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1 Success
Session Summary
I. Human Endowments
A human being has three capacities or endowments, namely, (i) self consciousness,
(ii) capacity to learn and grow, and (iii) capacity to make judgments about self and
others.
II. The ideal I – the real I and my expectations
Each one of us has an ideal about our own self as to how I should b e.
I have certain expectations of my own self. When I make judgments
about myself, I do so based on the frame of reference which is my
ideal I.
III. Success in individual lives
We typically associate success wit h one or many of t hese things -
wealth, name, fame, power - t hese are usually called success and
therefore I want to possess wealt h, name, fame, power.
IV. Means and ends and success
It is v ery import ant to und erst and what are means and what is the
end. Any kind of achiev ement (wealth, name, fame) are the means,
whereas t he end is t o be happy, pleased and satisfied wit h myself.
V. Expectations and their management
I hav e many expect ations of myself and when I liv e up to my own
expectations, then I am happy. Normally, we are seeking approval of
the world; our parents or eld ers; our b oss; our t eachers or somebody
else whom we consider import ant in our life. When an important
person approv es of you then we feel comfortable, sat isfied wit h
ourselv es.
VI. Two dimensions of success
The objectiv e dimension of success is what I h ave, what I achiev e
which means wealt h, name, fame, power, recognition. The subjectiv e
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You hav e to work hard to create t hat object ive dimension of success
which is wealt h, name, fame, recog nition. Also understand that to get
the subjectiv e dimension you need to creat e a capacity to enjoy and
for this also you hav e to work hard and make efforts.
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If you b ring the right attitu de and values in your life, work,
relationships, in all aspects of life, then you can consciously cultiv ate
the mind which enjoys emot ional maturit y.
XIV. Can mind be changed?
We can chang e our mind and we hav e t o change in order t o get t he
subjectiv e dimension of your success or disposition of mind which we
call an emotionally matured mind.
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Session Transcript
I Human Endowments
1. We commence our d iscussion, our st udy . The top ic of this morning ’s
discussion is ‘Success’ Success is the most important thing for human
being.
3. See, this is very imp ortant. What we seek to communicat e with you is,
to be able to help y ou to perform your t ask more effect ively – task as
a manag er; t ask as a leader. Whatev er task you are app oint ed to do in
your life to b e able t o perform that task effectiv ely and secondly to b e
a happy or a successful p erson therefore, what we plan t o discuss
during these three days is most relevant to you. We will not talk of
hypothetical things, acad emic things, we will simply talk of what is
most practical for us. What we need to know in ord er to be effectiv e
and happy too.
4. So, we were saying that human b eing is a self-conscious b eing a
very important trait. Secondly, we possess an int ellect which is a
learning capacity to learn and when I say this, as an illustration
applies in ot her forms of life such as animals, such as t here are
insects or creat ures, such as plants or fields that they hav e some
cap acity t o learn but no capacity to g row. We have t he cap acity to
learn and grow. What do you mean by grow? To become g reat er
than what I am; big ger than what I am; there is capacity to learn;
cap acity to g row; capacity to make prog ress. These capacit ies we
have. Very import ant capacities, all of these show t hat human
being is a most ev olved creature. So, self-consciousness; the
intellect where the capacity is there to learn and thirdly, the
capacity to judge; make decisions. Intellect is a judging faculty
therefore we say that we all will hav e a judgment about whatev er
we come across.
5. Whatev er you come across, first thing is make a judg ment . You
come across a p erson, first t hing your mind does is make a
judgment, oh, t his fellow is friendly; oh, watch out, he is not
friendly , he look s like my adv ersary; looks like good p erson;
doesn’t look like good person, what ever. Some kind of jud gment
the mind should make about anybody or anyt hing that I come
across and then alone I can decid e how to deal with that person;
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minute, here, supp ose you hav e gone out, for certain p roject,
normally when you wake up you wak e up in y our bed here in your
dormitory or in host el or wherev er you are stay ing but it ’s p ossible
that you will hav e d ifferent p hases. I am in Khand ala, very good.
The first conscious of myself t hen conscious of environment then
conscious of what my role is and then I start doing what is
required. Hey, wait a minute I am in a Shibir. Oh, time is 7 O’clock
or it is 6:30, I jump , get ready. So, first, what I am conscious of
first t hing s is conscious of myself. So, each one of us is conscious
of ourselv es and therefore we hav e a judgment about ourselves,
you follow?
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11. So, und erst and that we have exp ect ations of our own self.
That is what we call an ideal I. Who is an ideal I? A successful
I; an effectiv e I; a good I; a kind I; a caring, kind, loving person,
a good person, this is what I expect of myself and t hen what ever I
find myself I comp are with that and then come to a judgment
whet her I am g ood or I am not g ood . I am successful or not
successful. Thus, I have an ideal I, wit h reference to which I keep
on judging myself as I am and t hen come to a judg ment about my
own self. Thus, each one of us has opinions or judgment s about
ourselv es which we call comp lexes. E ach one of us has many
complexes about ourselv es. One complex can b e I think that I am
not alright. I t hink that I am wond erful. I think that I am
successful. I think t hat I am a failure. I think that I am not smart.
I think that I am intelligent. One or the other judg ment we are
bound to hav e. There is no choice.
12. This is all t he nature of int ellect is. E ach one of us has a
judgment about ourselv es. We hav e an expectat ion about
ourselv es. What’s the expectation? Let us say that I should be a
successful p erson. Each one of us loves success. We cannot
accept failure. We should not accept it also but our mind cannot
accept failure. We want to be successful people. Each one of us
want s success that is the g oal of life. Su ccess is the goal o f life.
Accept. You may ask me, what do you mean by success? Each
one of us wants to be a successful p erson. You ask a question,
what do you mean by success? May b e, it may b e hard to get a
clear id ea. Oh, Swamiji, I want to b e Bill Gat es. I want t o be a
billionaire. T hat ’s t he id ea of success. I want to be a Naray an
Murthy, want to b e an effective administrator, effectiv e manag er,
effectiv e CEO.
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Somet hing or the ot her. You may not have thoug ht of this b ut I am
just putt ing the id ea before you. So, wh at is mean t by suc cess?
When you say I want to be a successful person, what you want t o
be? Do you want to be a wealt hy person? Is it called a successful
person? You want to be a famous person? You want name and fame
is it called a successful person? You want to have position of
power. So, possessing power satta is that a successful person?
These are usually the id eas of success. So, we associate success
with one or many of these t hings - weal th, name, fame, po wer -
these are usually called success and therefore I want to possess
wealth, name, fame, power. T his is a vague id ea I hav e of success.
Granted. This is success. So, for the time being we accept this is
the id ea of a successful person. So, we like it. So, we would like to
explore the id ea of success a little bit that can you say that a
billionaire, a very wealthy person is necessarily a successful
person? Can you say that a prime minister is necessarily a
successful person or ev en t he Presid ent of United Stat es which is
the hig hest position anybody can have on this earth is he
necessarily a successful person?
14. Would you say that achieving a cert ain goal or being in a
certain position, is it in by it self success? Or is the success meant
to accomplish – is it a means or to the end? Being a CEO is it a
means or end? Being a billionaire is it a means or an end? Being
prime minister is that a means or end? You see the diffe rence
between means and end? End is the goal you want to reach.
Means is that by which you reach. The thing is being well-
being, b eing well known, being powerful etc. are these means or
ends? Is it an end by itself? Is being wealthy is an end b y itself?
Or is the wealt h meant to be a means for somet hing else? Are you
seek ing wealt h for t he sak e of wealt h or for the sak e of something
else. You are seeking wealth for the sak e of wealth, it is called the
end. You are seeking wealth for something else it is called the
means. You understand?
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16. I am not happy with myself; not satisfied wit h myself until I
reach the goal which I have set for myself. Therefore, t hat g oal, of
what ever, let’s say b ecoming a billionaire, let that goal becoming a
CEO, is t hat goal a means or end. Is it not that you are seeking
somet hing throug h that goal; is it not that you are seek ing
satisfaction with yourself t hrough that goal is it not so? When I
become a CEO I will be sat isfied wit h my self. Happy wit h my self. Is
it not so? Do you just want a millio n dollars for the sake of
million dollars or because you expect to be a happy person
as a resul t of g ain ing that million do llar? Do you want t o be a
CEO for the sak e of being a CEO or is it that you will be a happy
person when you become a CEO. If somebody told you that
becoming a CEO means becoming a miserab le p erson, would you
want to be one? If somebody told you that becoming a millionaire
means all worries and anxiet ies, etc. suppose, would you want t o
be one? Would you want to b e an unid entified person as a result of
reaching a certain g oal or would you want to be a famous p erson
as a result of reaching cert ain goal? You not only want to reach the
goal, you also want to be a happy person, is it not t rue? Then can
you not say, would you not say t hat reaching that goal is a means
not an end. What ’s end? End is to be a happy person, to be
pleased with myself. Understand this very clearly. It is very
import ant you understand t his. T hat ’s t he reason why I want to be
such and such is I expect t hat by b ecoming t hat I will b e p leased
with myself. I will be happy wit h my self. I will b e satisfied wit h
myself.
17. I will be ab le to meet wit h my own expectations with myself.
I have an expectat ion of my self. I think that by b ecoming that I
will b e able to meet with my own expectation therefore I will be
pleased with myself. You und erst and this that any ki nd of
achievement is no t the end it is a m eans. What’s the end that
I am seeking thro ugh this means, I want to be please d with
myself. That is the end to reach and be pleased and that ’s t he
reason why d ifferent people value different things. It ’s not that
everybody cares to be a wealt hy person. Some would care t o be a
great scientist, somebody would care t o be a g reat researcher,
somebody wants to be a more innov ativ e person, somebody , you
know, wants to be a public servant; somebody want s a position of
power. Everyone will have different id eas on what they want to be.
Why is t his so? Because they think t hat by becoming that, I will b e
a pleased p erson. Even pub lic serv ant also wants to be hap py by
serving public, doesn’t want to be miserab le by doing t hat. The
reason why we drop many goals it’s b ecause I finds that in the
process of achiev ing that goal I become more miserable than what
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I, I drop it. So, underst and t hat the end that you are seeking
behind all the pu rsuits is to be a happy person, to be a
pleased person.
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21. You are traveling by a t rain from M umbai to Delhi, let us say
you are in first class air cond itioned compartment b ut then it is still
a means of reaching your dest ination. No, Swamiji I am so happy
with t he train, it is a very comfort able train I am happy here itself,
I don’t want to leav e that train. You won’t. When the dest ination
comes you leav e the train b ecause you k now the train has st opped.
But suppose the train itself becomes an end and therefore you just
want to cont inue to live in the train itself, it becomes miserable to
exist. So, understand the difference between means an d end.
The world does not underst and t his d ifference. What is a means is
looked upon as an end not realizing t hat means is something else
therefore it is not uncommon to find very successful p eople being
very miserable in their personal life. Have you ev er known t his?
Have you seen or heard of many successful people going t hroug h
divorces, going through separation wit h the families, going t hroug h
depression, commit ting suicid e, what ever. Otherwise a very
successful p erson b y the dimensional standards of the world but
otherwise not successful p erson by his own accept ance or by his
own d efinitions, he is a very unhappy p erson.
23. A rich person may not have very healt hy relat ions wit h his
friends, may not b e able to focus his mind, may not be able to
enjoy what he has, you follow? So, billion dollars is nice to have,
we should b e able to enjoy t hat, is it not so? Nice to have a family
but you should be able to enjoy with t he family. Nice to have a
child but you should be able to enjoy with the child. Let me take
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for grant ed that you will enjoy somet hing that you have. Can it be
necessary that enjoy what I have. No. I req uire something within
myself to enjoy what I have, a cap acity to enjoy. To be a happy
person or a successful person or a pl eased person whatever
I do I need the means such as weal th, such as power, such
as posi tion, such as recognition that I require, let us say.
Also the capacity to enjoy all those things. Is it not so?
24. Is t hat uncommon t hat you hav e planned to go out for a
movie with your friend? These three fellows are going to watch a
movie, what ev er, 3 Idiots, some mov ie they are going to watch.
Behind a rickshaw I read you k now, capacity – 3 Idiots, that has
become I g uess so famous or lik e any movie. You had been
planning, you had p urchased t he t ick ets 15 day s in advance and
then you are looking forward to this t ime with your friends. While
on the way the friends are t alking to each other sometimes p eople
have hab it you k now of making jok es or cutting off somebody or
getting fun at t he cost somebody, not uncommon. Even among
friends also we p ull each others’ leg s and have fun at t he cost o f
other person, not uncommon. Somet imes we g et joy out of
humiliating somebod y in front of ot hers, you k now, some k ind of
cruelty we hav e, whatev er it is. Thus, we hav e that kind of fun
also. Suppose while these friend s are g oing to t he movie, on the
way, somebody made some remarks and ot her p erson’s feelings
were hurt. We don’t realize t hat when we humiliat e others at the
end their feeling s are hurt. Sometimes you go out of boundaries.
As long as you are within the bound ary, it is okay, sometimes.
Suppose, on the way to going for a mov ie, somebody mad e remarks
because of which somebody ’s feelings are hurt, he is hurt. Now, I
go to the movie with the hurt mind, y ou think I can enjoy that
movie? To enjoy the movie, I should wat ch the movie of course, at
the same time I should have such a mind, is it not so? I should
have that mind that I enjoy t he movie feel free from all other
concerns. You know sitting in the movie theat re and watching
movie, you are concerned about tomorrow’s report, I hav e to write
that, you know there is a dead -line there and this should be done
and that should be or a new assig nment is there all those concerns
are there; the worries and anxieties are there; you think you can
enjoy t hat t hing?
25. So, we should not take it for g rant ed that enjoyment will
happ en automatically when an enjoy able object is t here we cannot
take it for grant ed, can we? An enjoyab le thing is nice to have at
the same time you also need to have a frame of mind which we call
the capacity to enjoy and therefore success has t wo dimensions, an
objective dimension and a subjectiv e dimension. You have to
work hard to create that objective d imension to get wealth,
to get name, fame , recognition you have to work of c ourse
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possible that you can enjoy your work? Is it possible that y ou can
enjoy y our relationships? You don’t need thing s. You have enough
things to enjoy, whatever you hav e. Enjoy your studies right now,
let ’s say. Enjoy the work. Enjoy the people around you. Enjoy your
family. Enjoy t he p lace where you are living.
XI Instruments of enjoyment
31. When you are not open minded, you are not generous,
when you are selfish, narrow minded, intolerant, that’s the
mind which makes you miserable. Understand that ev en when
you think that you are experiencing a movie, you are act ually
experiencing your mind. When you are experiencing food, y ou are
experiencing your mind because that movie exp erience should also
come to my mind and then I exp erience it. For any experience to
take place, that object of exp erience must first of all b ecome the
object of my mind. You know, for example, here is a flower. I
experience a flower. When do I experience a flower? When this
flower becomes a t hought of my mind. Suppose a flower is t here, I
am not look ing at it meaning that I am not conscious of the flower
at that t ime, I cannot experience flower. I experience something
when I become conscious of t hat. So, also, y ou can experience a
movie when you become conscious of a movie. You experience
anything when you become conscious of that. So, actually, even
when I t hink t hat I am enjoying flower even I am enjoying, I am
enjoy ing a stat e of my mind which has tak en t he form of the
flower.
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32. When there is another object, my mind keeps t hink ing of this
object. If t he mind does not t ake the form I do not experience
even if the thing is in front of me. Sometimes you are walk ing in
your own park in the ev ening, your friend says, hey, what kind of
fellow you are, I just walked by you did n’t ev en look at me. I am
sorry, my mind was elsewhere, it was preoccupied, I d id not see
you. It is possib le t hat you may not see what is in front of you if
your mind is elsewhere. So, when can you experience something?
When the mind is with it. Und erst and that you are actually
experiencing your mind when you t hink t hat you are experiencing a
person or an object or anyt hing. So, t hat is why, that alone is not
enough. Your mi nd is a mediu m through which you
experience. Therefore it is import ant that mind should enjoy a
certain disposition so that you can enjoy somet hing.
33. That disp osition is called emotional mat urity and it does not
take p lace automatically, you have to w ork hard to create that
emotionally matured mind. To be a kind person, you work hard;
to be a charitab le p erson you have to work hard, to be a truthful,
honest p erson, you hav e to work. Why? Because unfort unately
mind has tendencies which are opposit e to that. Selfishness is
more common t han selflessness. Being narrow mind ed is more
common t han b eing generous or charit ab le or b eing large hearted.
Is it not so? You can perhap s count honest people on your fingers,
to count dishonest p eople our fingers are not enough. T hese t hings
are not common, to be honest, to b e charitable, to be k ind , to be
giving, to b e forgiving, to be accept ing, t o be resp ecting ot hers are
not common thing. You hav e to cult ivat e it.
34. And for that you must liv e your life in a cert ain way. What
life you are liv ing is not import ant, whatev er you are doing but
there is a cert ain att itude t hat you should have, certain values that
you entertain and thus if you b ring t hose attitudes in you r life,
in your work, in your relat ionships. Life is what you do and what
you relat e to, in your work, in your relationship in all asp ects of
life to b ring those attitud es and values then you can consciously
cult ivat e the mind which enjoys emot ional maturity. So, t hus, we
come to living a life of right value or right attitude.
Somet imes a q uest ion is ask ed, Swamiji, can we change our mind?
Looks lik e you cannot. Looks lik e peop le don’t chang e.
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