ANGER is one letter short of DANGER ANGER is harmful, ANGER is killer drug ANGER is ruinous, destroys friendship, family,

personality & health It gives negative thinking, loses control, reasoning power, logic Problems settled can never be really settled Remnant of hard feeling, guilt still there Never allow yourself to be angry, It could be fatal Count on 1 to 10 before you become angry.

ANGER

Anger
Is a normal emotion. Can become dangerous Can affect the way you deal with others. Can affect the way you feel about yourself.

Facts About Anger

No one ever makes you angry. You make a conscious choice to become angry. Anger is a secondary emotion.
Anger is felt as a result of other emotions that have not been appropriately resolved.

Anger that is uncontrolled can turn to rage. We create our own anger by the way we think, our attitude and our choices.`

Anger Sequence

Triggers

Negative
Thoughts Feelings

BEHAVIOR

 There are three typical ways an angry person responds:

Displacement: When angry you tend to store your anger and take it out on others or inanimate objects rather than handle your feelings in a straightforward way

Attack. When angry you tend to be verbally and physically aggressive. To withdraw means to ignore the source of the anger.

Aristotles Challenge

Anyone can become angry -- that is easy But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way -this is not easy.

Does everybody experience anger?

Everybody gets angry. That is okay. Youre going to feel how you feel. BUT: how you act is up to you. And that matters, because how you act leads to consequences.

Lets Talk

ANGER MANAGEMENT

ANGER MANAGEMENT
Anger management does not involve getting rid of all anger, but using anger to enhance your life. We can look at the purposes of anger in both a positive and negative light.
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ANGER MANAGEMENT
The positive aspects of anger are you have increased energy, are able to communicate your feelings, able to problem solve and can take charge of the situation.
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ANGER MANAGEMENT
The negative aspects of anger are you can have disruption of your thinking, unnecessarily defend yourself, become aggressive and become known as an angry person.
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ANGER MANAGEMENT
Anger management is a way to increase the positive aspects of anger and decrease the negative aspects of anger.

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ANGER MANAGEMENT
Know the difference between ANGER and AGGRESSION. 1. Anger is an emotion. It is ok to be angry. It is part of being human. 2. Aggression is acting out inappropriately and is not ok. Learn to check your aggression and express your anger appropriately.
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Taking off the masks

Sometimes anger really is
Embarrassment Shame Disappointment Jealousy Fear Helplessness Sadness Feeling left-out
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ANGER MANAGEMENT
You are in charge of your own feelings:
1. You own your feelings. 2. It is okay to feel angry. 3. Anger is part of being human. 4. Learn how to express your anger in helpful ways.
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ANGER MANAGEMENT
Do you show anger in aggressive ways? Do you..
Throw things Kick people or things Get in someones face Shove, grab or hit Break things Call people names Give someone a dirty look Give people the silent treatment Get others to gang up Spread rumors
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ANGER MANAGEMENT
Choose to feel good about yourself by expressing your feelings.

Express your feelings in ways that are fair to others and yourself. Use fair wordssuch as I feel
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ANGER MANAGEMENT
The more you learn to take care of your anger the more powerful you become.
1. You need to control what you do with your anger. 2. You control how you let your anger out. 3. Practice cooling off. 4. Watch your thoughts.
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ANGER MANAGEMENT
Identify possible consequences of your anger to others and yourself. What can that mean for you?
Physical harm to someone or self Destruction of property Loss of friends Loss of social privileges Getting a bad reputation Going to juvenile hall

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ANGER MANAGEMENT
Identify selfdestructive behavior.
Negative self-talk Blaming everyone else Taking everything personally Assuming Looking for fights Feeling outraged Self-injury Overeating, drinking Taking drugs

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ANGER MANAGEMENT
Stop blaming others and yourself.
1. Blaming only keeps people upset. 2. Blaming is a way of not respecting people. 3. Express your feelings and then try to work things out.

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ANGER MANAGEMENT
What do you think before your angry actions? Do you think
You did that on purpose You wanted to hurt me You deserve this You never even asked me Youre being unreasonable You think youre so good Ill show you You started it Its not fair

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ANGER MANAGEMENT
Identify how you physically feel when you are angry
Stomach gets tight/upset Heart beats faster Clench fists Feel yourself getting flushed Pressure on your temples Sweaty palms Clenched jaw
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ANGER MANAGEMENT
You dont have to hold on to your anger.
1. Find ways to let it go. 2. Talk about hurt and angry feelings. 3. Look for someone to discuss your anger.
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Take control of your anger

1. Stand up for yourself and others being hurt. 2. Learn to defeat negative self-talk. 3. Feel good about learning about yourself. 4. You are strong when you use fair and firm words instead of fists.

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Steps to taming anger

1. Know what pushes your buttons. 2. Know your bodys anger signs. 3. Stop and think! 4. Decide what to do.

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ANGER MANAGEMENT
Ways to Calm Down:

1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6.

Exercise. Eat right. Get enough sleep. Learn to relax. Know your feelings. Write about those feelings.
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7. 8. 9. 10. Find a quiet place. Take a time out. Find fun distractions. Make good decisions about what you see and hear. 11. Choose friends who make you feel good. 12. Learn to forgive and forget.
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Remember people are precious.

1. Watch your thoughts, words, and actions. 2. Stop hurting people with your words and actions. 3. Take ownership of the hurtful things you do and say. 4. Bullying hurts everyone.

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The Most

poisonous threeletter word.....

"EGO"
Kill it.

The most selfish one letter word...........

"I"
Avoid it.

The most satisfying two-letter word.......

"WE"

Use it.

The most used four-letter word...........

"LOVE"

Value it.

The most pleasing five-letter word.......

"SMILE"
Keep it.

The hardest working seven-letter word..

"SUCCESS"

Achieve it.

The most enviable eight-letter word....

"JEALOUSY"

Distance it.

The most powerful nine-letter word....

"KNOWLEDGE"

Acquire it.

The most essential ten-letter word....

"CONFIDENCE"

Trust it.

A strong man is not one who can fight but

one who can control his temper when angry.

Anyone can be polite to a King, it takes a gentleman/Lady to be polite to a beggar.

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