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www.theguardian.com /science/2023/feb/16/whatever-happened-to-middle-age-t…
Enquanto isso, uma conta popular no Twitter, The Meldrew Point , tem o
único propósito de celebrar as pessoas que, implausivelmente, atingiram a
idade que o ator Richard Wilson tinha quando apareceu no primeiro
episódio de One Foot in the Grave (19.537 dias). É difícil de acreditar, mas
essas pessoas de 53 anos e meio incluem J-Lo, Renée Zellweger, Molly
Ringwald, Julia Sawalha e Ice Cube.
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18/02/2023, 12:08 Whatever happened to middle age? The mysterious case of the disappearing life stage
Back in the day, 40 was the marker for midlife, but now, finding
consensus on when middle age begins and what it represents isn’t easy.
The Collins English dictionary gnomically defines it as “the period in your
life when you are no longer young but have not yet become old”. The
Encyclopaedia Britannica says it is between 40 and 60. Meanwhile, a
2018 YouGov survey reported that most Britons aged between 40 and 64
considered themselves middle-aged – but so did 44% of people aged
between 65 and 69.
GPs want you to book in for a ‘midlife MOT’, which is a great jazzy
concept to get out of what should be happening – an annual health check-
up.”
“Then, eight years ago, I went through another change. I’d been a bit of a
party animal; it wasn’t agreeing with me. I decided to take steps to get
happier and fitter. I feel so lucky now that I can go to the gym, run my
own business and have a holistic outlook on life. Age has no meaning to
me, except sometimes I do look in the mirror and say: ‘Oh yeah, I am
actually 53.’”
Left, the Golden Girls, aged between 51 and 63; right, the cast of
And Just Like That, in their mid-50s. Composite: Cine
Text/Allstar; WarnerMedia Direct/HBO Max
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Middle age once had a purpose of sorts, a time that offered the stability
and continuity that used to come from having a job for life. Now, it’s not
just your employment that might feel precarious, but your job function
itself. Research from the Institute for the Future reported that 85% of jobs
that will exist by 2030 don’t exist yet.
“This used to be a stage where you slowed down to enjoy life. It allowed a
person to take stock and reassess,” says Julia Bueno, a therapist and the
author of Everyone’s a Critic. “Now, it’s: ‘Retrain to be a psychotherapist!’
I think middle age reflects that you’ve still got life in you; you’re
embracing a last hurrah. But I’m also aware that some people feel
pressurised to reinvent themselves, to look fantastic, to not slow down or
age gracefully. There’s the pressure to put retinol on your face, or erase or
glam the greys. You’re not allowed to just be grey – it has to be
glamorous.”
Bueno works with many women who have become mothers in their 40s,
even 50s, and considers this another important shift. “Having a newborn
in your arms does throw hackneyed ideas about middle age out of the
window.”
The very words “middle age” can cause strong negative reactions. Roz
Colthart, 49, runs a property business in Edinburgh alongside studying
for a master’s degree. “Middle age as a term makes you feel a bit yuck. The
term ‘middle’ is so vanilla; who wants to be average? You’re no longer
young, but you’re not an old sweetie that people are going to give up their
seat for on the bus, either. Yet middle age is actually a fantastic place to
be. It’s just the judgmental attitudes towards it that are depressing.”
Colthart does not tick many of middle age’s traditional boxes. “I don’t
have a husband; I don’t have children. There is a pressure on people that
we have to conform with the life cycle according to what age we are.”
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18/02/2023, 12:08 Whatever happened to middle age? The mysterious case of the disappearing life stage
It’s true that, in the past, midlife was associated with a particular set of
life circumstances – a mortgage, a spouse, children, a lawnmower. But for
many, these life stages are happening later, if at all. It must be harder to
feel like you are in the pipe-and-slippers phase of life when, at 40, you still
live in a flatshare and don’t own a sofa, let alone a home.
Dalia Hawley, 41, lives in Wakefield and is what marketers would term a
“geriatric millennial”. She lives with her partner and their three chickens
and runs a skincare business part-time. “I might be classed as middle-
aged to some people, but I don’t feel it. Part of me does sometimes feel as
if I should own a house or have a full-time job, but then I think I couldn’t
imagine anything worse. I’ve never earned enough to get a mortgage.
When I was in my 20s, I thought 40 was really old. But now I’m there, I
feel younger and fitter than I’ve ever been.”
So what age does she consider to be old? “I’m not sure there is such an
age. It’s more a question of whether someone can live independently. For
example, both my parents are in their late 70s and still go travelling in
their caravan. I don’t think of them as being old at all.”
The crime writer Casey Kelleher, 43, is another midlife millennial. She is
equally scathing about the idea of being middle-aged: “I feel as if I’m only
now starting my life. My first son was born when I was 17 and my second
at 20. I met my husband a couple of years later. The kids have left home
and now we are reassessing our lives.” While most of her friends are
setting down with young families, she is contemplating travelling, moving
abroad or working with foster children.
“Midlife isn’t a plateau,” she says. “I don’t like the phrase ‘over the hill’, as
if the best times are behind you. Considering how long we might live, it’s
worth savouring every single day.”
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Kelleher finds that writing older characters is exciting. “The stakes are
much higher in midlife. By then, people have richer life experiences,
lifelong friendships, real love, loss, pain and heartbreak. Characters have
more to lose if things go wrong. The way that characters, particularly
female ones, between 40 and 60 are depicted by my generation of crime
writers and on TV has started to change. Just look at Happy Valley.”
The stories we tell about being a particular age are powerful because they
reflect what is expected of us, what possibilities might await. Sharon
Blackie, a psychologist and the author of Hagitude: Reimagining the
Second Half of Life, says that in recent years, for women, at least, the
cultural discussion has shifted so that menopause has eclipsed middle age
as a significant transition. “The interesting thing is that menopause can
happen at all different ages – mid-40s, mid-50s and beyond – rather than
one age.” Certainly, high-profile documentaries such as Channel 4’s
documentary Sex, Myths and the Menopause, and online communities
such as Noon, have changed the conversation.
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It’s a comforting theory, but I am not sure the world has caught up with it
yet. You need only witness the wave of vitriol directed at Madonna’s
smooth-cheeked appearance at the Grammys to realise that there is still
widespread fear about how women choose to tackle the ageing process.
And what of men? In the past, the male midlife crisis had a well-trodden
set of cliches, from the red Ferrari or Harley-Davidson to the trophy wife.
Are these still relevant? These days, the term seems to be associated more
with anxiety, depression and the search for meaning than with the quest
for leather trousers. I even came across an academic paper entitled Dark
Night of the Shed: Men, the Midlife Crisis, Spirituality – and Sheds.
“He showed me the MRI, which proved it had worked, and said to keep at
it, keep doing the physical therapy. And he was right. I’m now restored to
full fitness. It might not seem like that to you if you saw me hobbling
around the court, but I am in a state of youthful-seeming bliss.”
And therein lies the problem with all our “age is just a number” mental
gymnastics. Dispensing with middle age is comforting because if we never
face up to being in the middle, we will never have to contemplate the end.
Until we are forced to, that is.
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Researching this article, I was struck by the fact that not a single person I
spoke to was happy to own the badge of middle age. But back in the day,
the term was viewed as a state rather than a trait. A person was middle-
aged because that was their actual stage of life, not simply labelled as such
because they were uncreative, tedious or, heaven forfend, unproductive.
As someone who went back to university at 56 and is planning to launch a
business, I am as guilty of a failure to relax as everyone else. Are we all
just frantically trying to stave off the inevitable?
Bueno recalls being at a 50th birthday party at a pub with funky music.
“People were having a great time. We were all bending ourselves out of
shape, leaning in to talk to one another.” You might think they were
discussing important ideas and plans for the future, but you would be
wrong. “Everyone was shouting the same sentence: ‘I can’t hear a bloody
thing!’”
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