By: Rizki Washarti Siregar, B.A., M.

Psi Yayasan Praktek Psikolog Indonesia

 Rizki

Washarti Siregar, B.A., M.Psi, graduated from the University of Queensland and University of Indonesia (2004 & 2005). Thesis about school in Brisbane, Australia. Masters from the University of Indonesia (2008) majoring in educational psychology, minoring industrial organizational psychology. Thesis about parent training in teaching discipline. Associate in several schools focusing primarily on school readiness, learning difficulties and giftedness.

 Yayasan

Praktek Psikolog Indonesia (YPPI) is established in February 2012. Our team consists of psychologists who are ready to provide assistance in the area of educational psychology, child psychology, industrial and organizational psychology and clinical psychology. psychologists have several years of work experience in their own field of expertise.

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Vision: To be the leading psychology agency in providing psychological services to the community in order to achieve a psychologically healthy human being. Mission: To provide psychological evaluation services such as IQ tests, interest and aptitude test, personality tests, learning styles, multiple intelligence tests, tests of emotional intelligence, and spiritual intelligence tests, etc.

Provide individual counseling services, training, and psychological interventions. Provide services for schools and companies in the forms of assessment, counseling, recruitment and seminars. Provide services to the community in the form of research.

Yayasan Praktek Psikolog Indonesia (YPPI) Bintaro Business Center Jl. R.C. Veteran. No.1-I, Bintaro Jaya, South Jakarta 12330 Tel: (+6221) 7362639, 93719015 Fax: (+6221) 7362583 Mobile: +628170873200 Time of service Monday - Friday from 8:00 to 20:30 pm. Saturday, from 8:00 to 16:00 pm. Please make an appointment in advance by phone.

Understand
Accept Positive

Action

 Teen

= 13 19 years (Webster dictionary)

Definition

of Adolescence = A development transition that lasts from age 10 or 11 or even earlier until the late teens or early twenties and entails major, interrrelated physical, cognitive and psychosocial changes (Papalia, Olds & Feldman, 2007).

 Hormonal Physical

changes

changes

Changes

in the way of thinking/ cognitive development

feeling changes often

Emotional/ Major

task is to establish (incl. sexual identity)

 The

beginning of adolescence is signaled by hormonal changes. Increase in production of sex-related hormones and takes place in two stages: 1) adrenarche = the maturing of the adrenal glands 2) gonadarche = the maturing of the sex organs and appearance of more obvious pubertal changes

 Body

growth
hair

Facial

Breasts

development
development

Muscular Changes Changes

in skin
in voice

 Piaget

Cognitive Development stages = 1. Sensorimotor (0-2 yrs) : egocentric 2. Preoperational (2-7 yrs) : magical thinking 3. Concrete operational (7-11 yrs) : logical thinking but with practical aids 4. Formal operations (11+ yrs) : logical and abstract thinking

 Elkind

= immature thinking, egocentric 1) Idealism and criticalness 2) Apparent hypocrisy

3) Argumentativeness
4) Indeciveness 5) Self-consiousness 6) Specialness and invulnerability

Emotional = "rebellion, "moody, "irritable, "argumentative, "indecisive" and "consumed with oneself." Socio = Teens likely to form groups/ "cliques" . Feel as if they are the center of attention; thinking others will notice the smallest slight. Try to fit in with peers in a variety of ways. Prone to negative peer pressure as they attempt to fit in (important for parents to monitor their teen's peer group and to intervene if the teen is involved in dangerous behavior). Increase in teen's interest in her appearance or social life. Much of this fits in with the adolescent's quest to form an identity

Erikson = Identity vs. Role Confusion - (Adolescent/ 12-20) Questioning of self. Who am I, how do I fit in? Where am I going in life? If parents allow their teen to explore, they will conclude their own identity. However, if the parents continually push him/her to conform to their views, the teen will face identity confusion. Marcia = Identity Status Crisis and Commitment - Ones sense of identity is determined largely by the choices and commitments made regarding certain personal and social traits.

Achievement = the status in which adolescent has gone through a identity crisis and has made a commitment to a sense of identity (i.e. certain role or value) that he or she has chosen. Foreclosure = the adolescent seems willing to commit to some relevant roles, values, or goals for the future. Adolescents in this stage have not experienced an identity crisis. Tend to conform to the expectations of others regarding their future (e.g.: allowing a parent to determine a career direction). As such, these individuals have not explored a range of options. Moratorium = the adolescent is currently in a crisis, exploring various commitments and is ready to make choices, but has not made a commitment to these choices yet. Diffusion = the adolescent does no have a sense of having choices; s/he has not yet made (nor is attempting/willing to make) a commitment

 Permissive
Autoritative Autoritarian

= lenient
= democratic = dominant

 Begin

from ourselves Be a role model for your teens Show empathy and concern Listen to your teens give full attention
Pay

attention to body language Active listening

Example:
NAK, KAMU MERASA KESAL KARENA PAK GURU MENGHINAMU DI DEPAN TEMAN- TEMAN?, JADI KAMU MERASA KESAL KARENA PAK GURU MENGHINAMU, NAK?

1. Giving order 2. Blaming 3. Undermining 4. Comparing 5. Labeling 6. Threating 7. Preaching

8. Lying 9. Changing topic 10. Critizing 11. Cynical 12. Analyzing 13. Ignoring 14. Physical Violence

Observing Listening

Understanding
Expression of idea verbally and non verbally Individual Knowledge

 Use Use

short, concise and clear sentences. words they understand/ golden words. extra time to process information.

Give Give

reward/ reinforcement for any accomplishment.

 Make

sure teens fully understand what is being said. redundancy.

Avoid Use

visual aids.

Divide

information into different sections in order to make it easier to understand.

Be congruent and warm. Parents provide emotional support for their teens as well as freedom to explore. Treat the adolescent as a developing adult by allowing him/her increased decisionmaking within the family. Support teens in activities that are important to them such as sports, clubs and special interests. Increases their competence and self-esteem.

Encourage healthy sleep habits. Help him/her find ways of relaxing prior to bed. Minimize caffeine and napping after school to aid in earlier bedtimes. Be a role model!

Show that you dont necessary know more than your teens, but do have more authority = sharing information, but not power. Be consistent with limits but also allow teen independence by demonstrating warmth and acceptance. Parents discuss with teens regarding the need for limit setting and house rules. Discussions will help the teen trust your guidance.

Parents should continue to try to engage their teen in discussion despite the fact that s/he may act uninterested. Keep at it! There will be occasions where your teen requires and values your advice.

Monitor your teens peer group. Be aware of how and with whom s/he is spending her time. Monitor your teen's social life with a degree of separation that allows the teen to make decisions and gain trust on his own.

Remind them that you are always available for them.

Understand first, accept then act positive.

Changing teens behavior starts from changing ourselves.

The way we treat our teens, will result in the teens identity and character building.
Sent out the message that parents will always love their children, no matter what age unconditional love.

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