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To Discuss:
To Discuss: • Why do some newly-weds live with their parents while others
• What is wrong with this interpretation of Genesis 2? choose to start their own homes?
• Which way does the Bible indicate is the better way of starting
Study the context of both passages following…
married life?
• What can be done to encourage couples to follow the Bible pattern?
has sound biblical justification.
The married state is thus publicly recorded.
5 There can be no doubt of their new sexual relationship as married couple.
What happens subsequently is privately conducted.
A New Social Order: “United With His Wife” 6
•There is something special that takes place in the union of a man and a woman, To Discuss
and that the union must be preserved intact
without the undue influence of, or addition of, any other people. •Modern secular portrayals of marriage and sex
give the idea that it is “cool” to have a private wedding
A Unique Sexual Union: “One Flesh”
(say, on a remote exotic beach)
•Sex outside of marriage leads to trouble! and that sex can be a public (adult) affair.
Sexually transmitted diseases •Discuss the comparisons between a traditional Shadi in the East
are spread from unions outside the sanctified marriage union and the above scenario often portrayed in the West.
What has Scripture to say about such practices
The Purpose of Weddings
(Eastern and Western)? 5
They Publicise a Marital Union
The Creation of Woman
Weddings in both the Old and New Testaments portrayed as
a public acknowledgement of a new married state. The purpose of sex is not primarily the satisfaction of a need
(to experience a relationship), That would cheapen sex.
Private Intimacy
The beautiful and mutually delightful intimacy of a man “knowing” a God’s Purpose
woman is a private matter Our view of sex changes radically when we stop seeing it in terms of
recognised only in the pregnancy of the (married) woman. meeting man’s needs
Those who took a woman outside of marriage were described as and start to see it as expressing God’s purposes,
“lying with” (rarely as “knowing”) the woman. which began with
“Knowing” is normally hreserved for legitimate intimate relationships A. a garden to be worked and cared for,
So sacred is it that it is sometimes used as a picture of continued with a people called to be
the spiritual intimacy that God wants to have with His people. B. light to the nations,
Public Acknowledgement of a Calling and proceeds now with
Marriage is not just a private matter of two lovers making a C. a Kingdom to be extended
covenant together. through the carrying out of the Great Commission.
Rather it is a calling to which husband and wife are Love
called by God by virtue of being married. The task as set out in the Great Commission
The Public Nature of Marriage can only be achieved through
Further it is a relationship initiated, hedged and bounded by a faithful love for God and for your fellow man.
public recognition and support. This love for the world can only flow from
Hence it should never be totally private, least of all secret. a life which lives out this love
Public Feast – Private Intimacy God’s Purpose for Sex
Placing bride and bridegroom on the marriage bed in front of the cameras A marriage of a husband and wife, who both live out this love
as part of their private experience,
fulfils the purpose God when He made man and women the difficulty of guarding pure thoughts (Ps. 119:9)
to desire each other in the intimacy of sexual delight. are all examples of the difficulties inspired by sexual desire.
The Purpose of Sex: not to meet needs, nor to create children; The bible is realistic about sexual arousal, noting that it is a fact of life
rather it is to nurture love between husband and wife. (Eze.23:18).
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“Sex created in order to build intimacy and love between the couple Marriage and Public Order
that then ‘explode’ onto the world with the security and experience of a The social consequences of the abuse of sex seen in
private bliss. rape, adultery, molestation of the young, and homosexuality.
The strengthening of relationship, the joy in the midst of life Marriage is an obvious hedge against such abuse.
is vital for the effectiveness of the couple… But the maintenance of public order in sexual matters is not
There is a mutual delight in each other, an intimacy the primary purpose of Marriage.
in the midst of life and household responsibilities.
To refresh and restore one another, to strengthen the relationship To Discuss
which is then able to take on the task given to it.” (IH) •Is it wise to marry off daughters as soon as they reach puberty,
The faithful intimate love of a committed couple or should Christians have another approach to an appropriate age
can provide a centre of stable security, so that for marriage?
this safe home becomes a refuge into which others can be welcomed. What are the advantages of delaying marriage to a later age?
Sex In the Service of God
The Song of Songs is best known for its celebration of
the intimacies of love as experienced by two lovers.
But how does it fit the context of the service of God? Next Session
Gardens in the Bible are not primarily there to provide a beautiful place Having Children
to sit and enjoy the pleasures of its colourful flowers and lovely fragrances.
A garden is there to produce fruit Assumption:
So the lovers revel in the springtime of love The purpose of having male and female, the reason for the existence of sex
because it gives hope for the autumn of fruitfulness. and the essential goal of marriage, is the creation of children.
Fruitfulness is a great Bible picture, not only of children, True? Or not?
but more significantly,
of a world properly ordered and cultivated :the Kingdom of Heaven itself.
The Abuse of Sex
Sex can be a wonderful thing. It can also be destructive and harmful.
e.g. the damage caused by jealousy, abuse and rape.
What is intrinsically good
can be subverted and cause the greatest damage when misused.
Control is required.
Scripture recognises an inherent instability about sexual desire.
The lustful look (Job 31:1),
the adulterous look (Matt.5:27-30),