. When I have a major personal problem, I cannot think about anything
else.
3. No matter how much I accomplish, I feel like I should be doing more.
4. I feel like I worry about things that other people don't even think
about.
5. I am ashamed about how I look or behave.
6. When I mess up, I say self-deprecating things, such as "I am such a
loser," "Stupid, stupid, stupid," or "I can't do anything right."
7. I get distressed without really knowing who or what exactly is
bothering me.
8. Even when I do my best, I feel guilty about the things that were not
done perfectly.
9. I feel uneasy in situations where I am expected to display affection.
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the time never
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10. I will do whatever I can to keep
myself from crying.
11. When people close to me experience a
setback, I can easily come up with
ways to help them overcome their
distress.
12. I have difficulty saying things like "I
love you," even when I really feel
those emotions.
13. I feel uncomfortable when I am
expected to console others.
14. I am bored.
15. I know exactly what to say to make
someone feel better.
16. I do my best even if there is nobody
around to see it.
17. I need a push from someone in order
to be motivated.
18. When I see someone I know, I am able
to pick up on what he or she is feeling
right away.
19. I have an urge to flee when someone
gets touchy-feely around me.

Strongly Agree Somewhat Disagree Strongly

agree agree/disagree disagree
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20. There are so many things wrong
with me that I simply cannot like
myself.
21. When someone I care about is sad,
I feel sad too.
22. Some people make me feel bad
about myself, no matter what I do.
23. I am skilled at reading people.
24. It is better to remain neutral and
detached towards a person until
you really get to know him or her.
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25. When I see something that I
want, I can hardly think of
anything else until I obtain it.
26. When I’ve been humiliated, I
still feel ashamed or
embarrassed weeks after the
incident.
27. Everything I try to do ultimately
ends in failure.
28. I am not satisfied with my work
unless someone else praises it.
29. I feel uncomfortable hugging
someone who isn’t a close
family member.
30. People who are overtly
emotional make me
uncomfortable.

Quite Often Sometimes Rarely Almost

Often Never
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31. I say things that I later regret.
32. I run into obstacles that keep me from
reaching my goals.
33. I overreact to minor problems.
34. What do you think Ellen was most likely feeling at the moment this picture was
taken? (Ellen is the woman in the pink shirt)

Bored
Hopeful
Stressed
Terrified
Shocked
Cannot be determined/none of the above
I don’t know

35. What do you think Stacy was most likely feeling at the moment this picture was
taken? (Stacy is the woman in the red shirt)

Disgusted
Excited
Sad
Happy
Neutral
Cannot be determined/none of the above
I don’t know

36. What do you think Steve was most likely feeling at the moment this picture was
taken? (Steve is the young man in the red shirt)

Neutral
Sad
Amused
Curious
Joyful
Cannot be determined/none of the above
47. What do you think Aisha was most likely feeling at the moment this picture was
taken? (Aisha is the woman in the red and purple patterned dress)

Patient
Bored
Sad
Excited
Relaxed
Cannot be determined/none of the above
I don’t know

48. What do you think Claudette was most likely feeling at the moment this picture
was taken? (Claudette is the woman in the bright blue dress)

Happy
Angry
Excited
Hopeful
Worried
Cannot be determined/none of the above
I don’t know

49. What do you think Serena was most likely feeling at the moment this picture was
taken? (Serena is the woman in the blue and black dress)

Angry
Aisha wants to make things right with her two friends. Rate the following things that she
can do to resolve the argument with Serena and Erika in terms of effectiveness.

Totally
Totally
ineffectiv
effective
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53. Act like everything is normal
and hope that her friends follow
her lead.
54. Bring up the issue, apologize
and hope her friends apologize
too.
55. Leave them alone until
everyone has cooled down a bit.
56. Tell them exactly what it is
about them as people that
bothers her, and ask them to
share the same information.
57. Tell them exactly what they
have done to bother her, and ask
them to share the same
information, and then try to find
a solution.
58. What do you think Claire was most likely feeling at the moment this picture was
taken? (Claire is the young woman)

Disappointed
Embarrassed
Joyful
Relieved
Surprised
Cannot be determined/none of the above
I don’t know

59. What do you think Emma was most likely feeling at the moment this picture was
taken? (Emma is the older woman)

Confused
Lonely
Grateful
Happy
Bittersweet
Cannot be determined/none of the above
I don’t know

60. What do you think Joe was most likely feeling at the moment this picture was
taken? (Joe is the man)

Proud
Stressed
Ashamed
Relaxed
Indifferent
Cannot be determined/none of the above
I don’t know
Joe understands that his daughter has made the decision to get married, and the wedding is
over, so he just has to accept that she is now married to this man. Rate the following ways
of overcoming his emotions in an appropriate manner in terms of how effective they would
be.

Totally
Totally
ineffectiv
effective
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64. Keep to himself, avoiding
fellow guests and especially the
groom.
65. Try to get to know the groom’s
family a little bit more, to better
understand where he comes
from.
66. Take the groom aside to share
his concerns.
67. Get drunk so he can forget
about his worries.
68. Enjoy the day as much as
possible, and do all the typical
things people do on wedding
days.
69. Talk to a trusted friend about his
concerns.
70. What do you think Beverly was most likely feeling at the moment this picture was
taken? (Beverly is the young woman)

Angry
Happy
Nervous
Love
Worried
Cannot be determined/none of the above
I don’t know

71. What do you think Samuel was most likely feeling at the moment this picture was
taken? (Samuel is the man)

Neutral
Happy
Amused
Worried
Curious
Cannot be determined/none of the above
I don’t know

72. Imagine that this couple is on a blind date. They’ve been having an ok time, but
Beverly feels that now Samuel is coming on a little too strong, and is being a little
too forward. Knowing this, and seeing her expression, she was most likely feeling
which one of the following emotions?

Furious
Happy
What’s the best way for the two of them to get over this uncomfortable moment and move
on? Assume that both parties still want things to work out between them. Rate each of the
following options in terms of effectiveness.

Totally
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74. She should force herself to go
along with what he wants.
75. Both of them should speak up
about what they are comfortable
with.
76. He should go along with what
she wants.
77. They should just forget about
dating, it’s obviously not going
to work out.
78. They should talk about their
past relationships so each of
them can understand where the
other is coming from.
79. She should tell him to back off
and then go on as they were
before he started coming on too
strong.
80. I have ________confidence in my abilities.

no
little
some
a lot of
complete

81. For me, it is best:

not to set goals at all and just go with the flow.

to set goals that are a piece of cake to reach.
to set goals that are challenging, yet still possible to achieve.
to set goals that are so challenging that they are very difficult to achieve.
to set goals that are practically impossible to achieve.

82. I am most motivated when I:

picture the worst possible outcome and then do my best to avoid it.
picture the best possible outcome and then do my best to achieve it.
picture the expected outcome and then do my best to achieve it.
picture the acceptable outcome and then do my best to achieve it.
ignore all possible outcomes and just do what needs to be done.

83. I talk about my most intimate issues with just about anybody, anytime, under any
circumstances.

Exactly right. I am willing and able to share just about anything.

It depends; I share and discuss my intimate issues with some people, but there are a
few circumstances where it can be inappropriate.
It depends; I share and discuss my intimate issues with some people, but in most
circumstances, it is inappropriate.
No way. Intimate issues should not be discussed with anybody except for the
closest family members or friends.
No way. People should deal with intimate issues by themselves.

84. If I had a major problem that I’d been struggling with for a long time (i.e., more
than a month), I would:

deal with it by myself.

consult friends or family members for advice and support.
consult my therapist or counselor for advice and support.
submerge myself in unrelated things to distract myself.
try to forget about it.
85. Which of the statements below describes you best?

I am unable to make acquaintances or friends.

It is very difficult for me to make new friends and acquaintances.
I make acquaintances with some difficulty and it takes even more time to make a
really good friend.
I make acquaintances easily but it takes some time to make a really good friend.
I make acquaintances and friends easily.

86. Speaking out about negative emotions is:

always healthy, regardless of the circumstances.

generally healthy, but inappropriate in some circumstances.
generally unhealthy, but necessary in some circumstances.
always unhealthy, regardless of the circumstances.

87. Temperature-wise, rage can best be described as…

Frigid
Chilly
Luke warm
Hot
Scalding
I don’t know

88. If one had to compare happiness to a weather condition, it would most likely be
called…

Stormy
Cloudy
Snowy
Variable
Sunny
I don’t know

89. In western culture, the color blue is most closely associated with…

Excitement, curiosity
Hopefulness, relief
Security, stability
Fatigue, frustration
Calm, tranquility
I don’t know
91. Which feelings would most likely be present in elementary-age children on their
first day back to school?

Sadness, excitement
Surprise, nervousness
Anger, shock
Disgust, disappointment
Nervousness, excitement
I don’t know

92. Which emotion would most likely arise in a physician who is about to testify in
court on his or her own behalf in a malpractice suit (the doctor inadvertently
administered the wrong medicine to a patient, causing permanent damage)?

Nervousness
Surprise
Frustration
Anger
Excitement
I don’t know

93. Which state of mind would be best for someone who is about to testify on his or
her own behalf in a trial?

Pride
Worry
Calm
Alarm
Frustration
I don’t know

94. When is the best time to bring up a sensitive topic that often causes arguments
with a loved-one? When he or she is feeling…

Stressed
Relaxed
Joyful
Excited
Angry
I don’t know

95. If there’s a sensitive topic that often causes arguments between you and a loved-
one, when is the best time to bring up? When you are feeling…