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Living as a fraud is exhausting. It’s exhausting to your mind, body and soul. It seemed like
people asked me most about my faith when I kept it a secret. My father taught me how to reply:
“What do you say when someone asks what is your religion?” asked my dad.
“That there is no god but God,” I replied.
“Nooooo,” with his elongated gasp of disapproval, “you say that you are seeking the truth.”
Strangely enough, inside our house, the opposite was happening. With persecutions of Muslim-
Americans at an all-time high, my father pushed our family to learn more about our faith. My
parents never missed a single day of prayer. I would wake up in the middle of the night and go
downstairs for a glass of water only to hear the booming voice of the Qu’ran over our Bose
stereo. My parents started playing it on a loop to protect us from any hardship or “evil,” and they
still do it to this day.
But hiding like this comes at a great cost. I didn’t have close friends, because I feared discovery
and didn’t think anyone could ever understand. Elementary school had taught me the cost of
exposure. I could not trust anyone with my deepest, darkest secret.
I was a freshman in college when I first came close to being discovered. My friends and I were
about to order late-night pizza.
"Hey Sarah, you want a slice of pepperoni?" said my friend.
"Nah, I'm good. Thanks, though," I said.
"Wait, you don't eat pork?" he asked.
I tried to cover my tracks. "Nah, I just don't like it.”
"Wait, are you a Muslim?"
I panicked. I didn't know what to do. Should I finally embrace it? Would I lose my friends over
this? Why can't I just let it go? All those thoughts were rushing through my head. Luckily, the
conversation was hijacked by some loud drunk running through the hallways. Crisis averted.
Fast-forward to the summer of 2013 when I had a journalism internship in Washington D.C. I
was excited to be working in the same city as the White House, amid the action of the nation's
capital. And it was going great, until I realized the journalism industry wasn't exempt from
outdated bigotry. We were discussing a potential story about the rise of Mormonism one day,
and I was alarmed to hear the typical uneducated jokes from staffers about polygamy and
bountiful offspring. I was trying to set the record straight, when someone mentioned Islam.
Another intern looked right at me and said, "Well, I would rather Muslims didn't reproduce."
That wasn’t the only time. When discussions came up about social justice and the Middle East, I
often heard that old toss-off -- "Oh, Muslims cause all the problems in the world.” It made me so
uncomfortable; I never went to parties or social events hosted by the publication.
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Meanwhile, I began to feel like more of a coward for failing to embrace who I was. My family
told me to hush and stay quiet when bigotry or false claims about Muslims were made. But I
couldn't anymore – it was no longer my nature to keep silent.
For the longest time, I was thankful for my multi-ethnic background and Japanese-like physical
appearance – no one would assume I was a Muslim. It allowed me to “pass.” And it kept me
shielded from frightened stares and airport security checkpoint probes. But my freedom from
direct discrimination was starting to make me hate myself.
Looking in the mirror, I had grown sick of my long round face, small plump lips and slightly
slanted eyes. I was disgusted by my Mediterranean golden skin tone, the light features that set
me apart from the stereotypical Muslim. I hated how I had allowed my thick black locks to flow
freely, never eliciting flashes of anger from a stranger, because I hid my faith by exposing my
hair.
I was a cop-out, a sell-out. I became depressed and angry at myself – I still am – for staying
silent while I watched these injustices occur before me and felt only relief to have escaped
consequence. I never gave consideration to those who were brave enough to embrace their own
Muslim identity.
Hiding your identity erases your most cherished memories – as if it’s forbidden or dangerous to
remember a time when you were free to express who you truly were as an individual. Hiding my
identity made me hate myself and made me feel like an example of all that is wrong with the
world. I had run away from my true self.
One day, I sat on a bus stop in front of the Department of Homeland Security in Washington,
D.C. A Muslim woman wearing a hijab sat right next to me, and I felt ashamed. This woman was
a true rebel, fighting against the injustices of society simply by wearing a headscarf that displays
her love for Islam and Allah. And here I was, scared of my own identity. I couldn’t do it
anymore.
So last November, I came out of my Islamic closet via Facebook. I was tired of hearing criticism
about Muslim-Americans within my friend circle. The accusations that all Muslim women are
oppressed and that they ought to be liberated from their hijab outraged me. The ongoing raids
and wiretappings at mosques made me fearful for the elimination of our liberties and freedom of
religion. The continued injustices against Muslim-Americans by the Transportation Security
Administration goes on every single day, and I have said nothing. The cowardice that steered 12
years of my life could not let me sleep at night.
I was disappointed by a few friends’ reactions. One raised his eyebrows in a way that expressed
his silent disapproval. Another said, “It’s OK. You assimilate, so you’re a cool Muslim,” as if the
millions of other Muslims in the world aren't "cool,” because they choose to remain faithful to
their religion.
But I had so many friends who were kind and understanding. They didn't think any differently of
me. And those are the friendships that remain true.
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And so now, I am proud to say that my name is Sarah. The name I carry is the name of
Abraham's first wife and the mother of Isaac – the descendent of the Hebrews. I am so blessed to
be able to say that Islam is my religion and that the Qu'ran is my conscience. Therefore, I am
proud to stand up tall and to say loud and clear that I bear witness that there is no god but God –
And I bear witness that Prophet Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah.
Salaam Alaikum – May peace be with you.
Reference: https://www.salon.com/2014/03/23/confessions_of_a_secret_muslim/