God’s Design For

Your Marriage

Wife’s Role
The ‘S’ Word
November 23 , 2008
Pastor John Isaacs
KingsWay Community Church
No God = No Design
Marriage is
Humanity’s Own
Social & Cultural
Invention
But, There Is A God
And There Is An
Intelligent Design
Humanity Made In
HIS Image
God’s Design
Genesis 1:27
So God created man in His own
image; in the image of God He
created him; male and female
He created them.
God’s Design
Distinctly male
and Distinctly
female.
Genesis 2:24
For this cause a man shall
leave his father and his
mother, and shall cleave to
his wife; and they shall
become one flesh.
God’s Design
Marriage was designed
to be a lifelong covenant
bond between one man
and one woman.
God Designed
Marriage
Great Marriages
Come From Doing It
God’s Way!
God’s Design
1. Genesis 1-3
2. Ephesians 5:21-33
3. Colossians 3:18-19
4. 1 Peter 3:1-7
5. Titus 2:5
6. 1 Timothy 3:4, 12
Genesis 2:18
It is not good for the man to be alone;
I will make him a helper suitable for
him.
1. Complementary Companionship
2. Procreation
3. Picture of Christ & Church
4. To Glorify God
God’s Design
Distinct Roles
in Marriage.
What Happens
When Mankind
Abandons
God’s Design?
 Space
Shuttle’s
Solid
Rocket
Boosters
(SRB)
Romans 1:24
So God abandoned them to do
whatever shameful things their hearts
desired.
1. Sexual Promiscuity
2. Pornography
3. Adultery
4. Homosexuality
5. Pedophilia
Wife’s Role
1. Be a Helper
2. Be Respectful
3. Be Submissive
1 Peter 3:1-7
1 Wives, likewise, be
submissive to your own
husbands, that even if some do
not obey the word, they,
without a word, may be won by
the conduct of their wives.
2 when they observe your
chaste conduct,
1 Peter 3:1-7 (cont.)
accompanied by fear. 3 Do not
let your adornment be merely
outward-arranging the hair,
wearing gold, or putting on fine
apparel 4 rather let it be the
hidden person of the heart,
with the incorruptible beauty of
a gentle and quiet spirit, which
1 Peter 3:1-7 (cont.)
is very precious in the sight of
God. 5 For in this manner, in
former times, the holy women
who trusted in God also
adorned themselves, being
submissive to their own
husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed
Abraham, calling him lord,
1 Peter 3:1-7 (cont.)
whose daughters you are if you
do good and are not afraid with
any terror. 7 Husbands,
likewise, dwell with them with
understanding, giving honor to
the wife, as to the weaker
vessel, and as being heirs
together of the grace of life,
1 Peter 3:1-7 (cont.)
that your prayers may not be
hindered.
Ephesians 5:22-24
22 Wives, submit to your own
husbands, as to the Lord.
23 For the husband is head of
the wife, as also Christ is head
of the church; and He is the
Savior of the body.
Ephesians 5:22-24 (cont.)
24 Therefore, just as the
church is subject to Christ, so
let the wives be (subject) to
their own husbands in
everything.
Colossians 3:18
Wives, submit to your own
husbands, as is fitting in the
Lord.
Titus 2:4-5
4 that they admonish the young
women to love their husbands,
to love their children, 5 to be
discreet, chaste, homemakers,
good, obedient (subject) to
their own husbands, that the
word of God may not be
blasphemed.
The ‘S’ Word
Submission
“Submission refers to a wife’s divine
calling to honor and affirm her
husband’s leadership and help carry
it through according to her gifts. It is
not an absolute surrender of her will.
Rather, we speak of her disposition to
yield to her husband’s guidance and
her inclination to follow his
leadership.”
- John Piper and Wayne Grudem
Biblical Manhood and Womanhood
 Seven
Things
Submission
Is Not
1. Submission is not
putting the husband in
the place of Christ as if
the husband is some
sort of absolute
authority.
2. Submission does not
mean giving up
independent thought.

Not Stepford Wives

3. Submission does not
mean that a wife should
give up her efforts to
influence and guide her
husband.
4. Submission does not
mean that a wife should
give into every demand
of her husband.
5. Submission is not
based on the woman
having less intelligence
or competence.
6. Submission does not
mean being fearful,
timid, and cowering for a
husband who can strike
out in an arbitrary
fashion at any point.
7. Submission is not
inconsistent with equality
in Christ.
 Three
Things
Submission
Is
 Hupotasso
To place oneself
under an orderly
arrangement.
1. Submission is
recognizing that there is
a divinely given order for
the marriage and home.
2. Submission is simply
yielding to another. It
means that a wife does
not insist upon getting
her own way.
3. Submission is the
wife’s effort to foster
appropriate attitudes and
behaviors that shows
respect for her husband
and honors his
leadership.
“Being submissive to your husband
means that a wife will willingly submit
to her husbands authority and
leadership in the marriage. It means
making a choice to affirm her
husband as leader within the limits of
obedience to Christ. It includes a
demeanor that honors him as a
leader even when she dissents.”
- Wayne Grudem
CBMW
“The disposition to
yield to her husband’s
guidance and her
inclination to follow his
leadership.”