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By Mwenge Ngona
Friday, February 11, 2011

So this is love?

1 Cor. 13:4-8 - Love is the greatest Gift

1Corinthians 13:4-8

(4) Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, (5) Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; (6) Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; (7) Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. (8) Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.

(Pro 31:30) Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.

True love is calm and deep in its nature. It looks beyond mere externals, and is attracted by QUALITIES ALONE. It is wise and discriminating, and its devotion is real and abiding. {AH 51.2}

Pure and holy affection is not a feeling, but a principle. Those who are actuated by true love are neither unreasonable nor blind. {AH 50.1}

That love which has no better foundation than mere sensual gratification will be headstrong, blind, and uncontrollable. Honor, truth, and every noble, elevated power of the mind are brought under the slavery of passions. The man who is bound in the chains of this infatuation is too often deaf to the voice of reason and conscience; neither argument nor entreaty can lead him to see the folly of his course. {AH 51.1}

True love is not a crush or a like.it is LOVE!

2. Do we need love

God made from the man a woman, to be a companion and helpmeet for him, to be one with him, to cheer, encourage, and bless him, he in his turn to be her strong helper. All who enter into matrimonial relations with a holy purpose--the husband to obtain the pure affections of a woman's heart, the wife to soften and improve her husband's character and give it completeness--fulfill God's purpose for them. ( AH PG.100)

3. When to enter into a relationship?

1 Corinthians 7 7:1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: [It is] good for a man not to touch a woman. 7:2 Nevertheless, [to avoid] fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 7:3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.

A sincere Christian will not advance his plans in this direction without the knowledge that God approves his course. He will not want to choose for himself, but will feel that God must choose for him. We are not to please ourselves, for Christ pleased not Himself. Let the questions be raised, Will this union help me heavenward? Will it increase my love for God? And will it enlarge my sphere of usefulness in this life? If these reflections present no drawback, then in the fear of God move forward. {AH 45.2}

do you get her? How can you make him notice

Women - Let a young woman accept (never to seek) as a life companion only one who possesses pure, manly traits of character, one who is diligent, aspiring, and honest, one who loves and fears God. {AH 47.3}

Proverbs 1:7
The fear of the LORD [is] the beginning of knowledge: [but] fools despise wisdom and instruction.

Proverbs 22:3
A prudent [man] foreseeth the evil, and hideth himself: but the simple pass on, and are punished.

Proverbs 16:21
The wise in heart shall be called prudent: and the sweetness of the lips

Men - Proverbs 18:22 - He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord.

Proverbs 19:14

- a prudent wife is from the Lord. Before you find a wife, you must find Jesus. Go down on your knees and Go to the Lord. Men and women - should put their selves in the Lord.

5. What is the purpose of Marriage

And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. Genesis

2:18.

Marriage relation is one of God's sacred ordinances, guarded by His holy precept, will be controlled by the dictates of reason. {AH 121.1}

Jesus did not enforce celibacy upon any class of men. He came not to destroy the sacred relationship of marriage, but to exalt it and restore it to its original sanctity. Marriage was instituted in Eden. After the creation of Adam, the Lord said, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet"-- suitable--"for him." When the Lord presented Eve to Adam, angels of God were witnesses to the ceremony. But there are few couples who are completely united when the marriage ceremony is performed. The form of words spoken over the two who take the marriage vow does not make them a unit. In their future life is to be the blending of the two in wedlock. It may be made a really happy union, if each will give to the other true heart affection. {Heavenly Places 203.2}

6. Family as our Mission field.

That our sons may be as plants grown up in their youth; that our daughters may be as corner stones, polished after the similitude of a palace. Psalm

144:12.

Make the home life as nearly as possible like heaven. Let the members of the family forget not, as they gather round the family altar, to pray for the men in positions of responsibility in God's work. Let not parents forget the great mission field that lies before them in the home. In the children committed to her, every mother has a sacred charge from God. "Take this son, this daughter," God says, "and train it for Me. Give it a character polished after the similitude of a palace, that it may shine in the courts of the Lord forever." {HP 211.2}

1 Corinthians10:31
Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.

Will we marry in Heaven?

And Jesus answering said unto them, Do ye not therefore err, because ye know not the scriptures, neither the power of God? (Mar 12:24)

For when they shall rise from the dead, they neither marry, nor are given in marriage; but are as the angels which are in heaven. (Mar 12:25)

Earthly relationships reveal our relationship with God in many spheres as a friend, lover, brother , parent

The end Happy Sabbath!