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There is always so much excitement when one is about to get married, but there is so much
disappointment when one is already in marriage.
The main reason why one get so much excited to get married is or are the highest expectations which
are somehow built and planted in his or her mind before he or she gets married or it must be the type of
the partner to be.

The highest expectations are the proof that one has designed and made a marriage his or her own way.
Even though the term marriage is defined as union or combination of a man and a woman as husband and wife;
The real fact is that marriage is like entering in a strong tower which is the house of the Lord in which
whoever gets in and stay under its roof is safe based on keeping its requirements.
Neither the male nor the female partner is the marriage or already in marriage, both are still to enter
into it and stay under its rules and regulations.
The huge mistake that is done by the most people is that they regard the partner or the home and the
family of the partner as the marriage.
Marriage is as good as putting the Word of God into actions;
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
Genesis 2:24; Mathew 19:5; Ephesians 5:31

When entering into marriage, people are entering into a permanent covenant whose owner is God
himself. They are making themselves the members of this house or home or covenant.
The failure to conform to the internal law which is none other than LOVE causes people to come in and
out of it and disseminate the lies that marriage is hot and difficult to handle.
They say that because they come with a set of rules and regulations to apply unknowingly against the
owner of the house (marriage).
They come with the aim of handling it instead of being handled by its law which is love. Whenever you
see someone coming out of this house (marriage) is because he or she cannot meet the full measure of
law which is LOVE. It is as good as s/he does not have love.
It is advisable that one who wish to stay in a marriage for God purpose of making it should not expect
and design in his own heart, mind and feelings how it will look like when he is already in it, but to get
ready to be shaped by the word of God in order to comply with law which is love or God himself.
The simplest way to stay in a marriage for good purpose and not set by either of you is to keep the law.
Get yourself ready to be changed in order to make a change.
Some of the people may make it using their own set of rules and regulations, but destination of
everything is not what it is supposed to be, which is Love or God himself.
People in it may be shaken, but it remains as it is after the people have come in and out of it.

And again, marriage is like someone who undertakes to do a profession which automatically becomes
his or her bread of life. And there is no one who can practice a profession without have suffered/ trained
for it for certain period of years for example, 7 years for doctors. When the course is over, he practices
the profession under the Council for the doctors. And as he practices, there are now and future benefit
waiting for him. The now benefits could be praise and appreciation by other people, monthly income,
promotions and the future benefits could be the lump sum of money when the time to rest comes
(retirement).

The wife becomes a wife in her childhood or girlhood and she is trained by her parents to become a mother as she
grows under training and regulations in this family. When she becomes matured enough, she gets married to
become one with her husband, and then she practices the life of being a wife under the COUNCIL of God’s Word,
and as she practices , there are now and future benefits. The now benefits are the blessings stored in each level

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reached after a certain struggle; and the future benefits is the promise to have eternal life. The marriage which is
registered in the COUNCIL OF MARRIAGES which is the Word of GOD and then obey the same Word of God
will survive the tests of time and it will end in peace with God,
but the one that isn’t won’t end in peace with God.

Therefore you can not design the way which the course you are going to undergo should look like, but
the course should design you, and when the course has designed you, then you are able to design and
make a change in life.

The marriage resembles its maker God therefore:

♥ When the man and a woman have combined as a man and wife, they make an unshakable
bond or a bond that never fails. “Love never fails…” 1 Corrinthians13:8).
♥ It is kept going by the knowledge of Love/God. “Whoever does not love does not know God because
God is Love.” John4:8
♥ To stay longer and for good in marriage, one must have only one imperishable or unending
debt which Love. “Let not debt remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one
another,…”Romans 13:8

There is a lot of suffering that people go through unnecessarily due to the fact that they do things
without knowing;
What they are doing? ;
And why they are doing those things?
Therefore it is essential that one knows the :
♥ Meaning of marriage, and the
♥ Reason why he is getting married.

You must have God’s reason of getting married.

You must also have God’s reason for marriage.

1. Complete the incompleteness of life.

…“It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him” (Genesis2:18)
So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed
up its place with flesh. And the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and
brought her to the man. Then the man said,
“This at last is the bone of my bones and the flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was
taken out of Man” (Genesis 2:21-22)

2. Re-Establishment of oneness or unity that once was, and to avoid sexual immorality.
In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, the Word was God…All things were made
through him, and without him was not anything made that was made. In him was life, and the life was the
light of men. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it. John1:1-4.

So they are no longer two, but one flesh…Mathew 19:5; Genesis 2:24.

“…It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman. “But because of the temptation to sexual
immorality, each man should his own wife and each woman her own husband. 1 Corinthians 7:1-2, 8

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 3. Fill out the universe with the images of God, be successful and to establish kingdom that
resembles the one in heaven.
…Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over
the birds of the heavens and over everything that moves on the earth.

Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Mathew6:10

Ephesians5:25-33
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might
sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the
church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and
without blemish.

Husbands should love their wives.

Every definition of real love is dominated by care or maintenance, development and construction and
protection. The shield should be the first to experience hardships before it touches what is being
protected.

The husband should love his wife to an extent that he is ready to give himself up for her. He should
develop and maintain her happiness in all the way possible from the deep of the soul to the outer part of
life which is exposed to people. The children should have their own newly developed love, not that the
love for the wife is shifted to them.

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the LORD. For the husband is the head of the wife even as
Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.

Whatever you do as a wife for or to your husband, you should do it as to the Lord. In other words you
are lucky to gauge yourself how you treat and act before the through serving your husband. It helps you
as a wife to take a level whereby you will feel inner joy and happiness that does not end within your
marriage if you passed a test of seeing , treating and behaving to your husband as to the Lord himself.
Keep your head happy so that the whole body will feel the same way. At this point whatever difficulty
you experience in your marriage will be as good as difficulties you would experienced when you are
alone, therefore you will feel that there is no need to run away from and disseminate lies that it is hot in
the marriage. The hotness of the marriage is hotness of the whole body which brings us to the point that
if you try to run away, you will take along that heat wherever you go.
You will never see the Kingdom of God if break the Word of the Lord which says, “Whatever therefore
God has joined together, let not man separate.” Mathew 19:6

The only problem with the pain is when you are suffering and not knowing why you are suffering
otherwise if you know why you suffer and when is your pain going to go away, you will be able to
handle the pain until it is over.

If you are experiencing labor pain you would not go to any doctor, you will cry, but the more the pains
is the more you expect to deliver. There is no test that last for a life time, but the lack of knowledge
about why the pain comes and when will it go is the main reason why people give up before pains are
over. If they were the food, they would come out of the pot before they are ready to be served as stew

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that brings family happiness and togetherness. Whatever stand the test to point where the test is over,
they will not experience that kind of a test any more in their life.

“I know your tribulation and your poverty (but you are rich) and the slander of those who say that they are Jews
and are not, but are a synagogue of Satan. Do not fear what you are about to suffer. Behold, the devil is about to
throw some of you into prison, that you may be tested, and for ten days you will have tribulation. Be faithful unto
death, and I will give you the crown of life.Revelation2:10

Beloved, do not be surprised at fiery trial when it comes upon you to test you, as though something strange were
happening to you. But rejoice insofar as you share Christ’s sufferings, that you may also rejoice and be glad when
his glory is revealed. 1 Peter4:12; Hebrews 12:7

And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ,
will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you. 1 Peter5:9-10

When you have made marriage vows, you have automatically entered yourself
within the walls of the Kingdom of God which its adversary is devil.

What to expect in the marriage is same as what one who has faith in the word of God should expect,
therefore you are obliged to fight to the point of shedding your blood for your life commitment to the
word of God, because if you fail, you are already living and fattening yourself for pain that will never
end.

Real love will never die.

Love is eternal, and love is free and unconditional; if love is unconditional, then you have to love under
all conditions that go along with it.

If the condition is for example, a cold weather, then

you have to love from the point of cold to the point of freezing up.

If the condition is hot, then

you have to love to the point of melting or to the point of becoming ash as long
as you know your redeemer lives. At the climax point is the beginning of life
eternal without any adversary.

More conditions
Continue to love when you are not loved back.
Continue to love when you are made to go through life threatening condition up to the point where you
break through to the side where there is no more pain and crying.
Continue to love when your partner is cheating and have abandoned you.
Continue to love when you are no more satisfied sexually.
Continue to love when the family of your partner is against you in everything.