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SEXUAL DEPENDENCY
Sexual Dependency - is an international term that defines a wide range of maladaptive and self-defeating behavior patterns and relationships like:
Sexual Dependency Scientists in the field of addictions are currently denoting that about 3-6% of the worlds population are now affected by a sexual dependency or compulsivity. You have to know that sexual dependency is a diagnosable and treatable disease, which today is common, regarded in about the same way that alcoholism and drug addiction (chemical dependency) was regarded 40 years ago. Nonetheless, there still exists a wide range of
industry.
LOVE ADDICTION
1) a disorder in which people frequently become involved in enmeshed, intense, codependent relationships, even when those relationships or partners are unhelpful (vocab on next slide)
ENMESHMENT
Relationships without clear
CODEPENDENCY
relationship addiction unhealthy love and a tendency to behave in overly passive or excessively caretaking ways that negatively impact one's relationships and quality of life
CODEPENDENCY CAN OCCUR IN ANY TYPE OF R E L A T I O N S H I P, I N C L U D I N G F A M I L Y, W O R K , F R I E N D S H I P, AND ALSO ROMANTIC, PEER OR COMMUNITY RELATIONSHIPS.
1. If you cannot not tell the difference between your own emotions and those of
a person with whom you have a relationship. 2. If you feel like you need to rescue someone from their emotions.
3. If you feel like you need someone else to rescue you from your own emotions.
4. If you and another person do not have any personal emotional time and space. These symptoms indicate that your relationship might benefit from the help of a qualified family therapist.
and Spirit, by Dr. Brenda Schaeffer, Hazelden, Center City, MN, 2001. This
and her best seller, Is It Love or Is It Addiction?, are available at your local bookstore, http://www.loveandaddiction.com or by calling1-888-987-6129. Brenda Schaeffer, D.Min., licensed psychologist, author and certified addiction specialist, is an experienced therapist, teacher and international speaker. She has a private practice in Eden Prairie, MN. She can be reached by calling 952-9039215 or via email: brenda@loveaddiction.com.
DEFINITION
Love addiction is any unhealthy attachment to
people, euphoria, romance or sex
heal past trauma get unmet needs fulfilled avoid fear or emotional pain solve problems fill our loneliness maintain balance
2. They experience both oneness with and separateness from another. 3. They bring out the best qualities in self and another.
6. They invite growth in the other person. 7. They experience true intimacy. 8. They feel the freedom to ask honestly for what is wanted.
9. They experience giving and receiving in the same way. 10. They do not attempt to change or control the other. 11. They encourage self-sufficiency of partners.
12. They accept limitations of self and other. 13. They do not seek unconditional love. 14. They accept and respect commitment.
15. They have a high self-esteem 16. They trust the memory of the beloved; they enjoy solitude. 17. They express feelings spontaneously.
18. They welcome closeness; risk vulnerability. 19. They care with detachment. 18. They affirm equality and personal power of self and other.
ROMANCE ADDICTION
Are you easily in love with being in love? Do you like melodrama: being a rescued victim or the hero? Are longing and melancholy familiar to you? Do you gravitate to romance novels or movies? Is being wanted extremely important to you? Is the attraction phase of a relationship what matters most? Do you live in a future of perfected love? Do you look for love? Are your fantasy outcomes often disappointing? Is there a familiar pattern in your selection of partners? Do you get high on the rush of intoxicating feelings? Do you self medicate with relationships? Do you compromise your values when in love? Is heartbreak familiar? (-continued)
Do you wander off mentally or physically when the romantic high wears off ?
Do you have long distance affairs or affairs with the unavailable? Do you have unrealistic expectations of the love object?
Do your friends ever confront you on your romantic encounters? Do you like living on the edge of perfected love? Do you escape through rich fantasy life? Do you crave ecstasy feelings?
Check yes or no to the above. These are signs of romance addiction. 12 or more affirmative answers indicate that romance is being used like a drug of choice and may be an addiction. Remember that romance can be a delightful part of our love relationships and bring out the best in us. It is when we have become over identified with this experience that it hurts a person.
SEXUAL ANOREXIA
a) a disorder in which individuals become
The Internet, of course, has only accelerated and deepened the problem.
(- CONTINUED) Conflict over one's sexual identity is one of the reasons many people
Sexual anorexia is one of the ways people attempt to manage emotional pain. By closing the door on their sexual lives, these men and women feel a
sense of mastery over their bodies, their lives and most importantly
their emotions.
3. Shame and guilt around sex (i.e. feeling damaged because of your sexual past or current sexual desires)
TREATMENT
There is no one standard solution. Different approaches work for different people. Sexuality involves vulnerability, intimacy and trust. Goal is to have nurturing and safe intimate encounters.
SEX ADDICTION
a disorder in which individuals become obsessed
(PATRICK CARNES)
It is NOT specific activities that identify addiction(a rapist may not necessarily be a sexual addict) It is the compulsive nature of the behaviors that demonstrates addiction. (See next slide)
A D D I C T S H AV E T R I E D O F T E N T O S T O P A N D FA I L E D . T H E I R B E H A V I O R G E N E R A L L Y CONFORMS TO A CYCLE:
1. Preoccupation - the addict becomes completely engrossed with sexual thoughts or fantasies.
2. Ritualization - the addict follows special routines in a search for sexual stimulation, which intensifies the experience and may be more important than reaching orgasm. (-continued)
3. Compulsive sexual behavior - the addict's specific sexual acting out. 4. Despair - the acting out does not lead to normal sexual satisfaction but to feelings of hopelessness, powerlessness, depression and the like.
A BASIC TEST
In addition, Carnes proposes a basic test for whether a
TREATMENT
A. 12-Step Programs - Sexaholics Anonymous SA pursues abstinence only from compulsive, destructive sexual behavior B. Cognitive-Behavior Therapy C. Interpersonal Therapy D. Group Therapy E. Medication (anti-depressants)
2. VOYEURISM
a) Peeping Tom b) intense sexual arousal from observing an unsuspecting person who is naked, in the process of disrobing, or engaging in sexual activity, as manifested by fantasies, urges, or behaviors.
3. SADO/MASOCHISM
a) a disorder in which one is sexually aroused by receiving or inflicting pain or humiliation b) falls under the psychiatric sexual disorders category of paraphilias c) Masochists may inflict their own pain through shocking, pricking or choking (which have resulted in accidental death in some cases)
4. PEDOPHILIA
Regressed
4. No Adult Relationships
Fixated (or exclusive type) pedophilia: considers himself to be trapped in childhood has few adult relationships and relate better with children typically men who are interested in boys