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I do not need to tell you that the main difference between Christianity and all other religions is that Christ lives in us. Paul said in Colossians 1:27 To them God has chosen to make known among the Gentiles the glorious riches of this mystery, which is Christ in you, the hope of glory.
that Jesus is Lord and believe in our heart that he has been resurrected from the dead and we will be saved. (Romans 10:9-10). This begins the journey that leads us on the way to become an authentic Christian
What is Love?
another So they make themselves vulnerable and reveal themselves to one another
Love?
They reveal their vices and virtues
Their perfections an imperfections Their Assets and liabilities
Now this process takes place both verbally and by observation The best places to observe it is in the loved ones family and social settings
personality
person is to know them for a sufficient length of time and in different social situations It takes at least a year to know them intimately
Love?
As we learn about one another we psychospiritually install the other person And when this process is complete we are one. This is what God meant when he told us to leave our father and mother and become one with our mate. (Genesis 2:24)
Back to Effects
Just as we install our mates in ourselves We also install the Lord in our lives We love because he first loves us, and when he does our lives are transformed He gives us a new personality We have:
A happy mood that comes from His indwelling love There is a loss of worry We have an understanding of truths not perceived before There is changed behavior The world is objectively changed There is a sense of cleanliness both inside and out
with God regularly Live by Gods commandments and live moral lives Be persons of integrity Have stronger support communities Be more altruistic
Why?
controller that is over our mind and guides our human nature into Godly pursuits
Why?
He
controls our human nature! Without Christ we cannot control our human nature. We do what it tells us to do Satan uses this to make us sin by tempting us
Why?
The acts of the sinful nature are
obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. Gal 5:19-21
Why?
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Galatians 5:22,23a He provides these in our marriages
Exercise
I want you to take one sheet of paper and write a love letter to your spouse listing all the things that make you love them. Write only one page. You may go over a little bit but keep it short and concise It can be as mushy as you want to make it We will take a 30 minute break when you have finished
What do we Want?
We want intellectual stimulation Shared religion Having an orderly home Having in laws we can like Good food Possessions
Pray with one another Study the Word of God Worship in Spirit and truth And witness
Spiritual strength comes from regular encounters with The Spirit of God.
We encounter God
In our music Our prayer Our Bible study In the Eucharist And in the personal testimony of others
Personal testimony is what Jesus commanded us to do in Acts 1:8, But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you; and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth."
Spirit in us and we are able to serve God and witness for him We can tell of his wondrous works But we can also be be more loving husbands, wives, fathers and mothers, pastors, teachers and friends
Why?
Those who live according to the sinful nature have their minds set on what that nature desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires.
Why?
The mind controlled by the sinful nature is death, but the mind controlled by the Spirit is life and peace. The sinful mind is hostile to God; it does not submit to God's law, nor can it do so. Those controlled by the sinful nature cannot please God. Romans 8:5-8
divorce In the general church the divorce rate is about 45% When two born again Christians marry it is only 10% And when two Spirit filled Christians marry the divorce rate is only1%
The Bible says that the scriptures are a guide to right living They clearly address Marriage an family with principles of relating to our husbands, wives and children
Principles
First it says that married and later family life should have love and order Ephesians 5:21-33
The love should be unconditional
And spouses should be submitted
to one another
Principles
Second there should be well defined roles The husband is the breadwinner
home The primary disciplinarian An the head of the house Attending to all his duties in love
Principles
Hardworking Trustworthy Generous Wise and knowledgeable Frugal A kind and fair disciplinarian
Principles
The wife is to be the homemaker
and nurturer of the children She is to be one with her husband in disciplining the children Her primary job is to socialize the children She may also contribute to bread winning, but her primary duty is homemaker
Principles
There should be open and honest communication Ephesians 4:17-32 There should be agreement on:
Management of finances
Communication Rules
Listen Hear them out Talk only when it is your turn Try to understand how the other person feels Dont defend yourself
Communication Style
thoughts and feelings The do not express their thoughts and feelings nor do they Repress their thoughts and feelings
Communication
Communicating Love
Gary Chapman Says that love is communicated in ways other than talking. It is important, but other things are necessary. We are to love our wives and husbands unconditionally
Communicating love
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
Communicating Love
communication It should be a time where you can have fun You should not have the kids along. Park them with someone else
Communicating Love
your mate can use and be reminded of your love They should be something that your wife or husband will like
Communicating Love
feel protected and secure They should be hugged and kissed and not dragged off to bed Hold their hands, put your arm around them when possible while seated Pats on the fanny, kisses on the neck, stroking their head, and other non sexual gestures qualify. Spouses should receive these with appreciation
Communicating Love
nurturing kids Husbands should help them as much as possible especially if the wife works Cleaning the table, loading the dishwasher, Putting clean dishes away Taking out the trash Bathing the kids if necessary And many other things that show you care
Family Life
Bible story telling and limited verse memorization Teach children how to pray by praying with them Teach Gods rules of moral behavior by explaining why we obey them
Family Life
Demonstrate your faith by living it
Go to a church where Christ is
regularly encountered Be excited about your faith Make it seem desirable Communicate the benefits through thanksgiving
Conclusions
Having a marriage and family in the Spirit requires continuing spiritual growth of both parents Both parents need to actively use the means of grace to facilitate their growth. They need to pray together, study the bible and worship together.