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The NEXT Day Who are some people who mean something to you? love people not
“My children, we should
How does your
only with words and talk, but by our bible say it?
You know, the kind you’d talk and spend time with if you had only a month to live.
actions and true caring.”
The ones you’d want in the front row at your funeral. -1 Jn. 3:18 (NCV & emphasis mine)

Who do you trust with your deepest secrets and thoughts?

What’s the BIG picture? We’re messy. We need one another.
The little love codes
The significant people in my life are:

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The 2nd NEXT Day

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What is the ME picture?
________________________________________ Well chances are if we sat down to coffee together, knee
to knee, and eye to eye. You’d tell me you wanted to be
defined by your love in the last month you had on earth.
What does it take to give out forgiveness and belief?
________________________________________ Being defined as a person of love. And that doesn’t just
happen by saying it…
And now… Let those people know!
Take some time this week to think of who belongsSigned
on your list, and then tell Master the small acts of love. What do people say are the
important small ways others showed them love:
them, write them, text them, hug them. But tell themMe
and make it real!
1. when someone encourages me
Geeze Luke, you’re like list crazy… 2. when someone calls me to check on me
3. when someone listens to me

List above at least three very real ways you can show love
to someone today, who you’ll do it for, and then DO IT!

HOUSECLEANING-
“Forgive and forget.” What if we changed it to:
FORGIVE AND REMEMBER. Let me explain.
If we really had a month to live, we’d probably try and fix quite a few of our broken
friendships as well. You know who I’m talking about. That person who every time you
think of them your stomach churns, you have no patience with, or you just can’t stand
to be around. You need to fix it before you die. Whatever it is that they did, you need
to forgive them for it.
Read: Colossians 3:13
Did you hear that? Forgive as you’ve been forgiven. FORGIVE AND REMEMBER Christ
has forgiven you. It’s the last piece we’re going to deal with. It’s the GOD piece.
SO FAR:
BIG PICTURE: We’re messy and we need one another.
ME PICTURE: I want to be defined as one who loves and lives it out.
GOD PICTURE: I can love like I’m forgiven.
And now you’ve guessed it. Make your list. Who do you need to clean things up with?
Who do you need to forgive and shine up your relationship with? Seriously. Pick
someone you need to patch things up with, and write their name down.
I need to do some house work on
_____________________ and I’s relationship.
Signed,
Me
Now, do you have a ring on? watch? earrings?
Move your ring to a different finger, watch to a different hand, take out 1 earing, turn
your shirt around backwards, or switch your shoes to the other foot. Something very
real and uncomfortable for you. And keep it that way until you go talk to this person
and truthfully forgive them as Christ has forgiven you. I don’t care if you’re going to
school or walmart, or just around the house. Hopefully it’s a little uncomfortable and a
good reminder of the pain that will continue to be there until you talk to that person.
Father God, may you help us see the importance of taking care of our relationships.
Even in the messyness of our lives helps us to see how we as brothers and sisters
can be there for each other willing to forgive and believe in one another. May we not
take those people for granted who are very important to us and may we let them
know the blessing they are. God help us to forgive and show love not just though our
words, but through our actions and willingness to approach one another. Father, may
this all be not for our own good, but that it might bring glory to you.
Day 001 Being alive for a little while will tell
you this: NOBODY”S NORMAL. Everybody is
whacked out to some degree. Flawed weird, odd,
strange. Some of us, down right creepy. And if
you think you aren’t, well that probably just
means you lack the ability to understand that
you are a total nut job. Nobody is normal. You
might look normal on the outside, but you have
an inner weirdo. Are you with me?
Anyone brave enough to admit that’s them? Sometimes I’m messy. Relationships are
messy. Other people are as well. And God didn’t wire me to be a hermit*. So what do I
do? I can be real and admit there are some things wrong with me. I have some faults.
B/c chances are if you go through life considering you have some rough spots too, you’ll
be more patient, compassionate, and forgiving towards others.
Go ahead and take a bit to write out some of your faults on the sticky note (sticking on
the opposite page)
Read John 8:1-11 again.
Remember the picture? The one person (JESUS!!!) who could have said
something, and yet says “Go and sin no more...”
Are you ever one of the crowd?
*
Guilty and exposed - “I was wrong.” (the woman),
by themselves, and usually has way less hairy feet...
HERMIT: sorta like a hobbit. sometimes grumpier, lives
Guilty and getting away - "insert cartoon gettway sound” (the woman’s partner)
Holier than thou - "I didn’t do anything wrong, she’s wrong!”
Judgment piler oner - "I can’t believe she...” (Anyone w/ a rock.)
Hopefully we can start to see that we’re all flawed and have got some
problems. And that by remembering those faults we have, we’d be a little
less quick to start judging others. Maybe even start believing in one
another. I mean come on, everything we’ve got goofed up and He, Christ,
still believes in you...
Father, help us to be hydrants of your forgiveness and belief.
INTERESTING POINTS:
 Jesus DID NOT say what the woman did was ok. In fact He says “Go and
sin no more...” He calls it what it is. SIN. But he also talks about
her future, b/c he believes in her. (Jesus’ first trip was mostly
about rescue, the next will be judgment {Jn 3:17/ 2 Thess. 1:6-10})
 If Jesus had said NO, He’d had been breaking God’s law given to Moses.
And a YES was breaking Roman law, b/c a Jew couldn’t carry out a
stoning. If there had been a CSI:Jerusalem I would have investigated
the Pharisees every time. Tricky Pharisees.