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3rd-Density Relationships
The way people relate to one another in the 3rd density consciousness. SEPARATION Separation as an identity. Feeling separated as individuals. Separation from the God Source. Separation from each other. Separation from aspects of ourselves. Based in illusion. DUALITY VIEW See the world as good & bad, right & wrong. Strong ego attachment to being good and being right. SECRECY Withholding information from others & from self. Avoid conversation on touchy subjects. With secrecy, my partner never gets to know who I truly am. Keeps me separated from the greater portion of myself.

FEAR-BASED MONOGAMY Through my monogamous relationship, I am "separated" from the vulnerability of having to deal with any other relationships, therefore, I feel "safe" (separate and safe).

I use societal or moral judgment to guilt or shame my partner into staying in monogamy. I will love you only so long as you fulfill my needs and expectations. I will withdraw my love if you do not satisfy me. COMMITTMENT I need commitment in order to avoid my fear of having to deal with other relationships. Although commitment never insures security, commitment makes me think or feel that I am secure. EXPECTATION I want, expect, and try to get my partner to fulfill my expectations and needs. I use my partner to satisfy my needs. I am not happy unless my expectations are met. MANIPULATION I use obvious or hidden manipulation so that my needs will be met and I can remain protected from my own fears. I only see my partner as who I need or want them to be, not who they really are. THE NEED TO CONTROL I do not trust that everything that occurs is for my highest good, therefore I need to control and shape the relationship so that it will take the form I wish it to be. I feel like I "own" my partner. RELATIONSHIP takes Precedence to PERSONAL GROWTH DEPENDENCY I depend on and need someone outside of myself in order to be happy. A PERSON CANNOT FULLY LOVE MORE THAN ONE PERSON. 3-D emphasizes LACK mentality.

If my partner begins to also love another person, that means he/she will have less love for me. My partner spending LESS TIME with me is not good. My parner's love for me is equal to the amount of time they spend with me. I want to avoid being on my own, by myself; To keep from having to face the fear of being alone, I will cling to my partner. PAIN There is always pain when I function from the 3-D relationships "mind-set" because it is built on separation and fear. ENDING A RELATIONSHIP creates PAIN & LOSS. I am being rejected by my partner, therefore I am angry and hurt. I have lost my direction. I feel justified in my anger. I dislike/hate my partner. FEAR or PAIN of LONELINESS I am dependant on the physical presence of my parner to feel connected with them. I need my partner by my side or I will feel scared and alone. ANGER AT ANOTHER (BLAME) I am angry at my partner for not meeting my needs! I blame others for my misery even though blame makes me powerless and feel more out of control. VICTIMHOOD "Hurters" & "Victims"

I can hurt others. I can be hurt by others. I can be hurt by the comments or actions of others.

FEELING RESPONSIBLE for the NEEDS of my PARTNER My partner is seeking to have their needs met externally by me, but a person's needs can never really be met by anyone else, so my partner is bound to eventually get angry at me for not fulfilling their needs.

You may find yourself somewhat resonating with this 4D way of relating to the world. Tha into 4D. If you stay in the 3D way of operating, you will continue to experience pain and s evolution; its cumulative effect finally forces us into a new direction. How many times is i lesson is learned? Take initiative now.

mparison of the operating premise of 3D reality vs. 4D reality.

4th-Density Relationships
The way people relate to one another in the 4th density consciousness.

INTEGRATION (ONENESS) Understand and experience that everything and everyone are really all connected. We are One. Integration with God-Source.

ACCEPTING WHAT IS Perceive the world as what it is. Does not attach a standard of value or dualistic point of view to what is. HONESTY + OPENNESS Total honesty with my partner. My partner gets to know who I truly am. Honesty means being 100% who I truly am. I do not withhold a comment or information to avoid hurting my partner, or to control the relationship. I can never really know or predict what will hurt another or how they will react to my honesty. I stop assuming responsibility for the other person's emotions, growth, & reactions to my honest non-manipulative communications. RELATIONSHIPS BY CHOICE

Monogamy, Polygamy, or

Poly-Fidelity, whichever the choice of relationship may be, there is no inherent "right" or "wrong". All types of relationships are all inherently neutral. Any type of relationship is "okay". If I choose monogamy, this does not mean that I expect or need my partner to also choose monogamy. Even if you don't fulfill my needs and expectations, I will still love you. I love you for who you are without trying to change you. BEING IN THE PRESENT I stay in the present and I do not need a commitment because I trust that the future will take care of itself. Commitment is irrelevant to how I feel right now. NO EXPECTATIONS I trust and have no expectations from my partner. I enjoy my partner, but without expectations.

ALLOWINGNESS I allow my partner to be who they are or who they want to be. I love and accept who they truly are. ABSOLUTE TRUST I trust that everything that occurs is for my highest good, therefore I have no desire or need to control my partner. My partner is a sovereign being, just as I am. PERSONAL GROWTH takes Precedence to RELATIONSHIP. SELF-SUFFICIENCY I recognize that I, and only I, am the creator of my own reality. Therefore, only I am the generator of my own happiness. A PERSON CAN FULLY LOVE MORE THAN ONE PERSON. 4-D emphasizes abundance.

No matter how many other people my partner loves, this does not diminish at all, in any way, how much love he/she has for me. No matter how many other people I love, this does not diminish at all, in any way, how much love I have for my partner. My partner spending LESS TIME with me is fine. If I truly love myself unconditionally, then the time spent with myself is equal in value to the time spent with my partner. I love myself as much as I love my partner, therefore, the time I spend alone is just as enjoyable as the time spent with my partner, and it's okay if I spend less time with my partner. HAPPINESS, PLEASURE, & ECSTACY There is never any pain, only happiness, pleasure, and ecstasy when I function from the 4-D relationships "mind-set". ENDING A RELATIONSHIP does not create PAIN & LOSS. In realizing that this relationship is no longer serving us, we choose to harmoniously end it. We recognize that the relationship is going in different directions, and so we allow it to end, without any hard feelings, only with love.

FEELING CONNECTED to SIGNIFICANT OTHERS beyond time and space. Even if my partner is far away, or even if I haven't seen my partner for a long time, I still feel very connected to them. Whereas separation is an illusion, being actually connected-together is the reality no matter the distance.

ANGER AT MYSELF I am angry at myself for creating a reality that I do not prefer. I understand that I created my reality. I take full responsibility for my creation and my experience. I CREATE MY OWN REALITY. Self-Responsibility & Empowerment I understand that there is no victimhood, since each one creates their own reality. I create my own reality, and this even includes other people's reactions to my actions. I can never be hurt by another person. I can never hurt another person. Only I am responsible for my reactions to other people's comments or actions.

BEING RESPONSIBLE for what I would like to GIVE to My PARTNER & our RELATIONSHIP

I am pure in my intention with my relationship. I am 100% who I truly am with my partner. I am responsible for what, in my integrity, I would like to give to our relationship.

ating with this 4D way of relating to the world. That is a sign that you are transitioning erating, you will continue to experience pain and suffering. Pain exists to promote orces us into a new direction. How many times is it necessary to hit bottom before a