Publications by Dr. Tony Humphreys.

Self-Esteem, The Key to Your Child's Future (Gill & Macmillan) €9.99
Tony Humphreys contends that how children see themselves strongly influences
their academic progress. Parents act as the mirror for their children and their
responses to them will determine the image their children will form of
themselves. This book aims to help parents create a family environment that
promotes their own and their children's self-esteem.
Dr. Humphreys makes it clear that, without attention to children's self-esteem
and inner conflicts, it is unlikely that attempts to increase children's educational
efforts will be successful. He sets out the 'what' and 'how' of fostering children's
love of learning. His core message is that the emotional welfare of children is the
cornerstone of their educational development.

Leaving The Nest (Gill & Macmillan) €9.99

Each of us belongs to a family and that belonging has different stages - we live
with our parents, we move out on our own, we may form a partnership with
another and we may start a new family where we become parents ourselves.
The family has the potential for being the most fertile ground for self-
development and self-fulfillment. This book provides valuable insights and
practical guidelines to enable people to get the most out of family relationships
while at the same time finding one's separateness, individuality and
independence.

The Power of 'Negative' Thinking (Gill & Macmillan) €9.99

In this unique book Dr. Tony Humphreys breaks new ground, successfully
challenging many of the current ideas in psychology today by making some
surprising but convincing claims.
He maintains that just as we all need food and shelter, everyone needs to be
loved. Yet that need is constantly under threat in the unsafe emotional and social
world in which we live. So to protect ourselves from threats such as rejection and
humiliation we often resort to 'negative' thoughts, actions and feelings, and to
illness and stress. While these chosen behaviours are frequently seen as
negative, Tony Humphreys believes that it is more accurate and healing to see
them as creative and protective weapons against emotional perils. They must not
be removed until emotional safety is created. Only then can the hidden wounds
of rejection be healed; only then can we move on to a greater level of maturity
and happiness.

Myself, My Partner (Gill & Macmillan) €9.99

Individuals form a relationship in the hope of having their own needs met -
physical, psychological, social and spiritual. The couple relationship, Tony
Humphreys believes, is the most wonderful and enriching. However, in order to
have a contented and fulfilling relationship, each partner must first look honestly
at themselves, learn to love themselves and from that, love and respond to their
partner.
With his usual clarity, and in a witty and accessible style, the author explores the
whole area of self, of choosing a partner and the issues of togetherness. He
provides guidance and groundwork for personal healing, growth, development
and resolving conflict within relationships. This book makes it clear that there is
real wisdom in the power of opposites attracting. It also abounds with sound
advice and suggestions on what to do when conflict occurs.

A Different Kind of Teacher (Gill & Macmillan) €16.99

Recognising many of the difficulties facing teachers today, Dr. Humphreys
provides innovative and practical ways to bring about a more positive climate
within staffrooms and classrooms.
A key theme is that the self-esteem of teachers and students is a major
determining factor of the relationships between teacher and teacher, teacher and
student, and student and student. The resolution of problems within the
staffroom and classroom needs to be based on the nature of relationships
between the members of these two school systems.
This is a challenging book confronting many of the traditional approaches to
teaching and discipline within classrooms.

A Different Kind of Discipline (Gill & Macmillan) €11.99

Discipline is a topical issue. It is fundamental to all our lives and our
relationships. Discipline is about safeguarding our rights both as individuals and
as a society.
A common misconception is that discipline applies only to children, but it is as
much an issue for adults as it is for young people. It is not about controlling
others, Dr Humphreys points out, instead it is about helping others to learn to
control themselves. Discipline demands creativity, commitment and time. It is
about parents, teachers, carers and communities working as partners. True
discipline is not abusive, aggressive, cynical or manipulative. It is about clear
communication, consistent application, adaptability, support and co-operation.
Most of all it is about respect, acceptance and love.
In this book Dr. Humphreys guides us through steps to create a positive
environment in homes, schools and communities where mutual respect and thus
discipline all have their place.

Work and Worth: Take Back Your Life (Gill & Macmillan) €8.99
Well known for his incisiveness, consultant clinical psychologist, Dr. Tony
Humphreys has turned his attention to our world of work. What is our experience
of work? How do we fit in? Do we control our working lives or does it control
us? Is our sense of worth tangled too closely to our work? Are we becoming
addicted to work at the expense of our personal lives? Can we find balance?
In Work and Worth Tony Humphreys examines all these areas. He is thorough
and sympathetic and shows how work can get out of control and dominate our
lives. The book is divided into four parts: The Experience of Work and Worth;
Self, Work and Worth, Work Organisations and Worth, Startpoint.

Whose Life are you Living? (Gill & Macmillan) €12.99

We are not born bad, ugly, stupid, average, superior or inferior, yet these and
other labels plague our adult lives. Why do we pigeon-hole ourselves and put
limits on our abilities? Our desire to be accepted by friends, family and the world
at large forces us to bow to society's demands, and shackles our true selves.

Today's world worships at the altar of success. Magazines and television

constantly offer us the chance to be somebody, anybody, but who we really are.
We follow someone else's ideal until we end up with no idea of the person we
were before we started.
Whose life are we living? By giving up our freedom, we no longer belong to
ourselves. We belong to those who have influenced and altered us. Dr. Tony
Humphreys questions the way we approach our lives and shows us how to
emerge from the darkness that has hidden us.
In the style of his bestseller, The Power of 'Negative' Thinking, this is an
important book from one of our most important writers in the area of psychology.

All About Children, Questions Parents Ask (Gill & Macmillan) €14.99
Being a parent today is more challenging than ever. At times the task seems
overwhelming. At others it provides great fulfilment and joy. It is always
unpredictable; the challenges are forever changing and much of what we might
have learned from our own parents seems quite irrelevant.
Parenting is not learned by instinct; it requires many complex skills. Parents have
responsibility for the physical, emotional, social, sexual, behavioural, educational,
creative and spiritual development of their children, and at the same time they
must love them unconditionally. In a helpful question and answer format, All
About Children not only provides today's parents with the vital information they
require but also points out the skills they need to carry out effectively their
demanding task

Children Feeling Good (Veritas) €5.07

'Making children feel good about themselves will only come about when parents
feel good about themselves'. All parenting starts with parents learning to parent
themselves. Without self-confidence and love of themselves they will be unable
to help their child feel lovable, capable, unique or special. Each child's genius
(and not just their academic ability or other talents) must be recognised if they
are to feel good themselves, and this will only come about where the self-
parenting relationship is successful.

In this book Tony Humphreys sets out a step-by-step guide for the creation of
these two key relationships, calling on parents to love their children for
themselves and not for what they do.

Audio-tapes and CD's by Dr. Tony Humphreys

Embrace Failure (Veritas) €8.95 (tape only)

In this tape, Dr. Tony Humphreys, in a simple and witty way explores ideas on
failure and success. He shows how fear of failure and dependence on success can
cripple children's and adults' love of learning, creativity and productivity.

Raising Your Child's Self-Esteem (Gill & Macmillan) €9.99 (tape & CD)
Bestselling author Tony Humphreys explains in a positive way that a child's
personal and academic progress is influenced strongly by how that child sees him
or herself. This tape is a must for parents concerned about their children's
happiness and contentment with life.

Self-Esteem For Adults (Gill & Macmillan) €9.99 (tape & CD)
Addressing the listener directly, Dr. Tony Humphreys discusses self-esteem and
how it influences the quality and happiness of our lives. He is full of perceptive
observations and practical advice as he helps us to recognise low self-esteem and
shows how to build up a more positive image of ourselves.

Work & Self (Gill & Macmillan) €9.99) (tape & CD)
Bestselling author Tony Humphreys discusses how our sense of self affects our
job satisfaction, productivity and life/work balance. He also points out the
importance of organisations reflecting on their practices to ensure that individuals
feel valued and fulfilled in the work place.