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THE 40 STEPS

TO SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE

I remember one winter my father needed firewood, so he looked for a dead tree and cut
it down. But then, in the spring, he noticed, with great sadness, that the withered trunk
sprouted shoots.
My father said, "I was sure that tree was dead. It had lost all its leaves in the winter. It
was so cold that the branches were breaking and falling as if the old trunk had not a
shred of life left in it. But now I see that he still had life in him." And turning to me, he
advised me:

"Never forget this important lesson. Never cut a tree in winter. Never make a negative
decision in adverse weather. Never make the most important decisions when you are in
your worst mood. Wait. Be patient.
The storm will pass. Remember that spring will return."

"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".


Today's challenge
DAY 1
The first part of this challenge is quite simple.
Although love is communicated in different ways, our words
often reflect the condition of our heart.
During the next day, decide to show patience and do not say
anything negative to your spouse.
If temptation arises, choose to say nothing. It is better to
restrain yourself than to express something that you will
regret later...

"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".


Today's challenge
DAY 2
Kindness is love in action.
Love makes you kind and kindness makes you nice.
Gentleness, service and good disposition are acts of
kindness...Today, besides not saying anything negative to
your spouse, make at least one unexpected gesture as an
act of kindness...

"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".


Today's challenge
DAY 3
The things to which you dedicate your time, energy and
money will become more important to you.
It's hard to care about something you don't invest in.
In addition to restraining yourself from negative comments,
buy your spouse something that communicates to him or
her:
"TODAY I WAS THINKING ABOUT YOU".
"Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love,
with honor give preference to one another..." (Romans
12:10).

"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".


"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things,
endures all things. Love will never cease to be".... (1st
Corinthians 13)
Today's challenge
DAY 4
Contact your spouse at some point during the day. Without
any other intention, ask him how he is doing and if you can
help him in any way.
"How precious your thoughts are also to me. How immense
is the sum of them... If I were to count them, they would be
more than sand" (Psalm 139:17 and 18).

"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".


"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things,
endures all things. Love will never cease to be"... (1st
Corinthians 13).

Today's challenge
DAY 5
Many times, we do things that offend our spouse and we
don't even realize it.
In Proverbs 27:14 it says: "Whoever blesses his friend with a
loud voice in the morning, it shall be counted to him as a
curse".
"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".
Ask your spouse to tell you three things that make him or her
uncomfortable or irritate him or her about you.
You must do so without attacking or justifying your behavior.
Your perspective is the important one in this case....
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things,
endures all things. Love will never cease to be"... (1st
Corinthians 13).
Today's challenge
DAY 6
Love does not get irritated. Better is he that is slow to anger than
the mighty, and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city...
(proverbs 16:32).
In the face of difficult circumstances in your marriage, decide to
react with love instead of irritation.
"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".
Today we would like to invite you to make a list of the areas
where you need to add a margin in your agenda.
Then list any wrong motivations that you need to eliminate from
your life.
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things,
endures all things. Love will never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians
13).

Today's challenge
DAY 7
Find two sheets of paper.
In the first one, dedicate a few minutes to write down positive qualities
of your spouse.
Then do the same with the negative aspects on the second sheet.
Place the two leaves in a secret place for another day.
"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".
There is a different purpose and plan for each one.
At some point during the rest of the day, choose a positive attribute
from the first list and thank your spouse for that characteristic....
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all
things.
Love will never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).

Today's challenge
DAY 8
Since love is not selfish and puts others first, it does not let jealousy
enter.
Love leads you to celebrate your spouse's successes instead of feeling
disgruntled by them.

"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".


Decide to become your spouse's biggest fan and reject any thoughts of
jealousy.
To help your heart go out to your spouse so you can focus on his or her
accomplishments, take the list of negative attributes you made
yesterday and discreetly burn it.
Then tell your spouse how happy you are about something he or she
has recently accomplished....
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all
things. Love will never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).
Today's challenge
DAY 9
Love makes a good impression.1st Peter 5:14 says: "Greet
one another with a kiss of love."
Think of a specific way you would like to greet your spouse
today.
"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".
Do it with a smile and enthusiasm.
Then decide to change your greeting to reflect your love for
him.
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things,
endures all things.
Love will never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).

Today's challenge
DAY 10
Love is unconditional. Romans 5:8 says: "God shows his love for
us in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us".
Do something out of the ordinary for your spouse, something that
proves to both him and you that your love has a foundation in
your decision and nothing else.
"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".
He washes his car, cleans the kitchen, buys his favorite dessert,
folds the laundry.
Show love with the pure satisfaction of being his or her partner in
marriage.
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things,
endures all things. Love will never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians
13).
Today's challenge
DAY 11
Love values.
Ephesians 5:28 says: "In the same way husbands ought to love their wives as
their own bodies".
Every time a man looks his wife in the eyes, he should remember that he who
loves his wife, loves himself.

"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".


And the woman should remember that when she loves her husband she also
gives love and honor to herself.
What need of your spouse could you satisfy today? Can you do him a favor?
Maybe give him a back or foot massage?
You could help with chores around the house...Choose a gesture that says: I
VALUE YOU. And do it with a smile...
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love will never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).

Today's challenge
DAY 12
Love lets the other win.
Philippians 2:4 says: "Do not look out for your own interests, but
rather for the interests of others": Instead of treating your spouse
as an enemy or as someone to be protected from, begin by
treating him or her as your closest friend and honoring him or her.
"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".
Give value to their words.
Show love by deciding in a good way to compromise in an area of
disagreement between you and your spouse.
Tell him that you will put his preferences first....
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things,
endures all things. Love will never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians
13).
Today's challenge
DAY 13
Love fights fair.
Mark 3:25 says: "if a house is divided among itself, that house cannot
stand"...To fight fair means to change weapons, to dissent with dignity.
Remember: Love is not a fight, but always worth fighting for.
Talk to your spouse about establishing healthy ground rules.

"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".


If you are not ready for this, then write down your own personal rules
that you will need to respect during discussions.
Decide to abide by them when a disagreement arises again.
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all
things. Love will never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).

Today's challenge
DAY 14
Love delights.
Ecclesiastes 9:9 says: "enjoy life with the woman you love all the
days of your fleeting life".
Today's challenge can lead to a real and radical change in your
thinking.
With determination, set aside an activity that you do in general so
that you can spend time with your spouse.
"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".
Do something your spouse would love to do, or a project you
know he or she wants to be involved in, just spend time together.
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things,
endures all things. Love will never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians
13).
Today's challenge
DAY 15
Love is honorable.
1st Peter 3:7 says: "And you husbands likewise live together with your
wives in an understanding manner, giving her honor as heirs of the
grace of life. "Choose a way to show honor and respect to your spouse
that is different from the usual.
Maybe it's opening the door for your wife.
Maybe it's keeping the husband's clothes.
Maybe it's the way you listen and talk, when they communicate.
"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".
Show your spouse that you hold him or her in high esteem.
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all
things. Love will never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).

Today's challenge
DAY 16
Love intercedes.
3rd John 2 says: "Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all
things, just as your soul prospers.
And may you be in good health.
Start praying today for your spouse's heart.
Pray for three specific areas in which you want GOD to work
in your life and in your marriage...
"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things,
endures all things. Love will never cease to be"...

Today's challenge
DAY 17
It always takes time for the reality of intimacy to develop.
Especially after having been put in danger.
Today you can make the commitment to restore it.
This is true for anyone who is willing to accept the challenge.
Decide to protect your spouse's secrets, unless they are dangerous to
him or her or to you, and pray for him or her.
Talk to your spouse and decide to show love despite these issues.

"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".


Really listen to him when he tells you personal thoughts and struggles,
until he feels safe.
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all
things. Love will never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).
Today's challenge
DAY 18:
Love seeks to understand.
"Blessed is the man who finds wisdom and acquires understanding."
There is a depth of beauty and meaning within your spouse that will surprise you as you
discover more about it. Enter the ministry with hope and enthusiasm.
You want to get to know this person even better than you already do.
Transform it into your chosen field of study and you will fill your home with the riches
that only love can generate.
Today's challenge: Prepare a dinner at home.
Just for the two of you.
The dinner can be as special as you want it to be.

"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".


Spend this time getting to know your spouse better, perhaps in areas where you have
rarely spoken.
Decide to make it a pleasant evening for the two of you....
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love will never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).
Today's challenge
DAY 19
"Let us love one another because love is of God and everyone who loves is
born of God and knows God."
Your heart cannot manufacture unconditional love.
It is something that only God can do and it is because of his great love for you
and your spouse that he chooses to express that love through you.
Look back at the challenges of the previous days...was there one that seemed
impossible?
Have you become aware of the need for God to change your heart and give
you the capacity to love?

"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".


How about taking some time to pray, and ask God to show you how is your
relationship with him and also ask for the strength and grace to solve your
eternal destiny...
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love will never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).

Today's challenge
DAY 20
Love is JESUS CHRIST. Romans 5:6 says: "while we were yet without
strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly".
True love is found only in Christ.
And after receiving his gift of new life, by accepting his death in your place and
the forgiveness of your sins, you are finally ready to put the challenge into
practice.
Dare to take God at His word.
Dare to trust in Jesus Christ for salvation.

"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".


Dare to pray: "Lord Jesus, I am a sinner, but you have shown your love for me
by dying to forgive my sins.
And you have proved your power, to save me from death by your resurrection.
Change my heart and save me with your grace....
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love will never cease to be (1st Corinthians 13).

Today's challenge
DAY 21
Love is satisfied in GOD.
Isaiah 58:11 says: "The Lord will guide you continually. It will satisfy your
desire.
Day 20 was vitally important to the challenge of this book and to your life.
You came face to face with the manifest need of every human heart.
That is, to invite Jesus to enter into it.
Intentionally set aside time to pray and read the Bible.

"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".


Try to read a chapter of proverbs every day.
There are thirty-one chapters.
Production for one month.
Or read a chapter of the Gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke, John).
When you do, immerse yourself in the love and promises God has for you.
This will make you grow more in your walk with him.
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, endures all things. Love will never
cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).

Today's challenge
DAY 22
Love is faithful... Hosea 2:20 says: "I will betroth you to me in faithfulness and you will
know the Lord"...
You can give undeserved love to your spouse because God gave undeserved love to
you. Repeated on a lasting basis.
Often the least deserving are the ones who receive the most expression of love.
Ask Him to fill you with the kind of love, which only He can provide, and then propose to
give it to your partner in a way that reflects your gratitude to God for loving you.
"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".
It is the power of fidelity.
Love is a decision, not a feeling.
It is an action that is set in motion, not a reflex action.
Today, choose to commit to love, even if your spouse is no longer interested in
receiving it.
Tell her today with words like these: I LOVE YOU, I CHOOSE TO LOVE YOU, EVEN IF
YOU DON'T RETURN ME.
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love will
never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).

Today's challenge
DAY 23
Love always protects.
In 1 Corinthians 13:7 it says: He who loves, defends firmly.
Many issues make up marriage, including joys, sorrows, achievements and failures.
Yet when you think about what you want marriage to be like, the last thing that comes
to mind is that it's a battlefield.
However, you should be more willing to fight some to protect your spouse.

"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".


Unfortunately, your marriage has external enemies.
They come in different forms, and use different strategies.
But they will undoubtedly conspire to destroy your relationship unless you know how to
protect yourself.
Today's challenge: remove any obstacle to the relationship, any addiction or influence
that steals your feelings and takes your heart away from your spouse.
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love will
never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).

Today's challenge
DAY 24
"The world passes away and so do the passions, but he who does the will of God will remain forever" (1 John
2:17).
It is time to unmask lust and show what it really is.
A misguided thirst for satisfaction that only God can quench.
Lust is like a warning light, on the dashboard of your heart.
What alerts you, if you are not allowing God's love to fill you.
When you have your eyes and heart set on him, your actions will lead you to lasting joy, rather than endless
cycles of reproach and condemnation.
"Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world: if any man love the world the love of the father is not
in him."

"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".


Lust is the best this world has to offer.
But love offers you the best life in the world.
End it now.
Identify every object of lust in your life and remove it.
Distinguish every lie you have concocted in seeking forbidden pleasure and reject it.
Lust cannot be allowed to live in a back room.
It must be killed and destroyed today.
And replace it with God's promises and with a heart filled with His perfect love....
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ceases to be"... (1st
Corinthians 13).
Today's challenge
DAY 25
Forgive today anything you have not forgiven your spouse for.
Release it in the same way we ask Jesus to forgive our debts every day.
We must ask him to help us forgive our debtors every day.
Unforgiveness has kept you and your spouse imprisoned for a long time.
From your heart say: "I choose to forgive".
Love forgives. in 2 Corinthians 2:10 it says: "What I have forgiven, if anything I have forgiven, I
have done for you in the presence of Christ".
If there is no forgiveness there will be no successful marriage.
But how do you forgive your spouse?

"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".


If you give your anger to the Lord, and the responsibility to judge that person, understanding what
Romans 12:19 says: "Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but give place to the wrath of God, for it
is written, 'Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord'...".
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love will never
cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).

Today's challenge
DAY 26
Romans 2:1 says: "by judging others you condemn yourself, for you do precisely what they do".
Love is responsible and willing to admit and correct its faults and mistakes frankly.
You take responsibility for this person whom you have chosen as the love of your life.
Do you intentionally seek to meet the needs of your spouse?
Oh, you're just worried about him covering yours?
love calls us to take responsibility for our partner in marriage.
To love, honor and value it.
Today's challenge: set aside time to pray about what you have done wrong.
Ask God for forgiveness and then humble yourself enough to confess them to your spouse.
Do it sincerely, and ask your spouse for forgiveness as well.
"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".
No matter how he responds, be sure to fulfill your responsibility in love, even if he responds with
criticism, accept it and receive it as advice....
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love will never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).

Today's challenge
DAY 27
Love encourages.
Psalm 25:20 says: "Keep my soul and deliver me, let me not be put to shame, for in you I take
refuge".
Marriage tends to alter our vision.
We enter with the expectation that our partner will fulfill our hopes and make us happy.
But this is impossible for our spouse.
Unrealistic expectations lead to disappointment.
The higher your expectations, the more likely your spouse will fail you and cause frustration.
Commit to let go of unrealistic expectations every day and become your spouse's greatest
encourager, that person God designed will begin to emerge as a new hope and love for you.
Eliminate the poison of unrealistic expectations from your home.

"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".


Think of an area that your spouse has told you that he or she expects too much and tell him or her
that you regret having demanded so much of him or her.
Promise him that you will try to understand him and affirm your unconditional love.
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love will never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).
Today's challenge
DAY 28
Love sacrifices itself.1 John 3:16 says: "He laid down his life for us, we also
ought to lay down our lives for the brethren".
Love is willing to sacrifice itself to make sure you give your best to satisfy your
partner's needs.
When your spouse feels overwhelmed and in over his or her head, love calls
you to set aside what seems essential in your own life to help him or her.
What is the greatest need in your spouse's life right now?
Can you take any need off his shoulders if you make a bold sacrifice?
Whether the need is big or small, set out to do what you can to meet it.
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love will never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).
"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".
Today's challenge
DAY 29
The motivation of love.
Ephesians 6:7 says: "Serve willingly as unto the Lord and not unto men".
The love that is required of you in marriage does not depend on the gentleness or
suitability of your spouse.
The love between husband and wife should have one main objective.
Honor the Lord with devotion and sincerity.
The blessing that our beloved receives in the process is simply an additional benefit.
Before you see your spouse again today.
pray for him by mentioning his name and his needs whether it is easy for you or not.
Say "I love you" and then express love for your partner in some tangible way.
Pray again and thank God for giving you the privilege of loving this special person,
unconditionally as He loves you both....
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love will
never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).
Today's challenge
"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".
DAY 30
Notice a cause of division in your marriage and consider today as a
new opportunity to pray about it.
Ask the Lord to reveal to you any attitude in your heart that is
threatening unity with your spouse.
Pray that I will do the same for him.
And if appropriate speak frankly with him about this issue, seeking God
to find unity.
Love brings unity. Jesus in John 17:11 prays saying: "Holy Father, keep
them in your name whom you have given me, that they may be one,
even as we are one".
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all
things.
Love will never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).
Today's challenge
"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".
DAY 31
Love and marriage.
Genesis 2:24 says: "A man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife,
and they shall become one flesh".
This verse is God's original blueprint for the proper functioning of marriage.
It implies a separation and a bonding fabric.
Reconfigure existing relationships while establishing a completely new one.
Is there still an area where we have not been brave enough to leave?
I.e. leave your father and mother and join your spouse?
Confess it to your spouse today and decide to fix it.
The unity of your marriage depends on it.
Then make a commitment to your spouse and to God to make your marriage the priority
over every other human relationship....
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love will
never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).

Today's challenge
DAY 32
"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".
Love satisfies sexual needs.
In 1 Corinthians 7:3 we are told: "let the husband do his duty to his wife, and the wife likewise to
her husband".
Some people believe that the Bible has nothing good to say about sex, as if all God cares about is
telling us when not to have sex and with whom not to have sex.
However, the reality is that the Bible has a lot to say about sex and the blessing it can be for both
husband and wife.
Even its limits and restrictions are the ways in which God holds our sexual experiences at a level
far beyond what appears on television or in the movies.
In Christian marriage, romance should thrive and flourish.
After all, it was created by God.
It is all part of celebrating what God has given us as we become one with our spouse, while at the
same time pursuing purity and holiness.
He delights in us when this happens.
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love will never
cease to be".... (1st Corinthians 13)

Today's challenge

"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".


DAY 33
Love completes the other.
Ecclesiastes 4:11 says: "If two lie down together they keep warm, but how will one keep warm? God creates a marriage by taking a
man and a woman and joining them together as one.
And although if necessary love must be willing to act in an independent way, it is always better when it is not interpreted as a
soloist.
Love can work on its own when there is no other way, but there is a more excellent way as stated in 1 Corinthians 12:31.
Don't try to analyze things alone, don't take away your partner's right to have a say in matters that affect both of you.
Love understands that God has brought them together on purpose.
And while you may not agree with your spouse's views in the end, you should still respect his or her views and consider them
carefully.
This honors God's design for your relationship and protects the unity he intended.
Together they are better than their independent parts.
They need each other, they complement each other.
Recognize that your spouse is essential to your future success.
Today let him know that you want to include him in your upcoming decisions and that you need his opinion and advice.
If you have ignored his input in the past, admit your carelessness and ask him to forgive you.
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love will never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).

The challenge of love

"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".


DAY 34
Love celebrates piety.
In 1st Corinthians 13:6 it says: "love does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices
with the truth".
Love rejoices in the things that please God.
When your partner grows in Christian character, perseveres in faith, pursues purity,
gives and serves with joy, the Bible says we should celebrate it.
The word "rejoice" in 1 Corinthians 13:6 has the idea of being extremely excited and
encouraging your spouse with energy for what he or she is allowing God to accomplish
in his or her life.
Today's challenge: look for a specific, recent example of when your spouse has
demonstrated Christian character in an obvious way.
At some point in the day praise him for this.
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love will never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).

Today's challenge
"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".
DAY 35
Love is accountable. "When counsel is lacking, plans fail; when counsel
abounds, it prospers"...this is stated in Proverbs 15:22.
Getting wise counsel is like having a detailed road map, and a personal guide,
while on a long and challenging journey.
It can mean the difference between continued success or the destruction of
another marriage.
It is vital that you invite strong partners to share with you the wisdom they have
gained through their own successes and failures.
Today's challenge: find a mentor for your marriage.
A good Christian who is sincere and loving to you.
If you feel therapy is necessary, take the 1st step and make an appointment.
During this process ask God to guide your decisions and give you
discernment.
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love will never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).

"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".


Today's challenge
DAY 36
Love is the word of God.
Psalm 119:105 tells us "Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path".
For some people the bible is too bulky and prominent to understand.
They consider it an impossible challenge.
They don't know where or how to start.
However, as a Christian, you are not alone in trying to understand the main themes and deeper meanings of the Bible.
The Holy Spirit, who lives in your heart today through salvation, is the one who illuminates the truth. The Holy Spirit searches all
things, even the depths of God.
This is what it says: 1 Corinthians 2:10- and thanks to this inner lamp you can read, absorb, understand, and live the scriptures.
But first of all you must commit to do it.
I invite you to do some things that can help you to understand the bible and enjoy it:
1-CREATE THE HABIT
2-SEEK HELP FROM OTHERS
3-VIVELA
This is the best we can get, to live the word of God by understanding what God wants to tell us.
Today's challenge: make a commitment to read the Bible every day.
Get a meditation book or some other resource to guide you.
If your spouse is willing, ask him or her to commit to reading the Bible daily with you.
Begin to surrender every area of your life to the guidance of God's word and build on the rock.
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love will never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).

"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".


Today's challenge
DAY 37
Love agrees in prayer.
Matthew 18:19 says: "If two of you agree on anything you ask on earth, it will be done
for you by my father".
If someone told you that by changing just one thing in your marriage, you could almost certainly
guarantee a significant improvement in your spouse's life, you would at least want to know what it
was.
In the case of many godly couples that is the one thing: The daily practice of prayer together.
Ask your spouse if you can begin praying together.
Decide on the best time to do it together.
Whether in the morning, at lunchtime or before going to bed.
Use this time to confide concerns, disagreements and needs to the Lord.
Don't forget to thank you for your provision and blessings.
Even if your spouse refuses to do so, decide to spend this time daily in prayer and alone with God.
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love will never
cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).

Today's challenge
"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".
DAY 38
Love fulfills dreams.
Psalm 37:4 says: "Set your delight in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart".
What would your spouse really like?
How often do you ask yourself this question?
We can't give our spouse everything he or she wants, our budget and our bank account tell us that we probably
can't afford it.
Even if we could, perhaps, it would not be good for us or for him.
You may have let him NOT become too quick to respond.
Perhaps you have allowed this negative default option to become too rational, too automatic.
What would happen if instead of dismissing the idea, you did everything possible to fulfill it. What would happen if
what your partner says you would never do for her became the next thing you would do.
Sometimes love must be extravagant.
You need to do the impossible.
Sometimes you need to leave out the details, blessing just because you want to.
Today's challenge: Think about what your spouse would like, if it were possible.
Put him in prayer and begin to map out a plan to fulfill some, if not all, of his desires, to the extent possible.
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love will never cease to be"...
(1st Corinthians 13).

Today's challenge
DAY 39
"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".
Love endures.1 Corinthians 13:8 tells us: "Love never ceases to be".
Of all the things that love dares to be, this is the greatest of all.
Although he is threatened, he keeps going.
Although challenged, he continues to move forward.
Although he is mistreated and rejected, he refuses to give up.
Love never ceases to be.
Spend time praying alone.
Then write a letter of decision and commitment to your spouse.
Include the reason why you are committed to this marriage until death and
express that you are determined to love him/her, no matter what.
Leave the letter in a place where your partner can find it.
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love will never cease to be"... (1st Corinthians 13).

Today's challenge
DAY 40
"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".
Love is a pact.
Ruth 1:16 tells us: "Where you go, I will go, and where you
dwell, I will dwell; your people shall be my people, and your
God shall be my God.
CONGRATULATIONS! You have reached the end of the challenge in this book.
However, the experience and challenge of loving your spouse never ends.
They continue for the rest of your life.
Now is the time to renew your covenant of love with all sincerity and dedication.
Love is too holy a treasure to exchange for another. And a bond too powerful to break without dire consequences.
Refocus your love on this person, whom the Lord has given you to cherish, value and honor.
They have a life together ahead of them.
Dare to take it and never let go. ACCEPT THE CHALLENGE OF LOVE.
Write a renewal of your vows and place them in your home.
Perhaps if appropriate, you could plan a formal renewal of your marriage vows before a pastor and family present.
May it be a living affirmation of the value of marriage in the eyes of God and the high honor of being one with your spouse....
"Love suffers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love will never cease to be"...

"Love is like Fire, if it is not communicated, it goes out".

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