ARRANGED MARRIAGE The tradition of arranged marriage is still continuing today in India but some changes are noticed

in this marriage process. Arranged marriage system in India is bad when marriage is arranged with such a hatred and prejudice over other religions, castes and races; it is bad when parents over-protect and control their children to the extent of denying every wish, and even every right of their children in choosing their partners. A modern curse connected with arranged marriage is dowry. It is a social evil in India though it is prohibited by law. When they arrange a marriage, the consent of boy and girl who are to enter into marriage is not important; the negotiation is on the amount of dowry which is to be given by the girl's family. It has become something like a trade in modern Indian culture. The girls from poor families and the girls who are orphans are not good commodities in this trade; so they remain unmarried. If the promised dowry is not given by due date, the girl would be persecuted and thrown out by her husband's family; or, she would die in a "domestic accident". Do not think that I am exaggerating; it is happening in India everyday. Another drawback of arranged marriage is that the partners to marriage do not know their future spouses before marriage. In arranged marriage it is not important at all. In many cases, the boy and girl who get ready to enter into marriage may see each other two or three times before marriage, and that meeting would be in the presence of parents and other family members. Thus, marriage happens without knowing each other. Many people who work in far away places, especially in gulf countries come home for a leave, and marriage is arranged within a week or two. Legally speaking, you do not give valid consent to accept something you do not know. It is consent that brings a marriage; and, if there is no valid consent, there is no marriage according to the law of the Catholic Church. Marriages contracted because of force or fear would be invalid according to Canon Law. If we strictly analyze, many marriages happening in India are invalid. Today, parents are anxious about the life of their child and take the consent of their kid, before deciding the marriage. Over the time, people have understood that marriages can only be successful when the parents or family do not force their children to marry someone he or she doesn't want to marry. Excellent arranged marriage happen when the parents help their children to find their life partners according to their own choice. Arranged marriages are wonderful when parents and children love each other sincerely, and total freedom is given to children for final consent to marriage; and, when arrangements are made for the would-be-spouses to meet and to know each other.

LOVE MARRIAGE

After independence India become more economically strong, as a result some social changes and female liberation are found today in India. Some Modern Indian people are favor of love marriage where the first contact with prospective spouses does not involve the parents or family members.

We all knew the story- boy meets girl, boy falls in love with girl, boy and girl gets married. But, it is important to realize that while India is much modernized in some aspects they still keep to the tradition of arranged marriages. So, the couple (boy and girl) has to inform to their parents about their own choice to fulfillment of their love through the process of an arranged marriage. These marriages are often referred to as love-cum-arranged marriages. Love marriage has its advantages. We choose the person and know the person beforehand, so we know that we share a good rapport with the person we are about to marry. One drawback is that there may not be family support. Although it is true that a marriage is between two people, family plays a big hand in keeping a marriage alive. Love marriage stress the "understandability" and affection factors- accepted. All those of you who support arranged marriage, support it for one unanimous reason- only in arranged marriage, elders would support you in trouble- financially or even in case of any emotional fight between husband and wife, elders will come to your rescue (?). To these people I would like to ask one question- aren't you grown enough to resolve your own financial issues or even personal for that matter- a personal problem between husband and wife being resolved by a third person sounds funny. Sorry... such people need sense and growth- they are still kids. A fight and resolving by elders can happen for kidsnot between a husband and wife! Please. If there is understanding and affection and true love between the pair, there would be no requirement for an "elder" to poke in his nose and give a solution. This understanding can happen only in a LOVE MARRIAGE. Grow up guys!!!

Some time, in case of love marriage, parent or other family members create an obstruction. They enforced to their child from away of love marriage. It is very pathetic for the lover couple. So, they choose a way of escape and they get married in a temple without their parent or family. After the marriage they fall into serious situation nobody support them. Their parent or family does not accept this marriage and collar out them from their family. As the law of Indian government the legal age of marriage at 21 years for men and 18 years for women and after those age they touch the maturity age. So, both the girl's family and the boy's family can not take any lawful step to them if the marriage couple is matured and their family has to accept their child s choice after a long clash.

Conclusion
Let me conclude MIND PLAY A GREATER ROLE IN DECIDING WHICH IS GOOD. When a person decides a

girl or boy for marriage they must have clear vision of life. Have the heart to adjust and accept their shortcomings. The success of marriage is determined by their selfless love. If there is no true love there is no success in love or arranged marriage. If there is no "sacrifice" behind this love then the love itself is not true. Thus have sacrificial love and then have love marriage or arranged marriage. Here you find both will be best and successful. love marriages as well as arrange marriages are good on their own places. We can not make opinions about anyone. I think in this era we will have to get out of the stereotype concepts. We can absolutely not judge anything by our own. Both marriages are same, only the difference is of choice. In arrange marriages one get married to the person of their parents choice and in love marriages one get married to the person of their own choice. There is nothing bad in arrange marriages when our parents select a person for arrange marriages they do it for our good and same is for love marriages. Usually people think that love marriages are not good but here question arises. Why do they think that? What is bad in love marriages?

One choose right person for oneself. At least one know about that person, background of that person, weakness, good points, compatibility between them, understanding between them. So I think both marriages are good. We cannot compare them. Lovable parents will love the child for their love and they'll support for love marriage and they make the child's life heaven not as a hell!!