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Motherhood,
through a daughter’s eyes
My mother was only 9
years old in early December
1941 when she slipped into
the old Colonial Theater on
North Queen Street to see a
Sunday matinee with friends.
When she returned home,
my grandmother had grim
news: The Japanese bombed
Pearl Harbor. Immediately,
Mom convinced herself she
was personally responsible for
the event that catapulted the
United States into World War II.
Mom was in agony because
her church forbade theater-
going on a Sunday. Her young
mind reasoned that God’s wrath
descended on the Hawaiian naval
base because she dared to see
Bing Crosby and Mary Martin
sing their way through “Birth
of the Blues’’ on the Sabbath.
It was hard for my mom
to shake the guilt and, 70
years later, the incident
remains a vivid memory.
In many ways, the story
underscores all that has helped
my mom to soar, and to sputter,
over a lifetime that turns 79
July 4. She is a selfless woman
of faith. A nurse and a pastor’s
wife, she left her Lancaster
County home to build a future
with my dad in the Midwest.
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Hers has been a life of hard
work, Mom only finding time to
catch her breath in retirement.
People have always
gravitated toward my mother
because she is a kind and caring
listener who would do almost
anything for anyone. But her
self-sacrificing spirit and sense
of unworthiness have forever
enveloped her, each threatening
to put Mom in an early grave.
“Most everything in this
world is done by tired people,’’
a sign in our kitchen read.
Mom knew that firsthand. After
working a 3-11 hospital shift,
she’d drag herself out of bed
early on a Sunday morning to
start the pot roast and bake an
apple pie. Then she’d ready our
family for church and Sunday
school. All morning, she tended
to parishioners, some as kind as
others were demanding. Either
way, she’d respond with grace
and a smile. She was a multitasker
before we’d coined the word.
Exhausted, she’d preside
over Sunday dinner and then
head upstairs to get back into
her uniform and head for the
hospital. But motherhood,
nursing and ministry didn’t keep
her from serving as YWCA board
president or Community Chest
Lancaster, P a.
Barbara Hough Roda
volunteer. She’d easily change
her plans to rush to the side of
a church member with a medical
or personal emergency. She was
quick to direct the Christmas
musical or put another plate on
the table when someone hurting
or homeless knocked on our door.
Mom still sees the good
in people, even those who
don’t deserve it. I remember
complaining about a relentless
school bully when I was in fifth
grade, and she’d say: “Don’t
forget. She has a mother who Cesarina Peguero, a student at Buchanan Elementary
loves her.” Really, Mom? Really? School, tries to stay warm at a wreath-laying ceremony at the
Mom won’t succumb to tomb of President James Buchanan. The 220th anniversary
of President Buchanan’s birth was commemorated April
profane language; only ignorant 16 with the annual placing of the White House wreath in
people do that, she’d say. But Woodward Hill Cemetery in Lancaster.
when exasperated by my brother, Photo by Vinny Tennis
a fairly frequent occurrence
during our childhood, she’d medical conditions, my mom confidence that confound me.
warn: “You’re going to make me walks with difficulty. Yet she I see her as perfectly perfect. I
swear.’’ If she made good on the still pushes forward, and will try to glean from her example
threat, we might hear a “darn.’’ In do it at a clip if she’s headed all that will make me a better
later years, my brother would just to a restaurant for breakfast. woman, and a super mom. If only
pick her up and carry her around She’s become surprisingly she could see in herself what’s
the kitchen until everyone keeled candid with age, a welcome been so clearly evident to the
over in laughter, Mom included. development that I wish had rest of us. Maybe she will now.
Mom still uses the word happened 40 years ago. Perhaps
“shushie’’ to keep us quiet. then, so many people wouldn’t Barbara Hough Roda is
She’s yet to find a chocolate have wiped their feet on her mom to Faith and managing
she can resist. She loves to goodness. And maybe she’d editor of the Sunday News.
take naps. Housekeeping will have been less critical of herself. Contact her at 481-7335 or
never be her thing, but hugs are Mom still struggles with broda@lnpnews.com. Check
definitely her domain. She’s a low self-esteem and a lack of out her blog at LancMoms.com.
loyal friend and a consummate
grammarian. She’s regarded as
a gracious and generous hostess.
Rare are movies like “The
Sound of Music’’ and “Mary
Poppins’’ that pass her strict
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Mom of the Month
Tracey Weller
By Maureen Leader
Special Features Writer
Have a conversation with
Tracey Weller and any woman
with any kind of mothering
experience would be tempted to
just give her a big hug and tell
her everything is going to be
fine. Just fine.
Weller is mother to two-year-
old daughter Sydney, and 12-
day-old baby Carter. She has all
the same worries and fears many
mothers do while pregnant with a
second child: How will I manage
with two small children? Will I
have enough time for both of
them? How will they get along?
What about my job? How will
I be able to juggle everything?
Will I be able to love them both
equally?
If Weller thinks about it too
long she can get a little weepy …
like we all do when we are nine
months pregnant… but when
Weller speaks about her fears, it
isn’t just the hormones talking.
Weller knows firsthand exactly
what she is talking about. She
knows personally how high the
stakes are.
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Weller is Assistant Vice
Principal at Warwick High School
in Lititz. And she is exactly the
type of person everyone wants at
their child’s school.
Education is in Weller’s
blood. Literally. She is a fourth
generation teacher. She loves
education … she loves the kids.
She has been a teacher for 13 years
and has been in her new role for
about a year. She said, “Though
I am not actively making lesson
plans now, it is as fulfilling as
being in the classroom. I get to
teach other teachers. I love their
enthusiasm.” She added, “I love
school!”
But it is perhaps because of all
that school experience that makes
Weller just a little anxious about
her own abilities as a mother.
“For 13 years I have taught other
people’s children.” Through
those years she’s learned what
a huge impact parents have on
their children. She has seen
kids from great backgrounds
and she has seen kids from not
so great homes. She knows how
differently both circumstances
affect them.
Sometimes it breaks her
May  14,  2011 • 
heart.
She knows firsthand how kids
need that safety net — that secure
place that is their parents.
“Sure, I got yelled at when I
was growing up,” remembers
Weller. “But I always knew that
I had that safe refuge, that safe
haven at home. Not all kids
have that.” In her career, she
added, “I’ve had some pretty
jarring moments.”
Weller always realized that
when push came to shove her
parents would always be there
for her. That’s a huge security
for a child. Weller said, “I want
my own children to feel that.”
Weller admits she is probably
over-thinking motherhood.
And she admits to being an
over the top planner. “I plan
to plan. I make a plan and then
have a back up plan. I can drive
myself crazy.” Tracey Weller and daughter Sydney.
But it seems first child
Sydney takes after her mother
in that way. “You could set your
watch to her,” said Weller. As
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Ask an Expert
Spring allergies
there were risks; however, times
have changed, and everyone is
traveling more, so now everyone
is encouraged to get the vaccine.
By Pia Fenimore, M.D. is because the vaccine protection available, as this disease is very Many teens are participating in
given at age 5 begins to wane. unpredictable in who or when it mission trips, which give them
It’s school physical season! Clostridium tetani, the strikes and can cause death in a a chance to see impoverished
Any child who wants to play a bacteria which causes tetanus, perfectly healthy teen. areas; it’s a good idea to have
PIAA (no relation!) sport must is found in the soil and on our them vaccinated so they are
have a physical AFTER June beaches. Each year there are Varicella (Chicken Pox) ready to see the world!
1st. This physical is good for 50-100 cases of tetanus in the Schools now require two
the entire year, regardless of U.S., almost always occurring doses of chicken pox vaccine. MMR (Measles Mumps
how many sports your child in people who have let their The exception to this is if your Rubella)
wants to play. Physicals are also immunizations lapse. child has had documented Most kids will already have
required for any child entering Pertussis outbreaks are an chicken pox disease. The reason Dr. Pia Fenimore had both doses of vaccine
kindergarten, sixth grade and even more common problem; the for the second dose is to prevent in the U.S. is 16! With this that they need, since they are
eleventh grade. Lancaster area is experiencing the emergence of shingles in vaccine the risk of cervical typically given at 12 months
However, a physical one as I write this. adulthood. carcinoma drops by greater than and 5 years. If for some reason
is recommended EVERY The majority of neonatal 60 percent. your child missed one dose, now
YEAR for EVERYBODY by pertussis (whooping cough) HPV Vaccine (Gardasil or is the time to get it, as they are
the American Academy of comes from a teenage sibling or Cervarix) Influenza not fully covered without two
Pediatrics. parent who is unaware that they HPV (human papilloma virus) A flu vaccine is recommended doses.
Most likely your child are infected. A persistent cough is a virus which can cause cervical for everyone ages 6 months to
will need a vaccine or a in an older child can mean a life- cancer. The vaccine is a series of 18 years annually. A vaccine is For even more information
vaccine booster. This always threatening illness in a baby. three shots that can be started very important for anyone with the Web site www.cdc.gov is
surprises people since there is in girls ages 9 and up. It is vital a chronic medical problem, like accurate and comprehensive.
a misconception that vaccines Meningococcal Vaccine that these shots be completed heart disease, asthma or diabetes. As you can see, immuniza-
are for babies. Here are the This vaccine is recommended before the girl becomes sexually But it should be strongly tions are not finished once they
immunizations that may be at age 11 and is required active to prevent possible considered in every child. go to kindergarten! Please take
recommended by your health for most schools/sports/ exposure to HPV. Males are There have been 95 influenza your older child in for regular
care provider: camps. It vaccinates against carriers of HPV and are usually associated pediatric deaths in check ups and prepare them that
meningococcus, a bacteria which asymptomatic. The vaccine has this country this year to date. It’s they will likely need a vaccine or
Hepatitis B causes devastating meningitis also been approved for males to a preventable disease. two.
We now give this series of in teens and young adults. It is help in the prevention of genital Pediatricians want your
three shots starting at birth; particularly important if your warts and penile cancer, but Hepatitis A child to be healthy both now
typically, they are completed child is going to be living in any its main benefit is for overall Hepatitis A is a viral and when they are 80, so it’s all
by one year of age. If your crowded conditions, like camp public health, as it prevents the illness that is contracted from about prevention. This is also
older child did not receive it yet cabins, locker rooms and dorms. transmission to women, which contaminated food or water a nice time to remind all of us
— they should. Hepatitis B is a The disease has been known to can cause cervical cancer. sources. It is a common problem adults that we need checkups
viral illness contracted through hit sports teams who frequently Parents tend to put this series in third world countries, but can and vaccines (tetanus, pertussis,
sexual contact, sharing needles share drinks. of vaccines off, thinking they also be found in the southern etc.) too.
or blood transfusions. A new recommendation is have lots of time until their little U.S. It is highly contagious, and
that kids who received their first girls become sexually active. it is preventable. This vaccine Dr. Pia Fenimore, of
Tetanus and Acellular meningitis vaccine at age 11 This is probably true, but it takes can be given anytime after age 1 Lancaster Pediatric Associates,
Pertussis (Tdap or Adacel) should get a booster dose around at least six months to get fully and is a series of two shots given is a contributor to the LancMoms.
At age 11 most kids will need age 16. Health care providers are immunized, and, remember, the six months apart. It used to be com Ask an Expert feature.
a tetanus/pertussis booster. This all thrilled that this vaccine is average age of sexual activity that it was only recommended if

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Drug addiction
By Dr. Arthur Seiderman
When people are having a
hard time coping with life’s
ordinary demands, drugs
sometimes seem to make life
easier. Unfortunately, the youth
in our society is exposed to drugs
at a rate never before in history.
Many will verbalize, “I just
don’t fit.” However, when on
their drug of choice, they do
seem to fit. The drug alters their
perception of the world around
them. Everything seems better
now.
The child, with average or
better intelligence, struggling
with difficulty concentrating in
school, is a perfect candidate for
drug usage. The frustration is
just enormous. The child looks
for an outlet. An example of a
positive outlet is athletics. Of
course the use of drugs is an
example of a negative choice.
This seems to be an easy choice.
After all, we live in a society
that has socialized adults and
children to believe that solutions
Mom of the Month
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all that new person needs is
her baby was very predictable, to know his mother loves him. nothing to worry about!
Weller still says, “When I first
had Sydney, I was afraid I’d
break her.”
Knowing Sydney so well
and being so used to her also
makes Weller wonder all the
more about her new baby. Will
Carter be as scheduled as his
sister? Or will he be more of a
free spirit?
And Weller is also a little
anxious about having a boy
after being so used to raising
her girl. “I think it is easier to
connect with a girl because that
is what I am,” said Weller. “I
mean, what do you do with a
boy?!”
Weller had the experience of
teaching an all boy classroom
recently. “Boys really are
different,” she concluded. “But
no matter what, I am looking
forward to finding out who this
new person is going to be.”
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to life’s problems can be fast and If there is a history of and the interactions therein. It
easy. Just “ take a pill.” Little dependency addiction in the creates endless problems within
do they realize the price paid family, do not just indicate “It’s the members of the family.
when they choose that option. hereditary” and give up. Still seek So you can see the need to get
Once on drugs, the probability help as in the aforementioned. a handle on this early on. Do
of addiction is enormous. If Consider consulting with not neglect this. Act upon it as
the individual finally chooses a Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). quickly as possible in the ways
rehab program and successfully Do not deprive the person of listed above.
completes the program, there is your love and support. Do If you have questions, or need
an 80 percent chance of relapse. not shut them out. Do not tell more information, call (717)
Once the person has entered the them what to do. Do not try to 656-0534.
world of drugs, there is little solve their problem. Try to be
chance of long term recovery. understanding and supportive. Dr. Arthur Seiderman
The best cure is prevention. No matter what the reason (Leola, PA) an optometrist and
We need to be more cognizant of (and the addict can and will be psychologist, who is a graduate
the conditions which create the creative in this area), do not give of The Gesell Institute’s program
need for drug usage; and, there Dr. Arthur Seiderman or lend money. Remember that of Child Development at Yale
are many. Just to name a few: the addict can’t just stop. We, University, has written several
• psychological ( emotional ) • bipolar issues sometimes, think why can’t you books, lectured throughout the
just stop. Once the addiction is USA, Canada, and Europe.
• failure • vocational issues established, there is a strong, His work has been translated
very strong, bodily and mental into six languages. He taught
• abuse ( mental and/or • heredity need to continue. graduate level courses at Penn
physical ) Once the person is an addict, State University for many
In other words, seek out the chance of being “clean” for years, is a past president of
• a need to belong support in psychological five consecutive years is less than The Disabled Reader Group
• difficulty concentrating counseling, vision therapy, 15 percent. Actually, you have a of The International Reading
or focusing ( often due to management of bipolar issues, better chance of surviving most Association (IRA), and
binocular vision problems, e.g. vocational training and/or job cancers than drug addiction. The maintains his private practice
convergence insufficiency ) placement (if necessary). addict affects the entire family in Leola.
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Egg-ceptional!
By Marci Watterson
Special Features Writer
In the southern end of
Lancaster County, there lives a
family with a little something
to crow about. MaryAnn and
Keith Frist, Quarryville, are
the owners of a bird that’s into
super-sizing.
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generally produce a large egg.
Lucy came to the Frist home
from Quarryville Elementary
School, where she was a
kindergarten class projects. She
started laying when she was
about four months old.
She and her bunk mate, Blaze
are fed the average feed of
layer pellets and cracked corn.
Although many of their treats
could be considered unusual,
Lancaster, P a.
both Lucy and Blaze receive
peanut butter, spaghetti, steak
scraps, meatloaf, and sunflower
seeds.
Her egg was measured by
Keith Frist, who is a 1st class
machinist and according to the
dial caliper and scale he used,
measured 3 ¼ inches in length,
2 1/8 inches in diameter and
weighs 140 grams as of Sunday, Lucy
March 20. A state calibrated
scale was then used on March
21 by Maplehofe Dairy Farm
Store, marking the weight at .27
of a pound and the local Post
Office in Quarryville, where
Sallie Brackbill, the postal
worker announced it weighed
4.4 ounces.
Lucy’s egg is not be a world
record egg, but it may just take
the title for the USA.
Currently the Frist family has
expanded their family to include
five more peeps, (baby chicks).
If you ask MaryAnn about her
girls, Lucy and Blaze, she’ll tell
you, “I love my girls. Dogs are
great, but chickens are fun and
they give a gift every day!”
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She’s a mom looking to get the
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On her new blog — Clippin’
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Day Trippin’
Dinosaurs come to life
By Rochelle A. Shenk “We’re always trying to find exhibit also features many
Special Features Writer new things to pique people’s interpretive graphics along the
interest. Everyone, no matter dinosaur path. The signage not
Clyde Peeling’s Reptiland what their age, is intrigued by only gives interesting details on
has unveiled a new exhibit, dinosaurs. The fact that we don’t each exhibited dinosaur such as
“Dinosaurs Come to its eating habits and what
Life.” This large scale period it lived in, but it also
animatronic dinosaur shows the relationships
exhibit runs through Labor between predators today
Day (Sept. 5). and those found long ago.
An outdoor area Additional signage
of Reptiland has been located along the path
transformed into a provides details about
Jurassic-era habitat, which archeological digs. “This
serves as the home of eight is an entertaining exhibit,
life-size dinosaurs. They but it’s also educational,”
roar and menace as they Brennan says. Chasmosaurus
are thought to have done She adds that although
millions of years ago. the dinosaurs have been TX, based on research about even spit in swift, fluid motions.
Dilophosaurus each species. . Each dinosaur is State-of-the-art electronics and
Included in the line-up exhibited at various zoos
are: Tyrannosaurus Rex, throughout the country such built upon a steel frame, covered air pistons power the dinosaurs’
know much about them is what with a foam rubber skin, and are movements in order to show
Brachiosaurus, Euoplocephalus, makes people curious. Plus new as the Cleveland Metroparks
Dilophosaurus, Chasmosaurus, studies indicate that the reptiles Zoo and the Oregon Zoo, each then intricately painted. Through razor sharp claws and gnashing
a Stegosaurus baby, an we see today are related in some exhibit is somewhat different. animatronic technology, the teeth.
Amargasaurus baby, and a nest way to dinosaurs,” explains The dinosaurs are created by dinosaurs are stunningly realistic
creatures that move, snarl and - continued on page 8
of Parasaurolophus hatchlings. Laura Brennan, marketing/ Billings Productions, McKinney,
The dinosaurs represent eight traveling exhibits coordinator
different species that lived during for Reptiland.
the Jurassic and Cretaceous Visitors enter this special
periods. The largest of the exhibit area through a stone slab
models is the Tyrannosaurus Rex archway. From there they see
(T-Rex), standing at nearly 20- what looks like an archeological
feet tall and 43-feet long from dig site —t o the left and right
head to tail. are paths to the dinosaurs. The

Euplocephalus
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Ask the Expert child that her feelings are real

and valued and that you respect
her enough to leave a difficult

Temper tantrums in public

By Kirsten Freitag Murray
Special to LancMoms.com
“I don’t have the emotional
energy to go into Wal-Mart
today.”
My kids think it is hilarious
that I said that recently, and
quote it often. But here’s the
truth, what I do not possess is an
adequate filter that allows me to
ignore thoughtless behavior by
parents. And let’s face it, 99.9
percent of tantrums occur in
public — usually while shopping
with mom! When we think of
tantrums, we generally place the
“naughty label” on the child, but
I am going to ask you to look
through a different lens.
It is always good to simply
state the problem and go from
identify/name, express and
process their feelings. Processing
is simply knowing what triggers
a feeling and developing a plan
for the next time these same
strong emotions appear.
“It sounds like you are
feeling frustrated.”
So after we name the emotion
(aloud to our child), the next step
is to identify the factors that may
have led to or contributed to the
child feeling that their world is
spinning out of control.
*Is he trying to communicate
his needs, and you are missing
the early signals? It is a central
aspect of connected parenting to
pay attention to our child’s verbal
and non-verbal communication
as we go through our day. Have
you set up the day with both of
*Is she hungry and/or
tired? It’s one thing to push
ourselves past our hunger and
sleep limits, but another thing
altogether when we do that to
our kids — we punish ourselves,
along with them. You can easily
keep life on an even keel by
staying on schedule with meals,
snacks, drinks and naps, or just
plain downtime. When hunger
and exhaustion set in, irritability
comes with the package.
*Are you responding to
him with sarcasm or threats?
“I am leaving now . . . see you
later.” REALLY? Children do
not have the ability to translate
sarcasm; they take us at our
word. By resorting to sarcasm
and threats, you are engaging in
situation.
*Try again, and make it a
time to connect. Get back out
there and try again, with him in
mind. Make it an opportunity to
teach a skill. Turn shopping into
a game. Use it as a vocabulary
building time. Turn off your cell
phone!
As parents, we feel helpless
in a public tantrum situation; just
imagine how your little one (or
your teen) is feeling — someone
with far less communication
skills in her repertoire. How we
go about our everyday life is the
way our children learn about the
Kirsten Freitag Murray world, but more importantly,
they are learning where they
a very uneven power struggle — stand with us.
you, as the adult, are escalating
the situation. What is the option? Kirsten Freitag Murray,
“We are leaving now and we’ll Parenting Development
try again another day.” But you Coordinator with Compass
have to mean it and act on it. Mark, Inc., is a contributor
Pick your child up and go out to to the LancMoms.com Ask an

there. I think we can agree that
when a child has gotten to the
point of “throwing” a tantrum,
she is experiencing some BIG
feelings. We could even say that
overwhelming emotions are in
full swing.
Feelings aren’t good or bad,
they just are; and we need to
teach our kids how to deal with
emotions appropriately. We are
guiding our children as they
your needs in mind? Put yourself
in their stroller, and imagine
how boring it is to be strapped
in and looking at the hems of
clothing!!!! Food shopping can
be fun, as they retrieve items
from lower shelves for you, but
that means they are not strapped
in the cart — more work for
you. But, they are learning a
skill and getting the large motor
movement that they need.
Dinosaurs
the car and go home. NO need Expert feature.
for threats or punishments. You
will have communicated to your
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“The nest of Parasaurolophus
hatchlings are of special note.
There are several hatchlings, and
they all move about,” Brennan
says.
Another educational tool
are the live shows presented by
staff biologists throughout the
day, which provide additional
information on dinosaurs and
reptiles. Brennan says that the
30-minute shows will focus
on the similarities between the
reptiles and birds that we see
today and dinosaurs. “We’ll also
have a replica of a foot and a
skull on the stage so that people
can grasp the size of dinosaurs,”
she says
School, scout and summer
camp groups are welcome to
arrange a visit to the exhibit.
Entry to the dinosaur exhibit
is included with zoo admission
and can be viewed at any time
during regular zoo hours. A
butterfly exhibit is open through
the end of October.
Reptiland is located on
Route 15 in Allenwood and is
open daily, year round. There
is an admission charge. More Mother and daughter runners Amy, left, and Sarah Van
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Movie review:
HOP
By Maureen Leader
Special Features Writer
There are movies for
Halloween, Christmas, New
Year’s, Hanukah, Fourth of July,
Valentine’s Day… and yes, even
Easter. Audiences love them.
Holidays are always a good
excuse to see a movie. The family
is together … and it’s always
great bonding time. That’s why
holiday movies have such great
staying power. They are seen
year after year and become
special family traditions.
“Hop” is a state of the art
animated film from Universal
Studios and Illumination
Entertainment. “Hop” is about
Easter and promises to also
become one of those movies that
is a traditional “must see” for
families year after year.
“Hop” was directed by “Alvin
and the Chipmunks” director
Tim Hill and produced by
“Despicable Me” producer Chris
Meledandri, and the voices of
Russell Brand, Hugh Hefner,
Hugh Laurie, John Cohen, Janet
Healy, Hank Azaria and Django
Marsh.
Though “Hop” is an Easter
film, it does not include any deep
religious meanings. Instead,
Hop describes itself as “Candy,
chicks and rock ‘n’ roll.” So yes,
it is a fun movie for all ages,
though it is rated PG for some
mild rude humor. “Hop,” though
silly at times, is relatively safe
and painless, even for adults.
“Hop” stars Russell Brand as
the voice of E.B., the teenaged
son of the Easter Bunny. Just as
E.B. is set to step into his father’s
shoes and become the Easter
Bunny he leaves for Hollywood
to chase his lifelong dream of
becoming a drummer. Once
there, he encounters Fred (James
Marsden) who is unemployed
and has his own pie in the sky
goals. Fred accidentally hits
E.B. with his car. It’s not serious
but E.B. convinces Fred to take
him in as he recovers from his
(exaggerated) injuries.
E.B. is a terrible houseguest
but both learn together what
it is like to finally grow up.
Interestingly, both characters
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have to deal with their fathers
who are both disappointed in
their sons’ career paths.
There is also another
underlying story line: Back on
Easter Island, a power-hungry
chick has been waiting for
just this moment when E.B.
abandons his legacy and leaves.
The chick plans a takeover one
of the biggest jobs in the world:
Easter Bunny. But as E.B. and
Fred spend more and more
time together they learn who
they really want to be and most
importantly: who they are meant
to become. They can then work
together to save Easter.
“Hop” appeals to young kids
and it certainly is fun. Brother
and sister, Tyler and Kayla Wolf,
from Lancaster saw the movie
recently and they both loved it.
Kayla, 8, loved the animation.
She said, “The little bunny guy
was so cute and cuddly. I loved
how he made his jumps!” Kayla
also thought the movie was funny
and mentioned the scene shown
on all “Hop” previews: the jelly
bean scene. Kayla remembered
the quote from the movie: “I’m
a special bunny!”
Tyler Wolf, 11, thought the
movie was “really good.” But one
meaning he picked up in the film
through all the humor, jellybean
eliminating and plot twists was
that “There’s always going to be
an Easter Bunny. No matter what
… someone is always going to
be the Easter Bunny.”
And probably year after year,
there will always be the Easter
movie, “Hop” to watch with
your family.
May  14,  2011 • 
Life lesson learning in action
Sienna Craley and Felicia Swift show a Golden Retriever friend some of the items they
collected for the Human League of Lancaster County.
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Sienna Craley and Felicia flyers with the humane league’s league, they wrote: “We want
Swift collected 861 items for wish list on it. you to know how much we
the Humane League of Lanaster When the girls took inventory, appreciate all of the staff’s hard
County in April. The two, they had 861 items. work to help save the lives of the
students at Cocalico Middle In a letter to the humane animals at your facility.”
School, gathered the items as
part of a project for their Literacy
Workshop class.
“We were assigned to read a
book called “Walk Two Moons”
written by Sharon Creech,” they
said. The students were asked
to do a project based on a life
lesson learned from the book.
The life lesson chosen was “You
don’t know the worth of the
water until the well runs dry.”
They both love animals and
decided to do a collection for the
humane league. They decorated
and placed collection boxes
around their community and at
their school They also set up a
stand at their local grocery store
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Research shows integrating
arts into the
& Brothers picnic
healthcare
experience may relieve patient
and caregiver stress and
improve overall quality of care.
That research is being put into
practice at Lancaster General
Hospital, where a $40,000 grant
from Lancaster General Health
Foundation supports a program
for patients in the pediatric and
oncology units.
Children unleash their
creativity with Art in a Box:
Solo, which is filled with age-
appropriate art supplies such as
crayons, scissors, tablets and
colored pencils. Dr. Alexandra
Solosko, a pediatric hospitalist
with Lancaster General Health
and Nemours/Alfred I. duPont
Hospital for Children, says part
of the “work” of childhood is
actually playing and creating.
“Children need to explore and
manipulate their surroundings in
a safe and nurturing environment
as part of normal growth and
development,” explained Dr.
Solosko. “This need does not go
away when a child is hospitalized;
in fact it is often greater, as
children who are hospitalized
desire normalcy and control in the
midst of situations that are very
much not part of their normal
lives and does not always offer
them choices or control.”
Providing creative play
activities has shown time and
again to be therapeutic for
young patients, and the Art in
a Box program is an excellent
The North Museum is ‘crawling’
with things to see and do
This summer, visitors to the
North Museum of Natural History
& Science can explore backyard
science through the Museum’s
new exhibits and programs, and
even help contribute their own
artwork to be placed on display.
The North Museum will kick
off its summer programming
with the latest traveling exhibit
to make its way to the North
Museum. What’s Bugging
Belva? is presented like a child’s
book and invites children to
follow Belva the beetle as she
discovers why she can be proud
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Megan Blizzard, BSN, RN, shows Heidi Ney and her mother
Lori of Mount Joy, an Art in a Box:Solo in the pediatric unit
at Lancaster General Hospital.
resource for just this. “It is a
type of ‘medicine’ we often
‘prescribe’ right alongside other
treatments,” she added.
Patients in the Oncology Unit
also connect with the healing
power of art through the Art
Cart program. As with Art in
a Box:Solo, nurses facilitate
the program in which patients
choose a print from a local artist
to hang in specially designed
frames in their rooms.
“Our patients appreciate
being able to select art that is
meaningful to them,” said Betsy
Collins, nurse manager. “Many
choose prints that remind them
of favorite memories, like time
spent with grandchildren or a trip
abroad. The art also enhances
to be a bug as she learns that
insects are beautiful, have cool
features, and serve important
functions.
The exhibit, created by the
Purdue Agriculture Exhibit
Design Center’s Traveling
Exhibit Program, literally jumps
off the pages of a book and into
three gardens that include models
of the insects being explored
and information about their
attributes. Visitors can follow
the “extreme makeover” all
insects go through, look through
two hands-on interactives that
conversations with caregivers, as
patients enjoy sharing the stories
behind the artwork they chose.”
Developed in conjunction
with Lancaster’s Demuth
Museum, Art in a Box:Solo also
contains a workbook (in English
and Spanish) with basic drawing
tips and a brief history of the life
and works of Charles Demuth,
Lancaster’s most famous artist.
As part of Healing Arts’
ongoing efforts to integrate
the healing power of art into
all areas of the healthcare
environment, paintings by two
local artists (Robert Andriulli of
Millersville and Robert Patierno
of Manchester) were recently
hung in the hallway outside the
hospital cafeteria.
imitate how an insect sees, and
learn about the important role
insects play in nature. What’s
Bugging Belva? is sponsored
by Dutch Gold Honey and will
open at the North Museum on
Saturday, May 28 and will be on
display through September 25.
In addition, visitors to the
North Museum can observe live
Monarchs, Painted Ladies and
other beautiful butterflies.
— June 21 through Aug. 28,
the Planetarium will feature a
full schedule of shows everyday
visit www.northmuseum.org.
Presented by Angel Bracelets
Saturday, July 9, from 6 p.m. to 8 p.m.
Hands on House Children’s Museum
Free event, registration required
Sweet Pea Project will hold
a special event for children
who have lost a brother or sister
during pregnancy or infancy.
The death of a baby can be
very difficult on a child. They
witness their parents wrestle
with overwhelming grief, and
struggle with their own feelings
of loss, sadness and confusion.
These children watched
Mommy’s belly grow as they
listened to stories preparing
them for life with a new baby,
and they can’t understand why
the baby never came home.
Others gave their baby a
goodnight kiss before bed and
it makes no sense to them when
Daddy explains that she just
didn’t wake up again.
Others are born after the
death of a baby, and they
wonder about the footprints on
the dresser and the picture of the
baby on the living room wall.
All of them see their parents
break down from time to time.
And all of them deserve a day
just to be carefree children,
playing with their parents in the
sunshine and having fun.
Sweet Pea Project aims
to give these families a day
like that on Saturday, July 9.
Parents are invited to bring
their surviving and subsequent
children to Hands on House
Children’s Museum to play,
eat, and enjoy each other’s
company.
All regular museum exhibits
will be open and available
exclusively to Sweet Pea
Project guests, a brick will
be dedicated in honor of all
Sweet Pea Sisters & Brothers,
Gymboree of Lancaster will
run bubble and parachute
activities, and a picnic dinner
will be served in the garden.
This event is free, but space
is limited and registration
is required. Email Beth@
sweetpeaproject.org to reserve
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your family’s spot. Please
include the names and ages
of all members of your family
who wish to attend. Feel free
to contact Beth if you have any
questions about the event.
Sweet Pea Project is able
to offer this event for free
to the bereaved families in
our community thanks to the
generous support of Presenting
Sponsor Angel Bracelets,
a jewelry company which
focuses on creating comforting
memorial bracelets, as well as
Baby’s Silkie, local boutique
Bella Boo, and Kindermusik
with Sorina Shriner.
Couture Cupcakes will
donate dessert and Molly S.
Photography will be offering
their time and talent to
photograph the event.
For more information on the
picnic and its compassionate
sponsors, please visit www.
sweetpeaproject.org/picnic.
Sweet Pea Project was
established in January 2009
by a Lancaster County mother
after the death of her daughter.
Sweet Pea Project offers
comfort, support and gentle
guidance to families who have
experienced the death of a baby
before, during or shortly after
birth.
The organization holds
several free community events
throughout the year to offer
support and raise awareness.
Sweet Pea Project also
donates blankets to hospitals
so that new moms are given a
special blanket to swaddle their
stillborn baby. In the first two
years, more than 1500 blankets
were donated to hospitals
across the country.
A new book donation
program was added in 2010.f
To learn more about this
project please visit www.
sweetpeaproject.org.
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CupcakeFEST
Elizabethtown Public Library held its first
CupcakeFEST in April.
Kids enjoyed various activities throughout
the day, including decorating their own cupcake.
They also played games such as “Pin the Candle
on the Cupcake” and made colorful cupcake
crafts.
Students of PA School of Culinary Arts at
the YTI Career Institute (off Centerville Road)
taught cupcake decorating classes during
CupcakeFEST. CupcakeFEST also featured
several cupcake sales to benefit Elizabethtown
Public Library. The library fundraiser also
offered a wide variety of cupcake crafts for sale,
including jewelry, pillows, hats, pin cushions,
decorations, baking supplies, and more.

Left: Eighteen-month-old
Brayden Bennett watches his
mother, Amanda, taste test the
cupcake he decorated.

Above: Rachel Green, 8, enjoys

spreading frosting on her
cupcake.

Right: Ben Mast, 8, takes a

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at the Elizabethtown Library’s
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