USS MILIUS COMMAND NEWSLETTER

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F ROM THE CO S D ESK

We are quickly closing in on deployment and MILUS priority is getting the ship and our families ready. 9 Dec Holiday Party: On December 9th, MILIUS' Command Holiday Party will be at For the ship this includes, our final NoFLUXX from 6-10 p.m. The MILIUS Holivember underway (where we will comday Party is guaranteed to be memorable.. plete the Naval Surface Fire Support certi- Entertainment includes a DJ who will take fication and a visit to Seal Beach with a requests, Fire Dancers will come out and tiger cruise on the way back), then we engage the audience with a unique fire will be focused on getting the food, parts show, and aerial Acrobats will enthrall us and other supplies onboard prior to deall. Pictures can be taken at the photo ployment, as well as completing correcbooth with loved ones, friends and the Fire tive and pre-deployment maintenance. Dancers. Make sure you save this date and share it with your family/date. The club will be exclusively ours from 6-10 p.m. For the families this includes everything from pre-deployment briefs; helping out then will open to normal customers. More details to follow. our newly established Family Readiness Group; setting up our two new Ombudsmen; ensuring appropriate wills, powers 10 Dec Childrens Holiday Party. Deof attorney, and other paperwork is in tails will follow but the first class mess will order. host a childrens Christmas party onboard MILIUS including Santa riding in on a fire Pre-deployment Briefs: We held our engine, arts & crafts, and much more. first Pre-deployment Brief on the 1st of Nov. The second will be on the 6th of Family Readiness Group. MILIUS Dec. Attending one of these briefs is Family Readiness Group was just reestabMANDATORY for all hands and will be- lished October 17, 2010 and already have a gin at 1800 at the bowling alley on the dry lot of fun events planned for the deployside of 32nd Street. Families are not rement. The FRG will be meeting right after quired to attend but are highly encourour pre-deployment briefs, please stay beaged as the briefs will include the oppor- hind and learn more. Id like to thank our tunity to sign up for services and prepare President: Katie Horton; Vice President: your family for your Sailors abKayla Newbanks; Treasurer: Ryan Betz; and sence. (Child care will be provided if you Secretary: Deisy Saliva for volunteering to reserve a seat in advance by notifying the be our FRG Board Members! Thank you!! Ombudsman) Sincerely, CDR Nikki Bufkin

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Hello, MILIUS Families. So October was a busy month! MILIUS was a hit at San Francisco Fleet Week. We successfully completed another inspection with ULTRA-S and finished up the month at Seal Beach. Your Sailors continue to impress everywhere we go and every milestone we achieve. I am very proud of them. We finished up our first Pre-deployment Brief this week. We will have another brief on the 6th of December at the 32nd Street Bowling Alley. If you need child care please reserve it now for NO cost with our OMBUDSMAN. We need the age and number of spots BEFORE the 10th of November. We have a Tiger Cruise coming up on the 15th of November and then the holidays! Take Care and thank you for your support of your Sailor. We appreciate it! I hope to see you at the next Pre-Deployment Brief! Sincerely,
A big BRAVO ZULU to the following Sailors on their recent reenlistments and awards: Promotions LCDR Dave Hudson Commissioning CWO2 Ted Lasbury Reenlistments STGCS (SW) Michael Estela FC2 (SW) Mark Steyer Navy Achievement Medal FCC (SW) Walter Lasbury Navy & Marine Corps Commendation Medal LCDR Michael Dwan LT Daniel Sledz Enlisted Surface Warfare Specialist (ESWS) EN3 (SW) Amber Young GSM3 (SW) Januar Soepangat FROM THE COMMAND CAREER COUNSELOR
Aloha again MILUS Crew, Family & Friends, October has gone by and November is upon us! With deployment right around the corner, preparation for families and friends are key. On 1 December, starting at 1800, at the Bowling Alley 32 nd St, we will have our second and final Pre-Deployment Brief. This is a great opportunity for family members to obtain valuable information and points-ofcontacts to make the deployment smoother. If you are unable to attend, further information can be obtained by contacting the Fleet and Family Support Center at: www.cnic.navy.mil/navylifesw 619-556-7404 Facebook: www.Facebook.com/FFCPSanDiego If you have any questions, please ask your Sailor. Have a Great Thanksgiving! Sincerely, NC1 (SW/AW) B. Baraoidan

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November 1: Pre-Deployment Brief UPCOMING EVENTS: - Bowling Alley, Dry-side November 7,8,10: Intro to Owning Your Own Business December 6: Pre-Deployment Brief - 7: FFSC Naval Base San Diego at 5pm - Bowling Alley, Dry-side - 8: FFSC FFSC Naval Base San Diego at 9am December 9: Command Holiday Party at -10: FFSC Naval Base Coronado at 5pm FLUXX nightclub November 10-15: Inport Santa Barbara December 10: Childrens Holiday Party November 10: How to Survive the Holidays Financially onboard MILIUS - FFSC, Naval Base Coronado, 1pm November 15-18: Tiger Cruise from Santa Barbara to San Diego November 24: Thanksgiving November 29: Financial Planning for Deployment - Murphy Canyon Chapel, 3200 Santo Rd, 5pm

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Red Cross Offers Local Behavioral Health Support for Military Families
Even as more troops are scheduled to return home, there is still a need for family members to develop resilience skills. The American Red Cross, through their local chapters, has developed such a tool using their existing resources and volunteers. With today's pace of military deployments, the armed forces are paying increasing attention to preparing service members to cope with the psychological stress of combat and its aftermath. The Red Cross believes it is equally important to prepare family members to ensure they are better able to deal with the challenges of 'serving' at home while their loved one is deployed. Coping with Deployments: Psychological First Aid for Military Families was developed out of the Red Cross' continuing commitment to serve military families. This course was designed specifically for spouses, parents, siblings, and significant others of service members. It provides useful information on how to strengthen your ability to successfully respond to the challenges military family members may encounter throughout the deployment cycle. It also explains how to provide psychological first aid to others experiencing stressful feelings or events. For more information about the course, a brochure <http://www.redcross.org/www-files/Documents/pdf/SAF/CopeWithDeploymentsBroc hure.pdf> is available which outlines the program. To find out if a course is taught in your area, please contact your local chapter. You can find your local chapter at www.redcross.org and enter your zip code.

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ASYMCA Hosting SuperParent Holiday Shopping Day Registration begins 1 NOV
The San Diego Armed Services YMCA will be hosting a SuperParent Holiday Shopping Day! SuperParents who register for the Program and are selected in the lottery, will get to shop for two gifts for each of the children in their family. Family sign ups begin Nov 1 at 9am, so please let your families know about this opportunity! Have questions? Visit www.militaryymca.org or call (858) 751-5755.

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The Family Readiness Express is bringing support to military families in Ramona! WHAT: The Family Readiness Express RV assists military members and their families by providing information on Child & Youth Programs, Deployment Preparation, Relocation Assistance, Financial Management, Career Assistance, Exceptional Family Member Program Assistance and more! Visit us in Ramona Vista Housing Mon, Oct 31 - Thu, Nov 3. WHERE: 617 11th Street, Ramona, CA 92065 WHEN: Mon, Oct. 31 from 8:00 AM-4:00 PM Tue, Nov. 1 from 8:00 AM-4:00 PM Wed, Nov. 2 from 8:00 AM-4:00 PM Thu, Nov. 3 from 8:00 AM-4:00 PM For more information, contact the FRE: (619)742-9745 or FamilyReadinessExpress@mwrsw.com

Congrats to OSSN Dooling, who received HONOR GRAD at A School!

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CMC and GMC Amarrador prior to his departure of MLIIUS

FRG is looking for volunteers on the civilian/dependent side to help with United Through Reading. If you are interested in volunteering please contact the FRG at USSMilius69frg@gmail.com.

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MILIUS IS PROUD TO PRESENT,

THE FAMILY READINESS GROUP!! HELLO USS MILIUS FAMILIES!!

I am so excited to announce that we have started our Milius Family Readiness Group (FRG) back up. On Monday, October 17, 2011 the Milius FRG held a meeting at the Murphy Canyon Youth Center. We had a nice turnout and got to meet the Milius FRG Advisor Board and choose our new Board Members. The position of President was filled by Katie Horton, Vice President by Kayla Newbanks, Secretary by Deisy Saliva and Treasurer by Ryan Betz. FROM THE VICE PRESIDENT Hello Milius Families! My name is Kayla Newbanks, SN Newbanks' wife and the Family Readiness Group's new Vice President. I'm a former newspaper writer-turned-Navy wife. I hail from North Dakota, but I also consider my husband's home state of Wyoming my second territory. I have a bachelor's in print journalism from the University of Montana. We've been in San Diego for more than a year, and my husband a former Marine has served in the Navy for a year and a half. Together in our downtime we enjoy hiking and camping. Though, I'm a novice to the Navy, I'm committed to making this FRG a success! Since I'm more than 1,500 miles from home, I can't wait to get to know other Milius families so we can unite to support each other and have some fun during this deployment! FROM THE TREASURER Im Ryan Betz your FRG Treasurer. I am married to Jessica Betz (Ops Officer) for 3+ years, we have an 11 yr old son, my previous relationship, who lives with his mother in Utah. I was previously in the Navy for 6 years as a Nuclear Machinist Mate aboard the USS George Washington in Norfolk, Virginia and left the Navy in 2002. I took my naval training and started working for Norfolk Naval Shipyard as a Radiological Controls Technician from 2003 to 2010 as a technician and Health Physicist Instructor. As you may know, us spouses never say in one place to long, so in 2010 I transferred to Portsmouth Navy Shipyard Point Loma detachment as a technician awaiting the instructor billet to be opened. FROM THE SECRETARY Well about me Deisy T Saliva is my name and I am the FRG Secretary. Family and friends call me Tati or Deisy whichever they feel more comfortable with. My husband is SH2 Saliva. Been married for 5yrs. We don't have kids just a frenchie! The first and last time I was part of an FRG was in 2007 with the USS Denver "the finest gator at sea" (I think that's how it goes). I have to say being part of the FRG gave me a peace of mind knowing that I wasn't the only one going through a tough time. I made great friendships that until now call some of my closest friends. Knowing them and spending time with them made my firs deployment less stressful and made time go by fast. Therefore I hope to gain the same experience and gain more friends. To make the upcoming deployment less stressful an help out with anything I can. Other than that I'm pretty easy going and honest. If anyone needs anything give a call one way or another I can always help!

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FROM THE PRESIDENT I am the new Milius FRG President and my name is Katie Horton. I am married to DC3 Horton and we live in Pacific Beach with our 2 dogs. I am originally from Sunny Southern California thanks to the Marine Corps stationing my family at El Toro Marine Corps Base which is now called The OC Great Park. I went to school for Criminal Justice and Business Law. I like to think I am crafty but Martha Stewart won't be calling me for tips anytime soon. I have met some really great people while being a Navy Wife and hope to keep that trend going. This will be my husband's third deployment with the ship and my goal is to say it was our best one. Currently, we have some fun ideas for FRG meet ups in the works and are hoping to have a large turnout for our first craft and meeting event at the Murphy Canyon Youth Center in January after our Sailors depart. I will keep posting on the Milius Command Families page any events we have going on and sending out emails so if you want to be added to our email list or have questions for any of the FRG Board members please feel free to contact us at ussmilius69frg@gmail.com. We really do want to make this a positive bonding experience. Thank you! Katie Horton

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MILIUS HOLIDAY PARTY at FLUXX

Hello MILIUS sailors and family this is your MWR Officer, ENS Kirby and I wanted to inform everyone that the Command Holiday Party will be at FLUXX located in the Gas Lamp district of downtown, on December 9 th from 1800-2200. We have rented out the entire club exclusively for the Command Party. During the party we will have entertainment, an excellent menu sure to leave the hungry belly happy and satisfied, a take home holiday ornament courtesy of the MWR committee and raffle prizes to bring home. The MWR Committee has all agreed that the theme for the Command Holiday Party will be a Masquerade theme where everyone will bring a mask that covers just your eyes. The idea is to have fun and see who can bring the best mask and the best mask chosen will win a prize. Dress will be smart casual for men in dress slacks, button down shirt with or without a coat and women evening dress or pants outfit. No tennis shoes or jeans allowed. The menu was carefully crafted to include such delicious delicacies such as Filet Mignon b'stilla with plum sauce, Honey & Thyme glazed turkey breast, with cranberry-orange relish, lemon herb mayonnaise & rolls, Sour cream and chive mashed potatoes served in individual martini glasses with choice of toppings to include Boursin cheese, shredded cheddar, sour cream, chives, Applewood smoked bacon, whipped butter & caramelized onions and for dessert we have Chocolate Dipped Strawberries and Red velvet cupcakes with assorted toppings to include cream cheese frosting, carrot cake with pineapple frosting, lemon blueberry with lemon frosting, chocolate chip with caramel butter cream and coconut with key lime frosting. These delicious treats are just a few of the items that will be on the menu. FLUXX has designed their club to celebrate the coming winter months with a giant gumball machine, a peppermint forest behind the main bar, a gingerbread house at the lookout bar, and gumdrops hanging from the ceiling. Entertainment includes DJ who will take requests. An aerial acrobatics performance and fire dancers will come out and engage the audience with three unique shows which will enthrall us all. Afterwards everyone can take pictures of the event at the photo booth with loved ones, friends and the Fire Dancers. All MILIUS Sailors and their guests are welcome to come enjoy the night and festivities. The address to FLUXX is 500 4th Avenue, San Diego, CA 92101.

TRAY PASS HORS DOEUVRES

Filet Mignon b'stilla with plum sauce Herbed Baby Crepes with free-range chicken and ricotta Camembert and Cinnamon poached persimmons on brioche with honeycomb SWEET ENDINGS Gourmet Dessert Bars: Lemon, coconut macadamia, apple crunch, mixed berry shortbread & pecan Chocolate Dipped Strawberries: Bittersweet & white chocolate Cupcakes: Red velvet with cream cheese frosting, carrot cake with pineapple frosting, lemon blueberry with lemon frosting, chocolate chip with caramel butter cream and coconut with key lime frosting

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RECEPTION STATIONS

Gourmet Grilled Cheese Choice of prosciutto, ham or turkey with selection of brie, gorgonzola, cheddar and tomatoes. Served on sour dough bread and prepared fresh on a hot grill. Roasted Tomato & Fennel Soup Roasted Turkey and Mashed Potato Bar ROASTED TURKEY BREAST: Honey & Thyme glazed turkey breast, with cranberry-orange relish, lemon herb mayonnaise & rolls MARTINI MASHED POTATO BAR: Sour cream and chive mashed potatoes served in individual martini glasses with choice of toppings to include Boursin cheese, shredded cheddar, sour cream, chives, Applewood smoked bacon, whipped butter & caramelized onions

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OMBUDSMAN MEMO

Ombudsman Info: ombudsman69@gmail.com OMB Phone 619.417.9980 Careline 619.338.1754

MILIUS Color Guard

PRE-DEPLOYMENT READINESS: The Emotional Cycles of Deployment

Whether this is your first deployment or your 10th, we all handle the emotional stages differently. Knowing that these feelings are normal can help you and your families cope. We are going to focus on the first stage, which we all maybe feeling right now:

PRE-DEPLOYMENT PHASE:
The time leading up to deployment can be extremely stressful for the sailors and their families. Your feelings are based on the anticipation of losshe/she is leaving. There is increased tension between both spouses as they each try to accomplish all they need to do as well as find that couple time. During this phase, it is quite normal to have a HUGE fight with your spouse. Its easier to be angry with them than to deal with the pain and loss of saying goodbye for 6 or more months.

Your families may be feeling: (1) Denial and Disbelief (2) Anger and Resentment of the military, spouse, and their job (3) Frustration with preparation needs (4) Hurt and Rejection (5) Excitement of the mission at hand. Just like anything, when life hands you lemons, make lemonade. You can choose to be angry and depressed or you can choose to make the deployment fun and a positive experience for yourself and for those of us with kids, them too! Set a goal to accomplish one thing this deployment, go back to school, join a gym, volunteer with the USS MILIUS FRG, something that will benefit you.

Being prepared and following some simple tips can lead to a successful and healthy deployment.
Here a just a few: (1) COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE (2) Discuss your feelings (3) Have a support team (4) Get Involved (5)Take care of yourself and get plenty of rest. Your families deployment readiness is vital to the success of the Navy; dont miss your chance to ask the command your questions about deployment. We encourage you to come out to the next USS MILIUS Pre-Deployment brief on Dec 6th at the Admiral Robinson Bowling Alley at 1800. The command leadership, FFSC, and the Ombudsman will be on hand with handouts and key information. We look forward to seeing you there. If you need childcare, please let either Teresa or I know by Nov 22nd. Have a great Navy Day! Your Command Ombudsman Team Jeri Nix and Teresa Tillman

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MILIUS FRONTLINE NEWS

By Ensign Rhianna Cole
San Francisco Fleet Week was a major success. While the time spent in the city was short, thousands of guests had the opportunity to tour MILIUS and the crew got a taste of the wharf. MILIUS hosted tours on both Sunday and Monday during the working hours and in addition, a few VIP tours for a group of Midshipmen from UC Berekely and some Navy-loving families and war-veterans. MILIUS also had the opportunity to participate in a parade thought the city, a San Francisco 49ers football game and a chance to explore the city.
Petty Officer 2nd Class Wesleys reenlistment with LTJG Smith

When Sailors had the chance to cruise the streets, crew members headed out to Fishermans Wharf to eat the freshest seafood, relish in the cities art and culture, experience the lonely rock of Alcatraz and take in all the glitz and glamour San Francisco shopping and downtown has to offer. The past few months have been busy and non-stop but it was a great chance for MLIIUS to see an uncommon port with rich history. Next on the plate for MILIUS is Santa Barbara where the Navy League once again will dish out nothing but the best for MILIUS.

Rendering Honors to the San Francisco Yacht Club during Fleet Week

MILIUS will be hosting tours, attending the Military Ball, participating in a Veterans Day parade in addition to sporting events and community relations events. As mentioned in last months edition, if you are interested in living the life of your Sailor for a few days, inform your Sailor you are interested in the Tiger Cruise from Santa Barbara to San Diego. Some restrictions do apply and advance notice is required so the sooner you let your Sailor know, the better! Hope to see you there!
If you have questions, comments or suggestions for MILIUS FRONTLINE NEWS, please email the Public Affairs Officer at PAO@ddg69.navy.mil. Also, please check the Facebook page and contact our Ombudsmen for more information!

MILIUS manning the rails pulling into San Francisco Harbor