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1. SECURE ATTACHMENT
2. AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT
3. ANXIOUS-AMBIVALENT
ATTACHMENT
1. SECURE ATTACHMENT
- Is when the primary caregiver is
most of the time present and when all
the emotional needs of an infant are
providing a sense of security to the
infant.
- Chances for a child who is exposed to
this style of attachment, grow up to
have more secure and stable
relationships.
2. AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT
- Is when the primary caregiver is
cold and detached, and even
unresponsive to a childs need.
- A person who experienced this
style of attachment in infancy
and childhood will oftentimes
experience unstable relationships
in the future.
3. ANXIOUS-AMBIVALENT ATTACHMENT
- The primary caregiver is not consistent in
terms of presence and in meeting a childs
emotional needs.
1. LUST
2. ATTRACTION
3. ATTACHMENT
1.LUST
- Is driven by the sex hormones,
testosterone, and estrogen. These
hormones affect both sexes.
2.ATTRACTION
- Is described as the lovestruck
phase, which involves
neurotransmitters in the brain such as
dopamine, norepinephrine, and
serotonin.
- This is the stage when a person
loses sleep and appetite over someone,
and become very excited to someone
while daydreaming of this special
person.
3.ATTACHMENT
- When the couple in love decides
to continue with the relationship,
they enter the attachment stage
where long-lasting commitments
are exchanged and may lead to
raising a family
OTHER REASONS WHY PEOPLE ARE
ATTRACTED TO ONE ANOTHER
according to Rozenberg Quarterly
1. TRANSFERENCE EFFECT
2. PROPINQUITY EFFECT
3. SIMILARITY
4. RECIPROCITY
5. PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS
6. PERSONALITY CHARACTERISTICS AND
TRAITS
1.TRANSFERENCE EFFECT
There are times we meet people
who we immediately like or dislike.
Usually, these people remind us of
someone in the past who has
affected our sense of self and our
behavior.
2.PROPINQUITY EFFECT
We often develop a sense of
familiarity with people who live
close to us, work with us, or go to
school with us, which leads us to
liking them more.
3.SIMILARITY
We often like people who we have
similarities with, such as social
class background, religious beliefs,
age, and education.
3.SIMILARITY
We are often attracted to like-
minded persons and those who
have similar beliefs and values as
ours, because the similarity is a
validation of our innermost
values and belief system, and
who we are as a person.
4.RECIPROCITY
We like people who like us
back. The more we are liked by
someone we equally like, the
more we behave in ways that
promote mutual feeling of
liking.
5. PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS
Several research studies were
conducted to confirm that
physical attractiveness is a
major factor in liking someone,
and usually, first impression
counts a lot, too.
6. PERSONALITY
CHARACTERISTICS AND TRAITS
- People get attracted to
characteristics that lead to liking the
other person.
- Emphatic persons, who exude warmth
and sympathy and who are also
optimistic and maintain positive views;
and socially competent person, who are
good communicators and enjoy good
conversations.
LOVE AND INTIMACY
There has been a raging debate
over the definition of love.
Is love a feeling?
Is love a though?
Is love physical?
It is an emotion, a feeling, a
virtue, an action, and an experience.
Love is also defined differently in
different cultures.
DIFFERENT COMPONENTS OF LOVE
As theorized in Robert Sternbergs
Triangular Theory of Love
1. PASSION
2.INTIMACY
3.COMMITMENT
1.PASSION
Liking
(Intimacy alone)
Intimacy
Romantic love
(intimacy + passion) Consummate love Companionate love
(intimacy + passion + (intimacy + commitment)
commitment)
Empty love
Infatuation
(commitment alone)
(passion alone) Fatuous love
(passion + commitment)
Attraction serves as the
first step toward liking someone,
and among all the basis of
attraction that were discussed,
reciprocity (mutual liking) is
what triggers a couple to move
forward romance and intimacy,
and eventually, to commitment.
COMMITMENT:
SAYING YES AND MEANING IT
COMMITMENT: SAYING YES AND
MEANING IT
We defined commitment as a
continuing process of showing love
and care; fulfilling the promises
or agreements made with each
other; and through bad times and
good times, the commitment stays
firm and in place.
Psychologist have conducted
research on commitment and have
identified three variables related to
it (Rozenberg Quarterly):
1. Accumulation of all rewards of the
relationship
2.Temptation of alternative partners
3.Investments made by couple in the
relationship
1.Accumulation of all rewards of the
relationship
- Considered as the most important
determinant of satisfaction in a
relationship.
Rewards of the relationship include:
Support from the partner
Sexual satisfaction
Emotional
Financial
Physical security
Adventure
Novelty
2.Temptation of alternative
partners
1. Criticism
2.Denial of the existence of
conflict
3.Contempt
1.Criticism
This happens when there is the
absence of unconditional
positive regard for each other
in a relationship.
Constantly finding fault in the
other partner will result in
negative feelings and
resentment.
2.Denial of the existence of
conflict
When one party eludes the
presence of a problem and
refuses to discuss it, as if
belittling the problem, it will
result in frustration on the side
of the other party.
3.Contempt
Contempt is present when someone
who looks down on the party as
inferior does not give unconditional
positive regard, and aggravates the
situation by expressing superiority
over the other
According to research (Rozenberg
Quarterly), this is the ultimate
expression of disillusionment and
highly predictive of divorce or
separation.
RESPONSIBILITIES IN A
RELATIONSHIP