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DOMESTIC

VIOLENCE
AWARNESSES

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE OCCURS


when one person is controlling
another through fear and
intimidation, often including
threats, physical violence, verbal /
emotional abuse, etc. Physical
attacks may range from shoving to
murder

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE OCCURS


when someone resorts
to verbal abuse,
harassment, or
destruction of
personal property in
order to control
another person

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE OCCURS


when someone exhibits
excessive possessiveness,
isolates another person from
friends and family, or deprives
him or her of physical and
economic resources for control

FACTS ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE


Women of all races are about equally

vulnerable to violence by an intimate


(Bureau of Justice Statistics, Violence Against Women: Estimates from the
Redesigned Survey, August 1995)

FACTS ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE


Nearly one-third of American women (31

%) report being physically or sexually


abused by a husband or boyfriend at
some point in their lives, according to a
1998 Commonwealth Fund survey
(The Commonwealth Fund, Health Concerns Across a Womans Lifespan: 1998
Survey of Womens Health, May 1999)

FACTS ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE


One in five (21 %) women reported she

had been raped or physically or sexually


assaulted in her lifetime
(The Commonwealth Fund, Health Concerns Across a Womans Lifespan: 1998
Survey of Womens Health, May 1999)

FACTS ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE


Three in four women (76 %) who reported

they had been raped and/or physically


assaulted since age 18 said that a current
or former husband, cohabiting partner, or
date committed the assault
(U.S. Department of Justice, Prevalence, Incidence, and Consequences of
Violence Against Women: Findings from the National Violence Against Women
Survey, November 1998)

FACTS ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE


Women are five to eight times more likely

than men to be victimized by an intimate


partner
(U.S. Department of Justice, Violence by Intimates: Analysis of Data on Crimes by
Current or Former Spouses, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends, March 1998)

PHYSICAL ABUSE
With Weapons
Shoot
Stab
Burn
Hit
Strangle
Suffocate
Kick
Restraint

Without Weapons
Poke, hit, pinch,
grab
Twist limbs, scratch
Pull hair
Injure or kill pets
Strangle
Damage/destroy
property
Hold down

SEXUAL ABUSE
Unwanted, forced or coerced sexual acts
Forced prostitution
Refusal to use condoms
Forced pregnancy
Mutilation
Drugs

INTIMIDATION
Causing fear by using looks, actions, and

gestures
Smashing or throwing things
Destroying property
Abusing pets
Showing weapons

EMOTIONAL ABUSE
Putting partner down
Making partner feel bad about him/herself
Calling partner names
Making partner think s/he is crazy

EMOTIONAL ABUSE
Playing mind games
Humiliating partner
Making partner feel guilty

ISOLATION
Controlling what partner does, who

partner sees and talks to, what partner


reads, and where partner goes
Limiting partners outside involvement
Using jealousy to justify actions

MINIMIZING, DENYING, BLAMING


Making light of the abuse
Not taking partners concerns about the

abuse seriously
Denying the abuse occurred
Shifting responsibility for abusive behavior
Saying the partner caused the abuse

USING THE CHILDREN


Making partner feel guilty about the children
Using children to relay messages
Using visitation to harass partner

USING THE CHILDREN


Threatening to take the children away
Threatening to call DCF

SEX ROLE STEREOTYPES


Treating partner like a servant
Making all of the decisions in the relationship

SEX ROLE STEREOTYPES


Acting like master of the castle
Being the one to define the roles in the

relationship

ECONOMIC ABUSE
Preventing partner from getting or keeping a

job

Making partner ask for money


Giving partner an allowance
Taking partners money or income
Not letting partner know about or have access

to income

COERCION & THREATS


Making and/or carrying out threats
Threatening to leave partner
Threatening to commit suicide
Making partner drop charges
Manipulation

Non-Threatening Behavior
Talking and acting so partner

feels safe and comfortable


expressing themselves.

Respect
Listening to partner non-

judgmentally
Being emotionally affirming and
understanding.
Valuing partners opinions

Trust and Support


Supporting partners goals in

life.
Respecting partners rights to
their own feelings, friends,
activities, and opinions.

Honesty and Accountability


Accepting responsibility for self
Acknowledging past use of violence
Admitting being wrong
Communicating openly and truthfully

Responsible Parenting
Sharing parental

responsibilities
Being a positive, nonviolence
role model for the children

Shared Responsibility
Mutually agreeing on a fair

distribution of work
Making family decisions
together

Economic Partnership
Making money decisions

together
Making sure both partners
benefit from financial
arrangements

Negotiation and Fairness


Seeking mutually satisfying

resolutions to conflict
Accepting changes
Being willing to compromise

WHY STAY?
Belief that the abuser will change or

reform
Isolated from family, friends, or support

system and s/he has no way to check


the reality of what the abuser is telling
her/him

WHY STAY?
Difficulty finding work that pays enough

to be self-sufficient and/or difficulty with


childcare
Abuser has threatened to take the

children
Fear that the abuser will kill her/him, the

children, her/himself, family members, if


s/he leaves

WHY STAY?
Shame - s/he doesnt want anyone to

know
There may be more good times than

bad times
Believes s/he is the cause of the

violence and therefore can make the


abuse stop if s/he says or does the right
things

WHY STAY?
Doubts that s/he can make on his/her

own

Slow and/or ineffective legal response,

which cant or wont protect him/her

Believes that divorce or leaving the

relationship is wrongoften reinforced


by clergy, family, friends, and society

WARNING SIGNS OF AN ABUSIVE


PERSONALITY
Jealousy
Controlling behavior
Quick involvement
Unrealistic expectations

WARNING SIGNS OF AN ABUSIVE


PERSONALITY
Isolation
Blames others for

problems
Blames others for feelings
Cruelty to animals

WARNING SIGNS OF AN ABUSIVE


PERSONALITY
Playful use of force in sex
Verbal abuse
Rigid sex roles
Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde

WARNING SIGNS OF AN ABUSIVE


PERSONALITY
Battering history
Threats of violence
Breaking or striking

objects
Using force together/his

way

EFFECTS ON CHILDREN
Domestic violence affects every member

of the family, including the children

Family violence creates a home

environment where children live in


constant fear

EFFECTS ON CHILDREN
Children who witness family violence are

affected in ways similar to children


who are physically abused

Children are at greater risk for

abuse and neglect if they live in


a violent home

EFFECTS ON CHILDREN
Statistics show that over 3 million children

witness violence in their home each year


"Families under stress produce children

under stress. If a spouse is being abused


and there are children in the home, the
children are affected by the abuse." (Ackerman
and Pickering, 1989)

EFFECTS ON CHILDREN
Children react to their environment in

different ways
Reactions vary depending on the child's

gender and age

EFFECTS ON CHILDREN
Recent research indicates that children who

witness domestic violence show more


anxiety, low self-esteem, depression, anger
and temperament problems than children
who do not witness violence in the home

SAFETY PLANNING
Safety planning helps develop the tools in

advance to confront a potentially


dangerous situation

SAFETY PLANNING
Safety Plans are for domestic abuse

survivors of any age who may be abused


by or is afraid of her/his spouse/partner,
boy/girlfriend, adult child, or other family
member

SAFETY PLANNING
Includes:
Safety during an explosive incident
Safety when preparing to leave
Safety in public and at the workplace
What to take with you if you need to leave

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