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The approach to succeed with women has to begin with one factor and thats it:
Normally you can kinda tell that the stranger is a warm and friendly guy. Hes probably laughing and acting much like a kid himself. But what would happen if some stranger came up and started talking to the kid out of nowhere but instead of being playful and fun, he was anxious (nervous) and extremely nice. He gets down on one knee to the childs level and he is just trying to force a conversation. He is on a mission to talk to the kid, but appears nervous (anxious) and actually doesnt seem like he knows what to say. Would you think this guy was warm and friendly? I mean after all wasnt he extremely nice? I hope you would agree that this guy would seem very creepy. I hope you see how approaching a female with this type of energy is likely to elicit a similar feeling of creepiness. So if you ever approached a woman and she appeared scared or bitchy chances are high that she was scared or creeped out. The best way to get rid of the nervousness (or at least minimize it so that it is undetectable) is to send positive messages to your self. The success that you will have with women will begin with the things you say to yourself. Ill explain and Ill try to do a good job of making this clear. But first think about this. If you look in the mirror and say: IM A LOSER. IM PATHETIC. to yourself ten times (as if you truly mean it), you will notice that your face will make subtle changes to the point where it would appear as though you are not really feeling good about yourself. On the other hand, if you looked in the mirror and said: IM THE MAN. ALL WOMEN WANT ME. to yourself ten times (as if you truly mean it), you will notice that your face will make subtle changes to the point where it would appear as though you are really feeling good about yourself. Women can TELL that you are focusing on self-defeating thoughts even though you have never said them out loud. The first thing is to get rid of the memory of failure! Start thinking of the rejections (or bad memories) that you experienced as a success. It may seem weird. But truthfully there will always be information that you can get from any experience that will benefit you in the future. There is no way you could have successfully got the information if you didnt allow yourself to have that experience. You truly never lose when you are trying. And you never lose when you perceive the situation as an experience that contains valuable information. You truly never lose when you look at it that way. I cant stress that enough. There is always valuable information in what you consider to be failing. Seriously.
But in order to see better results, you have to start. If you keep telling yourself that you have never succeeded with women, then women can TELL. Do not allow yourself to say that to yourself. The success really comes down to what you say and how you feel and where you know you are going. Once you REALIZE that SUCCESS comes from the messages that you say to yourself, then you can get happy about the future.
Because if you keep telling yourself that you have failed in the past and that you have never succeeded with women, then you will send those messages to her. In other words, she will be able to sense your insecurity. She will be able to sense that you focus on the fact that you have failed with women in the past. You may think you are projecting confidence, but if youve been thinking about the fact that women reject you (or if youve been thinking about the fact that your wife has been rejecting you for sex), you will sabotage yourself. In order to reverse the process (going from alleged failure to success) you have to escape the cycle of perceived failure. This is the Cycle of Sabotage. If you say things like: I need to start doing what it takes to succeed with women because I have always failed with women. That is still a bad approach even though it appears that you are ready to make a change, you are still focusing on what you are labeling as failure. Think of focusing on failure as having this bright red glowing ball in your head, that women can see. You are embarrassed by it and it doesnt make you feel good but you think she cant see it. But every time you focus on your failure it gets brighter and brighter! Every time you think about an experience (that you label as a failure) it gets brighter and brighter. So when you approach her (in whatever way) with this glowing red ball, she sees it and wants to run! The more intense the brightness, the greater the urgency to run. Yeap, and that includes guys in relationships! - even if its a woman who loves you. Her running away will be the same as her coming up with the most clever and convincing excuses not to have sex with you. She may want to cuddle with you. She may not even want any type of affection. But either way she will run when she sees that glowing red ball and she will not want sex. NOTE: And never send her the message that you will always be with her dont matter what. Saying things like Well what do I need to do to keep you? will make the glowing ball so bright shes likely to cheat on you! So listen up! Here is the tricky part, because a lot of this may seem obvious. Approaching a woman and feeling as though you are confident as you talking to her is one thing. Having periods of time when you focus on failure is another. So even though you may feel like you are projecting confidence and comfort, deep down you may have a bright red glowing ball in your head. In order to start seeing consistent favorable results you need to continue to project confidence and you need to dim down the red light. If you dont have both, you will make things unnecessarily difficult for yourself if not impossible. Here is how you turn it down to the point where she cant see it at all: [This is an easy twostep process]
The good news is that turning down the light is a simple process. You put IN a small amount of effort and you get OUT a large favorable response. [What if every time you snapped your fingers money (i.e. a hundred dollar bill) fell out of the sky? That is an example of little effort-IN and getting a lot-OUT] Our method of little-IN, big-OUT may not be on the scale as the money-out-of-the-sky example, but at least this method can work in the real world. Here is what you do: You convert what you perceived to be past failures into experiences with valuable information. Imagine if you recalled all of the events that made you project an energy of failure and took the time to view all of them as being POSITIVE! And by positive, I mean seductively beneficial. In other words, you allowed yourself to view those events as experiences with valuable information. The good news is that is what they are in reality. So Step 1 is allow yourself to view those things as experiences with valuable information. The whole process will force you to change your seductive outlook in a way that will make you happy with the results. And once your outlook is changed, success has to follow. Here is an example: (keeping things super simple) Steve and Jason are poor. Steve focuses on the fact that he is poor. Jason doesnt even think about the fact that he is also poor - in fact he tells himself that he will become rich one day. He expects to become rich. Oh yeah, Steven says Look at me, Im poor - Ill never be rich. Guess which one becomes rich. Jason. How did it happen? It started with Jasons mind state. (That is what drives you) If you scroll up to the very top of this page, those are the first words that are in red. People can sense your mind state better than you can ever imagine. The first process will always begin with your mind state. Also, I forgot to mention. Steve never thought Jason would become rich, because he focused on Jasons perceived failure (the fact that he didnt currently have wealth). And since I am aware that you have heard of at least one story where a person used to be poor and later became rich, I know that you are aware that this person took on a unique and powerful mind state to break out of the cycle of being poor.
It works the same with women. Also there have been cases where a failure-focusing person have run across a large sum of money (i.e. winning the lottery) and they end up becoming poor again. It starts with your mind state. If you forget about the past (and convert them into a positive memory) I guarantee you the red glowing ball will cut off and she wont even see it. She is not a mind reader. If she were one, she would be able to guess at a 5 digit number in your head. However - she can detect your mind state and what you expect. So find every event that you think is a failure and find something good it in find the valuable information find the learning experience find the time to say: I have just escaped the cycle of sabotage! I have no past failures with women. Another example before we move on to Step 2: Before I hooked up with the woman I am with now, I was comfortable with my success with women in the past. As the relationship moved on, my sexual value started to decrease. I was getting rejected like crazy. And the times that we did have sex, she was just giving in. (technically those were rejections, too) I knew that she loved me. But she wasnt turned on. I kept telling myself things like: She just has a low libido. I thought about leaving her. In my mind, I was thinking: I dont want to spend the rest of my life with a woman with sex-drive problems. I did focus on my success with women in the past, so in my mind I thought that it could never be me. At least thats what I thought. In the beginning, sex was great. So in my mind, Im thinking what happened to her? Not only that, I begin to view the success (great sex in the beginning) as a failure! If thats not self-sabotage, I dont know what is? I thought Maybe she wasnt even turned on back then. Maybe she was just giving me the sex, because she wanted to be in a relationship with me. Do you see the destruction in this mind state? To me, it made sense. But then one day, I realized that the sex went downhill for a reason. I started with me initiating sex when she was tired and in a poor environment (i.e. a messy room) If you recall the CR James Basic Seduction Formula: In order for sex to take place: 1. she needs to be in the right state of mind 2. she needs to perceive you as having sexual value 3. there has to be an ideal environment for her So I would initiate sex when she was in the wrong state of mind (i.e. being tired). At the time, sex was so rare that it had more value then necessary, so I would be willing to have sex when I was tired. So I thought her tiredness was an excuse.
Also she prefers to have sex in a prettier environment. Since I didnt care, I assumed that she didnt really care. So I thought that was an excuse. Basically, I projected what I felt onto her (Just like Steve projected that Jason would never get rich, because he felt that he would ever become rich) Basically, we tend to see ourselves in others. So anyway, by looking at the events I later began to find valuable information within those experiences. The failure mind set: She always rejects me. She never wants sex. She has a low libido. I was focusing on what I perceived to be failure. But as I analyzed these failures I discovered that I had been approaching her for sex when she was tired. I did it so much, that anytime I approached her for sex (even when she wasnt tired) I still got rejected. I discovered that she had developed a habit of rejecting me! The sad thing is that I actually had sexual value, but I approached her at the worse times for her. That is valuable information, right? I would have never learned that valuable information if it wasnt for the experience. So naturally I made sure that I would only initial when I was certain that she would accept (in the beginning) because I learned that I could get her in the habit of wanting sex. That was a powerful discovery. But by approaching her during the worse times, I unintentionally created a horrible anchor for rejection. In other words my action (of approaching her for sex) TRIGGERED AND RETURNED HER to a state of mind where she felt she needed to reject me even though she wasnt tired! How powerful is this? Things are completely different now. Lets just say that if I wanted to right now (and I have actually done this) I can approach her in a way that will successfully trigger a rejection. If you ever get to a point where you can feel that you have lots of sexual value, I would recommend that you do this. Seriously. Because at that point you will discover that you can trigger any response in her good or bad. Remember the Cycle of Sabotage. If you can trigger any response in her (even while you are in this cycle) then you will realize that there must exist short-term sexual value. Short-term sexual value is just random spikes of sexual value where you may have done something accidentally and the next thing you know she is turned on. You may end up having great sex with her, but overall she has a habit of rejecting you and she has a habit of perceiving you as having little sexual value. This is her long-term perception. Her long-term perception lets you know which cycle you are in. So it will help you to trigger a rejection just for the hell of it. Youll walk away with a valuable experience. When I first did it on purpose, I realized that if I approach her the same way I used to approach her for sex which was not-only anti-seductive, it was sure to trigger the old feelings, I would get a successful rejection.
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If this makes sense to you and you are aware of the power, you should being feeling great right about now! And if you are feeling great you have already increased your sexual value. Because once you have made the decision to change your mind state as time goes on you will continue to move in the right direction. And that is the direction that allows you to see any outcome of an experience as a success. Once you get to that point then the red light in your head shuts off. She can not detect it. And a new light is formed and it glows green. So when you focus (and realize) that success takes place regardless of her short-term decision then you can think of this as having a bright green glowing ball in your head, that women can see. Every time you focus on your success it gets brighter and brighter! And when women see this signal they go to places they have never been before. Why? Because even if she was the sexiest woman on the planet the fact that she is a human means that she is going to have natural ups and downs. There will be plenty of days where she will want to experience something exciting and new in her life. There will be plenty of days when she will be exposed to some random asshole that just hurt her feelings. There will be plenty of days where she will be bored out of her mind. There will be plenty of days when she will feel sad because of the natural stuff that goes on in life. Because of this it will always feel good, when a man comes out of nowhere and removes her from those negative states of mind. Because of this it will always feel good, when she is in the presence of a man that helps her move into a better state of mind. This is how you become her Super Sexy Man. You simply become her hero out of all the vague and unclear messages she sends out this is the one that she has been sending out since she was a little girl. Women love to be rescued! That includes the sexiest women in the world. The cool thing about attractive women is you already know her types of pain (i.e. envy or perceived envy everyone thinks she is stuck up or it is her perception that everyone thinks she is stuck up)
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Ill say that one more time. CREATE AND CHANGE THE PERCEPTION OF SUCCESS Instead of looking at getting sex or getting her number or getting her to accept going out as success, focus on successfully sending the messages as success. Focus on getting comfortable with either outcome as success. Focus on making it your goal to make her feel good about herself in a way where you are evaluating her (not kissing up to her) as success. For example, if you make success just trying to start a conversation with her, then thats not hard to succeed. It doesnt mean you are lowering your expectations. It just means that you are doing what it takes to force you to focus on the important things Remember: Your future matters not your past. Your unconscious mind (or your deep down thoughts) can easily be re-programmed by repetition. In other words if you keep telling yourself over and over again things like I feel amazing, life is great, etc. you will trick your unconscious mind and you will REALLY start to feel that way. Are you aware of the power? [Guilty Guy scares away 30 plus-sized cats!] Plus women will be able to tell that you are feeling that way. Even if you have no trouble with your outlook, it is important to say things to yourself that send signals of that kind of confidence that she will pick up on. Any time you are projecting a healthy amount of confidence, its always beneficial to be engaging and compassionate with others. This ensures that you dont come off as arrogant and selfcentered, but more importantly it creates a powerful charismatic attitude.
STEP TWO: Focus on telling yourself positive/confident messages in an effort to project the more powerful below the surface signals.
As you can tell, that is the theme. It has more value than most people realize. Most people do not have a clue about how powerful that is. Remember that she has NO CHOICE but to respond positively to being able to tell that you feel great about yourself. (assuming that she is a level-headed female). The response is on a deep down level. When my son was only 6-9 months (he couldnt talk). I remember talking to him in this pathetic clown-like nerdy voice and out of nowhere he instinctively slapped me in the face. People react to your signals. If you tell yourself that you feel great about yourself, and that your intentions is to make her feel good about herself (and thats it), the process of initiating a conversation happens with ease. In other words, if you approach a woman with this amazing attitude and your only goal is to make her feel good (not get her number or anything like that) then success will seem very easy to achieve.
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STEP THREE: Make her feel good about herself in a way that makes you the authority.
Complimenting her on her looks may make her feel good and she may really be flattered, but it will not establish you as the authority. Complimenting her on her looks means you will take on the energy of a fan or a stalker (depending on the intensity). Avoid it. Because in most cases, she will normally get the impression (signal) that you are fighting to get her approval on some level. In seconds, shell get the impression that you are trying to impress her or win her. Basically you are asking her would you accept me? or would you please have sex with me? That is what the average guy does. That is what the bottom 95% of guys do. That is the energy and the tone of their conversion. In other words, their 30-60 minute conversation with her is One Big Sentence that says: Will you please accept me? or would you please let me have sex with you? That does not have to be your Big Sentence. You can make your Big Sentence send the message that you are the one that does the accepting or you are the one that decides whether you will give her sex. Some guys think that you have to be a man and make the bold move and let her know that you want sex. After all, how else is she going to know that you want it, if you dont let her know. To me, you dont really have to let her know. Your goal is to be her Emotional Fireman. If you have sent the messages: (1. You feel great about yourself, 2. You react well in all situations, 3. You are the one that evaluates 4. You made her feel good about herself in a way that makes you the authority) then it will be obvious. Lets look at the last part (Number 4) - You made her feel good about herself in a way that makes you the authority. Remember: The wrong way to do that is by complimenting her on her looks. Once you have enough sexual value, youll be able to get away with a lot of stuff and theyll actually work for you. But if you feel that you still need to build up your sexual value (with her) then DO NOT compliment her on her looks Also, do not be the guilty guy that thinks this is a mean thing to do. You can still compliment her (in a certain way) and shell get the same bubbly feelings and you dont have to worry about having the wrong Big Sentence. The right way to do it is to compliment her decision making. (This is one example)
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Mr. Most Guys thinks he has to try very hard because she is very attractive. What you are about to learn next is very important: (And if you have this on your mind, you will project a superior mind state, because you will be more aware.) This about this. Womens perception of the DecentGuy-to-BagOfShitGuy ratio will only represent their personal sample of the population of men. Once I explain it in simpler terms and in mathematical terms, you will realize that you can succeed easier by approaching prettier women. You already know that the Decent Guy like yourself is rare. That has been established. Quality is perceived. Quantity can be verified.
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The bottom line is you dont want to be the Decent Guy that gets rejected. I got good news: Its simple as pie not to be that guy. In fact, once you approach her with the awareness that there are plenty of women out there with the understanding that it is rare for her to meet a decent guy with sexual value it would be difficult to project the wrong signals. Also, if you are in a relationship everything in this report can be applied to initiating sex, because the energy is the same. In fact, you can think of each time you approach her for sex as you meeting and getting a new sexy womans phone number. Your sexual value is universal. If your wife rejects you a lot for sex, then chances are you would get rejected at the same rate in the dating environment. After you approach the woman, you need to let her know very quickly that it is actually YOU that is giving her a shot. You are the rare one. The more subtle (but yet obvious) this message - the more powerful!
THE MALE/FEMALE SYSTEM: When you are talking to her and its a one on one thing the two of you are in a male/female system. The rest of the world is cut off and the only thing that is going on is this male to female system. The important thing to know is once you get in one of these systems with a female, the only thing you need to do is establish yourself as the MAN (many guys do not do this - even though it should be instinctive) and SHE will respond subtly to what the signals that reveal what you EXPECT.
If you review the steps (scroll up theyre in green): You will see that the first two steps is about becoming a MAN and step three is about getting her to respond to your expectations. So when you approach her (or every time you talk to her) take on the mindset of I wonder if she is going to be good enough for me and really take that approach If you show her those two signals she will be drawn to YOU. So once your Big Sentence becomes: I wonder if you are good enough for me, because there are tons of women out there, she will be forced to think: I got to make sure no other woman snatches him up. Thats exactly how they think. A. Once you let a woman know that there is a possibility that she may lose a particular item, she will fight to keep the item without even thinking about whether she really wanted it or not. THIS IS HOW YOU CREATE AN URGE WITHIN HER.
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As you can see you can creating a dual level of fighting for you (fighting to win your approval & fighting to keep you) Before we move on keep this in mind. [for future and past reports]
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If you never tell her that you disapprove of something she is talking about: 1. Your Good-Girl Messages could be perceived as you kissing her ass 2. You will not establish yourself as the authority the one who decides and evaluates 3. Your Good-Girl Messages will lose effectiveness because theres no baseline or nothing to compare it to. With that said - These are the Bad-Girl Messages: what made you do that? Im shocked. I didnt think you were that type Im disappointed in you (my favorite) Im starting to think differently of you etc, At a minimum this can be done on a playful level and still generate the same deep down responses in her that will benefit you. Once she hears anything that suggest that you are giving her short-term disapproval then she will in most cases return to the state of mind of desiring to seek more positive responses. She will now want to hear the very goods or the good jobs or that was smart of you to blah blah blah. This is something you will notice. And your sexual value will be going up like crazy. This approach (focusing on these signals) is light years ahead of buying her roses and telling her she is the prettiest thing on earth. This first time I did this purposefully I was able to fire-off my first Im proud of you within 1 minute of talking to the young lady. About 60 minutes of talking she expressed that she wanted to hook up later on. Im not saying this to brag, I just want to let you know that it is powerful. If she comments on your comments, do not worry and do not crumble. If you are the type that struggles with what to say next, then you will be happy to know that another benefit to doing this is that once you see that she is fighting for the emotional rewards (that only you can give out), you will realize that it is much easier to hold a conversation with her. So again, once she hears anything that suggest that you are giving her short-term disapproval then she will in most cases return to the state of mind of desiring to seek more positive responses. She now will want to hear the very goods or the good jobs or that was smart of you to blah blah blah. She will instinctively go into this state of mind. Kind of like a mother bird instinctively goes on a mission to find worms once she hears the cries of the baby birds. And sticking with the bird analogies, what do you think happens when you give a parrot a cracker for talking? Yeap, it wants to keep talking!
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Super Lust Buttons This is the Super Lust Buttons formula that is to be executed once you enter THE MALE/FEMALE SYSTEM
STEP ONE: Forget about the past (if necessary) STEP TWO: Focus on telling yourself positive/confident messages in an effort to project the more powerful below the surface signals. Remove the Red Glowing Ball STEP THREE: Make her feel good about herself in a way that makes you the authority (i.e. good for you)
1. Make her realize that she has to fight to keep you because other women will snatch you up 2. Become Her Emotional Fireman (Rescue her from pain and provide her with pleasure
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This is a good way to help you see where the 3 types of guys rank in terms of Sexual Value. The guy at the top is not only her instinctive idea man, but he is the rarest guy out there. He is the guy that does the emotional tricks and moves her on a raw psychological level better than the jerk because he rescues her and moves her to pleasurable emotional levels - Women do respond psychologically to some jerks, but there is an inner conflict. She is unconsciously attracted to him, but consciously she is not. In other words, she knows that this is not the man she wants. You will discover time and time again, the Cellar Dweller (The Extremely Nice & Anxious Guy) cant even compete with the jerk even though she is consciously attracted to him. In other words, the Extremely Nice Guy may satisfy her conscious needs (attractive, nice and polite, good job, caring, etc) but her unconscious buttons are not being pressed.
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The Decent Guy with Sexual Value [rare] satisfies her unconscious and conscious needs. There is nothing to be ashamed of and he turns her on sexually. She will be magnetized to him like crazy! He is the rare guy in the middle that she has always been searching for. The Jerk [plenty of them] only satisfies her unconscious needs. (conflict: shell want him sexually, but she is deeply ashamed of him and embarrassed by his actions) The Extremely Nice Guy [plenty of them] only satisfies her conscious needs. (conflict: shes very proud to say that he is her man and he is a nice guy, but she cant figure out why she isnt turned on by him)
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