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EIGHT
COMMUNICATION
CLIMATE: THE
FOUNDATION OF
PERSONAL
RELATIONSHIPS
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Communication Climate
I want to be close. I like the familiar rhythms I like sharing so much with you.
and routines of our
relationship.
I need my own space. We need to do something There are some things I don't
new and different. want to talk about with you.
Negotiating Dialectical Tensions- handling the
tension generated by opposing needs (1 of 2)
• Neutralization- to negotiate the balance
between two dialectical needs; each need
is met to an extent, but neither is fully
satisfied
• Selection- we give priority to one
dialectical need and neglect the other;
some partners cycle between needs by
favoring each one alternately Ex: couples
spend a lot of time together, then a lot of
time apart.
Negotiating Dialectical Tensions (2 of 2)
We're going to spend time I'd like for us to spend more It's okay with me if we don't spend
together. time together. time with each other.
Tell me what you're feeling; I would like to understand more If you don't want to talk about how
I insist. about how you feel. you feel, okay.
I don't care what you want; I'm really not up for a movie It's fine with me to go to a movie if
I'm not going to a movie. tonight. you want to.
Guidelines for Creating and Sustaining
Healthy Climates (2 of 2)
• Respect diversity in relationships (cultural differences).
• Respond constructively to criticism.
– Seek more information (ask questions)
– Consider the validity of the criticism (is there truth in it?)
– If it is valid, consider what you want to change
– Thank the person who offered constructive criticism (it
gives us insight into how others feel about us and what
we do)