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KEYNOTE TO THE 6th National Men’s Health Conference incorporating the 4th
National Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander Male Health Convention
by Philip Patston
presents
by Philip Patston
Who am I?
¥ Gay
¥ Vegetarian
¥ Disabled ¥ Vitiligo
¥ Valium
¥ White ¥ Vino
¥ Man
Who am I?
¥ Uncle ¥ Entertainer
¥ Consultant
¥ Friend
¥ Business owner
¥ Boss
¥ Columnist
¥ Lover ¥ Actor
¥ Mentor ¥ Leader
¥ Amateur designer
¥ Role model
bad influence ¥ Entrepreneur
¥ Queer of the Year 1999
¥ Zenbuddhist- kind of
¥ Billy T James Comedy Award recipient
Some other roles I play in life are son, brother, uncle, friend, boss,
¥Son
lover, mentor, role model (though I prefer to think of myself as a bad ¥Brother
¥Uncle
¥Friend
influence) and Zen Buddhist – well, kind of. Professionally I am also (or ¥Boss
¥Lover
¥Mentor
have been) a recovering social worker, counsellor, human rights ¥Role model
bad influence
¥Zenbuddhist- kind of
What I believe
¥ I create my reality
¥ Everything is perfect
¥ Positivity
, negativity and
constructivity
¥ Fear and love
¥ É reflect my level of creativity.
¥ I decided to be happy
¥ Acting as if I do can be useful
But that cynical little metaphor is just for my bad days. Actually I
have come to believe that I create my reality with all that I think, say,
and do. Everything is perfect and has the meaning I choose to give it. I
see perfection as a healthy mix of positivity, negativity and
constructivity. Fear and love are the two basic emotions from which all
other emotions are derived and the extent to which I feel love or fear
reflects my level of creativity. I believe that happiness is a decision
that creates the best outcomes. Finally, although I don’t always agree
with the above, acting as if I do can be useful. In other words,
everything in moderation – including moderation.
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What I believe
¥ Everything in moderation
Ð including moderation.
Over the years I have discovered what I think makes existence
meaningful and, funnily enough, they all begin with P. On the physical
level, meaning is derived from realizing our potential and exercising
persistence in order to achieve productivity. Intellectually, I think we
gain meaning through how we perceive reality combined with
philosophy and a healthy dose of pragmatism. Emotional meaning to
life can be found by expecting a third of experiences to be positive,
engaging one’s passion and never forgetting to play. If we wish to find
spiritual meaning, we must seek to understand our purpose and
embrace the perfection of what is. Only then will we come to know
peace.
meaningful
Potential¥ ¥ Positivity
Persistence¥ ¥ Passion
Productivity
¥ ¥ Play
PHYSICALLY EMOTIONALLY
SEXUALLY
INTELLECTUALLY SPIRITUALLY
Perception¥ ¥ Purpose
Philosophy¥ ¥ Perfection
Pragmatism¥ ¥ Peace
Romance
¥ Sexual love
¥ Idealised
¥ Exciting and intense
Impairment
¥ Deviation or loss
¥ Structure or function
¥ Functional limitations
¥ Restricts activity and participation
Disability
¥ Disadvantages
¥ Social, economic, political and environmental
factors
¥ Restrict or exclude
Pragmatic love 11
The experience of the disabled men (all straight) – and their views
on the contrast between the roles of being disabled and being male –
got me thinking.
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Interviewees
¥ Claire ¥ Tony
¥ Susan
¥ Gillian ¥ Timote¥
¥ Ronelle
¥ Redmond ¥ Rob and Karen
¥ Jules
Control Dependence
15 16
disabled men
¥ Control
¥ Dependence
¥ Public perception
¥ Responsibility
Attitude Items
Attitude Items
¥ Control
Ð Need respect from others
Ð Need to be physically tough
¥ Dependence
Ð Shouldn
Õt talk about problems
Ð Shouldn
Õt act like a girl
¥ Public perception
Ð Totally sure of himself
Ð Always ready for sex
¥ Responsibility
Ð Should have respect of his wife and children
Ð Shouldn
Õt have to do housework
function
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FEAR LOVE
¥ Drive Passion¥
¥ Low creativity High creativity
¥
¥ Judgement Acceptance¥
function
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What is function?
¥ Task
¥ Job
¥ Utility
¥ Occupation
¥ Role
¥ Meaning
¥ Purpose
What is diversity?
¥ Synergy
¥ Variety
gender
Task
Job
Utility
Occupation
Male
Female Role
Function type
Meaning
Purpose
0 2 4 6 8 10
Value given
Value of function by 27
impairment
Task
Job
Utility
Occupation
Impaired
Non-imp Role
Function type
Meaning
Purpose
0 2 4 6 8 10
Value given
women men
Task
Task
Job
Job
Utility
Utility
Occupation
Impaired Occupation
Impaired
Loss
FunctionRole
type Loss Role
Function type
Meaning
Meaning
Purpose
Purpose
0 2 4 6 8
0 2 4 6 8
Loss of value
Loss of value
Job
Utility
Male Occupation
Female
Function type
Role
Meaning
Purpose
0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
Loss of value
function
¥ More to lose
¥ Testosterone
¥ Without / within
ideal man
Personality Area Average Average My Comparison to
male female score the Average
Extroversion 51 67 55 +5 | -8
Emotionality 74 76 68 -6 | -8
Agreeableness 40 56 50 +10 | -6
SOURCE:PersonalityBook
.com
Why I could be an 33
ideal man
¥ Thorough
¥ Surrender control
¥ Open
¥ Accept dependence
¥ Intuitive
¥ Ignore public perception
¥ Perceptive
¥ Take responsibility
¥ 78% self-actualised
Why I could be an 34
ideal man
¥ Nothing to lose
To sum up, I may just be an ideal man for three reasons: I am not
Steady Eddie, I’m not a real man and I have nothing to lose.
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