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WHAT IS ASSERTIVENESS?
Continuous optimism
General enthusiasm
High self esteem.
ASSERTIVENESS IS NOT:
Aggressive behaviour
Pride or show-off
Interference
Rudeness and stubbornness
Exceeding authority
Breaking rules
NEGATIVE ASSERTIVENESS
Unfounded over-confidence
Initiative in the wrong direction
Willingness to dominate others
Selfishness
Too much unproductive talk
Undermining group effort
Boasting.
Discrepancy assertiveness
Expresses dissatisfaction with failures to achieve plans or
deviation from plans
Negative feelings assertiveness
The person is able to tell a colleague of the undesirable
effect his/her (the colleague’s) behaviour is having on
him/her.
E.g.. Drinking, smoking, late return home etc.
Consequence assertiveness
Is expressed in the ability to openly tell a person of the
negative outcome of his deeds.
E.g. overspeeding
Taking drugs
Disregarding rules.
Responsive assertiveness
Exercisable when negotiating the best action for two parties.
One party finding out what the other party needs through
opinions, feelings or position on a subject.
Refusing requests
Keep the reply short
Tell the truth
Acknowledge the requester
Emphasise with body language.
Giving praise
Maintain eye contact
Keep praise brief and clear
Make it specific
Use ‘I’ statements
Receiving praise
Keep your response short
Thank the giver
If praise is wrong, say THANK YOU then disagree.
Giving criticism
Be specific
Seek response to your contribution
Ask for suggestions for change.
Receiving criticism
Ask if you don’t understand
Don’t take criticism as personal
Keep voice at normal level
Maintain eye contact
Disagree politely.