Healthy

Relationship
Personal Development
 I KNOW THE SIGNS OF A HEALTHY

RELATIONSHIP

Put a HEART in each statement that you

think is a sign of a healthy relationship;
put an X on each statement that you
think is a sign of an unhealthy
relationship.
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RELATIONSHIP
1. You can express your opinion without fear or dread.

2. You and your partner can make decisions together and

fairly.

3. Each person takes responsibility for their own actions.

4. Your partner respects your feelings about sex.

5. Your partner supports you and your choiceseven when

they disagree with you.
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6. You respect and encourage each other.

7. You give each other space to study or hang out with friends
or family.

8. You are able to make your own decisions about spending

your money without worrying about your partners reaction.

9. You can discuss pregnancy and parenting decisions and

your view is respected.

10. You feel isolated from friends and family.

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11. Your partner tries to control how you spend time and who
you hang out with.

12. Your partner tries to control how you spend money.

13. Your partner doesnt support your decisions.

14. You are sometimes forced to do something that youre not

comfortable with.

15. Your partner threatens, insults, or humiliates you.

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16. Your partner hurts you physically or emotionally.

17. Your partner doesnt keep your secrets safe.

18. Your partner undermines your decisions about pregnancy

and parenting.
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RELATIONSHIP

16. Your partner hurts you physically or emotionally.

17. Your partner doesnt keep your secrets safe.

18. Your partner undermines your decisions about pregnancy

and parenting.
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In a healthy relationship, both partners:

Are treated with kindness and respect

Are honest with each other
Like to spend time together
Take an interest in things that are important to each other
Respect one anothers emotional, physical and sexual limits
Can speak honestly about their feelings
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Love should never hurt

Dating relationships can be wonderful! But while its

important that dating partners care for each other, its just as
important that you take care of yourself! About 10% of high
school students say they have suffered violence from someone
they date. This includes physical abuse where someone causes
physical pain or injury to another person. This can involve
hitting, slapping, or kicking.
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Sexual abuse is also a type of violence, and involves any kind

of unwanted sexual advance. It can include everything from
unwelcome sexual comments to kissing to intercourse. But
abuse doesnt always mean that someone hits or hurts your
body. Emotional abuse is anything that harms your self-
esteem or causes shame. This includes saying things that hurt
your feelings, make you feel that you arent worthwhile, or
trying to control who you see or where you go.

Remember, you deserve healthy, happy relationships. Abuse

of any type is never okay.
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ABUSE AND ASSAULT

Love should never hurt. But sometimes it does:

1 in 6 women and 1 in 33 men will be sexually assaulted in
their lifetime
1.5 million women are sexually assaulted or otherwise
physically abused by their partners each year.
Over 800,000 males are sexually or physically abused by
partners.
Abuse can occur in any type of relationship--gay and
straight, casual and long-term, young and old.
About 10% of high school students say that have suffered
violence from someone they date.
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Break the Silence: Stop the Violence

It may shock you to know that one out of every eleven teens
reports being hit or physically hurt by a boyfriend or
girlfriend in the past twelve months. But why is that, and how
can we change it? In "Break The Silence: Stop the Violence,"
parents talk with teens about developing healthy, respectful
relationships before they start dating.
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HOW TO COMMUNICATE

Talking openly makes relationships more fun and satisfying;

especially when you both talk about each others needs for
physical, emotional, mental and sexual health. You cant
expect a partner to know what you want and need unless you
tell them. The simple fact is that none of us are a mind reader-
-so it's important to be open about your needs and
expectations.
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So what's to talk about?

Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs): This is actually an

issue that all teenagers and adults must be aware of. Anybody
who engages in sexual activity is prone to have this one.
Possibility of Pregnancy: Females who engage in sex have a
high percentage of putting themselves in this kind of
situation.
Right time for sex: You can consider your current status as a
student if it is really high time to be involved in this kind of
activity. Will this make or break your future?
Boundaries: Making the decision to set your limits in a
relationship shows your maturity to assert your priorities and
respecting yourself.
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MAKING THE DECISION: DECIDING WHETHER OR

NOT TO HAVE SEX

The decision of whether or not to have sex is up to you, and

you alone. Therefore dont be afraid to say "no" if thats how
you feel.

Having sex for the first time can be a huge emotional event.
There are many questions and feelings that you may want to
sort out before you actually get "in the heat of the moment."
Ask yourself:
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Am I really ready to have sex?

How am I going to feel after I having sex?

Am I doing this for the right reasons?

How do I plan to protect myself/my partner from sexually

transmitted infections or pregnancy?

How am I going to feel about my partner afterwards?

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How to avoid peer or date pressure

If you're worried about being pressured or you are currently

experiencing it, know that you are not alone and there is
something you can do about it.

Hang out with friends who also believe that it's OK to not be
ready for sex yet.
Go out with a group of friends rather than only your date.
Introduce your friends to your parents.
Invite your friends to your home.
Stick up for your friends if they are being pressured to have
sex.
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Think of what you would say in advance in case someone

tries to pressure you.
Always carry money for a telephone call or cab in case you
feel uncomfortable.
Be ready to call your mom, dad or a friend to pick you up if
you need to leave a date.
Never feel obligated to "pay someone back" with sex in
return for a date or gift.
Say "no" and mean "no" if that's how you feel.
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DRUGS AND ALCOHOL

In a survey of young people ages 15-24 by the Kaiser Family

Foundation, 9 out of 10 people surveyed reported that their
peers use alcohol or illegal drugs before sex at least some of
the time. Seven out of 10 also reported that condoms are not
always used when alcohol and drugs are involved. Twenty-
nine percent of those teens and young adults surveyed said
that they've "done more" sexually while under the influence of
drugs or alcohol than they normally would have when sober.
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DRUGS AND ALCOHOL

In a survey of young people ages 15-24 by the Kaiser Family

Foundation, 9 out of 10 people surveyed reported that their
peers use alcohol or illegal drugs before sex at least some of
the time. Seven out of 10 also reported that condoms are not
always used when alcohol and drugs are involved. Twenty-
nine percent of those teens and young adults surveyed said
that they've "done more" sexually while under the influence of
drugs or alcohol than they normally would have when sober.
 BASIC RIGHTS IN RELATIONSHIP

The right to emotional support

The right to be heard by the other and to respond
The right to have your own point of view, even if this differs
from your partner's
The right to have your feelings and experiences
acknowledged as real
The right to live free from accusation and blame
The right to live free from criticism and judgment
The right to live free from emotional and physical threat
The right to live free from angry outbursts and rage
The right to be respectfully asked, rather than ordered
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In addition to these basic relationships rights, consider how

you can develop patience, honesty, kindness, and respect.

Patience: Patience is essential to a healthy relationship. There

are times when others will respond to us in a way that is
disappointing. When this occurs, it important to communicate
our disappointment, but also to give the other person space.
Be willing to give the person some time to reflect, indicating
that you are ready to talk when they are ready. If the person is
never ready to discuss the situation, you may need
professional help to resolve the issue, or ask yourself whether
or not you want to continue the relationship.
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Honesty: Honesty is another essential quality in healthy

relationships. To build honesty in a relationship, you should
communicate your feelings openly, and expect the other
person to do the same. Over time, this builds trust.

Kindness: Kindness is extremely important to maintaining

healthy relationships. You need to be considerate of others'
feelings and other people need to be considerate of yours. Be
kind when you communicate. Kindness will nurture your
relationships. Note that being kind does not necessarily mean
being nice.
 Poster on Basic Rights in Relationships

On a piece of illustration board,

sketch, draw, or design a poster
which shows ones basic rights in a
relationship.